Does feeding a baby formula get mom more sleep?

You always hear as a new mother that feeding your baby formula will help the baby (and you) sleep longer at night. But new research just published in the December issue of Pediatrics says it’s not true.

From Time magazine:

“No matter whether moms breast-fed, formula-fed or did a combination of both, they got the same amount of sleep and considered themselves equally exhausted. Score one for the breast-feeding advocates, who hope this study gives women on the fence another reason to commit to breastfeeding, which conveys well-documented health benefits for baby — and mother. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends babies be exclusively breast-fed for six months and continue to receive breast milk for at least a year.”

The research was conducted by West Virginia University and the team asked new mothers  to track when they fed and when they slept beginning the second week after their baby was born until the end of the 12th week. To help them do this, the mothers wore actigraphs, a watch-like device that recorded movement so researchers would know when they slept. They used a PDA to rank how well they slept the night before, how often they thought they woke, how long they stayed awake and also recorded during the day if they felt tired when they fed the baby.

From Time:

“Miriam Labbok, director of the Carolina Global Breastfeeding Institute at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill calls the results a ‘helpful finding for the field.’ ”

“The perception is that the breast-feeding mom is up day and night, always breast-feeding,” says Labbok. “But when you’re bottle-feeding, you’re up day and night always bottle-feeding, too….”

“Maybe breast-feeding moms wake only to latch their babies on, then return to dreamland. I can certainly vouch for that happening. Or maybe formula-feeding moms catapult themselves into a more alert state as they pad downstairs, flip on the light to prepare a bottle and move around more than a breast-feeding mom. ”

Overall the mothers got about 7.2 hours of sleep a night but it was broken sleep. It’s officially called sleep fragmentation. The adult’s sleep cycle lasts about 90 minutes. The researchers advise that it’s better to go to bed early to try to get a longer chunk of sleep than to nap for a short time. (I don’t know that I agree with that – a 20-minute power nap still helps me feel better.)

One of the messages of the research is that breastfeeding moms shouldn’t give up thinking it will get them more sleep.

So what do you think: Did you formula feed or breastfeed? Did you feel like one way gave you better sleep than the other? What do you think on the napping versus going to bed earlier? If you are nursing now, will this research help you stick with it?

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mom2alex&max

November 18th, 2010
7:12 am

While I am all for breast feeding for all those that can and want to, I DESPISE these sort of studies. All they are designed to do it induce guilt on those moms that don’t want to or can’t do it.

Jeff

November 18th, 2010
7:19 am

mom2, I agree, with a little twist. We have been bombarded with “studies” that so and so “MAY” cause this or effect that or be a factor of something. By defiinition, it also “may not”…….

As someone who deals with statistics and numbers every day, I can make numbers say anything I want them to say, especially if I throw the words “it MAY” in front of it.

motherjanegoose

November 18th, 2010
7:20 am

I breastfed both of mine and was not someone who could drift off to dreamland with a child latched on. It was something I did and losing the sleep ( due to being the only one who could feed them) was a sacrifice I made. I was ALWAYS tired while breastfeeding and it may have had something to do with the fact that I lost sleep with my babies and spent the day with my Kindergartners…LOL.

I now not everyone can or wants to breastfeed.

I told Michelle, at dinner last night, I have gotten into my own bed now for 10 days and said, “thank you Lord for a comfortable bed and a quiet room.” I love my job but I also love a quiet room and not all hotels are quiet…to me.

motherjanegoose

November 18th, 2010
7:22 am

FYI…someone may say that I could have pumped and given a bottle to my husband to feed the baby. I did pump and used that milk solely for the feedings while I was in Kindergarten. Just sayin…

PLUS…he is such a hard sleeper, he may have given the bottle to our dog….;)

First time poster

November 18th, 2010
7:28 am

As someone who both breast and formula feed, I personally saw no difference in the amount of sleep I was able to get.

Nadia74

November 18th, 2010
7:36 am

I am not sure I understand how this study is designed to make formula feeding moms feel guilty. That guilt is a separate issue altogether. You cannot argue the fact that breastmilk is best for the baby. Anything that encourages mothers to do that is a good thing.

