Like half the ladies in America I went to see “Eat Pray Love” with some girlfriends on Friday night. I hadn’t read the book and probably wouldn’t have gone to see the movie if friends hadn’t asked.
If you haven’t read the book or seen the movie, the gist of the plot is this (at least according to the movie (my friend who read the book said the movie was very different): Julia Roberts is unhappy in her marriage so she asks for a divorce. Then she gets sad so she decides to travel to feel things again. She goes to Italy to eat, to India to pray, meditate and forgive herself and Bali, where she finds lo
As others have criticized before, wouldn’t it be nice to have the ability to travel to exotic locations for a year to make yourself feel better? What do poor depressed ladies do? What do depressed ladies who have kids do? (Kids, I’m depressed so I’m going to travel and leave you.)
The movie talks a lot about meditation, of which I’m not a big fan. I find it very hard to quiet my mind and if I manage to quiet my mind then essentially I am sleeping. (They always made us try to meditate during child birth classes. They would turn out the lights and tell us to relax lying on the floor. I would literally be snoring within five minutes.)
In the movie, Julie Roberts does service in India by scrubbing the floors of the temple. I do that every day for my kids. I don’t have to travel to India to do service for people.
I do buy into a couple of conclusions from the movie:
In Italy, a fellow gives a long speech about how Americans look for entertainment but don’t understand the simple pleasures of life. Americans rush through their meals and rush around. I think this is totally true. I do try to make good food for the family to enjoy and try to stop the clock and just focus on being in the moment with my kids or husband (in the pool, lying in bed holding the baby, singing in the car with the big kids).
The old man from Bali tells her that she must find balance in her life. Self and God were on the vertical axis and I can’t remember what was on the horizontal axis. But you needed to be balanced in the middle between these four elements. (I think on that chart mothers would actually do very well: there’s very little time to focus on self and often we’re praying for help!)
So I guess I just wondered how others ladies felt about the philosophy of the movie?
Do you still feel sad if you’re the one that asked for the divorce? Do you lose yourself when you start romantic relationships? How do you avoid that? What do you do if you are depressed?
What part do simple pleasures play in your life? Do you pray and meditate? (Please tell me how to quiet my mind or is that total BS?) Do you have the balance that the old Indonesian guy talks about? Do you think mothers find that type of balance easier than women without children? (We’ve got our own balance problem between work/life but that’s a different blog.)
Do you think this book/movie is helpful to women examining their lives or is it BS?