In a groundbreaking segment, the Today show figured out that Moms are mean to each other on parenting blogs. Shocking I know!! (They also pieced together like Sherlock Holmes that people trying to egg on others are called “trolls.”)
While I’m glad the hosts of the Today show have caught up with the rest of America, I do think it’s worth discussing why moms ARE so mean to each other on parenting blogs? Do you think they are meaner than the fanatics on the sports blogs or the political blogs? (Cause those can get very ugly too! The only time we can make the mom blog any uglier is when we talk about husbands going to sports – ie the Georgia games.)
I’ve been writing this blog for almost five years now and I have to admit I was stunned at first by the level of vitriol produced on our blog.
I’ve written before that I thought it would be all it-takes-a-village community where everyone supported each other and were kind and loving.
And sometimes we are to each other. I’m always so proud and pleased when we have a useful discussion or when we say yes that has happened to me and here is how we handled it! I love it when we don’t judge and instead offer an ear or advice.
I think there are three main reasons why moms are so mean to each other on parenting blogs in general:
I have learned to avoid certain topics that I know we can’t win on. We will never, ever settle the stay-at-home, work-outside-the-home debate. I usually try to avoid it – although I got sucked into it last week by a “troll.”
I also try to avoid breastfeeding/formula feeding whenever possible. You may not have noticed but I was a day late on that breastfeeding story last week because I just didn’t want to get into. I only used the story when I had the angle of how can we facilitate 90 percent breastfeeding instead of should 90 percent breastfeed. The facilitating discussion went really well. The other discussion would have gotten ugly!
So what do you think? Overall are moms too mean to each other on mom blogs? Do you think we are meaner than folks commenting on the sports and political blogs?
Is it possible for moms to be nicer to each other on parenting blogs?