Yes, I breastfed. Did I get more sleep compared to moms who don’t? I am not sure. My babies slept with me. Like MJG, I could not latch on the baby and fall back to sleep. I do think I did not wake up as fully as if I had to get up out of bed and go get the baby, though. I don’t feel like my children’s baby years were spent in a tired haze. I also did not work, so I was able to sleep as long as they slept, and my babies/toddlers/children were really good sleepers (they slept late).

I have always heard people say that babies sleep longer if given formula or some cereal in their bottle before bed. Both have been proven to be basically old wive’s tales. This is not new news.

Yes, I am a breastfeeding advocate. However, I could not care less if you choose not to do it. I won’t say I understand you because I always wanted to breastfeed and loved it. But, I do feel like people need to get over their guilt over decisions they make about parenting.

motherjanegoose

November 18th, 2010
7:44 am

OFF topic…I just finished THE MAGIC HOUR by Kristin Hannah. As a Mother and Teacher, I bawled.
It has a good ending…just not what I expected. If you want a good read, you might try it.
Longtime educator…are you out there…you would perhaps like it.

Nadia74

November 18th, 2010
8:11 am

Too funny! I just read that book this week. I really liked it, too.

mom2alex&max

November 18th, 2010
8:19 am

Nadia: your “little” post made my point for me. QUOTE: You cannot argue the fact that breastmilk is best for the baby. Anything that encourages mothers to do that is a good thing. END QUOTE

Will I choose not to, I CAN argue against it.

BessieBear

November 18th, 2010
8:19 am

I don’t think the article is trying to make formula-feeders feel guilty, rather it give support to those who choose to breast-feed. Breastfeeding moms get lots of messages to give-in to formula feeding. I still remember my mom, who didn’t talk much about such things, telling me to give my first baby formula at night time so I could get some sleep. Thankfully, I had read up beforehand so I could tell her how that would hurt my supply. The message needs to be clearly out there that formula feeding won’t necessarily give you more sleep.

I’m all for napping. I was grateful I could do that, and missed it terribly when my kids stopped napping.

motherjanegoose

November 18th, 2010
8:27 am

JATL…help…my reading comprehension is awry….which is Nadia’s “little” post….I thought it was the one about the book we perhaps both read….LOL.

Outta here…ya’ll have fun!

Michelle

November 18th, 2010
8:40 am

Personally, I don’t think it makes a difference! As an infant, they are waking up about every 1-3 hours either way! Unless (as some have pointed out) the baby sleeps with you, both have to get up, etc.

I did both. I nursed for about 3 months and then formula after that. I didn’t really notice a difference either way. I was always tired! ;o)

I think the study just points out it doesn’t really matter which one you choose, you’re going to be tired either way! LOL!

Carole

November 18th, 2010
8:45 am

My six month old is strictly formula fed. She was over 10lbs at birth and my body just wasn’t producing enough milk to sustain her. Even as a newborn, she slept in three to four hour intervals and since three months she sleeps 12-14 hours at night.(Granted, she only takes one two hour nap a day–when she’s up, she’s UP!)

My pediatrician told me that bigger babies tend to sleep longer, as do formula fed babies because they are fuller because formula is more satisfying…definitely not BETTER for them, mind you, just fills them up more.

SuwaneeMommy

November 18th, 2010
8:47 am

Truisms:
1. It doesn’t matter what you feed your baby–breastmilk or formula–just feed your baby!
2. Babies will let you know when they’re hungry. It happens at all hours of the day and night. It’s just how it is.
3. Babies require round-the-clock care. New parents and anyone else in the household will be tired, regardless.
4. There’s no magic bullet, potion or elixir to make your baby do your bidding… so stop trying!

Lori

November 18th, 2010
8:49 am

It depends on how helpful the dad is….My son was premie and very small. We tried breast feeding from the start, but by the time he was 2 days old, his doctor basically told me I either had to give him a bottle or he was going to starve. He just wasn’t able to get enough from me. So I began to supplement with formula, but continued to try breast feeding for several weeks. I wasn’t getting any sleep. Since he couldn’t latch on at all, I pumped. So every three hours, I had to spend 45 minutes pumping, then another 45 minutes feeding him. Once I gave up breast milk altogether, my husband could take a few turns. So, I’d say, yeah, formula moms definitely get more sleep, as long as the dad takes one of the overnight turns at feeding.

