“Modern Family,” one of the best shows on TV” asked a very interesting question last Thursday about parenting: Can you have two fun parents?
The set up was that the mom and dad were debating which route was faster to a restaurant. The mom Claire had been badgering the heck out of everyone to leave on time and was stressing the kids out. The Dad Phil challenges her to a race and they decide to take separate cars. The airheaded son comes downstairs and she tells him “we’re splitting up.” The kid thinks they are breaking up and immediately says “I’ll go with dad.”
Claire doesn’t realize he means in a divorce but later in the car puts it all together. She’s hurt but realizes right away it’s because Phil is the fun parent. Then she explains to her son:
You can watch the full episode here. (No one has uploaded just that clip although the quote was all over the place.)
So the question is: Can be there be two fun parents? Does someone have to grow up and be responsible and be the one who badgers to make sure homework gets done and teeth get brushed?
Does it work to take turns on sometimes being fun or does that just confuse the kids? (Then they don’t know what to expect – are you the fun parent today?)
Which parent are you: the fun one or the un-fun one?