Time magazine ran an interesting Q&A with two mothers/researchers who have written a book about girl bullies. The book is called Little Girls Can Be Mean: Four Steps to Bully-Proof Girls in the Early Grades (St. Martin’s Griffin ), by Michelle Anthony and Reyna Lindert.
Time magazine bills this article as “How to bullyproof young girls” but I actually don’t think they give you quite enough information in the article t o accomplish that (because the authors want you to buy the book!) However, the Q&A with Anthony does give some interesting insight into girl bullying.
Here are the salient facts I took to heart from it:
While the mean girl act peaks in middle schools, it begins in elementary school.
Often little girls feel isolated and deal with the bullying on their own. Don’t assume it will pass. They need real techniques to deal with it.
You need to involve the schools to help not just mom or dad. The school has resources like the teacher and counselor.
Separating to a different class can help but in some cases you may have to pull from class.
I guess we need to buy the book for more detail! In the mean time, in a related story. Time ran this back in April about how not to raise a bully – how to instill empathy.
So what do you think:
Are girl bullies worse than boys?
Is is happening in elementary school? (We had a “mean girl” in preschool who judged the other girls on bows in their hair and they were out if she didn’t approve!)
What do you think of their tips for dealing with girl bullies?
What would you add to make it more complete?