Mom’s Guide:Which video game system to buy for Christmas?

I am seeing a lot of Facebook chatter between moms looking for advice about video game systems. So I thought it would be helpful to talk about the different systems and hook you guys up with reviews and video guides.

So the three main systems that moms are debating are:

Sony PlayStation 3 Slim (160 GB) *Est. $300 — It can play Blu-ray disks besides video games. My husband says it’s a powerful machine. The new big thing for the system is the Playstation Move motion controllers.  They look like ping pong balls on the end of a Wii controller. Similar in theory to the Wii controllers.

Microsoft Xbox 360 Slim (250 GB) *Est. $300 — The X-Box Kinect is the big thing from X-Box this holiday season (Advertised for $150). It enables players to play (new) games and control the X-Box without a controller.  Think Tom Cruise in “Minority Report” – you just sweep your hands in the air.

Nintendo Wii *Est. $200 – Very easy for kids to control. Lots of kid-centric and family-focused games.

My husband and son both love to play video games but are on different systems. My 7-year-old and his sisters love to play the Wii. The games are aimed at them and the controls are easy to use. They also can use the Wii to watch Netflix movies. My husband is a huge fan of X-Box because he likes to play games online with other guys and because he loves sports games. He is hoping Santa Claus will bring him the X-Box Kinect. He practices being Tom Cruise in “Minority Report.” We also use the X-Box for Netflix.

Consumersearch.com reviewed the consoles like this: (This link leads to pros and cons and other reviews of the systems.)

cnet Reviews of the Kinect controller, the Wii and the Sony playstation controllers

cnet’s Top 5 Best

Watch people trying to use the Kinect – apparently it’s not as easy it looks.

However, this is a link to a story where a dad describes how the Kinect system is so intuitive it’s easy for his son with Autism to use. The father loves that his child isn’t frustrated and can play with him.

Back on the Consumersearch site, it offers tips of what to think about and look for as you are choosing a system for your family. (There is a lot more explanation on the site but these are the basic areas to consider.)

  • “Consider the games.
  • Who will be playing?
  • Try out the controller.
  • Are you interested in extras like online gaming or playing movies?
  • Consider capacity.
  • Backward compatibility matters.
  • Figure accessories into the total cost.
  • Motion control is the next big thing.”

What do you think? What did you buy? How does it work? Have you tried any of the new controllers? What is your advice to families looking to buy a video system?

96 comments Add your comment

DB

November 12th, 2010
1:10 am

My 22 year old son is dying for a Kinect — he has been stalking it since it was first introduced as “Natal”. He’s got an X-Box now that he’s had for 4 or 5 years. Honestly, though, we didn’t have any video game systems in the house until he was about 14 or 15 — I just didn’t see the point before that, I didn’t like the way a lot of his friends turned into zombies in front of the screen, and my daughter was never interested.

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shaggy

November 12th, 2010
6:23 am

None of the above. Make them go outside and play. They will thank you for it later, when they have grown stronger than their vacant peers.

P F

November 12th, 2010
7:17 am

I picked up the Kinect the day it came out (last Thursday). Friday morning, we both could hardly move. It really got you moving. As for which game system is the best? 12-18 boys..the 360 with Xbox Live. If you want multi-player family games, then the PS3. The wii also has a lot of family interactive games and is fun for adults, too. BUT, the Kinect has raised the bar. This past Sunday, my son (18), my brother-in-law (37) and myself (41) played the Kinect for over 7 hours. All three of us were worn out afterwards. (ie, for the 100 meter dash on the Kinect, you have to run in place instead of shaking a controller). The PS3 does have a blue-ray player which will reduce the number of pieces of equipment at your tv, but Xbox Live has now picked up ESPN3. Try them all out at Best Buy or GameStop and check the selection of games.

Ugh!

November 12th, 2010
7:25 am

Shaggy, your comments are not helpful. The piece was asking for an opinion on the gaming systems, not your holier than thou opinion about what is best for children. Gaming systems are perfectly fine, especially when it is cold/wet/rainy outside.

