Babies in bikinis; sexy 7-year-olds dancing to ‘Single Ladies’: Which of these is age-appropriate or neither?

Yesterday morning I ran across a blog asking if babies in bikinis were cute or icky? Strollerderby found the original conversation on Café Mom where the moms were pretty evenly divided on the topic. Here’s a sample of the conversation.

From Strollerderby:

“What’s interesting to me is how the debate is framed from such vastly different perspectives. For some moms, it’s an issue of modesty and for others, it’s a question of the sexualization of girls. A few moms expressed concern about sexual predators, and others said that bikinis should be reserved for grown-up women.”

“The majority of moms who weighed in seemed to think it was “no big deal,” but several voiced strong opposition.

“ ‘The point of the bikini being created was to show off as much body as possible including boobs and butt, hips, etc… the parts men find sexy. Bikinis are lingerie that have been accepted to be worn in public. Why would anyone put publicly accepted sex attire on a child?’ wrote one mom.”

I sort of chuckled at the discussion. I don’t really have a problem with a baby in a bikini as long it isn’t a thong or have padded cups – a la the bikini marketed to tweens with padded cups.

I usually get my girls tankinis – which cover a little bit more than a true bikini – because it’s just so much easier to go to the bathroom (or change a swim diaper) in a two-piece suit.

But I digress.

Later in the day I ran across another blog with something a bit more shocking than the babies in bikinis.

The Huffington Post picked up a You Tube video of girls identified as  7-year-olds not only dressed scantily but dancing fairly suggestively to Beyonce’s “All The Single Ladies.”

Now they are good dancers. I am amazed by their dancing.

However, I don’t think that some of the moves they are doing (some of the straight legs bends or should/chest shaking) were really appropriate dance moves for their age. Especially not in red and black “bikini” tops and hot pants.

So what do you think about the video? Is there a line crossed here? Could this be made right if they weren’t dancing as suggestively or they had on more clothes?

What do you think about the babies in bikinis? Anything wrong going on there?

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235 comments Add your comment

olivia

May 13th, 2010
7:03 am

I’m French and I do my first year in university, so excuse my English. I think Beyonce and other French singers have a very bad impact on young girls and unfortunately they corrupt even the French. Now when I take the bus and I passed my college, I see little girls dressed in small jeans with a string that exceeds or a mini skirt and these girls are model Rihanna and Beyonce. anyway I find it very unhealthy for these people to idolize these artists as gods. it is imperative that Americans react because there youth is doomed. ppourquoi they have all these singers need to be vulgar, so they know that their fans are pertinant children.

fred

May 13th, 2010
7:06 am

Babies in bikinis, no issue for me, My girls, both under 7 wear them and have worn them since they were babies. But the dancing video just did not feel right to me. As a parent I would not feel comfortable seeing my daughter perform some of those moves. I think it is a combination of SOME of the dance moves, the costumes and the song. Now I would like to say that it is obvious that these girls are very talented and I hope they continue doing what they do, I do however think that the fault lies with the choreographer of the routine.

Christina

May 13th, 2010
7:15 am

I am a mother of 2 girls, 11, and 13. I am not religious, and I consider myself to be very liberal and open minded. That said, this video makes me want to hurl. What the heck are these moms thinking? I LOVE the actual Beyonce video, the moves, the song, all of it. But these girls are dressed up like little hookers, and flaunting their sexuality with these grown-up dance moves. At the very least, this is going to distort these girls images of themselves and cause them to behave more sexually at an earlier age. GROSS GROSS GROSS!

motherjanegoose

May 13th, 2010
7:15 am

To me, it just depends on what your want your daughter to portray. If it is all about her body, be prepared to deal with it later. Parents send these messages to their kids.

Honestly, my daughter has a great figure ( better than mine ever was) and she would look cute in a bikini but she has never been interested in one. She is modest an not at all about attracting anyone with her body. We have never had the ” you are NOT walking out of my house in that” episode.

Jeff

May 13th, 2010
7:15 am

My sister framed this issue very well:

If she wears a bikini @ 7, what is she going to want to wear when she hits puberty? If we have her in a one-piece and she gets to “look forward” to wearing bikini at a pre-determined age, then we’ve controlled the issue.

Then again, when some of these moms dress the way they do, what do you expect?

Christina

May 13th, 2010
7:16 am

OH – and little girls and/or babies in bikinis is CUTE! Little girls in red and black ruffled hot pants is NOT!

Cogitatus of Borg

May 13th, 2010
7:19 am

The dance routine and music was grossly in appropriate for 7th graders let alone 7 year olds.

