Do you know EXACT time/place of conception of kids?

Actor and Texas boy Matthew McConaughey revealed maybe a little too much at last night’s 43rd Annual American Country Music Awards telling the audience the exact location and date of his daughter’s conception.

From Entertainment Tonight:

“He told the crowd prior to presenting the Top Male Vocalist of the Year award, ‘After the show last year … my lady and I, Camila, we even went back to the hotel and conceived a little lady, Vida Alves McConaughey. That’s a true story.’ ”

I absolutely know for Rose and Walsh and I’m pretty sure for Lilina. Oddly, after all three conceptions the movie “The Caine Mutiny” was on TCM. We had been trying to get pregnant for eight months with Lilina and when I saw the movie on, I figured we were successful that time. Sure enough we were. Was it a sign from God or just a testament to the fact that TCM plays that movie way too much?

Do you know your child’s exact time/date/place of conception? Is it OK to tell people?

(You get two topics today. Please be sure to read the next topic down: Is it OK to ask your kids  questions about your ex’s new boyfriend/girlfriend? We have an interesting example of this from Shaq!)

41 comments Add your comment

Lori

April 19th, 2010
8:59 am

Yes, I also know the exact time and place. I was just positive that particular time was “the one” too. Really weird. My husband didn’t believe me until I showed him the proof positive pink line a few weeks later!!

I have no clue

April 19th, 2010
9:02 am

At the time, I could have probably guessed within a week or so. I don’t know how you could know.

I guess I never had sex with the intention of having a child, so maybe thats the difference.

I have no clue

April 19th, 2010
9:02 am

And I am not sure why its news that he said that. Whats the big deal?

Roswell Jeff

April 19th, 2010
9:22 am

All we know is that it was 40 weeks prior to his birth – give or take a week or so… LOL! At the time, we were trying a lot, so to pinpoint the actual conception is not going to happen. *sigh* We need to bring those days back!

A

April 19th, 2010
9:30 am

Why does this even matter? I can probably pinpoint the week if I cared to, but in the scheme of things, how is this important? And like Jeff, we were also trying with the intention to conceive, so to zero in on the particular day would probably be impossible anyway, and I don’t see how having that information enriches my life or that of my family’s. The important thing is we had a healthy child and everything turned out well in the end.

I have no clue

April 19th, 2010
9:40 am

Is sex still good when you are doing it with the intention of having a child?

I have a friend who tried for months and from the way they talked about it, it seemed like a chore for both. As time went on, it seemed to really put stress and pressure on the man in particular. They finally did succeed, and I wonder how their sex life is now.

Jeff

April 19th, 2010
9:43 am

I’ll keep this family friendly; depends on your “frequency”. As a couple, are you 3 or more times a week, you can’t know. If you’re once a week or less, there you have it.

BTW, should we begin to REQUIRE paternity tests for ALL children? I’ve heard reports that statistically 10-20% of married women bear children that are not the husbands. Not sure if I believe the stats, but I’m sure it exists. Would it make relationships better or worse?

JJ

April 19th, 2010
9:51 am

OMG WHO, besides you, really cares about when you concieved??

YUKI

April 19th, 2010
9:55 am

I have no idea. Unless you are doing it really unfrequently I don’t really understand how you can even know for sure. I don’t think it was really necessary for Matthew McConaughey to say that on a nationally televised TV show, I mean really, who cares? I’m no prude but that seems to be a bit TMI……

YUKI

April 19th, 2010
9:55 am

or infrequently….oops

Becky too

April 19th, 2010
10:02 am

Mom of Two

April 19th, 2010
10:41 am

I know exactly when and where both of my children were conceived. While their father and I have talked about the time of our childrens’ conceptions through the years, I don’t see any reason to share it with anyone else.

And, yes, to answer someone else’s question, if you’re with the right person, sex is fantastic when trying to conceive, after the conception and for all the ongoing years after the children arrive.

Photius

April 19th, 2010
12:22 pm

Little bit too much of a baby fetish going on around here…. why care?