That being said, we have a Wii and my younger children (6) and (8) love it because it is easy for them to use. My older child (13) prefers the X-Box 360 because the graphics are better and he prefers the controls.

motherjanegoose

November 12th, 2010
7:52 am

@ shaggy and ugh….me too: none….have a great day all!

I am with DB…too many kids ARE turning into zombies….maybe catlady can share….

catlady

November 12th, 2010
8:02 am

None of the above. I agree, MJG. Give your children the best gift–your attention to them and their lives. I am not talking about helicoptering, but doing things together, knowing their friends, giving them guidance with healthy activities. Instead of “exercising” with the video, get out and ACTUALLY DO IT IN “REAL LIFE!” And it doesn’t cost hundreds of dollars that could be put to better use.

My observation is that most of my students at the bottom have devices like this. Some of my top kids do, too, but of my underachievers it is probably 90%, even though 70% of the school are on free lunch! (We have got our priorities straight!)

C’mon, folks! Grass, trees, sunshine, digging, running–you remember all that!?

catlady

November 12th, 2010
8:04 am

And if this is “holier than thou,” let me JOIN THIS CHURCH! Amen!

Rob

November 12th, 2010
8:07 am

Hmmm … I don’t think the title of this column is “What alternatives to game systems?”, so maybe just go back to your cats, hey?

Photius

November 12th, 2010
8:08 am

Video games – Awwww…. quality time with the children. Don’t buy it – let them go over to their friends house. They turn into zombies and it literally generates nothing positive or productive in their lives. Maybe as a teenager but not now.

motherjanegoose

November 12th, 2010
8:12 am

Oh dear…did we just hear that those who are on free lunch can afford such things? How can that be?

Perhaps this will be a FUN Friday after all….;>/

FYI…those who have seen and worked with LOTS of children may even know what is best for them! But do not take my word for it!

Lori

November 12th, 2010
8:14 am

It’s actually a pretty simple decision. Just ask your kids which one they want. Trust me, they know better than you!

Jeff

November 12th, 2010
8:14 am

First time I’ve been around here in a LONG time :D

Anyway, I have some experience with all three: I’ve personally owned the Wii, have the 360 right now, and little bro and his new wife have the Playstation 3.

Families, particularly with small kids, will like the Wii, as the games tend to be more of the small kid/family atmosphere. Kinect may or may not change that dynamic. I don’t have it, and don’t plan to get it, since my personal gaming tastes are more of the Fallout (currently addicted to New Vegas)/Halo/FarCry/Gears of War type – iow, games that are ideally suited for a controller such as the 360’s traditional one.

If your target for the system is a teen/adult male in your house, definetly go with the 360 or the PS3. Particularly if they like sports games or online shooters such as Halo/Call of Duty. As to which here, to me it really comes down to whether or not you want PS3’s blu-ray capability or you want a stand alone blu-ray. I have a stand-alone blu-ray that handles that and netflix, and I like some of the games (such as Halo) that are 360 exclusives over the PS3 exclusives.

I would also look at what your extended family has, if any. If the extended family has one particular box and you visit them often, might be better to standardize on their box so you can play with them more. (For example, for years, many in my extended family had the Xbox/360, so when we got together at thanksgiving/Christmas, most of the males of around my generation (+/- a decade or so from my age) tended to gather in one or two rooms and network some 360s playing some version of Halo.)

Hannah

November 12th, 2010
8:16 am

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Hannah

November 12th, 2010
8:18 am

I only came in to make sure there were judgmental comments from parents about how they know what’s best for everyone else. I am satisfied.

However, I will say that it depends on the age of the kids. The Wii is good for everyone, but the XBox seems better for older kids. The Kinect seems awesome and at least your kids would be up and moving around.

JJ

November 12th, 2010
8:18 am

I agree with Shaggy and others. Send the kiddies outside and save the money for a nice vacation.

There are other things the kids can do on wet rainy days, besides a gaming system. How about a board game? Cards? How about using the old imagination…..Have a carpet picnic for lunch. Build a fire and play Monopoly with the family.

