Oversharing on Facebook?

I have become one of THOSE people.

I am officially oversharing on Facebook. Not so much words (although I know that’s hard to believe) but photos!

With my new phone I can shoot photos (it’s always with me wherever I am with the kids) and upload them to Facebook in two clicks. It’s just too easy.

Before if I wanted to upload a photo I would have to plug in my camera, download to my desktop and then upload to an album on Facebook. Friends got to see the big stuff but not the mundane.

Now they’re getting every spill my kids make (I literally posted the salt and pepper shakers that Lilina dumped out on my carpet), every science experiment they are making and dishes that I am cooking. God forbid we should actually go someplace interesting with my phone.

Are you one of THOSE people oversharing (words or photos) on Facebook? Is it because your mobile phone uploads so easy?

How much is too much from your friends? How many photos of their kids or their activities do you want to see? How many updates do you need in a day?

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Wow, 2 days in a row...

April 7th, 2010
7:33 am

…with topics posted before 7am…see what you can do when you don’t have to get kids ready for school?! – Good job…

Photius

April 7th, 2010
8:17 am

Facebook…. Believe it or not everyone, you’re just not that interesting – especially your kids. Stop posting mindless bad photos of your kids. Facebook makes people “think” people in the world really care what they are doing…. It’s pure self absorbtion.

JJ

April 7th, 2010
8:38 am

I don’t. I’m on facebook A LOT, but I don’t post mundane pictures. Most of my adult friends don’t post pictures….maybe a couple pictures after a “girlfriend gathering”….but that’s about it.

TK

April 7th, 2010
8:47 am

I use it mostly to stay in touch with family. Not one to post pictures though.

DB

April 7th, 2010
8:53 am

I had a cousin where I finally had to turn off her feed — she’d get on Facebook two or three times a day with the most meaningless stuff — either she didn’t want to do laundry (well, who DOES – duh), or her kids didn’t want to do homework (again . . . duh), or one said something “cute” (interpreted by me as sass), etc., etc. She’s not even a close cousin, and yet I was a witness to the minutia of her life. And, the truth of the matter is — I just don’t care if her daughter chose a plaid skirt that morning instead of the striped one. Another friend who got their feed turned off is a writer who would come on Facebook and bemoan her writer’s block (funny, she seemed perfectly able to write epistles about it on Facebook four or five times a day . . . )

I read something somewhere that Facebook was actually contributing to a growing sense of self-absorption because it’s all about THEM — look at all the pictures! Look at all my friends! Look at my relationships — I’m “in” or “out” of a relationship! Look at how busy I am! La, la, la. . . . My daughter refuses to post her “relationship status” on Facebook because, as she sniffed, “It’s no one else’s business”. Interestingly, the guy she’s been dating thinks that the relationship is only “official” if it’s been Facebooked, and was hurt when she refused his “relationship request.” She told him that she didn’t live her life by Facebook . . .

I posted a few vacation pictures from last month, and occasionally I’ll post links to things that I think are funny/amusing/thoughtful stuff. My “friends” are mostly family members with a few close friends thrown in. I might post once every couple of weeks, might check it twice a week or so.

And don’t get me started on those “Farmville” posts . . . UGH!!!!

I think the telling comment in your post today, Theresa, was “How many updates do you need in a day?” Frankly — zero. I’d be happy with once a week, on most. Most people’s daily lives are just not that compelling, and unless you’re a grandparent with a new grandchild, you really don’t need 45 pictures of the same vacant baby smile with drool. :-)

motherjanegoose

April 7th, 2010
8:54 am

NO Facebook for me. Y’all have fun…

motherjanegoose

April 7th, 2010
8:57 am

AWWW come on DB…I know you want to see me at the beach right now, so you can see how bad I look in my swimsuit and how good my daughter looks..haha!

