Would you post your kid potty training on You Tube?

I was talking to a friend recently and she told me that her toddler was potty training and really enjoyed watching these videos of other kids using the potty on You Tube. She says the kids aren’t showing any private parts. It’s just videos of kids sitting on the toilet reading books or blabbing about going potty.

I understand why her daughter finds watching other kids going potty inspirational. I completely believe that kids with older siblings or who are around other potty trained kids (like at a daycare or preschool) absolutely train faster. (Remember we had that story a few years back on potty training boot camp where they all train together in one afternoon.)

However, I find it very odd that parents would post on You Tube or anywhere for that matter their kids going to the potty. It’s just ripe for pedophiles! I’m really surprised that You Tube doesn’t pull them. (I guess they only pull stuff when it’s a copyright violation.)

Remember last year we discussed the poor parents who turned in their film with bath photos on it to be developed at Wal-Mart and had their children taken away!!

Now I don’t personally have a problem posting photos of my kids wearing clothes, not on toilets or baths, on Facebook. We have a lot of friends that absolutely refuse to do it at all. (How do they share photos?) I did appreciate when our Girl Scout leader tagged kids with the parents’ names and not the kids’ names. I don’t think we ever tag the kids in photos. I’m not really comfortable with that because then someone could search for them.

The Miami Herald came up with some tips for parents sharing photos online:

• Keep the bathtub and potty-training photos to yourself and the grandparents. Naked photos are too personal to share on Facebook. If you depend on Facebook as the main way to share photos with family, use privacy settings to limit access to a select few family members.

• Be cautious when posting a photo of kids who aren’t your own. Some parents don’t want their children on Facebook, so be sure to ask a parent if it’s OK.

If you are one of those parents who is worried about what is shared on Facebook, let your friends and family know ahead of time to avoid an awkward situation later.

• Out of respect for safety, don’t tag a child’s full name on Facebook. Some parents told me they never put their own kids’ real names online. Some use just an initial when mentioning a child in a status message or in a photo.

• If you make your photos public to people outside of the immediate family, avoid revealing where the child goes to school. If the child wears a uniform, crop the uniform logo out of the picture.

• Since most teenagers think their parents are embarrassing, a few parents of tweens and teens gave me some advice on how to avoid being annoying online. Some ask their kids if they can post a photo on Facebook before doing so. Others post regardless but let their teen do the tagging.

What do you make of the potty training videos on You Tube? Would you post potty training if all the private parts were covered? Do you think seeing other kids potty train makes kids train faster? Is there benefit to these videos?

What about sharing photos online or on Facebook? What are your limits? Do you tag them where people could search them? Do you use their real names, partial names or parents’ names? What about posting shots of your tweens and teens? Have they ever asked you to edit what you’re sharing?

42 comments Add your comment

light

September 17th, 2010
7:04 am

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Kat

September 17th, 2010
7:23 am

Hmmm…no, I would never post potty-training photos of my kids on a Facebook page. I wouldn’t post videos on YouTube either. Some parents seem to think that every aspect of their kids’ lives is interesting to other people (family included), and it is not true. Share the fun stuff, but keep the bathroom stuff to yourself. Imagine how YOU would feel if the situation was reversed; would you be happy if YOUR bathroom pictures were out on the Internet?

Jeff

September 17th, 2010
7:25 am

What’s up with this generation of look-at-me, ego-centric people? And, more importantly, how do I keep my daughter from becoming one of them?

Happy belated birthday MJG. Keep fighting the good fight.

A

September 17th, 2010
7:58 am

Just another example of the self-centered Facebook culture. Is nothing sacred anymore?

Photius

September 17th, 2010
8:01 am

Why not? Let’s just succumb to full narcissism and display every aspect of our lives for all to see; after all, I’m sure people really are that interested in you! Video your wedding…. Record your birth…. Post Junior taking a poo poo on You Tube…. Film Juniors first time with his girl friend…. People don’t understand, my children are sooooo interesting! The world wants to know what my little precious is doing all the time. We are special and blessed as a family; film it all – everyone wants to see it. Barf.

