This summer I will be spending about three weeks with my family while Michael stays at home to work. It will be the first extended separation we have had in about nine years.
The last time we were apart for more than a few days was in 2002 when Michael covered the Winter Olympics in Salt Lake City. He was gone for about 20 days I guess. That was the winter after 9-11 and I was certain he was going to get blown up. I got satellite texters where he could email me that he was OK even if the power was cut. (I got them free for a trial. I thought it was smart!)
The only other time we have been apart was the summer after we first starting dating in 1992. I studied in Italy for a summer, and he stayed in Atlanta working for the AP.
I know lots of families who spend their summers apart. Either they have moved away from their extended family and the wife and kids go “home” for the summer while the husband continues to work. Or the wife and kids go to a family beach house while the husband stays in town and works.
I definitely think I am going to miss him even though we are going to be busy. I’m glad that I feel that way though. I don’t generally make a big fuss when he travels for business for a few days. He has to do it. There’s no use crying over it.
I remember a long time ago hearing that Paul and Linda McCartney only spent one night apart in their entire 30-year marriage. When I looked that up online I found an article that said it was 10 days but that’s still not very much time apart.
So at this point I am kind of thinking some separation is good where you miss each other and appreciate each other more when you are back together.
What do you think? Is separation good for a marriage? Can it make you appreciate each other more? Do you think it’s weird or awesome that Paul and Linda weren’t separated for more than 10 days in 30 years? Does your family separate for part of the summer to visit family at home or to go the beach? How much time becomes too long and detrimental?
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