10 Misconceptions of Moms and Back-to-school from Facebook

Making the rounds on Facebook (similar to a chain letter) is an angry, yet funny list that some mother wrote about kids going back to school. The list has been passed around so much that the author’s name is no longer attached. (If the author is out there let me know and I’ll gladly give you credit!)

I think it’s an angry, funny and pretty truthful piece. So read it and see what you think.

From Facebook, author unknown:

10 Misconceptions of Moms and Back-to-School

Misconception Number 1: Moms miss their kids when they go back to schoolSeriously. I’ve had enough of you by now. Every morning with the “what are we going to do today, Mom?” is finally over. I’ve had looked at your face twenty-four seven for the last 77 days. It’s time to go learn something. No more asking me about the pool, when is the next snack or if you can stay up late and watch a movie. It’s over….You’re going back to Hogwarts and I get to have a life again. There is a Christmas morning for parents and it’s called “back to school”.

Misconception Number 2: Moms like to go school shopping.Are you freaking kidding me? Why do I pay taxes?…so I can rack up a 200 dollar bill at Staples for crap that we have laying around my house in junk drawers. Why does it have to be new pencils? What’s wrong with the chewed up, broken strawberry shortcake pencils sitting in the bottom of the toy box for the last 6 months? And how many subject books can you possibly need? What happened to reading, writing and arithmetic. If they added a couple of things for parents to that list I wouldn’t mind so much….why not pencils, erasers and vodka …..or some Nyquil.

Misconception Number 3: Moms like back to school night. Why must we do this every year? I got it already. You’re the teacher…I’m the parent. My kid is either going to be smart or dumb. If he gets a certain number or colored dot on his discipline chart, he can’t get a prize from the prize box. Pretty simple stuff. Listen, I’m pretty old school. If he doesn’t listen to you…you can throw something at him. I don’t care. But I got a lot of work to do at home and I’m paying a babysitter right now. Plus, I’m pretty sure you are going to assign some project on wigwams made by some Indian tribe I’ve never heard of, so I need to get home and start my research. So, I got it. We’re all here for the betterment of the kids. Blah Blah Blah. Can I leave now?

Misconception Number 4: Moms like school paperwork.How many trees are you planning on killing to tell me the same stuff I had to pay a babysitter to listen to the other night? You know our name, where we live and our emergency phone numbers. He doesn’t have a nickname….call him “stinkbutt” for all I care. We don’t have any “special circumstances” that you need to know about. He lives in a home with two parents who may or may not like each other at any given time and they will fight. If that qualifies as a reason he can’t get his homework done on time then he won’t be able to function as an adult and have a real job so you may want to “educate” him on that life lesson.

Misconception Number 5: Moms like covering books in that annoying sticky paper.What exactly will you be doing with these books that I have to cover them in a plastic laminate? Do you often teach in the rain? Or while the children are drinking soda and eating soup? Do you know how long that takes? Has any parent in the history of education been able to do it without any air bubbles in it? From now on I’m covering it the old way…brown paper bags. That way I can cover the books and pack their lunches at that same time. Who says moms can’t multitask?

PS. Please tell my son if he can’t find his lunch to look in his science book.

Misconception Number 6: Moms like helping you with your homework. What? I am scared out of my mind. I’m pretty sure that I forgot everything I learned in fifth grade by the time I was in sixth grade. I have no idea what you are talking about most days. I don’t really know my 12 times tables, I read the cliff notes to all your summer reading and I don’t know how to conjugate anything but I do know that song “conjuction junction what’s your function” if that helps at all. And please don’t even say the words “new math” to me. What the heck was wrong the old one?

Misconception Number 7: Moms can’t wait to pack your lunch every day until we die.I hate doing laundry. Making dinner every night is the bane of my existence, so making your lunch every day for an entire year, in terms of “mom fun”, lies somewhere between brushing plaque off the dogs teeth and scheduling my annual pap smear. Listen, as a child I hated what my mom packed me for lunch. But, like every kid before me, and every generation to come you will find a kid to trade with…I’m sure someone likes sardines.