RJ

September 17th, 2010
8:07 am

In a word…gross!

Becky

September 17th, 2010
8:24 am

I don’t think I can add anything that hasn’t already been said..

Lori

September 17th, 2010
8:29 am

Poor kids!! They are going to be tormented by bullies later in teen years by people who pull up these videos and share them at school!! I post cute pics of my son on facebook and our family website, but never anything that would be humiliating!

motherjanegoose

September 17th, 2010
9:21 am

JEFF…thanks for the kind words…it is nice to know I still have just a few friends :)

I am in Montana again and the town is so small, I did not see a Wal Mart ( they do have K Mart) in the phone book or in my drive around. The nearest one is AN HOUR. This reminds me of those who think they want to retire out to the middle of no where MAY NOT have any idea what that really means. I am panicky :) as I live 3 miles from the MOG and can get most anything I need in 20 minutes. IT IS REALLY QUIET HERE and I love that.

ON TOPIC…no…I would not post. I am not on facebook but have been amazed at what other people post. I DID find the potty training bit in THE HELP interesting as kids are all about modeling behavior. Children mimic behavior, words and gestures that they have seen at home and in their envrionment. I see it all the time and parents “have no idea where they got that”…REALLY?

Peachy

September 17th, 2010
9:24 am

Before you post anything on the internet, you need to realize once it’s there you can’t take it back. It is up there for good. So, no! Do not post pictures or videos regarding potty training, bath time, or anything else private. Family memories are just that, for the family. Keep these precious moments private! Your 3 year old is not gonna like it in 13 years when she is getting ready to go to the prom and her dates Mom has looked her up on facebook and finds her sitting on a training potty!

DB

September 17th, 2010
9:24 am

This comes under the category of “Just because something CAN be done, doesn’t mean it SHOULD be done . . .”

Poor kid. I wonder if he’ll growing up feeling like the star in The Truman Show.

YUKI

September 17th, 2010
9:31 am

No. Would not do it. I doubt anyone else wants to see my son sitting on the potty.
I post pictures of my family on FB but only limited to friends and nothing innapropriate.

JOD

September 17th, 2010
10:43 am

NOOOOOO! We post very little of our 2-year-old, and even that is only available to friends and family. While it is abhorrent that those poor parents were vilified for just having bathtime pictures of their little ones, nothing like that should be posted online. There’s nothing wrong with having innocent pictures, but the world today clearly can’t use common sense – why start something?

@DB – Amen! I tell my husband that when he goes into tourist mode with the camera ;o)

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

September 17th, 2010
10:48 am

OK TWG…..let me get this straight, the reason you’re opposed to posting potty training videos of your kid on FB is because it is ripe with pedophiles and NOT because it’s a basic violation of privacy against an innocent and defenseless person who has no ability to tell the adult “please don’t share this with others, you’re being rude and irresponsible even filming me”.

Why doesn’t your friend post of video on FB of herself rolling a duece? Oh, that would probably be embarrassing to her. And for some reason she thinks kids don’t have the same capacity to feel that emotion like she does. What is wrong with her?

TechMom

September 17th, 2010
11:25 am

I’ll pass on the potty training pics or videos – seriously, I never would have thought to take a picture or video of my kiddo doing that. Does every event of a person’s life have to be documented now? I mean, really, unless you’re walking around with a diaper at the age 20, no one really cares that you’re potty trained.

As for the other photos- we post a lot of photos on FB but I also have pretty strict security settings on both mine and my son’s sites. Everything is set to only allow friends to see and since I don’t want anyone posting any embarrassing photos of me on FB, I don’t post any of anyone else. For my friends on FB with younger children that aren’t on FB, I usually tag them in the photos and then they can choose to untag it. I don’t usually list full names in captions (that’s what tagging is for).

Cynthia M

September 17th, 2010
12:27 pm

No, No, No! That is just plain stupid. Youtube can be very entertaining abd useful, but not in potty training. For heaven’s sake, just potty train your child like moms have done for years. Use common sense and stick to it for a few days.