Jennifer

November 18th, 2010
8:52 am

I’m sure there’s little difference if breastfeeding goes well. However, I breastfed exclusively for the first month (my son did not reach birth weight by 1mos!!!) and the process was painful, exhausting and mentally straining. Because my son was overweight, I set a timer and fed exactly every three hours. However, the nighttime feedings took at least an hour and had us both crying. When we supplemented with formula after one month, the feedings took approximately 20 minutes, including diaper change! My boobies just never really worked and unfortunately even with regular feedings and pumping, after 6 weeks nothing was coming out. I will use formula for night feedings with my next. Maybe it will go easily and perfectly, but I still get upset when I think about how quiet and alone I felt when we were both crying for an hour every three hours during the night…

motherjanegoose

November 18th, 2010
8:53 am

Gotta scoot but my son was 10 pounds 8 ounces and my pediatrician told me that I would absoluetly not have enough milk for him. I nursed ALL the time for 2 weeks, we went back to see the doctor and he was amazed that my body had adjusted and that my son was flourishing. My own Mother advised against breastfeeding but I did have support from peers at work.

This may have only been my experience.

DB…your son was a big baby….what did they tell you?

Michelle, I thought the formula thing had to do with digestive issues and break down….what is this about the formula being more satisfying? You might know this due to your line of work.
FYI…dinner was fun last night.

Jennifer

November 18th, 2010
8:54 am

Dang! My post should say “because my son was UNDER weight”. He was less than five pounds when we came home.

JJ

November 18th, 2010
8:57 am

I’ll decide what’s best for me and my child. I don’t need yet another assine study to tell me that I’m tired…….

FCM

November 18th, 2010
9:04 am

People Mag named Ryan Renyolds sexiest man alive…Totally think Gerard Butler should have been the pick.

Yes it is off topic but honestly I am sick unto death about nursing vs bottle feeding. As my pediatrician and lactating consultant said…”FCM, feeding from a bottle will not keep the kid from being a validictorian and nursing won’t promise that they will stay away from drugs. It is the bond of the parent and child that matters.” SO FEED THE KID ALREADY—bottle or breast who cares if it is right for you and the child????

Besides to echo JJ’s sentiment…anyone raising a child based on a bunch of assine studies really shouldn’t be parenting.

Sleepless cheapo

November 18th, 2010
9:18 am

I sometimes wonder if I’m the only mom that felt this way, but I hated breastfeeding. I really did. But, I know all statistics point to the benefits of breastmilk for babies, and since I was blessed with the ability to actually produce milk for my child, I did it. To be honest though, the only thing I enjoyed about breastfeeding was the fact that it was free. Even though I wasn’t a “feed on demand” mommy, I still felt like I was constantly feeding my daughter – and even though it may have only been every 3-4 hours, when you have to stop what you’re doing to feed, it felt like every 15 minutes instead. After doing it myself, I’m completely baffled by people who say breastfeeding is so convenient. Ultimately, I breastfed until my body just stopped producing milk (around 10 months), so fortunately I didn’t have to go through a painful weaning process. I felt so much more rested and relaxed after switching to formula. Even if I wasn’t technically getting any more sleep, I was given hours of my day back that had previously been dedicated to sitting in a chair feeding. I do hope to have another baby in the future, but I am already dreading the thought of breastfeeding again.

Longtime Educator

November 18th, 2010
9:48 am

Thanks, motherjanegoose! I added your book to my list of books to read!

Kate

November 18th, 2010
9:58 am

The best thing for your baby is that YOU NOT LET THEM STARVE TO DEATH!

Had any of my babies been dependent on my milk supply, they would have starved. That is the one, and only reason I didn’t breastfeed and I do not have one ounce of guilt over it. If you have an adequate supply of breast milk you will get just as much sleep as any new mom. But if you don’t have enough milk, you will be up all day and night with an irritable, hungry baby and your baby’s pediatrician will report you to DFACS for allowing your child to become dangerously underweight.