My child made it through 18 years without a gaming system in our home.

Jeff

November 12th, 2010
8:19 am

For those saying it provides no positive impact:

One thing it DOES help with – with proper parenting – is that it gives a “safe” outlet for aggression. Put in Halo/Call of Duty/Mortal Kombat and “kill” each other to your heart’s content. As long as it stays in the video game, frustration is handled with no real-world repercussions.

I know this is one thing that my brothers and I have used quite well.

shaggy

November 12th, 2010
8:20 am

If you just gotta get junior one, get them and Atari 2600. Collectable, and they will get so mad at you for doing it, they will go outside and play….even when it’s raining and cold. Then, you can sell it on ebay and pocket the cash ;)

Super Dad

November 12th, 2010
8:22 am

“Make them go outside and play”…code words for I don’t have time to spend with my children, I’m too busy tending to my Facebook Farm.

almh

November 12th, 2010
8:25 am

They like to play games on the laptop or phone. I’m putting off the game system as long as I can.

Lady Strange

November 12th, 2010
8:44 am

I’d like to get a Wii but I will probably buy a used one. And for those who think kids shouldn’t play video games, it’s called moderation. Letting your kid sit all day and play Wii or XBox is never a good idea. But with some parenting involved I don’t see it as a bad alternate activity for kids or even adults. I had an Atari 2600 growing up (still have it actually) and I played outside all the time and I played video games and when they came out, computer games. Video games are just fine in moderation.

bunch of yentas

November 12th, 2010
8:47 am

We have a Wii. The boy loves it. I don’t let him play on school days, but let him play several hours on weekends. Actually, we play together. We downloaded all the Mario Games I grew up with and bought the new ones.

The new Kinect thing looks cool, but I don’t understand how driving games, and shooting games, and side scroll games could work on that thing. I am not into dancing and neither is the boy. So far, thats the only game I see on that thing.

bunch of yentas

November 12th, 2010
8:49 am

Actually, the Wii is also our discipline tool. He is so familiar with the concept of “Losing Men” from Mario, that he starts his week with 4 Men on the chalk board at home and if he loses all four during the week, then its a video game free weekend.

Didn’t make the bed? Lose a man
Note from school that he talked tooo much? Lose a man
Talked back to Dad? Lose a man

JeffH

November 12th, 2010
8:50 am

I’m 29, and I don’t have children. However, if I did, I would be okay with getting them a Wii. I played NES and Super NES growing up, and Nintendo almost always did a great of keeping games kid-friendly (Mario, Zelda, etc. games are great for kids).

Whatever system you get, I think it’s important to be sure of what content is in the games, which is what my parents did for me when I was growing up (and this was before they video game content ratings). Though, most people probably don’t need me to tell them that.

On an awesome note, my mom was actually pretty good at Super Mario Brothers (Yes, I played video games with my mom and also my sisters, when I was young). And playing video games doesn’t mean your kid will grow up to be a zombie. As I said, I’ve played them my whole life, and my wife and sisters have also. All of us turned out pretty well, and video games actually encouraged me into going into my chosen profession of computer programming.

shaggy

November 12th, 2010
8:51 am

Super Dad,
“Facebook Farm” ? Not hardly. You will never find me on Facebook, Myspace, twitter, or any other social networking. I prefer to either blog of have actual converstaions. You should try it, along with going outside sometime. Now, that is someplace you will find me, outside…going there now. It’s a beautiful day.
I am going camping in the mountains tomorrow with my family and some friends. What are you doing? Wii…ing around?

Stookie

November 12th, 2010
8:54 am

For those of you that are saying don’t buy one, go outside and play: You know you can have the best of both worlds. I just bought my 6 and 8 year old the Wii a few months back and I can’t tell you how much fun, as a family that we have had. By the end of the time of playing the Wii against each other, we are winded and sweaty and laughing hysterically, especially after both my boys beat me in baseball. You can balance the time they play the Wii and the time they do other activities. Last Sunday, we went outside and played a fierce game of tag for 2 hours, but with it getting dark earlier and the cold, windy weather kicking in, it gives a great alternative. I’m sure the ones that say don’t buy one had never played one and don’t know what a great family bonding time it provides.