Misconception Number 8: Moms love after school activities.I don’t know who made up this idea of organized clubs and sports but they should be the ones in charge of carting your ass around. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not against all after school programs. I just wish they would offer it during hours that would work best for me so that dinner wasn’t at 8:30 at night followed by 4 hours of homework. Why not do it on the weekends and call it “after-hours activities” so mommy and daddy could actually go out one night and pretend that we have a life of our own. Don’t worry about us though I’m sure that me and “what’s his name” will be married a very long time.

Misconception Number 9: Moms don’t mind taking you to school if you miss the busYour bus comes at 7:10 am….which means that you should be standing by the door at 7:05 am. Not eating breakfast , chasing the dog around the house or in the bathroom, asking me to check your homework while I’m taking a shower. Get it together! I don’t like running down the street in my jammies at 7:12 screaming “Please wait” or “If you stop I’ll show you my boobies.”

Misconception Number 10: Moms cry on your first day of schoolWe do cry but they are tears of joy. I have done my job. I have successfully kept a human child alive for at least 5 years without doing any major damage. Motherhood is the hardest job in the world!! Sure, doctors save lives and CEO’s run million dollar businesses but…you teach a kid not to poop their pants and then you can say you’ve made the world a better place.”

84 comments Add your comment


August 17th, 2010
5:48 am

ROFL!! this is the funniest thing I’ve read in a while. Thank you for sharing. I needed the laugh this morning.


August 17th, 2010
6:13 am

And they wonder why teachers need a break! Very funny:)


August 17th, 2010
6:38 am

LOVE IT! Thanks for sharing.


August 17th, 2010
6:40 am

Erma Bombeck (God rest her soul) couldn’t have said it better – kudos to whoever wrote this.

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August 17th, 2010
6:43 am

She’d be less pissed if she made the damn kid do most of this for himself.

I mean, yeah, this is supposed to be funny but it brings up a point. Why is this mom covering his books, making his lunch, doing his laundry, or doing the research for his school project? Why can’t her kid do it for himself? My kid does.


August 17th, 2010
7:24 am

Way to support your kids…right…

ever wonder how much WE spend on supplies for YOUR kids?

try around 500 bucks this year.

Curriculum nights actually serve a purpose. To inform and/or brag on your child about their progress. Most parents actually do give a hoot about their kids.

Remind me why the AJC is paying you again?

I am in a fabulous mood by the way today sitting on my mountain of hand sanitizer that I made your kids go out and buy so we all dont spread swine flu this year or any other diseases.

I guess I could take a joke this morning, but I am tired of parents blaming us for their problems. 90% of the time, its the administration that makes your supply list.


August 17th, 2010
7:33 am

irun…I agree with your paragraph.

I thought I was missing something here, until I read your comment. Maybe because “once a teacher always a teacher” for me and I also headed back to school for many years, along with my kids and yours. I was the teacher and the mom too….I sent my kids back to school and got yours….loved them all ( most of the time).

Oh yes, I did have a Kindergartener once whose Dad WAS a Doctor and he sent him to school pooping in his pants. No developmental issues that I could notice either. Nice boy, just not potty trained.


August 17th, 2010
7:42 am

@TEACHER…..I think this was said in jest. I’m a teacher; however, I have a sense of humor! Lighten up! You’ll feel better and goodness knows your students will enjoy their time with you more!


August 17th, 2010
7:58 am

@cc, I agree! Gotta be able to laugh at ourselves.

OK, teachers...

August 17th, 2010
8:05 am

…I continue to be confused as to why, in the face of a lot of the disdain many of you have toward your “plight” related to supplies, that you continue to spend out of your pocket. My wife, a former educator, wonders the same thing – school systems have cut back the individual funding that used to go to assist your out of pocket expenses – OK – we all know that. Why then, after a couple of years of this, do you continue to fund these out of your pocket? Telling me that you are dedicated to your students does not cut it, especially when you continue to grouse about it.

In my world, my employer wants to know my home phone number, my work number (gee, you would think they would know that) and my personal cell phone number. While I give them my home phone number and office number, I do not give them my personal cell phone number – my take is that if they want to reach me 24 hours a day THEY will supply me a cell phone at THEIR expense.

Same SHOULD go for schools – if they expect YOU to supplement the “supply” needs of your students, well, just don’t do it – or do it and STFU. Your “holier than thou” attitude of having to supply those children in need does not fly – a lot of schools confiscate the supply list of stuff brought in so that it can be shared (don’t get me started on this issue) – many parents on this blog have offered their disdain to this arrangement, and I disagreee with it, too.