I never hear lactation consultants making nasty remarks about women who either cannot, or choose not, to breastfeed, only moms making catty, ignorant comments amongst themselves. Does anyone else see the correlation between this and the topic from the other day about how women secretly hate each other? Breastfeeding, for some bizarre reason, has become the new competitive sport among women. It’s absolutely ridiculous. If you can do it, that’s great, it will save you a fortune in baby formula if nothing else (that stuff is SO expensive), but if you can’t, you can’t. It’s nothing to feel guilty about!

Lady Strange

November 18th, 2010
10:02 am

I too had lots of trouble breastfeeding my son. I tried for as long as I could but I never made much milk and it was painful for me and he just wasn’t getting enough to eat. So I ended up switching him to formula when I had to go back to work. He still seemed to wake up just as often to feed though.

atlanta mom

November 18th, 2010
10:20 am

I don’t understand how a mom using formula doesn’t get more sleep. Where is the dad? If nothing else, the late evening feeding should be his responsibility, while mom goes to bed at 8 pm and gets that first 4 hours of good sleep.

Spacey

November 18th, 2010
10:21 am

My boys took both and I loved it!
We mostly nursed the first three months with the occasional bottle given by my husband.
So, YES I had more sleep some nights.
When my darling husband didn’t have to work the next day, he would take one of the night feedings so I could get about 6 hours straight.
It was a wonderful combo and made the transition to more formula easier on their systems.

I realize this is not what the study is suggesting, but when your husband or Mom can help feed some nights, you do get more sleep.
There is the pumping option. I was able to breastfeed well, but really hated the pump. It was just one more thing in my already tired days. I have friends that pumped more than they fed or could do both at once!

JOD

November 18th, 2010
10:22 am

I just don’t get what light bulb this study is supposed to produce. If you have to wake up to feed the baby – assuming you are in fact awake the whole time – it makes no difference whether you are using breastmilk or formula. The only way you’re not getting up multiple times a night is if someone else takes a turn – whether pumped in a bottle or formula in a bottle. Sorry for the sarcasm, but these studies really tick me off with their ‘Duh!’ results.

@FCM and @JJ – Hear, hear!

really

November 18th, 2010
10:43 am

i don’t have children, so i do not have an opinion here…
–but–
i would like to suggest that we talk about the new “study” that says marriage is becoming obsolete!!!! i want to read what people have to say about it. :)

Chistine

November 18th, 2010
10:47 am

I hate these studies. I really think it is a personal choice and sometimes moms aren’t given the choice. My body was so stressed from pre-eclampsia, the emergency c-section, and depression after my son was born I just wouldn’t produce for him so I formula fed… he seems no different than any other child to me. As for sleep I really think there isn’t much difference.

Formula feeding mommies get the advantage of daddy feeding from time to time to get a little extra sleep.

FCM

November 18th, 2010
10:51 am

This is one of those “debates” like SAHM vs Working Mom that set me off…..NEITHER SIDE will ever win the arguement fully.

@ Sleepless you are absolutely not alone…what is more you should have never been made to feel that you were or that you were “bad” to feel that way. I HATED breast feeding…though I was fine to do it physically. All the reasons you stated…feeling like a d%$# dairy cow….hated every minute of it.

LOVED every minute of holding my babies, watching their bright eyes as they took the bottle, the “pig” noise they made. Talking to them as they ate. I never did a prop and drop feeding…now we can debate that all day long…Like I said before the bonding is the important.

@ JOD my (then) husband felt like I was the Mom it was my job to get up at night. His job was to go earn the money since I was on “vacation” (maternity leave) and then after I went back to work I heard “well you want to work and you had the baby”. Nevermind that my work covered the health insurance and so forth…ie we really needed the money. He never did the middle night feedings…he told his mother the baby was sleeping through the night at 3 weeks old….NO it took him 3 weeks to learn how to sleep through the cry in the middle of the night or me bumbling around in the dark to get said baby fed.

Kate

November 18th, 2010
11:01 am

My earlier post hasn’t showed up yet, so I hope I’m not repeating myself here.

