One of our regulars sent me a link to a People.com story she was reading about Alexis Stewart (Martha Stewart’s daughter who hosts “Whatever Radio” on Sirius.) After five years of extremely expensive IVF, Alexis has finally had a baby through a gestational surrogate. She talks in the article about her struggle and how much she spent and the comments got nasty fast. Here’s the gist of the article.
“Getting Jude was lucky,” she tells PEOPLE. “I’m happy, but this has been rough.”
“And how: since deciding she was ready for a baby in her late 30s, Stewart, 45, has seen several doctors and at one point was spending up to $27,000 each month for IVF procedures and an additional $6,000 for medications…”
“ ‘This is my other job that I don’t talk about,’ says the host of the Sirius radio show Whatever with Alexis & Jennifer. ‘But if you’re lucky enough to be able to afford it and you have time, what’s the downside?’ ”
As we know from this blog, commenters can judgmental and quite quickly. By the second comment it got ugly. Here is a sampling of the complaint and the defense:
“Wow, $33,000 each month?? For how many months?? So, I guess if you have the money you can just buy a baby.
I can’t imagine her daughter would like to hear about this when she’s older.
- Katie on June 7th, 2011”
“What a lovely picture. Motherhood agrees with her. I am happy for her. It isn’t your money so what do you care? Jude, for a girl, has grown on me.
- MaryAnne on June 7th, 2011”
“@Katie why??? she wanted a baby so badly she did whatever she could. When her daughter is older it will probably make her feel good to know her mother wanted her so desperately. Same goes with any adoption in my opinion. Those are lucky children to know you are loved and wanted and cared for.
I feel sorry for the children that are born into families “the old fashioned way” and have never been wanted they just exist.
BTW i know an awesome girl by the name of Jude.
- Becky on June 7th, 2011”
“She did not “buy” a baby. Due to a physical condition, she was unable to naturally conceive, but wanted to be a mother & enjoy raising a child. Yes, she is fortunate enough to have the $$ to have costly medical treatment. (jealous??) Keep your gloomy hostile take on life to yourself. p.s. Macy! I love shopping at your store!!!
- Jane on June 7th, 2011”
“If she can afford it, why not? I’m sure if a lot of us were able to afford over $25K in fertility treatments every month and we’ve been trying to get pregnant for years, it wouldn’t be an afterthought.
Congrats to Alexis and her new addition!
- veraroberts on June 7th, 2011”
“As someone who has gone through the IVF process, I find it extremely hard to believe that she was actually spending $33,000 each month on this procedure. Even if I hadn’t had insurance to cover something like this, it would’ve cost half that much! I’m glad everything worked out in the end for her though. It’s painful to want a child so badly and not be able to have one.
- Elizabeth on June 7th, 2011”
So what do you think: Just a troll on the blog trying to create drama or does she have a legitimate point? Can a family spend “too much” on IVF? Is IVF buying a baby? Is it none of anyone’s business and people can spend their money however they want?
The poster I agreed the most with was this lady that said how great Alexis look for being 45!!
“Beautiful picture, baby is so cute! But name Jude for such cutie baby girl hmmmmmmmmmm sounds too strong for a girl, in my opinion. And oh my god Alexis is 45 already!!!! And Martha’s going to be 70 this year (looked it up on Wikipedia hehe)! I think they both look really good!
- Elena on June 7th, 2011”