So, why do you continue to spend your money on the student needs, and then gripe about it? As the drug saying says “Just say no” if you cannot give freely, but if you do help, don’t moan about a “choice” YOU make to assist with these supplies. You are doing a great service in teaching, and if you choose to go above and beyond by helping with supplies, then do it joyfully, or don’t do it. Just quit your beotching…


August 17th, 2010
8:19 am

Oh that is very, very witty and funny! Bravo!


August 17th, 2010
8:26 am

#1 tells me all I need to know about the author. If you’re happy to see them leave, it says a lot more about your misplaced priorities than it does about the child. Then again, with a so-called parent like that, I imagine the kid is pretty happy to go just about anywhere to get away from them. Pathetic.


August 17th, 2010
8:35 am

I think it is funny. And why would any parent NOT be happy to see their children going off to learn? I’m excited for my child to soak up all the information that they can in school and then get to enjoy them telling me all about it when they get home. I love my child going off to school because I want them to learn and grow. I don’t see it as misplaced priorities at all.

I Like Sardines

August 17th, 2010
8:44 am

This is priceless – the funniest things I have read in a long time. I’m just waiting for some self-righteous, overly sensitive, Kumbaya-singing mom to deride you for writing this.


August 17th, 2010
8:47 am

This was hilarious! I do not understand why people are critiquing obvious satire…complete with a little hint of truth. At some point or the other, even it was just for a few seconds, I don’t think it’s a stretch to say that most moms have experienced everyone of those feelings. Just last night, my daughter handed me an ADDITIONAL list of school supplies that she needed. I closed my door and had a 60 second melt down. I then went into her room and said “okay, it’s raining tonight, so we’ll have to pick up these items tomorrow.”

atlanta mom

August 17th, 2010
8:50 am

For goodness sake, if you folks can’t understand that someone’s having a little bit of fun (and maybe there’s a little bit of truth in there too), go read the business page.


August 17th, 2010
8:55 am

I think the author is saying what we’ve ALL wanted to say at one point or another. She may have a totally different outlook tomorrow, but this day, she was fed up! And all of you bitter, disgruntled, and unhappy SOB’s know you’ve wanted to stand up in a PTA meeting while they’re discussing yet another stupid wrapping paper fundraiser or candy bar drive and say “Screw you… and you… and you… and especially you!” That doesn’t mean we don’t like being parents, hate our children, or plan to blow up the local elementary school. It just means “here’s what I really think right now”.

Some of you curmudgeons need to get a life… or better yet, go kick a kitten through an electric fan. Now go ahead and tell me the ASPCA doesn’t think that’s funny and there’s nothing amusing about an injured kitten!


August 17th, 2010
9:00 am

Sooooooo funny thank T for sharing :) At the risk of being slammed, I just don’t get why teachers have to have “a mountain of hand sanitizer” in the classroom. That was never on my boys school supply lists in Florida and no one ever died of bacteria down there; is hand sanitizer a recent addition to school supply lists or is it a Georgia thing? Thanks and good day :)


August 17th, 2010
9:09 am

That was funny!!!

On another note my daughter left sunday for her second year of college. As she packed up her car, and drove away, I cried like a baby. I didn’t cry that much LAST year when I took her down there. Sunday was a miserable day for me, I cried all day long…..I don’t know why it just hit me so hard this year. Maybe it was because it was the first year I haven’t driven her to school….


August 17th, 2010
9:10 am

Did anyone see the Today show this morning about parents having to buy additional school supplies (like Clorox wipes & Ziploc bags)? Excuse me Matt Lauer, but I have been buying this excessive stuff for years, now I guess the extensive back to school lists have spead to the rest of the country due to the economy.

Teachers, if you don’t agree with the administration and their lists, then say something to them – NOT ME! Stop acting like you didn’t know what you were getting into when you went to school to be a teacher!


August 17th, 2010
9:16 am

LOL Blonde Honey…it seems that hand sanitizer is a recent addition to LIFE. Personally, I wish we would add toothpaste or mouthwash. You might be amazed at how many kids head to school looking like angels but their breath smells like the devil.

