Male bashing on TV must stop

Dad Days of Summer: While Momania’s Theresa Walsh Giarrusso takes a vacation, local dad and sportswriter Andy Johnston will be filling in. You can e-mail him at ajcmomania@gmail.com.

I’m getting tired of TV depicting men as small-minded, beer-drinking, softball-playing, girl-ogling, knuckle-dragging oafs who can’t do anything for themselves.

More and more, ad agencies, the companies that hire them and the networks are depicting men and dads who can’t function in society without help. And while we need help from the women in our lives from time to time, there are plenty of high functioning guys in real life who hold down jobs, who make excellent decisions and who don’t waste their days playing video games and sitting on their couch eating salami sandwiches.

This was on my mind before this gig, but was reminded of it on my first day, when poster Tad Jackson wrote this:

Andy … help us men! This is the way we’re depicted in TV commercials and in TV shows! Is there hope for us slobs!

Husbands are stupid

Boyfriends are stupid

All men dress badly

Men never shave

Men are lazy

Men are very capable of setting themselves on fire

Men are bad with tools

Men are bad about paying the bills

Men burgle homes in the middle of the day while mothers and their daughters are making sandwiches in the kitchen

Only men grill food if they haven’t already set themselves on fire

Married men are henpecked and they know it and there’s nothing they can do about it

Men are fat

Only men snore

Men deeply dislike their wife’s mother

All men want to do is watch sports activities on TV

Only men have problems with their sex organ performance

I agree.

Watch TV, both commercials and shows. I know women hold the buying power in most households and TV caters to them, but this is getting ridiculous.

Men and dads have fallen from wise, hard-working and caring fathers like Andy Griffith, Bill Cosby and Fred MacMurray (“My Three Sons” – if you’re too young to remember) to Al Bundy and Homer Simpson.

I’m not as organized as Lori and I don’t multi-task as well as she does, but there’s plenty I do well. 

And even though I just saved us some dough by switching insurance carriers, I didn’t go out and blow it on a falcon, a stuffed moose head or samurai armor, which is what men do with extra cash, according to this commercial.

Hopefully, this will stop. It probably won’t.

Are you bothered by the way men are depicted on TV?

Do you think it’s a true reflection of society or the men in your lives?

What do your husbands/boyfriends/sons do that make you proud or happy?

- By Andy Johnston, for the Momania blog

64 comments Add your comment

BlondeHoney

July 24th, 2011
11:19 am

Actually, Milton Man, school systems ARE actively recruiting male teachers precisely because of the lack of male teachers and male role models in many children’s lives. And East Repeat,I watch L&O SVU and not sure where you got the idea that all the bad guys are portrayed as christian; I don’t recall an emphasis on any particular religious affiliation in that show.

Rik Roberts

July 24th, 2011
11:57 am

I’ve heard Adam Carolla speak on several occasions about the pilot television show process and he has said that the executives (mid-level?) that you have to please to get farther in the process are 50 year old women. Even if the CEO is a man, the product will have been changed to suit these women before he sees it.

I do like the dad Larry Miller plays on 10 Things I hate about You. A positive example of a single father raising daughters.

itpdude

July 24th, 2011
11:58 am

Let’s get real: Men are portrayed that way on television because men can take a joke. Men know not to take the stereotype too seriously.

However, if women were portrayed as stupid, unable to perform basic physical tasks with ease, as bad drivers, uncreative, unable to lift 20 lbs over their heads, it would be a scandal because the truth hurts. Women are weak, stupid, and society would not have harnessed electricity, invented plumbing, or many other things women rely upon if only women existed. It is true there are no female Jeffrey Dahmers, but that is because there are also no female Einsteins.

Men are the best AND worst society offers. That being the case, they can take a joke about their intelligence or ability. Women cannot take such a joke about their stupidity because it too closely resembles the truth.

Just youtube “women drivers.” You’ll see what I mean.

Meg

July 24th, 2011
11:58 am

We don’t watch shows like that. We don’t watch TV at all except for a couple of things on hulu. Almost all of it sets a bad example.

MikeF

July 24th, 2011
12:04 pm

I agree with you. All the comedies make men look like slobs. “According to Jim” was a good example. On Lifetime the men are all evil and the women have been used and manipulated by them.
And what about all the movies and TV shows that show women kicking men’s butts with their Karate skills! Most women, even those who are black belts, would bounce of most men. This can give young women a false sense of security.

