A mom has written an interesting essay for The Wall Street Journal addressing why women let their daughters dress like “prostitutes.”
While her friends believe it’s just the “fast” girls dressing that way and was the same in their generation, this mom has a different theory:
“I have a different theory. It has to do with how conflicted my own generation of women is about our own past, when many of us behaved in ways that we now regret. A woman I know, with two mature daughters, said, “If I could do it again, I wouldn’t even have slept with my own husband before marriage. Sex is the most powerful thing there is, and our generation, what did we know?”
“We are the first moms in history to have grown up with widely available birth control, the first who didn’t have to worry about getting knocked up. We were also the first not only to be free of old-fashioned fears about our reputations but actually pressured by our peers and the wider culture to find our true womanhood in the bedroom. Not all of us are former good-time girls now drowning in regret—I know women of my generation who waited until marriage—but that’s certainly the norm among my peers.”
“So here we are, the feminist and postfeminist and postpill generation. We somehow survived our own teen and college years (except for those who didn’t), and now, with the exception of some Mormons, evangelicals and Orthodox Jews, scads of us don’t know how to teach our own sons and daughters not to give away their bodies so readily. We’re embarrassed, and we don’t want to be, God forbid, hypocrites.”
So what do you think: Is it just the fast girls that dress trampy? Is it because the mothers are proud their daughters are hot – as the article said? Is it because they don’t want to be hypocrites and tell their daughters not to do things that they did? How do you reconcile your behavior as a teen with what you expect of them?
What do you think of her generational argument — that this was the first group of mom with access to birth control and the freedom to use it?
– Theresa Walsh Giarrusso, AJC Momania