This is gross ( to me) but my own Mom was VERY persnickety ( with us) about putting toilet paper on the seat of a public potty before we used it but I do not remember her really caring a bit about washing our hands after we actually used any potty…ours or a strangers.

I see lots of grown adults who use the potty and simply head out the door….no hand washing. EEEWWW. I have written a hand washing song I teach the kids and we always talk about how germs are spread. Let’s keep our hands clean, as we touch things in our classroom all day.

At my daughter’s dorm, I used the hall potty on Sunday. I laughed while in the stall, as I read;


Guess some Mamas forgot to mention it.


August 17th, 2010
9:24 am

@ Rita…a neighbor ( of mine) was in the corporate world for years. She is probably one of the most intelligent persons I know.

She stayed home with her kids for a while. Now, she is in school teach HS Physics.

I LOVE talking to her! She has told me more than once:I THOUGHT I was going to teach…I had NO idea about all this other stuff that happens with the kids and parents.

She could be the spokes person for those who think they know all about the classroom but really do not, as they have only looked in from the outside. She is wonderful parent and has 3 great kids.

Many teachers had no idea what they were getting into.

Kinda like those of us who brought our first bundle of joy home from the hospital had NO idea what it was like to be in charge of a baby 24/7…..365 days a year. I know I had no idea…perhaps all of the rest of you did. Anyone?


August 17th, 2010
9:34 am

oops teaching HS Physics


August 17th, 2010
9:37 am

“Many teachers had no idea what they were getting into.”

The complaints of low pay, spending their own money, etc, etc, etc is DECADES old! Teachers need to stop taking up their frustrations of job satisfaction with their bosses, locally and up the ladder as far as they can go. IMHO, this is one of the many reasons there is a ever-widening rift between teachers and the families they educate. IMHO, its the teachers that need to start acting like the educated professionals they claim to be, and stop the whining. Someone has to make the first step and since they are in the fore-front of it all, it’s up to them! Until we see that effort in mass on the part of teachers, the mess of what is our education system will continue.

Parent and Teacher

August 17th, 2010
9:38 am


August 17th, 2010
9:38 am

Thanks for letting me rant – have a good day everyone!


August 17th, 2010
9:39 am

LOL. I printed the blog for my teacher-friends who I knew could take a joke.

Your child’s teacher cannot be in the girl’s restroom and the boy’s restroom at the same time so she probably stands with the students who are waiting in line. Instead of trusting that your child is washing his/her hands carefully after using the bathroom and before lunchtime or snacktime, she is hedging her (and your) bets by giving each student a generous squirt of hand sanitizer. In the germ-laden environment that is inherent in most schools, this should give you some measure of comfort.


August 17th, 2010
9:45 am

Cracking up! It’s a joke with a little bit of truth about how most of us have felt about a situation at one point or another.

I also laughed about the book covers- two of my son’s teachers required book covers for this year so we bought the cheap 49 cent stretchy-material covers because finding brown paper sacks is about impossible. Of course when I mentioned trying to find some paper sacks he looked at me like I was lunatic “you cover books with paper bags?” See we were “Green” back then!


August 17th, 2010
9:49 am

Funny! And so much is true. I’m still in the young enough stages that I enjoy the backpack buying and we got really lucky on supplies this year. I like the programs and meetings, but I can completely see with my work schedule and as they get older (and it’s not new anymore) that it can become pretty hectic and crazy! I do think I’ll always cherish the summers though! @BlondeHoney -I’m guessing it’s for the teachers as much as anything so they don’t get every cold going around. However, we take a “building antibodies” approach and use it pretty sparingly. I’d rather my 4 year old miss days of prek than days of 1st or 2nd grade! I know when I taught though, I used the stuff constantly on myself!


August 17th, 2010
10:01 am

For all of you teachers out there- here is the “Top 10 Misconceptions about teachers and back to school” (http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/parenting/user-post-top-10-misconceptions-about-teachers-and-back-to-school-2302682/)

10. Teachers love drop by conferences.
Please make an appointment. Leave us an e-mail, a phone message or a note. We try our best to respect your schedule. Please respect ours. We can’t meet with parents and supervise students at the same time. It can be considered a violation of your child’s privacy.

9. Teachers only care about test scores.
No. We get sanctioned if scores are not high enough or improved enough. We hate the continual test prep too. We have no choice. Call your congress men and local school boards and departments of education.

