Boys with long hair? Girls wearing boys’ clothes? Boys wearing nail polish?
Did I just cross a line?
Dr. Keith Ablow, a psychiatrist and Fox News contributor, thinks so and is criticizing J. Crew and parents for confusing their kids about gender identity.
“A recent feature in J. Crew’s online catalogue portrays designer Jenna Lyons painting her son Beckett’s toe nails hot pink. The quote accompanying the image reads, “Lucky for me, I ended up with a boy whose favorite color is pink. Toenail painting is way more fun in neon.” (Click on the link above to see the ad.)
“Yeah, well, it may be fun and games now, Jenna, but at least put some money aside for psychotherapy for the kid—and maybe a little for others who’ll be affected by your “innocent” pleasure.”
“This is a dramatic example of the way that our culture is being encouraged to abandon all trappings of gender identity—homogenizing males and females when the outcome of such “psychological sterilization” [my word choice] is not known….”
“Well, how about the fact that encouraging the choosing of gender identity, rather than suggesting our children become comfortable with the ones that they got at birth, can throw our species into real psychological turmoil—not to mention crowding operating rooms with procedures to grotesquely amputate body parts? Why not make race the next frontier? What would be so wrong with people deciding to tattoo themselves dark brown and claim African-American heritage? Why not bleach the skin of others so they can playact as Caucasians?” …
“The fallout is already being seen. Increasingly, girls show none of the reticence they once did to engage in early sexual relationships with boys. That may be a good thing from the standpoint of gender equality, but it could be a bad thing since there is no longer the same typically “feminine” brake on such behavior. Girls beat up other girls on YouTube. Young men primp and preen until their abdomens are washboards and their hair is perfect. And while that may seem like no big deal, it will be a very big deal if it turns out that neither gender is very comfortable anymore nurturing children above all else, and neither gender is motivated to rank creating a family above having great sex forever and neither gender is motivated to protect the nation by marching into combat against other men and risking their lives.”
So what do you think of Dr. Ablow’s points: Are parents helping to confuse gender identity? Would you let your little girl wear big brother’s clothes? What about vice versa? Is the nail polish carrying it too far or is it just a little boy playing with him mom?
What do you think of the J. Crew ad? Is J. Crew out to de-gender everyone?
What do you verbally or non-verbally teach your kids about gender roles?
– Theresa Walsh Giarrusso, ajc.com Momania