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

April 19th, 2010
12:35 pm

I really don’t understand how hearing Matthew McConaughey’s story about the conception of his child could have been more uncomfortable or painful than actually watching the 43rd Annual American Country Music Awards.

Thanks, TIger...

April 19th, 2010
12:47 pm

..as you point out the purpose of the “revelation” had nothing to do, in my mind, with the “deed”, Matthew was just pointing out that it was around the time of the show in whatever year it was the he and she conceived. It is really not a big deal other than making for a topic of discussion since Theresa has to post about something, and a sex topic is usually good for multiple hits. As you all know, the topics the past few days have really been lame and not many people have been responding; and, from the responses to this topic, not many people are interested in this, either, with only 15 conmments in 4 hours..

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

April 19th, 2010
1:06 pm

maybe he was just trying out a line in a new country song…..

1sus

April 19th, 2010
1:25 pm

Absolutely . . . . but only because we conceived through fertility treatments. I usually get a kick out of telling people that my husband wasn’t even with me when I conceived our younger child! He had our first child at work with him that day when I had the appointment. Romantic? Maybe not, but my 2 beautiful children were well worth those crazy days!

JATL

April 19th, 2010
1:44 pm

Gross! No one wants to know this info but you (if you even want to know it -I don’t care personally when I got pregnant -just that I did). I have a “rough idea”, but my mother DID elect to tell me EXACTLY when I was conceived, and I could’ve lived forever without knowing that one…

Roswell Jeff

April 19th, 2010
1:53 pm

JATL, purely out of curiousity, what is Gross? Is it the thought of other people having “relations” or the thought of “relations” period?

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

April 19th, 2010
2:42 pm

I’m of the opinion that I don’t care if you share that info or not but if you decide to, please have the courtesy to provide video of the conception….unless the couple is really unattractive, in that case please hire an attractive couple to film a “dramatic pro-creation re-creation”. ;-)

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

April 19th, 2010
2:43 pm

oh..and please don’t make the soundtrack with country music. “Bow chicka bow bow” will suffice.

Polytron/E2M Sucks

April 19th, 2010
2:54 pm

Who cares?

ZZZZzzzz…. Boooorrriiing!

motherjanegoose

April 19th, 2010
3:14 pm

Too much information for the general public….

Wow…forever ago I used a BASAL THERMOMETER to help us get pregnant, so that I could have my kids during my summers off from teaching. I would say that ( back then) I could pin point the week but that is probably it. They did not have ovulation predictors back then.

My kids were born in June and then May so both worked out well for me to finish the school year teaching and then heading back to school in the fall…which was when we started back then…not in August.

It seems so weird, to me, that I will no longer be thinking, as much, about the Gwinnett County Calendar. My daughter will be in college next year. Time really flies!

Here is one thing I want to know…

WOULD YOU BUY PREGNANCY TEST AT THE DOLLAR STORE? WHEN I SEE THIS IT MAKES ME LAUGH…COULD YOU REALLY TRUST IT?

motherjanegoose

April 19th, 2010
3:17 pm

I meant….used the thermometer to help us know when we COULD have a better chance at getting pregnant…not to help us get pregnant…sorry…that sounded crazy when I just read it now.

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

April 19th, 2010
3:29 pm

Boy…did the “sharing door” get blown wide open today?!?

Would anyone care to share what position they were in when they conceived? Maybe we can get a bead on which one has a tendency to result in a specific gender. Or is that TMI?

motherjanegoose

April 19th, 2010
4:05 pm

Oh tiger…let’s just say that we got just what we were hoping for…A BOY FIRST AND THEN A GIRL….LOL~!

I saw a family, last week, with 4 boys ages seven and under. i said, “Are those all your boys?”
The Dad replied, “Yes M’am…we are not trying for a girl any more…” I laughed and said that they should have asked me for the directions…I have one of each…love ‘em both too!

I sat next to a Father yesterday, on the plane, who had 14 kids…ages 3-30. He was probably about 50 or so. We talked the entire 3 hours about parenting and it was really a pleasure swapping stories with him.