Ruler

July 24th, 2011
12:37 pm

As a male I have no problem with the advertisements…..most women are weak and insecure and need something like this to make them feel good about themselves. After 25 they figure out that they will be man’s world and their hot body that has added the 40 pounds of blubber will no longer get them what they want. They are tossed to the curb by men and are very resentful. Hollywood and ad agencies are just playing on the weak minded individuals.

Angry White Dude

July 24th, 2011
12:40 pm

We’ve been discussing this very topic for over three years at http://www.angrywhitedude.com. We’re dedicated to defense of the most ridiculed and unappreciated being on the planet..the white male.

In fact, we have an entire section dedicated to male-bashing commercials!

Angry White Dude

Carlton

July 24th, 2011
1:05 pm

Perfect example:

What commercials do you see when Mother’s Day, Valentine’s Day, or Christmas come around for women? “Buy her a diamond ring and she’ll be in your heart forever”

What commercials do you see when these same holidays and Father’s Day come around for men? “Buy him a power tool so he can do yard work or fix the house in some way. Help him get that ‘HoneyDo’ list done!”

I think the problem is the emphasis Americans as a society put on the “traditional” roles of both men and women-through advertisements, television shows, and main stream media-despite the fact that our society and the world as a whole are moving in a more streamlined direction towards gender equality through workplaces and households.

As well, let’s be honest, most television outside of ESPN (and Comedy Central to some extent) is pandered towards women. Not to mention the fact that if a woman commits murder, she gets 20-30 years in prison. If a man commits murder, he gets Life or sent to death.

Another great example: Watch a show about a male murderer and then watch one about a female murderer. You’d be surprised to see how the interviewees for the female murderer can seem to justify her actions much more than when a man commits murder. I saw a commercial on Investigation Discovery for the new season of “Deadly Women” (show about females who kill) and at the end of the commercial the model was relaxing on a chair reading a book while her dead husband laid on the floor-almost as if she was relieved to finally have him dead. Disgusting.

BobfromAcworth

July 24th, 2011
1:22 pm

Why stop at TV shows and commercials? The male is bashed everywhere. Look at the stats about how boys are treated in elementary school. The boys are considered ADD, not the girls. When I grew up people understood that young boys started getting serious a year or 2 later than girls and the boys were just considered to be rambuctious (sp?). Now that the movement has been pushing to level the playing field for girls, the boys are basically not taking school seriously and they are not going thru school (college or above) at the same rate that girls are. Wow, wonder where that went off the tracks? Why can’t we ever “level the playing field” without dumping the ones that have been “favored”. I don’t mind girls accomplishing things, but why at the complete trashing of boys? I have a son and a daughter and they both have talents in different areas, both have gone to college and one is currently working on a Phd, while the other will go to post-grad school when finished with college. Why not promote education and a future for both sexes, instead of trashing one over the other?

peter henderson

July 24th, 2011
3:09 pm

The men that run Hollywood are left-liberals or communists who endorse feminism and hate traditional Christian mores. They delight in scenes that discredit the nuclear family. They also love to show women beating up men, since physical force is a traditional male advantage. Above all they like to show women kneeing, kicking or punching men in the groin. Their power can only be removed by legislation to undo their monopoly on the airwaves. But since they control everyone in congress with their donations, don’t count on this to happen. Hostility to traditional values dominates the thought of both socialists and capitalists. A third party, equally defiant of Wall Street and Hollywood, is called for.

DB

July 24th, 2011
6:35 pm

@momofboys, pointing out historical gender stereotyping isn’t b.s. — it’s pointing out that the pendulum of social change swings both ways. I certainly didn’t intend for it to be interpreted as a “haha, now it’s your turn” sort of man-hating sneer. Eventually, it will swing back to center — but we’re talking decades, not months.

Men are great — I married one. I birthed one.

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Jeff

July 25th, 2011
12:17 am

I’m going to make a statement that may shock a few of you but may not to some that know my history. There are amazing women and men on this site. And the women and men on this site are genrally amazing people. We care about our kids and it’s gender neutral. I don’t hate women any more than women on here hate men. There are so many of you that I would love to meet and have intelligent conversations with and I respect you as a parson. Not as a man, not as a woman, but as a parent. And no, I’m not texting under the influence.

itpdude

July 27th, 2011
2:10 am

Jeff, lay off the sauce, willya?