TnT's Mom

November 12th, 2010
9:05 am

My question is why have more than one game system in one house? My 13yo is bugging me to get him an Xbox for christmas, but why? We have a perfectly good playstaion 3. I would rather spend money on games for the system we have then buy another system and not have any money left for games for that one.

JATL

November 12th, 2010
9:06 am

We have a Wii that was given to us a few years ago by my FIL. We really only use it to stream Netflix! Granted our kiddies are only 4 and 2. My husband has games he likes, but rarely plays and I enjoy it if we set aside time to actually play it -it just seems that never happens! I’m basically with the outside folks -go outside! If it’s raining -read a book or draw, paint, color or cook. I DO think games can have their place, and I’m fine in future years with the boys wanting a system, getting it and playing it -under very controlled circumstances with minimal hours allowed.

While we will continue to spend most of our spare time outside or playing and reading inside, I do actually want Wii Fit for Christmas since it seems the only time I have to work out anymore is the middle of the night! And I DO love the “band” games. We would really enjoy one of those together as a family. That’s what I want to know -which one is best in your opinion -Rock Band or Guitar Hero World Tour (the one with the drums, mic, etc.)?

I think most of the people posting on this site are not the type of parents who hand their kids a bag of Doritos as soon as they get home from school or get up on Saturday and say, “Hey Johnny -go downstairs and spend the day in front of the video games.” Unfortunately people who don’t read parenting blogs or really give a s*!t about being a parent in the first place are the problem.

motherjanegoose

November 12th, 2010
9:08 am

Hannah….it’s about balance. Some parents here have children who are grown now and we might know a few things…just maybe not in your opinion and that is fine.

As I have said before…if you plan to go to Hawaii ( and spend a lot of money) …you can look at the glossy brochures to plan your trip OR you can ask someone who has BEEN there or LIVES there now. I find that asking the ***been there or lived there group*** is more effective for me…that may be just me.

Some parents, on this blog, do want advice from others who have been there or live there…..others just read the brochures and take their own risks. To each his own!

catlady HAS been there and DB and myself have children who are successful young adults…as do others here.

I will say that I have met a man whose son is now a graphic designer for video games….lives in Japan. So yes, there are those whose skills can make them a wonderful living. More of the exception than the rule as he grew up with his family overseas and had an opportunity many do not.

I also have known some kids personally who were so addicted to video games that they spent more time on them in college and lost their scholarships due to the fact that they were not going to class….hmmmm…I’m just sayin’. Not my kids.

HB

November 12th, 2010
9:15 am

“those who have seen and worked with LOTS of children may even know what is best for them!”

Hahaha! Seriously?! I thought merely working with LOTS of children and families was what you told me over and over and over againg didn’t make my thoughts “valid” enough to even post here!

As for gaming systems, parents should absolutely set limits, but unless you think all indoor toys and entertainment are bad, the “get outside instead” argument is a bit silly. Nothing wrong with not having video games, but having them doesn’t have to prevent engaging in other activities. I babysat many kids who were healthy and happy and played video games under strict limits, such as only after chores and homework were finished, only for 30-45 minutes a certain number of times per week, only on rainy days or after dark (5:30 or so) in winter, etc. I also kept a couple of very overweight little girls who played them all day, every day during the summer (except the days when I was there and pushed them outside). Had they not had the games, I have no doubt they would have spent all day watching cartoons instead. I’m sure their parents knew what they were doing, though — they had each been teaching for many, many years. ;)

motherjanegoose

November 12th, 2010
9:16 am

@JATL….oh yes, I have clients monthly, who ask me if I have ever considered teaching a parenting class. TOO funny. I always reply, “I would but those who may need to listen will not attend.”
Based on the grief I take here, I stand behind my reply. My knowledge is not universally respected ;)

Excuse the repetition but I have BEEN THERE AND DONE THAT as my kids are now young adults and well thought of by their friends, employers and peers.