I imagine his wife is a SAINT. I could NOT be a Mother to 14 kids and keep what sanity I have left. They have 7 left at home now. Made my trip go by really fast as I enjoyed the conversation!

Cammi317

April 19th, 2010
4:35 pm

I know time, place AND position, but no, I will not be sharing the exact details with anyone.

Roswell Jeff

April 19th, 2010
4:51 pm

Position? I couldn’t nail down the day, there is no way to know the position. We were doing it every way possible in that period of time. heh. We did have a boy though, what position is that?

DB

April 19th, 2010
4:51 pm

I think it would be pretty easy to pinpoint when the deposit was made, but as far as knowing precisely when CONCEPTION happened? Nope. Not at all — I don’t see how ANYONE could, outside of a petri dish! The sperm and egg combine sometime within 24 hours after ovulation. Considering that one could have intercourse anytime within 48 hours either way, and it takes 5-12 days for implantation to incur — how could one know the precise MOMENT egg and sperm met up?

JATL

April 19th, 2010
4:56 pm

Roswell Jeff -I have no desire to think about Theresa and her husband getting it on. In fact, with the exception of my husband, I really don’t enjoy the thoughts of anyone I know personally getting it on. I don’t think sex is gross at all, but this whole topic automatically puts mental images of people in my head -yeah, I think it’s pretty gross. I also have no idea why people would want to fixate on exactly when a pregnancy happened unless they’re having fertility problems or they’re messing around a lot and not sure who the daddy is…

JATL

April 19th, 2010
4:59 pm

@MJG -I know lots of people who buy pregnancy tests and ovulation detector sticks at the dollar store -they’re just as accurate as the ones you pay $15 bucks for! Just like everything else at the dollar store, they were overages when another store went out of business, or a company’s supply exceeded the demand.

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

April 19th, 2010
5:00 pm

@JATL…not a big fan of skinemax, I take.

Jesse's Girl

April 19th, 2010
5:00 pm

Yes…as a matter of fact….I do!

Roswell Jeff

April 19th, 2010
5:04 pm

JATL, after reading your post, I too started thinking of certain people I know and the mental image was a little disturbing with some of them!

JATL

April 19th, 2010
5:08 pm

Yes, Roswell Jeff -it could actually serve as quite a diet aid I think! VERY unappetizing! Here’s to a healthy sex life -as long as I don’t have to picture it ;-)

Roswell Jeff

April 19th, 2010
5:11 pm

motherjanegoose

April 19th, 2010
5:15 pm

@ JATL….that is interesting. I love the Dollar Store, as I love a bargain, but there are some things I would not buy there. Maybe it is just me. I also love BIG LOTS….hahaha~!

G.R.I.T.S.

April 19th, 2010
8:30 pm

i do for 2..not the other 2…and the step i have no idea lol :) im not sure why people posted ‘gross’..that was kind of weird

Kat

April 19th, 2010
9:35 pm

If you do not know WHY people are posting gross, then you really don’t need to be having children as the intellect is missing from your posts.

Nadia74

April 19th, 2010
9:42 pm

@MJG It is my understanding that pregnancy tests do not give false positives, only false negatives. I did buy the tests from Dollar Tree. They were always accurate. The only difference is that you have to pee in a cup and use a little syringe thing (I cannot think of what that is actually called) to test it. No midstream testing with those.

As for the topic, I think I know when I conceived with my second, only because my first was only 5 months old, so we were not getting busy too often. The other two, no way.

I don’t think it is a big deal to share that info with others, but again, I think it is one of those things that really only matters to you. No one else really cares. Just like you think every little thing your kid does is cute, but your friends really don’t want to hear about every little thing they do.

cld

April 20th, 2010
8:07 am

We have one child so far. We know exactly when and where, but have never told anyone. We do know when and where our best friends’ daughter was conceived, but only because they were on vacation in the same hotel where we’d stayed previously – so when they told us, it was like “oh and by the way, we liked that hotel in ___!”