BShepCarlin

April 7th, 2010
8:57 am

Amen DB…Amen DB. ‘Nuff said.

zinc

April 7th, 2010
8:58 am

Facebook=learning too much about people that then changes your opinion of them. Facebook, twitter and social media is great for self-indulgent people or reconnecting with long lost friends. But that is it.

It used to be that social friends didn’t discuss topics like politics and religion. Now facebook gives them that medium to spout their crap for everyone to read. I am shocked at how narrow minded, intolerant and judgmental a number of my friends are on various topics. Their actions certainly alter the role they play in my life. No thanks.

YUKI

April 7th, 2010
8:59 am

I post pictures but I have to do the old hook up the camera to the PC and all that, so probably not as much as if I had a phone that would do it. I am planning on upgrading my phone next month so I’m sure I’ll end up with more pics to post. I enjoy looking at friends pictures. You don’t HAVE to look at everyone’s pictures if you don’t want to. It aggravates me when people get all negative about things like this, if it’s fun for people, then who cares? If you think it’s silly, then don’t do it. It’s very simple.

Bertram

April 7th, 2010
9:03 am

Not a Facebook user, but I was wondering if those who use it find themselves interacting with people differently when face to face.

Wayne

April 7th, 2010
9:09 am

I -finally- got on it. I can’t get to it at work, and when I’m home, I pretty much use my computer for my business and don’t have time for this sort of thing. I couldn’t fathom what the hullabaloo was so… Now, I get inundated with friend requests, and my sister is nuts over that Farmville thing! Between her and another ‘friend’ I get a ton of Farmville (whatever THAT is) junk. Man…

JATL

April 7th, 2010
9:11 am

I love FB, but I get sick of the people who update their status 10 times a day (obviously I’m not on Twitter, nor do I plan to be), and post random mindless photos. Don’t even get me started on Farmville and Mafia Wars -where are these people finding the time?!?! The ones that PEEVE me the most though are the host of religious nuts I went to high school with who CONSTANTLY post these rants about Jesus and God and God’s power with a bunch of Bible verses. It’s like they are constantly preaching a sermon in their heads and have to let bits of it out randomly thoughout the day. I’m also not a fan of the overly-political status posters. I think FB is fun, but it amazes me that people think out of their 350 friends, everyone probably feels the exact same way they do on every subject.

I do post photos in albums of special occasions and fun things -like snow in Atlanta. We have two small boys, and it’s a great way to share with far away friends and family. This is not an every day or even every week occurance though. I finally just got my son’s birthday pix from a month ago posted in an album the other day!

Hannah

April 7th, 2010
9:12 am

I don’t get the people who have a new picture of themselves posing in the mirror everyday. I’ve had the same picture since I got Facebook!

Hannah

April 7th, 2010
9:18 am

But I will say, though it’s not necessarily okay to constantly spout your religious and political ideas, I don’t think the people who do think that all 350 of their friends agree with them.

party pooper

April 7th, 2010
9:19 am

General observation: the people who spend too much time on Facebook are usually the ones without demanding jobs/careers. How else would they find the time? Most hard-working professionals I know are far too busy to care much about updating Facebook every time their kid or pet passes gas or burps.

teach1

April 7th, 2010
9:20 am

FB is fun and sharing with family is great. What better way to feel a little bit closer to family 1200 miles away. Sorry I love the mindless updates and pics. I just wish I could spend more time with my mom and dad and brothers and sister. FB is just one way to pop in for a few minutes and see what they are up to. I have learned about my neice and her new boy friend, found out what my sister is doing withthe kids during the day and even gotten to play Scrabble with my dad who is 1200 miles away. Phone calls are great too but the mindless chatter on FB is fun!

Julia

April 7th, 2010
9:23 am

Theresa, go to your privacy setting and just make sure you are locked down to were ONLY your friends can see your photos or your wall comments….. You can go in there an even set it to where you can not be searched on the web….. I love FB and have a ton of pics on there.. :)

@party pooper

April 7th, 2010
9:24 am

that is twitter….