@Fred – not only was the choreographer wrong, but most of the blame lies with the parents who allowed them to perform this routine. They need to be parents and not cheerleaders who just want to make sure their darlings participate.

Belle

May 13th, 2010
7:24 am

I have no problem with bikinis on babies. When I was a child most babies ran around in just a diaper anyway. Even the Coppertone baby was in just a bikini bottom and that ad was from the 1950’s..so bikinis are no big deal.

The dancing was amazing but the costumes were pretty bad. I would not have been comfortable with my daughter performing those moves at that age.

Patrick

May 13th, 2010
7:24 am

Bikinis at the beach are OK, most of them at least. But if your kid isn’t swimming, you need to have them covered.

As far as this video, this is disgusting, those parents should have their children taken away, do they want their daughters to grow up to be strippers? Or have eating disorders as a teenager because they are too body focused?

Best case scenario, those girls grow up to be hapless floozies. You know the ones I’m talking about, they still call their father “daaadiiieee” when they are 30 years old, have never had a real job, no skills, float from one boyfriend to the next, before marrying some jerk just because he has a good job.

Mattie

May 13th, 2010
7:25 am

What is shocking is that adults think encouraging young girls to dress and act sexy is OK and will somehow be healthy for them. This is not an isolated dance school, I have seen it in my comunity too. When will parents wake up and be the parents? NO is still a word in our English language.

This is Mrs. Norman Maine

May 13th, 2010
7:29 am

Babies in bikinis=no big deal. But it’s hard to believe that any parent, anywhere thinks the above video is okay.

Jeff

May 13th, 2010
7:31 am

I’m going to take what some would consider a cheap shot but it doesn’t mean it’s not true. Anyone want to guess how many of these girls have active, participating fathers involved in deciding whether to do this dance thing?

My father’s generation would have NEVER allowed their 7 year old daughters to do this.

Angry responses can be sent to The View…………..

Em

May 13th, 2010
7:38 am

I have a open mind, but somethings are just not right. It’s to early for these babies to be seems like this. It’s to much going on in the world today!

Lil Mama

May 13th, 2010
7:39 am

Two words…….HELL NO!!!!!! These little girls are too young for this, yet unfortunately old enough for some pervert to find them “attractive”. As for babies in bikinis……if you put it on them at toddler age, what happens when their not so “toddlerish” anymore and want to continue wearing them because “that’s what you’ve always let them wear?”. To that I say, THINK TWICE!!!!! There are all kinds of folk out there watching your children (girls and boys) at ALL ages!!!!! And my daughter is now 17, and I still don’t want her in a bikini…..but I digress.

Em

May 13th, 2010
7:40 am

This is so sad!

Patrick

May 13th, 2010
7:42 am

“Anyone want to guess how many of these girls have active, participating fathers involved in deciding whether to do this dance thing?”

I imagine most the fathers of that group don’t see a problem with it, if they married women who thinks this is OK, then the chances are the wives are bimbos themselves and the dad isn’t a big supporter of strong, independent, women.

The moms that let(or even encourage) this type of thing aren’t them feminist type, they probably think that a woman’s role in life is to look sexy and catch a “good” man, and are already grooming their daughters for that role, instead of advancing their mind so they can go to college to have their own career.

free

May 13th, 2010
7:45 am

the little girls have LOTS of talent but this is not the correct way to show it. i have to agree with the PP Jeff who asked where are the fathers? my hubby would NEVER allow this.

Cinnamon

May 13th, 2010
7:49 am

I think the choreography is great. The costumes are a bit too much. Keep the dance moves and change the costume..

Monica

May 13th, 2010
7:49 am

Parents who allow their daughters to participate in a dance routine like that should be arrested on charges of prostitution. They are doing no more than pimping their daughters. I would like to ban beauty pageants, as well as competition cheer squads for five year olds. These events attempt to take a child and make her look like a mini-adult. And then the parents will wonder what went wrong when their daughter becomes a teenage mom.

Ian

May 13th, 2010
7:57 am

Would love to ask the parents and choreographer one question…was the routine intended to be cute or sexy? Pick one.

honestlawyer

May 13th, 2010
7:57 am

I can think of only one word to describe this video: sick.

Socialism

May 13th, 2010
7:59 am

Child abuse. This is inviting pedophiles.

Jeff

May 13th, 2010
7:59 am

Maybe they’re just practicing for their future performances on a pole.

Sorry, couldn’t help it. I’d take it back if it wasn’t funny.

