Momania makes Mashable: Tips for social media parenting!

We talk a lot on our blog about the social media and how you and your kids are using it.

These are conversations our parenting community has on a regular basis and Mashable.com – the web site about social media — wanted our expertise on the topic.

Mashable.com wanted to know how parents can help their kids use social media while avoiding pitfalls. The overall feeling by the sources interviewed is you can’t keep your kids from engaging in social media so you need to help them learn how to intelligently navigate it.

You can check the article out here. (You may recognize the Phineas and Ferb PSA – I sent that along too!)

What would your tips be to help parents keep their kids safe on social media?

(Be sure to check out our Fun Friday post below — photos of things your kids have ruined!)

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TD

May 15th, 2010
8:13 am

We use mannahsworld.com for our 11 year old. She and her friends love it. We get to allow only kids we know into her “world”. We even get to set times she can be on it and for how long. Great idea and win-win for everyone.

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Kat

May 16th, 2010
10:36 am

Do we talk a lot about social media in this blog and how our kids use it? Really?

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

May 16th, 2010
11:16 am

Oh my goodness Kat — I will dig back up the email i sent to Mashable with links to just of our social media discussions. I feel like we’re talking about it all the time.

Jim

May 17th, 2010
10:45 am

First of all, If your kid tweets, or is on Facebook, you MUST FOLLOW OR FRIEND THEM, at least at first. If they won’t do that, they can’t do it.

Watch to see that they are actually using the accounts they let you follow, and watch for dummy accounts. My daughters used to get a little magazine the National Guard put out as a recruting tool that once had an article telling kids how to set up phony FB/Myspace accounts to throw parents off track so they could preserve their “privacy.” Needless to say, I was not happy to see that, but it does point out that this can be done. One daughter actually went out with a boy who had two Myspace profiles, one for parents, one for friends. Once I saw the vampire freak friends site, he didn’t come back.

Second, once you are on there with them, INTERACT. Post an occasional non-embarrasing comment, or click “like” if they post something positive. Let them know you are watching, but keep it low key.

Finally, when my girls got computers in their rooms (they were 13 at the time) the PC’s also had 007 spy software on them, installed by me. Twice a day, I got a keylog from each computer. They were told up front that, while I was giving them the priveledge of using the computers in their rooms, NOTHING on them was private, and I could look anytime I wanted.

Still, I did catch some of that “middle school” behavior that is so tough to deal with-had I not been watching , I would not have known.

My girls are in college now, and I still have the logs that 007 emailed me in my email account. They actually go on there and look at them once in a while, and get a kick out of some of what they typed.

When they turned 17, each one got a laptop with no spyware-I let them unseal the boxes, and were told that I now trust them. I figured at that point, either they had it figured out, or they didn’t.