@Jennifer- I feel your pain, sister! I remember being a young new mom with my first baby and crying more times than I could count trying to breastfeed my son. My breast milk just never came in. I talked to the lactation consultant I met at the hospital about it. I asked her flat out “What’s wrong with me?!” She told me with complete sincerity “There is NOTHING wrong with you! You are no less of a mother just because your body didn’t produce milk!”

Although I was never able to successfully breastfeed any of my babies, I suspect if you have an adequate supply of breast milk, you will get about as much sleep any new mom. However, if you don’t you don’t have enough milk, you will be up all day and night with an irritable, starving baby and your baby’s pediatrician will report you to DFACS for allowing your child to become dangerously underweight! If you can breastfeed, that’s great, you’ll save a fortune on baby formula if nothing else, but it you can’t, you can’t. There’s absolutely nothing to feel guilty about! No reason to feel guilty if you just don’t like it either. I know very few women who actually enjoyed breastfeeding. Even women who have milk pouring out of them will tell you breastfeeding gets old pretty quickly.

Breastfeeding was never meant to be a competitive sport!

sissyuga

November 18th, 2010
11:33 am

I was in a position where I was at home at the time and could breastfeed. I admire moms who pump at work. We supplemented a little with formula as he got older, but I would breastfeed again. It was hard but I would rather feed my son something that is natural and not chemical. He has been a healthy boy bc of it.

catlady

November 18th, 2010
11:39 am

Does feeding a baby formula get mom more sleep? Only if someone besides mom does it!

On the endless debate: I am fortunate that I did it both ways. With my eldest, I tried for a couple of weeks but could not get past the pain and her ravenous hunger (ten pounds). With the second, I nursed him till he weaned at 11 months. Still had terrible pain the first 3-4 weeks or so, but I used ice packs before he nursed to numb myself. I went back to work when he was 3 weeks old, so during the day he would take a bottle, but the minute school got out I would fly to the sitters house, grab that child, and sit down and nurse! Same for the youngest, although I only nursed her 5 months. I went back to work when she was 16 days old, and never got my milk as established as I would have liked.

Funny story about doctors. I had told everyone that there was NO WAY I would try nursing again, after the first expeience. So, when I took him to the pediatrician at 3 weeks for a checkup and he weighed 12 pounds, the doctor fumed, “This baby has gained entirely too much weight!” I asked if I was supposed to jerk the (body part) out of his mouth afte a certain amount of time, and he was shocked–”you are breastfeeding this baby?? Well, his weight gain is JUST RIGHT.”

My (former) husband was adamant that the baby was not coming to bed with us at all (it disturbed HIS sleep) so I would get up and go lay down by the woodheater and nurse. I would always fall asleep there on the floor and wake up, stoke the fire, and put the baby back to bed. Now, I look at that, and I wonder why I was so crazy to give in to HIS need for comfort instead of the baby and mine!

gtmom

November 18th, 2010
11:50 am

With my first child, I breast fed.. I slept tons.. Breastfeeding relaxed me and I could sleep while feeding at night. No running downstairs to make a bottle.
With my second child, I bottle fed. At two weeks, I switched to bottle feeding and it got hard. I had to make bottles several times a night. I had to wake up to figure out what I was doing.. I had to burp him afterwards. He was so gassy and when we switched to bottles, he became a terror. I had postpartum after having him so this was what was best for us. But the calming and relaxing that I had with my first child during feeding, I could never get with the second one. If I had it all to do over again, I would have done the same thing. But I got much less sleep with bottle feeding which did not help my postpartum anxiety.

gtmom

November 18th, 2010
11:51 am

And Dad did help.. but I was awake anyway with the crying so it didn’t matter…

DB

November 18th, 2010
12:11 pm

I breastfed seven months with the first, and only two months with the second. I am a very heavy sleeper – hard to fall asleep, hard to wake up, hard to fall back asleep — and am luckily married to a light sleeper who can fall asleep on a dime. My DH would wake when the baby fussed at night, change them, and bring them to me in bed — I’d feed them, and sometimes I’d wake enough to take them back, and sometimes, we’d just curl up and go back to sleep.