Your assumption about many posters on this blog perhaps is true but TWG knows how many visit here and do not post so perhaps they might learn a few things they can share in their own household. I’m just sayin’….

motherjanegoose

November 12th, 2010
9:19 am

HB…you are correct and catlady is a parent of three…thanks for pointing that out. Some think she is a batty catty lady but that could NOT be further from the truth.

JJ

November 12th, 2010
9:24 am

@SuperDad – No, sending the kids outside to play does not mean I don’t have time for my kids. It means getting off your butt, go find some friends, and get some freaking fresh air.

What DOES say I don’t have time to deal with the kids – is plopping them in front of a video game, and saying “Go for it”….

HB

November 12th, 2010
9:35 am

Oh dear, MJG, and here I thought you were finally saying I might have some valid thoughts too. Guess one has to be a teacher AND a parent to know best (like those teacher-parents I mentioned?)…sigh

Then again, I just returned from a work trip to Honolulu where I had enough personal time to spend a few days on one other island. Friends who had been out there before recommended places, but in the end, I picked an island none of them had visited because based on books and brochures, I thought it was the one that best suited me. It was a good decision, and I had the time of my life (as I’m sure they did on their vacations too). Point is, different things can work equally well for different people, and while it’s always great to gather info from those who are more experienced, it’s not always necessary to follow the path of those who have gone before you to get the best possible results.

JATL

November 12th, 2010
9:38 am

@MJG -Huh? You lost me after the first paragraph. I haven’t said anything regarding your knowledge or experience.

I also have no idea what you’re talking about in your 3rd paragraph about my assumption regarding parents on the blog? If you are reading and/OR posting on this blog, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’re an expert parent, but it does probably mean that you’ve given the whole parenting thing some thought and are interested in doing what’s best for your children (at least your researching parenting blogs and topics online) -as opposed to what seems to be quite a bit of the population out there with obese and ignored children who are so fat and behind because their parents are too focused on other things to do anything for them other than handing them junk to eat and setting them in front of a tv or video game.

JATL

November 12th, 2010
9:39 am

Should have been “you’re” in my last paragraph -I really have to get more sleep!

motherjanegoose

November 12th, 2010
9:46 am

HB…you and I are on opposite ends of the spectrum and I am confident you know things I do not.

I often ask teachers if they found they knew more about children after they had their own children. Many sheepishly come to me afterwards and tell me, ” I am embarrassed about the way I treated the parents of my students before I had my own children. I really did not know what I was talking about.” One even told me that she sent an apology to the parents in her class.

I do not know all teachers…I have just worked with over 100,000…there are certainly others out there.

Not all teachers are brilliant…well they may be brilliant but perhaps they may not all have common sense.

I am certain I am not brilliant but I do possess some common sense, whether anyone here agrees or not.

DB, amongst others here, is not a teacher and I often call her to ask her opinion as she knows stuff I do not.

Most readers do not want to listen to us quarrel, so I will leave the floor to you….enjoy the day all…it is beautiful here in Gwinnett…or you may be playing a video game and have not noticed.

motherjanegoose

November 12th, 2010
9:52 am

@ JATL…my apologies….I did not mean anything negative towards you…sorry for the confusion…hugs to you. Guess my thoughts were not clear …I meant that there could be others who visit that may need to hear some advice about things…they do not post but stop in…FOR advice…maybe not.

There are those who post here, to me, that do NOT have a clue….I know I am not the only one who thinks this way.

Outta here…

bunch of yentas

November 12th, 2010
9:54 am

Is there a course I could take that would teach me to be a self-righteous, sanctimonious, ass?

abc

November 12th, 2010
9:58 am

Gory games of hunting and killing people are just plain sick. If you don’t think so, then I would submit that you yourself may not be very objective about it, possibly afflicted with the same chronic/compulsive gaming syndrome to which you’d expose your children. “It’s just a game”, some would say — entertainment in pretending to hunt and kill people. Pretty sick. That it’s so widely accepted is a sad commentary upon society.

