As it turns out I’ve been worrying about all the wrong things.
A new book called “The Paranoid Parents Guide” by Christie Barnes, found that parents’ worries are very different from what they really should fear.
“Based on surveys Barnes collected, the top five worries of parents are, in order:
- School snipers
- Dangerous strangers
“But how do children really get hurt or killed?
- Car accidents
- Homicide (usually committed by a person who knows the child, not a stranger)
“Why such a big discrepancy between worries and reality? Barnes says parents fixate on rare events because they internalize horrific stories they hear on the news or from a friend without stopping to think about the odds the same thing could happen to their children.”
And apparently it’s bad to be worried about all the wrong things.
A. It stresses parents out and can hurt their relationships with other adults. It also distracts them from real dangers.
B. Plus, kids are less resilient and are taught to be helpless by our overprotectiveness.
So what can the worried parent do to truly help protect their kids? Barnes says put them in helmets and seatbelts. You can cut kids’ chances of death by 90 percent and risk of serious injury by 78 percent with those two things.
What would your top five fears be for your kids? How do they match up against the real dangers according to the author?
Will you stop worrying now? Is her argument convincing? Do you make your kids use seatbelts and helmets?
(Be sure to check out our earlier topic from today about stinky boys!)