Voice of Reason #1

May 13th, 2010
8:00 am

Our American society is going to hell in a handbasket. I am so disgusted by so many thing I see here now. This video is absolutely disgusting and inappropriate. Young tramps in the making. SHAME on those parents and dance coordinator. we need decency laws…and flogging for parents who endorse, support, and encourage such mess…and apparently it crosses all racial lines.

Professor II

May 13th, 2010
8:01 am

You can take the trash from the trailer , but you can’t take the trailer from the trash

CNB

May 13th, 2010
8:03 am

Photius

May 13th, 2010
8:06 am

Great – keep showing that video and you’ll have Pedophiles perving on this blog…..

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

May 13th, 2010
8:08 am

I actually worried about that!! maybe I’ll take it down after today.

BlogDaddy

May 13th, 2010
8:09 am

I’m going to take the high road and say that the dance routine was intended to be cute vs. sexy. I haven’t seen Chipmunks 2, but in the promos the female chipmunks are doing a similar routine to the exact same song. And that was broadcasted to a much younger audience.

stepmom2

May 13th, 2010
8:14 am

WOW!!! I can’t believe their parents let those girls do this routine and another question is what was the dance teacher/choreographer thinking when she thought this was a good idea. I would never allow my child to participate in that.

@ Monica- I totally agree about the beauty paegants. Those should not be allowed for girls under 16. Have you ever seen the show Toddlers and Tiaras? It’s so disturbing how these parents (mostly mom’s) treat their kids (boys are on the show too).

All this “sexy” clothes & make-up is so glamorized now these girls (even teen girls) think it’s the norm. My step-daughter gets so mad when she goes shopping with her mom and shows her dad & I the clothes she gets because we make her try it on and most of the time it’s too short/tight and we make her take it back. Her mom thinks it’s great. All it does is send a bad message to others.

jobo

May 13th, 2010
8:19 am

I think this is disgusting. No wonder there are so many sex offenders! Instead of God blessing America, America needs to bless God. I would love to get the “Old America” back again where there were fewer evils existing and people could walk the streets without fear.

Fred (with a capitol "F")

May 13th, 2010
8:24 am

Bikinis and babies – both my daughters had bikinis as babies but they were pretty modest for bikinis. Even as teenagers they wore/wear modest swimsuits. If you define bikini as a two piece it doesn’t have to be b*tt floss to be a bikini. The current teen is real modest and prefers tankinis as she is tall and long waisted and has a *very* hard time finding a one piece that fits right.

As far as the dance goes, the girls are obviously very talented and love to dance. If they are this good at 7, then if they keep it up they probably can make it as a professional dancer. The costumes are totally age inappropriate as are several of the dance moves. I bet the girls looked at it as a complicated move and didn’t really read anything suggestive into it. I fault the parents and choreographer for the inappropriate moves as they should have a very strong understanding of what is and is not age appropriate.

Unlike some of the other posters, I don’t know that the girls will go on to be “bad” girls. It takes a ton of effort and discipline to get to that level to so nothing of the motivation required. As long as they continue to look at it as complicated routine and don’t look at it as provocative or suggestive, they will be fine. Now, the discussion about how much effort it took to get to this level at this age is a whole ‘nother issue. Should they be driven or pushed to work that hard can be a great discussion.

Claire

May 13th, 2010
8:25 am

Yesterday I showed this video to my roommate who did competitive dance growing up. She said it was nothing compared to some of the moves and outfits the young girls did at her dance company, and that she had never heard any parents complain. It makes me feel sick.

tazmebro

May 13th, 2010
8:26 am

Just a plain disgrace!

MKA

May 13th, 2010
8:30 am

These girls are wearing something that looks like it came from Vicky Secrets!! They are super talented, but this dance is just too floozy. I would never let my 8-year old do something like this. Nor does she wear bikini’s. She already has a “mini-Beyonce” figure and in there is no way that I would want to highlight it. There are too many pedophiles and sicko’s out there! Modesty is the best policy!

These are tough times to raise children in! Communication is key and “staying in their business” is even more important!!

ADO

May 13th, 2010
8:30 am

Seven year old “Sluts” but they probably get it from their mommy.

Andi

May 13th, 2010
8:36 am

An open invite to pervs. Doesn’t anyone remember Jon Benet Ramsey? But, yes, if the moms are hoochies, what do you expect?

Alecia

May 13th, 2010
8:37 am

I saw a demonstration from a dance company a few years ago at a festival and it involved 7 and under girls doing some suggestive moves. Hence, the reason why my daughter does not do dance.