Warrior Woman

September 17th, 2010
1:35 pm

NO!!! Some things should be private.

Becky

September 17th, 2010
2:06 pm

I have a coworker taht potty trained her cat by watching a viedo on you tube..

catlady

September 17th, 2010
2:09 pm

Is it humanly possible for someone to come up with a worse idea than this? How about a 10 year old discovering she started her period?

Roekest

September 17th, 2010
4:36 pm

While it’s humorous to see MY kid “learning the ropes”, as it were, I can hardly see watching other peoples’ kids as entertainment. Then again, I’ve never had to tell my neighbors I was a sex offender…..

Winston

September 17th, 2010
6:00 pm

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catlady

September 17th, 2010
6:07 pm

Wait, we could post our son’s first mastubatory experience!

hung knee lo

September 18th, 2010
9:42 am

let me show my son’s anatomy, he’s 3 and looks like Mr. Ed…………….

.

September 18th, 2010
9:43 am

Enter your comments here

Beck

September 18th, 2010
10:10 am

I don’t think some parents really think things through in cyberspace or in real-life. I see less of this having moved back into Atlanta then during the time I lived in the suburbs (which should be referred to as the Dark Ages) but I cannot understand why in the world parents take their children out in public (fast food restaurants, CVS, Office Depot, etc) in their bathing suits?!?!?!

A little kid bikini on a little girl is cute in the backyard when no one’s around but you don’t take her in the same thing out in public. Especially, when (as has been discussed here many times) some parents don’t keep a close eye on them and allow them to wander in stores alone.

I don’t even LIKE small children, but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve kept an eye on one or tailed them at a distance through the store to make sure that no one other than their parents (who eventually do track them down) gets a hold of them.

PARENTS – please protect your children online and in real life. Hold them dear to you and let them be kids and have simple childhoods and if you don’t want them, DON’T HAVE THEM!!!

becky

September 18th, 2010
1:51 pm

Found out I was having my first grandbaby last week and started reading this blog to get an update on parenting and parental concerns and solutions due to the name of the blog, “A Blog for Busy Moms
A daily guide to raising healthy children without going insane’.
This is seriously the most non-help topics I have ever read. I think you all have obsessive over the strange and not focusing on Ga children. Also, who cares that some of you are having lunch together.
TWG – are you really writing this blog to help parents and grandparents or has it become so mundane to have topics about real concerns of parents.
Will keep reading for a while but if the topics don’t become more useful. This will be one new blogger that will go elsewhere. Please try to stay closer to the name of your blog.

david cavaliere

September 18th, 2010
9:24 pm

We have a 4 year old son with autism and a 2 year old with ADHD. Both boys are not potty trained. They both have a tendency to disrobe and worse yet they pay in their poop! We invented a sleeper that zips in the back and keeps them out of their diaper. http://www.ikidsfashion.com

motherjanegoose

September 18th, 2010
9:56 pm

becky…some of us have been hanging out her for several years…kinda like chatting over the fence with a neighbor or two. Some of us get along and some do not….kinda like siblings.
Some topics are of interest and some are not…kinda like the news.

I have met a few contributors personally, over lunch and had fun. There are others I would not eat a cookie with and the feeling is mutual.

If you want to join us..we would sure love to have you. If we are to mundane for you…just leave and close the door after yourself. Many of us will still be here, even if you decide to move on. If you are looking for a deep read, this is probably not going to work for you. Just an FYI. We kinda roll with things here and even get off topic. TWG is always looking for blog suggestions and is good about running with ideas.

FYI… we already have a Becky, with a capital B and I enjoyed lunch with her!

I have a long day tomorrow….trying to get back to GA from Montana!

Fabiola

September 19th, 2010
7:24 am

I’m quite extreme when it comes to putting my kids’s photos outthere on the internet. Not just pot training, bathing or beach photos but any photos. My children are not adults and they really can’t decide for themselves about these things. So, it’s my responsability to safeguard them. Maybe I’m being paranoic but I don’t like my kid’s image to be accessible to anyone. All American Pressure Canner

Rectal Bleeding

September 19th, 2010
7:52 am

Potty training? You can’t find a better way of saying this?