That said, most of the gaming addicts I know say that they have a Playstation because it’s the best blu-ray player out there, and an XBox that they actually play games on. Many of them have a Wii, too. They’re pretty far down the gaming addiction path.

DB

November 12th, 2010
10:21 am

@MJG: It’s funny, I am the only woman in my family who isn’t a teacher! My mother, my grandmother, all my aunts, my FIL, cousins, DH — all all teachers. I just knew that, tempermentally, I wasn’t suited for it. So, I may not be a teacher — but I was sure raised that way!

When my son was growing up, he desperately wanted a Nintendo, since many his friends had one (and several kids had both Nintendo and Playstation, because the game offerings were different). But my DH was adamant — NO GAME SYSTEMS. “Waste of time,” he’d growl — and yet, he had no issues with playing games on the PC?!? WTH? My husband and son would play networked games on the PC all the time, yet THOSE weren’t a waste of time? Ah, no — those were “educational”! *cough*. Finally, at 15, I made a unilateral decision that my son’s Christmas gift that year woudl be a xBox. My DH didn’t agree, until I asked him to tell me, exactly, what was the difference between “Assassin’s Creed” on the xBox and “Doom” on the PC.

Case closed. :-) Ironically, he really doesn’t play it that much, especially since he got to college. When new games come out in November, he refuses to buy them until after exams – he says he “doesn’t want the distraction!” My DH was reluctant to let him take the system to school with him as a freshman, because he was afraid he would spend all his time gaming — not that he ever did, between three varsity sports and working! But we let him take it, and it was a good thing — apparently, one of the bonding activities on a guy’s hall ar networked video games. My son said it was hilarious — everyone in their rooms, stalking each other on some game, and you’d hear the occasional yells and imprecations up and down the hall during the game. I could only think back to my college days, when some girls would plan their entire schedule are “One Life To Live” and there’d be 20 girls in the lounge eagerly devouring their daily dose of soaps. Gaming’s not much different, really . . . :-)

DB

November 12th, 2010
10:25 am

BTW, Theresa, the Kinect is being offered for $150-200, but that’s the 2 GB version. The 200 GB version is $299. In some cases, bigger is better, especially as graphic-intensive as the Kinect is. That’s the one my son is finding under the tree :-)

Jeff

November 12th, 2010
10:28 am

abc:

Actually, in one sense they are decent training for an introduction to being a good soldier. Particularly the “Call of Duty” type games. What would make them even more effective there is if they had some form of body suit that could send an electrical zap (of some low but painful voltage) when you got shot. Doubt anyone but DoD would actually use such a system though.

As I noted earlier, playing these types of games is a great way to get aggression out of the system without actually harming anyone.

Besides, would you say the same about books that glorify violence? For example, check out virtually any book by Lee Child. In his latest, “Worth Dying For”, he is particularly brutal – kneecapping people with swift kicks after tying them up, smashing wrists with heavy wrenches, etc. Is this more “acceptable” because it is a book? (Note: I personally wouldn’t let anyone younger than an older teen read Child, but that is my personal standards. While his sex scenes (which have decreased in later books) aren’t THAT bad, his violence is very no-nonsense, near a “kill you just as soon as look at you” level.)

Becky

November 12th, 2010
10:32 am

My two have a DS and both will be getting a DSI-XL for Christmas..They don’t sit around every night playing them..THEY do go out and ride bikes, they do go hiking, fishing, boating and all sorts of other outdoors things..They both read every night.. Me and the girl cook together and do crafts..The boy shoots his gun with his Poppy..These games are good for them when we go one trips (as we do a lot of)..It doesn’t hurt them to play them while we are driving at night..