With the second, even though I thought I was an “old pro” at it, there was a lot of fussiness about taking the breast — and a lot of feeling rejected and frustrated on my part. After two months, I said, “You win”, and we switched to formula. She was happier, I was happier, and my DH wasn’t standing by going “WTH?” To him it seemed very straightforward — “if she doesn’t want to breastfeed, give her a bottle!”

I can’t really compare them. While my first was a very fussy baby, my second was so laid back, she was sleeping 7 hours a night when she was 1 week old! (Another reason my breastmilk never got regulated, according to the doctor.)

Basically — whatever works for you and your baby is fine by me. No judgements here. Personally, I don’t see that extra 15 or 20 minutes of sleep between the two making a whole lot of difference either way!

Spacey

November 18th, 2010
12:13 pm

What about weight gain?
Catlady’s story is right on! People assume if your baby is large that you fed the child formula.
There is also the theory for Mom’s with small babies that they should give them formula to “fatten them up”.
I don’t think it makes much of a difference at all.
My first took more bottles from the beginning. I felt terrible and he was always hungry. Long story short, he grew no bigger or faster than my second who nursed almost exclusively.

deidre_NC

November 18th, 2010
12:26 pm

i bottle fed my first…the others i breast fed and loved it…it was so easy..no bottles to worry about and it was just so damn handy lol…and cheap :)….i have known women who didnt because they didnt want to or couldnt or whatever…their babies were fine and i cant remember that mine were any healthier…my youngest daughter had ear infections constantly…so who knows….i just know i loved it and missed it when it was over….if a woman cant or doesnt want to thats fine…people dont need to make them feel guilty for not wanting to. i know a teen girls who dont because they dont want to give up their freedom…well id rather see them not give up their freedom that become resentful to the child..of course if rather see them not get pregnant to start with…anyone who doesnt want to and does because of pressure from others…dont give in…like someone else posted…..as long as you feel them and they are taken care of great…and any new parents dont get enough sleep no matter how their babies are fed…thats a fact jack!

JATL

November 18th, 2010
1:29 pm

@MJG -can’t help you with this one – I’m as confused as you are!

Tiffany

November 18th, 2010
1:31 pm

I think the only way that mom ever gets any extra sleep is when she is allowed to sleep through the late feeding while dad or someone else feeds the baby. Put formula in the bottle or pump it-that’s up to you.

RJ

November 18th, 2010
1:39 pm

One kiddie got formula, one breast milk. I have no idea how it affected my sleep because I was tired with both. Even when they started to sleep longer I got up just to make sure they were okay. A mother’s sleep pattern is forever changed after giving birth.

Tiffany

November 18th, 2010
1:41 pm

If you are asleep while you are feeding your baby you are putting the baby in danger. Haven’t you seen the stories in the news of the moms who fell asleep and rolled over on their babies? Feed your baby first- then put him or her in their own crib. Sleeping with an infant in your bed is just waiting for an accident to happen!

JATL

November 18th, 2010
1:42 pm

I hate studies like this too -for a variety of reasons. The breastmilk vs. formula debate needs to GO AWAY. Do what makes you happy, because you know what is better for your baby than breastmilk? A HAPPY MOTHER! If you have gallons of milk pouring forth from your breasts -have at it -but not all of us do or ever will.

I never had a good milk supply. This seems to be an inherited issue on both sides of my family, and believe me, my grandmothers WANTED to breastfeed. The concoctions they had to come up with when they couldn’t adequately breastfeed (no formula then) and the hiring of wet nurses wasn’t convenient or what they wanted to do. My mother never had milk at all! She had colostrum, then nothing but a few droplets! Anyway, the amount of sleep you get depends on your child, the child’s disposition and your husband or partner.

I’ve been blessed with two good sleepers. My first was better than the second. I also breastfed him the longest -4 months -but I had to supplement the entire time. #2 only got it for 6 weeks. They both only got up a few times per night from the beginning though. I also pumped and used formula so my husband could take at least one feeding per night.

