Are married couples sexting, Skyping, Tweeting sexy photos?

Rep. Anthony Weiner got into trouble for Tweeting risqué photos to women that are not his wife. It makes me wonder though if married couples are using technology to flirt, stay connected and spice up their marriage or is that only for people you are not married to?

I will be traveling this summer and Michael will stay behind to work. We’ve been half-joking, half-serious about sexting and sexy Skyping while I am away. I’m glad that we’re still interested at least and think that the video chatting will be a good way to stay connected while we are apart.

So I don’t embarrass my poor husband who is such a good sport, I won’t write anymore. But since you guys are anonymous you can spill.

Are you sexting, Skyping or Tweeting sexy thoughts or photos with your husband? If not, does this give you any bright ideas? Would he love it? Would you be worried about others seeing it? Do you think couples in general are using technology to spice up their marriages?

21 comments Add your comment

charlene

June 13th, 2011
12:31 pm

I never have and really don’t think I ever will. My husband & I do miss each other when we’re apart but that rarely happens. Don’t know what other people do but hey, if the person you’re talking dirty to (either with or without the aid of technology) is the one you’re married to, then that’s great!

Julia

June 13th, 2011
12:37 pm

I could care less what they do to each other… I dont do it.. but if its a personal thing between them… what ever

  

June 13th, 2011
1:05 pm

Couples should refrain from ANY show of affection at home or via telephone or computer.

“Physical” intimacy should occur only for the purpose of procreation, during “clean” times of the month, and in the dark and under sufficient coverage.

Additionally, no detectable noise should be produced.

Vino Greasemanelli

June 13th, 2011
1:07 pm

Women who refuse to do things sexy & loving for their boyfriends/husbands/”significant others” may find themselves inadvertently replaced by women who will.

Just some food for thought.

Remember you can be a wife but you should still be his girlfriend and lover.

RJ

June 13th, 2011
1:22 pm

“Women who refuse to do things sexy & loving for their boyfriends/husbands/”significant others” may find themselves inadvertently replaced by women who will.”

@Vino, that can go both ways. Why do some men think that women don’t enjoy “sexy and loving things”. We love and need sex just as much as men do.

My husband and I will send an occasional dirty text. It’s foreplay. I say go for it Theresa. Imagine how great the sex will be when you return home!

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

June 13th, 2011
2:08 pm

pics are great….video is better!

Jeff

June 13th, 2011
2:18 pm

I think it’s just like anything else in the sense that it depends on the couple. There are things in my past relationships that were great with one woman but not with another. And to me, that is acceptable because I’m not the same, she’s not the same, and the relationship is not the same.

That being said. Pictures, sexting, whatever and acceptable as long as plausible deniability can be made. In other words, no faces, nothing recognizable in the background, etc. I think that is the smart way to do it if that’s your “thing”.

Wayne

June 13th, 2011
4:12 pm

@Jeff: I think you make a good point. With the way ’stuff’ just ‘happens’ to get on this thing we call the ‘internet’, you just never know what will happen. Sure, you can trust all you want, but you (or that special someone) have a bad day… well, I don’t need to see me up on the ‘net…

Roberta

June 13th, 2011
5:28 pm

The last time my husband was out of town I sent him a couple of “sexy thoughts”. My plan worked because the night he got home he was on all cylinders. We must have used every square inch of our king-sized bed. :)

DB

June 13th, 2011
5:52 pm

Why send a video when you can have the real thing? A little anticipation never hurt . . . :-) Our “sexting” tends to be more of the oblique reference sort of thing — the kind that if you read it, it seems harmless, but only those involved know what’s really being said!

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

June 13th, 2011
6:20 pm

@DB…”Why send a video when you can have the real thing?”

because it’s still fun.

BlondeHoney

June 13th, 2011
6:33 pm

Here here Tiger…my BF & i sext ALL the time but no pix…not yet anyway :)

mom of 3

June 13th, 2011
10:14 pm

I sext suggestions to my husband frequently and he loves it. @Roberta – love those walking in the door and knowing whats on his mind is what i have been having imagine all day. Drives him crazy and I love flirting

VB

June 13th, 2011
10:17 pm

Hubby & I will be married for 15 years this fall and we do it often. He is on the road for work 3 nights a week. We send pics & the occasional “this is how it’s gonna go down when you get home” texts…lol

Ralph

June 13th, 2011
11:02 pm

If we were 30 years younger, we might. But the hormone levels ain’t what they used to be.

JM

June 13th, 2011
11:02 pm

Vino at 1:07 p.m…. you are EXACTLY right, my friend! well said.

To RJ at 1:22 p.m. …. you said “Vino, that can go both ways. Why do some men think that women don’t enjoy “sexy and loving things”. We love and need sex just as much as men do.”

Sorry, I don’t buy your last line… women love and need sex just as much as men do? not from my experience. There are SOME women out there who DO, and they are honest about it. That open-ness, that uninhibited nature, that is VERY sexy to men… and that’s the type that some are drawn to for flirting, affairs, whatever. Too many women out there think and act like nuns, even after they get married. They stop taking care of themselves, they say “ewwww” and make a disgusted face if a guy admits to liking ANYTHING about sex , and many women also refuse to be creative and fun and sultry for their husbands.

Ladies, be bold for your husbands…. engage in the sexy lingerie, the toys and gadgets, the adult movies, the fun, daring, risque stuff…. your man will appreciate you VERY much for being comfortable enough and brazen enough to do things to please him. And for you women who refuse to do such things… who think that sweatpants and oversized faded t-shirts are appropriate sleepwear year-round, who refuse to work to stay in good shape and in good health, and who don’t ever want to expand your boundaries beyond “sweet, lovey-dovey, romance-novel intimacy”… well, don’t be surprised if your husband gets frustrated or wants to flirt with others.

I say have fun with it and do some sexting, some playful acting, some brazen flirting, etc. with your spouse… add some wildness, some spice, some sultriness, some heat, some creativity to things. It will liven things up in the bedroom and go a LONG way for your husband, believe me… he’ll appreciate it more than you know. The rest of us husbands will be envious of you! So ladies, go for it, and happy flirting!

AAA

June 13th, 2011
11:30 pm

In general, I think it’s good for married couples (especially those of us with kids!) to spice up our love lives with a bit of flirting, intrigue, and whatever else keeps the love alive. And while I’m all for dirty talk on the phone or even suggestive texting, I don’t think I would ever send a exposing picture over email, the cell phone, or even keep it on my computer. It’s just too risky for all involved…..and it usually doesn’t accomplish anything that some creative banter couldn’t do better…..

ugaprof

June 14th, 2011
12:01 am

ELECTRONIC COMMUNICATION IS NOT PRIVATE. Doesn’t anybody get it yet? LISTEN UP!

D

June 14th, 2011
12:40 am

“Couples should refrain from ANY show of affection at home or via telephone or computer.

“Physical” intimacy should occur only for the purpose of procreation, during “clean” times of the month, and in the dark and under sufficient coverage.

Additionally, no detectable noise should be produced.”

To the person who wrote that, I hope that it was a joke that went wrong. Sex was made for us to enjoy it… I agree it should be between husband and wife. The way you describe how it should be is scary….lol

I’ve never done the sexting thing, but i would if it were to keep the sexual relationship interesting. I don’t see anything wrong with it at all as long as it’s between two consenting adults. Why not send a sexy picture to your wife/husband and let them know what they have to look forward to when the get home?

Hillary Clinton

June 14th, 2011
5:40 am

I will never sext Bill.

Anthony Weiner

June 14th, 2011
6:22 am

I was hacked…hacked I say!