Nor, does it hurt them to play them when it’s raining ourside and I’m cleaning house..Also spending money on the games doesn’t kkep us from going on vacation..They have been to VA., DC, KY, TN, NC, and FL (several times), so they aren’t mising out on seeing things..We take them to museums about 3-4 times per year, they have been to several musicals at the Fox Theatre, so trust me that my two aren’t fat and lazy..

Becky

November 12th, 2010
10:35 am

@Jeff..I love Lee Childs’ books..

ATL06

November 12th, 2010
10:36 am

@ Bunch of Yentas you would have to ask MJG.

deidre_NC

November 12th, 2010
10:39 am

the only system we ever had was the old nintendo..i wish i still had one because i love mario!! i really miss those little dudes lol..my kids and i played together….now sometimes my kids friends will bring a system over and play. they have a blast. most of the time there is no system in my house. i would probably have a wii if anything just because of mario lol..at this point in my life i cant afford a system…when i had a better job i could have but didnt so i guess that says enough about how much gaming we do. i know the kids here love guitar hero…and bring that one a lot.

my youngest daughter will almost refuse to date a guy who is a gamer…playing once in a while is fine…my granddaughter cannot take her face out of her games to save her life. she is an honor student so i guess she does get away from it sometimes….but really. she will have her face stuck in a game all the time…it drives me crazy.

im not totally against games….but really…there are so many kids who live for it…i have seen kids here leave a fun party time to go home so they can play their wow or halo or whatever games they are so addicted to. it drives me and my daughter crazy. the only games that come here are ones the kids can all play and enjoy together.

i also get disturbed at the kids who have no gas money-no job-half the time they come here and say what have you got to eat…knowwing they have tons of games and even 2 or 3 systems at home that they play on the huge tv thats in their room….wth. i just got a great deal on a 27 inch flat screen tv and gave it to my daughter for her early christmas gift. that is the first tv that has ever been in this house that wasnt in the living room. and no im not trying to be holier than thou or sanctimonious..but you put games and tv’s in the kids rooms and you never see them. a woman i know used to buy her kids tv’s and systems and dvd players for their rooms…that family didnt have much money..i asked her once why she bought all that stuff when she could barely buy groceries and her reply was ;so they will stay out of my hair’…i think thats the way a lot of parents think. im one who has always wanted my kids ‘in my hair’…not to say i dont enjoy my alone time…but i get that when they go boating or swimming or camping or skiing….not when they are stuck closed in their rooms glued to a tv or monitor.

good news here to share….my daughter (the youngest one 18 yo in college) is going to her 3rd interview with lowes this morning….we are very very hopeful that she will be offered the job…its been a year since she had a job and has gone crazy with no job. she has worked since she was 12 and this not having a job has been awful for her. so good news hopefully at last!!!! she wiill finish her associates in science in the spring and then get her radiology degree….yay daughter!!

Jeff

November 12th, 2010
10:40 am

@Becky:

As do I. “Worth Dying For” was the first book I read on my brand new Kindle, and one reason I wanted that device so bad was that I can now save at least $10 on brand new books over the hardcover edition. No more waiting for a year to get the $7-$10 paperback! :D

If you haven’t read it yet… just be prepared. The violence is much more brutal than even Child’s norm, though by the end of the book you wind up feeling it is justified.

Photius

November 12th, 2010
10:42 am

Whenever I hear from parents who all the time say how great their kids turned out while never saying thier children ever gave them any problems is devoid of the real world of parenting. I have wanted to strangle my boy many times – sometimes many times during the same day. I have even questioned at times if he came from my DNA for the stupidity displayed during teen age years.

deidre_NC

November 12th, 2010
10:46 am

i need to add…she had a temp job this summer at a diner on the lake here….and she cleans houses and cuts grass and weed eats…but she hasnt had a ‘real’ job that isnt going to end at a season. and the reason she wont date a gamer is because her first bf was totally addicted to halo and wow. it drove her crazy as she is a go out and do stuff kind of person. most of my kids are…maybe its where we live, there are so many outdoor things to do and be close to home…lakes…woods..horses and dirt bikes…skiing pretty close by…maybe that makes a difference. i dont know.