Pauly

April 7th, 2010
9:25 am

This applies to EVERYONE in regards to Facebook:

1.) It’s YOUR page. If you want to post 1500 pictures of your children watching paint dry, go for it. YOU can put up pretty much anything YOU want on YOUR page that YOU want to share.

2.) If your friend(s) don’t find it interesting or are “bothered” by your mega-posting, THEY can take you off of THEIR feed or… (imagine this) THEY could actually just not look at your page.

I just can’t understand how some people think it’s everyone else’s duty to conform to their preferences.

Milf-toast

April 7th, 2010
9:28 am

I laugh at all the milf’s whining about work,kids,sleep,etc…..get over yourself no one cares….

JJ

April 7th, 2010
9:29 am

I’m a Farmville junkie but I don’t post everything when prompted. I normally just hit “Skip” and go on with my farming……I also have an Island Paradise, and I play Treasure Isle. Work is extremely slow these past few weeks, so I often get on during the day. I plant my stuff on Farmville to be ready to be harvested when I get home…….

itstillamazesme

April 7th, 2010
9:30 am

I enjoy FB but i agree with others there are times where there is TMI (too much information). It seems a lot of people “tweet” on facebook.

Stop whinning

April 7th, 2010
9:30 am

the ones of you that dont post on there you are just jealous….. I have people on mine that I dont even look at their page unless its right in front of me (maybe)

@JJ

April 7th, 2010
9:31 am

I gave up on the farms but I do need a 12 step for the zoo :)

Panda8

April 7th, 2010
9:31 am

People will give you a bit of time w/ some leeway – especially with the new phone. If you find the feature continues to be absorbing and it doesn’t taper off when it isn’t so ‘new’, you might want to setup some photo album (there are many options for this with different locations on the net that the Palm Pre can post to as easily as Facebook) to automatically post to instead, which won’t feed to other’s pages automatically, so only those interested go to see it (such as close family or a friend who is bored). Then you can post the ‘important’ ones to Facebook and still enjoy the feature, and Facebook can hold a link to the ‘full album’.

FB is for the Arrogant

April 7th, 2010
9:32 am

100,000,000 people have lived on earth, and these people think they have something profound and new to say?

@FB is for the Arrogant

April 7th, 2010
9:34 am

shut up you have no friends.. its obvious… you are gripping on here.. who would want to be friends with you

Spacey

April 7th, 2010
9:35 am

Thank you Yuki!
If you don’t like it, then just “hide” the offender. You can also “hide” those applications like Farmville and Mafia Wars. It is very easy to pick what shows up in your News Feed.
I really enjoy Facebook. I’m only friends with people who I actually know and care about. I love seeing the pictures of their children and their posts. Some people are much more interesting or funny in their posts than others (just like life) to me.
No, I do not have a problem with people in person or act differently face to face.

I agree with Zinc… You should not post something on FB that you would not say to someone’s face. I see a lot of religious posting on there. I guess that is more acceptable than political posting. I’m more of a kid’s pictures, status updates and the occasional political post from me. Although, I think most people know that I’m up for discussing politics and current events in person. I don’t do religion and I don’t post it.

Maybe I’ll have to follow Theresa. She sounds like my kind of poster!

Roswell Jeff

April 7th, 2010
9:39 am

I agree with JATL. Most of my friends on FB are family. A few are old friends that I have reconnected with. One of those friends is now hidden due to her constant “Praising the Lord” stuff. I don’t have a fancy phone, so I too have to drag out the cord from the camera. I check FB everyday, but I do not post everyday.

Soulfinger

April 7th, 2010
9:42 am

People lighten up!!! Facebook is a fun way to stay connected with people. Those of you who dont care to access the website..are welcome to stay away!

save the kids

April 7th, 2010
9:42 am

I am still not comfortable sharing so much of my life in this forum. I will not put my kids out there in cyber space. I just believe that many are following the crowd and doing what everyone else is doing. Just because everyone else is doing it doesn’t make it ok or “safe”.. Toooo many pervs out there!!!!!