When was the last time you were outside?

.b

September 19th, 2010
9:47 am

good bye, becky.

becky

September 19th, 2010
11:46 am

Thanks for making me feel so welcomed in your little group. Won’t be back.

.b

September 19th, 2010
12:15 pm

GOOD BICYCLE

catlady

September 19th, 2010
12:28 pm

Too bad. becky, I suspect you could have added to our discussion based on your experiences (which is what we all do). This isn’t an advice column (although sometimes there is lots of good advice, right MJG? : ) But a kafeklatch (did I spell that right)–people sitting around sharing a cup of tea (I don’t drink coffee) and talking about what they have seen.

Sometimes I am completely astounded and confounded by the topic, sometimes by the comments. Sometimes I am forced to consider alternate points of view (sometimes I ignore them). Sometimes I think, OMG what is next! Sometimes I cry, and sometimes I laugh out loud.

It is what it is.

catlady

September 19th, 2010
12:37 pm

Enter your comments here

.b

September 19th, 2010
12:39 pm

catlady wants to show how shesits on the potty.

becky

September 19th, 2010
3:12 pm

Thank you catlady for you input. I think I would have enjoyed it too but with the comments listed below would you hang around? I was trying to figure out where the topics went and what was discussed. i do understand how bloggers go from one subj to another thus the name “blog”. This blog doesn’t seem very welcoming to new visitors. After all, You do already have a Becky with a capital “B”. Guess I should have informed my mom 50 odd years ago so I could be a part of the club.

FYI… we already have a Becky, with a capital B and I enjoyed lunch with her! – mjg

b September 19th, 2010
9:47 am
good bye, becky.

Urinal Cake

September 19th, 2010
9:09 pm

This place is rather cliqueish…..did I spell that right Mr Rectal Bleeding?

DB

September 19th, 2010
10:20 pm

@becky (probably too late, but just in case): MJG was letting you know a convention of this blog — we keep the same names, because that’s how we get to know each other. With a fairly common name like becky, it would be very easy to confuse you with the “other” Becky that hangs out with us — and wouldn’t you rather that we treated you like your own person, instead of constantly confusing you with someone else? Everyone else seems to roll with the reminder — there was another DB that cropped up, who just added a (2) to their name when I politely pointed out that our wildly different views on that particular topic (forget what it was) was making people think that “we” were schizo!

It’s not cliquish to clue you in to how things works. If we were being cliquey, we’d have ignored you. As it is, you are ignoring us, after popping on and lecturing us for not being what you wanted. Umm . . . thanks?

motherjanegoose

September 19th, 2010
11:02 pm

DB…just what I was thinking. I never understand those who barge in and tell us ( on their first post) how stupid everything is here.

I myself did not want to get confused with becky and Becky and obviously the spelling is exactly the same. Imagine it…two Mamas who knew how to spell!

Who knew I was being such a fool…probably since I just endured a snowfall ( in Montana) while the calendar still tells us it is summer…guess my mind was out of sorts….LOL.

We love new guests, just ones who do not bash TWG or the rest of us on their first post….that puts us in the defense.

Becky

September 20th, 2010
8:20 am

@becky..Sorry that you feel this way about us..We really are a great group and as has been pointed out friends…I think it great that we can talk on here and if some of us are given to chance to meet and have lunch together, what is wrong with that?

We do talk about what Theresa has as a topic, but we also talk like brothers and sisters do when they are face to face..If there is any one thing that you feel like you want to know, please ask that question and one or all will give you theie opinion on it and tehn you can pick what answer suits you the best..

tina

September 22nd, 2010
2:54 am

No matter how cute…and it can be cute and humorous,I would not post it.Only because there are sick pedophiles in this world and I would’nt want to “hand my child over to them” so to speak.You cant ever know where photos and videos posted on the internet will end up.