I am whatever you say I am

May 13th, 2010
8:39 am

This is wrong on so many levels!
Where are the fathers!?!???

Cedric Andrews

May 13th, 2010
8:41 am

With child ponography at an all time high, why would a parent allow this? To exploit their kids in a way that will attract every “freak” out there is shameful. Yes, let the kid have some fun, but not at the expense of their innocence.

Lori

May 13th, 2010
8:42 am

Absolutely disgusting. These mothers have lost their minds to allow their little girls to dress/act like that. I don’t understand why in the music industry we have to use women’s bodies to sell anything. They are getting younger everyday and they have to be seductive to sell their music. It’s very sad.

Bikinis in general I also don’t understand for young girls. I see babies, tots, and very young girls running around in string bikinis at the beach. I don’t get it. Aside from any issues with modesty, why allow that much skin to be exposed to harmful sun rays? I have my kids in the little swim shirts and shorts at the beach. I don’t have to worry about their backs getting burned, I don’t have to apply nearly as much sunscreen, and they don’t get as much sand in their pants. Win-win-win!!!

Rickdancedad

May 13th, 2010
8:51 am

These are competitive dancers at a dance competition and the outfits were perfectly acceptable in that venue. I’m sure these girls work hard to perfect their skills just as an ice skater practices for hours upon hours. As a parent of three dancers (girls age 9-18) all my kids are well adjusted, mostly “A” students. They don’t do drugs or drink, they aren’t teenage moms and they have high morals and values. They’ve danced since a very young age and trained very hard. These costumes are fine and those that want to try and turn this into something sexual may be the ones with the problem!

Michael

May 13th, 2010
8:55 am

As a criminal defense attorney I will just say MORE WORK FOR ME BABY!!!!!

Alecia

May 13th, 2010
8:58 am

Yuck!! Hence the reason why my daughter does not take dance lessons. Granted, these girls are talented. I have also seen equally tacky stuff in my community as well. Some of the dance demonstrations for the under 7 crowd at local festivals border pole dancing. Yes, these girls are talented, but I have to wonder what other talents the parents want them to learn. Little girls dancing like strippers is not cute. Wonder how much the dance company was pushed by the parents. Also, have to agree with saying no to the beauty pagents until after puberty. It is amazing how many moms get caught up in the physical appearance of their daughters and do not teach them to appreciate anything other than looking good to catch a boy. Too many girls want to be fashionistas or dancers instead of going to college or building a skill set. Most pageant and dance parents are hoping the their daughters land a guy and give them grandbabies at an early age.

Bikini-There’s nothing wrong with little girls wearing bikinis if it is done in good taste. A tankini is okay. Babies in bikikis are okay, because it is easier to change them.

Alecia

May 13th, 2010
9:00 am

Sorry for the double post. Prematurely submitted.

Katie

May 13th, 2010
9:00 am

The dancing is trashy. For a mom to allow her daughter to dance like that on stage in a public place is even worse…..and you know they are as proud as they can be. If you can’t teach your 7 year old to respect themselves and their bodies you are in for a heap of trouble when your child gets older.

Katie

May 13th, 2010
9:01 am

I should not just pin it on the moms…for ANY parent to allow it is sad!!

Are these children parentless?

May 13th, 2010
9:01 am

I don’t have kids (yet), but I certainly would not allow my daughter to be exploited in this fashion.

A&K's Mom

May 13th, 2010
9:08 am

I have a 4yo and 2yo. Neither will wear a two piece as long as I’m their mother and care for them. With that being said, let a child have her innocence. Let her be a C-H-I-L-D. Then she can be a young lady. Then she can be a young woman and so on. Stop putting children on display. These moms would be hard pressed and grossed the heck out if they knew the amount of sexual predators getting off on this video. A two piece is nothing more than panties and bras…oh yea, you can swim in them. Manufacturers make them because silly moms (yep I said it) buy them and say ‘oh, this is sooo cute’. It’s not cute!! It’s disgusting!! My child asks because she see other little girls but I’m quick to tell her that’s not cute.

Now the dancing. Lmao. Wow. No doubt these little girls have talent. Kudo’s for them but how is what they are doing any different from the butt shaking, booty popping dance? It’s not. Do you think that just because you put them in very suggestive clothing and makeup (another topic of discussion/debate) that it’s somehow better? I think not.

This all comes down to parenting. And my opinion is poor parenting on the part of the moms and dads (who think it’s wrong but say nothing to keep the wife happy).

What tha

May 13th, 2010
9:08 am

Whats next Victoria Secret Child Collection lingerie?