8. Teachers don’t remind students about important events.
We send home notices, use school web sites, write it on the board, have the kids write it in their planners. We want to communicate with you. Check your child’s bag. It just might be in there, if not, it’s in the desk.

7. Teachers won’t listen to parents so call the principal with every little issue.
Please don’t. You don’t like it when people alert your boss before they talk to you. Golden rule please.

6. Teachers play favorites when it comes to grown up classroom helpers.
Those of us who can, like the idea of many hands making light work. We also know that space, time and other limitations may not allow all who would like to help to do so.

5. Teachers enjoy sending hours of homework home.
No, No, and No. We only do so if the practice is hugely important. Yes learning spelling lists, times tables and reading practice is vital. So is learning to use your time well to create long term projects,which in most cases, are being worked on in school as well. Don’t forget we have to look at and grade it all.

4. Teachers love to call you at home.
Guess what…if it’s good we love it. If not…we dread dialing as much as you dread answering.

3. Teachers have nothing better to do than send home forms in triplicate for you to fill out and return.
Truth: We’ve got at least an equal if not greater mountain to plow through. Usually( you guessed it), we didn’t ask for all of it.

My personal favorite is number 2.
2. Teachers actually enjoy sending and creating supply lists.
Not on your life, my friends. I will buy those things I feel I want and are “extras” willingly. Many schools are requiring their teachers to make supply lists. Some schools even mandate what materials teachers must ask for right down to the brands.

The largest misconception about teachers is: (drum roll………………)
1. We sat by the pool all summer and worked on our tans.
Not quite. Graduate courses, unpaid set up of our classrooms, fighting with the department of education to mail out certifications in a timely manner,and professional development.


August 17th, 2010
10:18 am

I strongly disagree with #1 and #10, kind of disagree with #6 and #9 but everything in else is right on!

I actually really miss my kid when he’s at school, and even sending him off for his first day of preschool was gut-wrenching! Both my husband and I are so nostalgic for the days when our little guy belonged just to us and we didn’t have to share him with a monolithic school system As a stay at home mom, it was wonderful to be able to just spontaneously have a picnic at the park or some other special “mommy and me” activity whenever we wanted. Now, our entire lives revolve around a school schedule and the only activity we do together during the week is his homework.

Of course education is important, but a school is not the only place a child learns and their are plenty of enriching experiences to be found by just hanging out with your family.

Parent and Teacher

August 17th, 2010
10:19 am

Amen TechMom! I was wondering if there was a “teacher version”


August 17th, 2010
10:24 am

@ TechMom…love it but I did want to add:

Teachers walk out of their classroom, shut the door and leave their work inside….NOT

Most good teachers lay in bed at night and worry about your kids too!

Funny story, last week a teacher told me that one of her little guys came bursting into the classroom with a BIG smile and said, ” My Mom and Dad came home from their cruise. I brought you something!” He handed her a little bottle of RUM.

The teachers told the Mother, “Thanks so much, we have a Coke machine and could share the gift your son brought in.” The Mother had no idea what they were talking about and was obviously embarrassed but they all laughed.

Good thing this was not found in a bookbag on the school bus!

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

August 17th, 2010
10:39 am

So correct me if I’m not getting the jist of this mom’s rant correct. Presumably, she chooses to be a stay at home mom, but hates virtually everything about staying at home with the kids and can’t wait for them to go back to school, and even then the afterschool duties of dealing with the kids is unbearably annoying. Ooookaaayyyy. Sorry if my sympathy score isn’t off the charts.


August 17th, 2010
10:43 am

JATL, I’m with you on building antibodies; that’s one reason why I’m not overly into hand sanitizers and like you, use them sparingly. My boys had the greatest pediatrician and I’ll never forget when he told me “let ‘em eat dirt every now & them; it build antibodies” LOL…he was right, my boys were (and are) rarely if ever sick.


August 17th, 2010
11:10 am

That was funny!


August 17th, 2010
11:13 am

Yes its me… Hello every one….. Thank you for that laugh this morning.. I am gonna steal it and put it on my face book. To all of you that cant see the funny in that… Really put on your big girl panties and learn to laugh… That will get you thru life better than any thing else…



August 17th, 2010
11:17 am

@TechMom -Having once been a teacher, I like that list even better! ESPECIALLY #1!


