We had a regular who wants help with over-generous grandparents. Here’s what she wrote:
“How have others addressed crazy gift-giving friends and relatives? DD has more toys than she will ever play with – and it gets worse each birthday and Christmas. I know the in-laws and grands-in-laws do it because they love her, but it’s a literal MOUNTAIN each holiday. We give stuff away, but I know they look for certain gifts when they visit. We do gift ideas (like books, clothes, specific toys like Legos) and asked for them to not spend so much money (or to put that $ in the 529!), but nothing has worked…”
I love the suggestion of asking for help with college fund. Or I have friends that ask for help with extra-curricular activities like music lessons or Gymboree classes. I think asking for experiences instead of objects is a good way to address it.
Or if you had to get mean, you could make your pile of what you’re going to give away and let them “accidentally” see it. Maybe that would help them realize they are giving too much. (Is that too mean? I mean that as a last resort after talking fails.)
So what do you guys think? How do stop an well-meaning, but over-zealous grandparent who just want to gift?
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso, AJC Momania