@Sleeplesscheapo -I didn’t like it either! I think the part that I didn’t like was the sheer frustration of never having enough milk. When I was trying to solely breastfeed and “let my body adjust” as the lactation consultants told me it would -I was feeding almost around the clock, because the baby never got enough at one feeding. Seriously -every 30 minutes the baby would be hungry again! I could do almost nothing but breastfeed, so starting formula was fantastic. I didn’t mind the actual act of breastfeeding, but I never felt any different when giving them a bottle. With #2, I realized the supply wasn’t going to be any different, and having a toddler to attend to really muddled up the sitting around breastfeeding all day -so I went for total formula at 6 weeks.

JJ

November 18th, 2010
2:18 pm

@Kate – your last line in your 11:01 post was hysterical!!!!!

mom2alex&max

November 18th, 2010
2:58 pm

Sleepless: you are DEFINITELY not alone. I could not produce enough milk for my 1st born and was left in tears at being unable to provide enough nutrition for my own baby. I was sick and tired of the breastfeeders giving me all kinds of useless pointers. There. Was. Not. Enough MILK!

Second baby: took to breastfeeding like a champ and nursed all the time. I hated every minute of it! I hated being tied down, I hated the isolation (everyone was sooooo uncomfortable watching me do it, so I always had to leave and do it in private plus the kid had no modesty and refused to eat under a blanket), and I hated that no one else (including dad) could care for him so I was stuck doing it every 25 minutes. Ugh. Everyone was happy when I weaned at 6 months.

motherjanegoose

November 18th, 2010
3:23 pm

Good JATL…glad I am not alone.

How about this one…what is assine….:>0?

I thought it was asinine:

as·i·nine/ˈasəˌnīn/
Adjective: Extremely stupid or foolish.

Never sure around here. I may need to learn a new word.

Guess I am in the minority here but once I got the swing of things….I loved breastfeeding. Even though I was working and pumping. I did not have a mother nor mother in law who did it but my friends were a great support.

It did not come naturally either…it took me 2 months to get the hang of it the first time. The lactation consultant came in with my daughter ( my 2nd child) r and asked, ” do you need any help?” I replied, “oh no….I did it for 10 months with her brother…” I was buzzing her in 10 minutes as it was not the same with my second child and I had to learn all over again. …5 years between them.

To me, the convenience and economic factor was wonderful!

This is what I was wondering about earlier when someone mentioned formula being more satisfying:

“And breastfed babies do need to eat more often than babies who are fed formula, because breast milk digests faster than formula. This means Mom may find herself in demand every 2 or 3 hours (maybe more, maybe less) in the first few weeks.” kidshealth.org

catlady

November 18th, 2010
5:37 pm

gtmom: Was it dad or the baby crying that kept you awake? LOL Or maybe YOU crying?

I was happy when my daughter had her second and was having trouble nursing (again–she gave it up after a week or 2 the first time) and the lactation consultant came in and looked at her breasts while I was there and explained about her breast/nipple shape and its impact and I FINALLY UNDERSTOOD why I had so much pain and trouble nursing. It was like, 34 years later, AaHHA! You mean everyone isn’t like her or me?? I never knew!

My grandson (5 months) is having trouble with significant acid reflux which has resulted him in gaining tremendous weight and having asthma-like symptoms. Anyone have any experience in this with your own child? I need some help on this (MJG, some folks won’t believe I don’t think I know everything!)

gtmom

November 19th, 2010
7:22 am

catlady – It was the baby crying.. I haven’t cried since high school (maybe it is the engineer in me – incapable of crying). But even if daddy was taking care of the baby, I was still awake because the mommy instinct kept me up and I could not sleep over the baby crying. My baby too had GERD (like your grandson) and would cry for hours after a feed.. he was so uncomfortable. It is tough and I hope your grandson grows out of it like my baby did.

JATL

November 19th, 2010
10:31 am

@catlady -I’m sure this has probably been tried, but has the doctor prescribed Zantac or anything? They have infant doses, and I’ve known several babies (and parents) whose lives were changed once they started taking it! You’ll find mixed reviews on the special infant sleep positioners out there designed to help babies with reflux. Look into them and go with what you think is best. I’m sure he’s on specialized formula for it, but ask the doctor if there are any different ones that perhaps would fill the bill and haven’t been tried. My youngest was great on soy formula, and doesn’t have a lactose issue or dairy allergy, but as an infant anything milk-based caused tons of problems.