August 17th, 2010
11:27 am

Shaking my head at many of the comments. It was just something that was supposed to be funny. Please, though, take it literally. It gives you something to complain about.


August 17th, 2010
11:44 am

OK I am not getting the anger here. I seemed like a humorous take on what we Mom’s only admit to ourselves…while quietly making voodoo dolls of the teachers and drinking vodka.


August 17th, 2010
11:52 am

FCM- You’re hysterical! You (and everyone else who has made similar comments) are right – the article is funny. I see the humor even in the parts I completely disagreed with. Personally, I am just feeling a bit melancholy over school starting back up (after the shortest summer ever!) and the house suddenly being a little too quiet. Maybe other parents are as well? Either way, I guess I’ll just never understand parents who claim to be overjoyed on the first day of school!


August 17th, 2010
12:04 pm

I’m guessing this was supposed to be funny, but all I can think is boo hoo! If she has been staring at her kids for 77 days, then she must be a stay at home mom. I sure wish I was that lucky!!

Jesse's Girl

August 17th, 2010
12:06 pm

I thought it was funny as hell. I personally danced around in my underwear after they all left.

Warrior Woman

August 17th, 2010
12:21 pm

This made me LOL! Just enough truth to make it funny.

@ TechMom – My middle school daughter’s teachers actually recommended paper grocery sacks for book coverings this year. Apparently what we did for economy’s sake “back in the day” is green and popular again.


August 17th, 2010
12:30 pm

@FCM -some people aren’t smart enough to understand humor if it’s anything more sophisticated than a knock-knock joke! I think my personal project this afternoon will be to mix up a batch of martinis before the kids get home and make a voodoo doll of morons with no sense of humor…


August 17th, 2010
1:30 pm

To poster TEACHER (and to all the teachers in this blog): I’m kinda tired of the whine about buying your own supplies. Really I am. I am sorry the economy sucks, I am extremely sorry that you guys are getting pay cuts, and I am very sorry that you guys are getting nickled and dimed to death.

However, I stopped feeling guilty. For several reasons. I don’t know how it works on other schools, but in my kids’ schools teachers ask parents for what they need and believe you me, parents provide it. Two: in my school, the PTA and the Foundation give yearly grants totaling $350 per teacher for supplies. Three, in my school teachers at each grade level get together to put the supply list together with everything they need. My supply list included things like sanitizer, paper towel, and expo markers for the white boards.

So I am sorry that in your school you have to buy your own supplies. But my school worked hard so that our teachers didn’t have to and I am tired of the guilt trip.


August 17th, 2010
1:40 pm

Lori: I love being a work at home/stay at home mom, but trust me, it’s HARD to provide entertainment to two boys for 77 days straight. I wouldn’t trade it for working full time, but it is HARD.

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

August 17th, 2010
2:06 pm

@TWG…here is where I’m confused. You posted this and basically said it’s angry, funny, and truthful….basically, you give it a thumbs up even as it appears to be an exaggerated parody of the feelings moms have on daily basis. And you know what, I agree with you. I cracked up at this rant because I just spent 5 days with my kid while mom was out of town and had a lot of the same thoughts as this lady.

However…you post Superbowl commercials where men are satirically portrayed as unhappy and exaggerated to be emasculated and THAT is really offensive to you because those evil advertisers and the husbands who see a slimmer of truth in the commercials are SEXIST. Your commentary about those commercials is derisive and negative, but this lady is fresh and funny.

Something just reeks of hypocrisy here to me.


August 17th, 2010
2:10 pm

mom2alex&max: Not saying it isn’t hard to “entertain” two boys for 77 days straight, but I’d take that job any day. I have absolutely nothing against stay at home moms. I’m completely jealous of them. I’d love to be able to afford staying home with mine, but I unfortunately just can’t. I’m sure summers can get boring, especially on a budget. So while I respect the stay at home mom for the difficult full time job she has, I also just point out that is is also HARD to work all day, some home to a child that is cranky from having to spend all summer in a boring day care center, still have to clean house, do laundry, cook dinner, etc, then have to “entertain” the child all weekend instead of getting some much needed rest because we didn’t get any family time during the week.