I got an email last week from a mom who has several issues as her son’s first days of college approach rapidly. It seems he’s not quite motivated to get prepared for actually leaving. But if she can get him out the door and into the dorm, then she has other worries — how will she face the empty nest syndrome. Check out the mom’s note below and give her your best advice on both fronts. (I think we’ll do some college questions this week. If you have other college-related questions send them to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.)
“My one and only is going to start his freshman year at GA Tech in only 3 weeks.
I can’t get him interested in buying stuff that he will need in his dorm room, or coordinating things with his roomie. I’d also like him to sort out some things a la Toy Story III so that when he leaves I can finally find the floor in his room to clean it. He doesn’t need to be pushed out the door, but he needs to be pushed to get his act together to get there. Do others have this challenge?
I am already starting to grieve! He and I drove to and from school together for years and had some great conversations and time together. I will miss him so much! When I mentioned this to a colleague, she told me that i needed to get a hobby! Truth is, I have tons of hobbies, and my husband and I do lots of fun things together. ….. but I still enjoy having face time with my son. How have folks handled the empty nest syndrome? Even if your nest is not close to empty yet, how do folks think their parents handled the life change?
Other concerns I have with this college transition thing—How much spending money should he have? How much should I initiate communication without butting in? Should we wait to be invited to visit? I don’t want to hover, but I don’t want to be excluded from his life yet, either ( which seems to be what he would like right now!)
How do parents handle this transition to college?”
(Check back at 2 for a second topic — I am posting a photo of the outfit I did wear to my 20th high school reunion. I did see New Mom (and she looked fantastic!) but I didn’t get a photo of us together! New Mom if you shot one of us email it to me. I didn’t shoot very many.)