Also, it is your page …Do What You Want…. If someone does not like it they can remove you as a friend or turn off your feed… It is really not your problem if they don’t like it… jmo ;-)

agray

April 7th, 2010
9:43 am

My family lives out of state, so I use facebook as a way to keep them up to date on their only grandchild’s growth. I’m not “friends” with a bunch of people that I don’t know – so if people don’t like seeing pictures of my child, they can defriend me. Those pictures aren’t on there for them anyway.

zoe

April 7th, 2010
9:43 am

I hope everyone knows facebook has this wonderful feature called “hide.” If someone is using an app you’d rather not see (horoscope, farmville, those stupid polls or quizes) you click on the right side of the post, a “hide” option comes up. You can either hide the friend or hide the app. I checked my hidden apps, I’ve hidden well over 100 and it makes it easier to skim through everything posted. If you hide a person, you can just go to their wall to catch up on all the little tidbits you blocked.

party pooper

April 7th, 2010
9:45 am

Regarding the “that is Twitter” comment……Facebook is becoming Twitter except without a limit to how much you can type.

To the person who uses Facebook a lot during the day because your work is “extremely slow”…maybe finding more work to do (or other ways to be productive and contribute) would be a better use of your time than playing games on Facebook? In this economy, it sure couldn’t hurt. And watch out for your employer monitoring your Facebook activity, many employers are reprimanding or even firing people for that these days!

Whoyoufoolin?

April 7th, 2010
9:45 am

All of you people who complain of others over posting are a a joke. You know whats more pathetic? Using FB but not being sure enough of yourself to post anything. It like telling on somebody for having their eyes open during the prayer, how do you know if you’re not doing it too? I agree some folks share too much for my taste, buts its fun and makes FB fun. Are you still afraid to use email too? haha dork.

Tolerant

April 7th, 2010
9:47 am

I have “hidden” many friends, and you know who you are

deidre_NC

April 7th, 2010
9:58 am

i use facebook a lot. it is how i keep up with family and friends who live far, plus with my over loaded schedule it also helps me keep up with local friends i dont get to see much. i like to see pics of certain things, but not just everyday inane stuff. i cant stand farmville and have blocked any messages from that app. i actually block all apps like that-all the different games etc. i have ‘hidden’ a few people who just post one thing after another and fill my whole page with flowers or hugs they send everyone…i really hate that…i want to see statuses that matter so i just ‘hide’ all the ones who do that. surprisingly to me so many of my kids friends have ‘friended’ me! that kinda shocked me at first-i never wouldve wanted my parents on mine or my friends facebook (if we had it back then). i guess that means they like me :). some i accept some i dont. what bothers me is all the people at work that request friendship…people i have to figure out who the heck they even are lol…i do not accept their request. i post a bible verse almost everyday and most of my friends like this. the ones that dont dont have to read it…i post pics for my family more than anything since we dont see each other often. i really dont have many pics…i have more of all our snow posted for my sister and her family who live in atlanta and dont see as much but love it.

@bertram-the people on my friends list are really friends or family so we dont interact any differently in person than we do in real life.

@wayne-you can hide all those farmville and other stuff that is so annoying….at the right side of the post there is a hide option…put your mouse on it and click the hide that application that pops up…thats what i do…

there is one friend of my daughter’s who only posts to complain or raise cain at someone i have her hidden lol..

my phone will send pics in a click but i dont use it often…i forget about it lol

BlondeHoney

April 7th, 2010
10:02 am

@agray, agree completely; I have no family here & Facebook is a great way to keep me connected with their daily lives. I can see how my 2 year olf neice is growing up even though I see her only 1-2 times a year. All my friends are actually my clcose friends and family only and I don’t have tons of pictures up either

deidre_NC

April 7th, 2010
10:08 am

i have to admit that on nights that i cant seem to sleep i have been known to take tons of quizzes…lol…all the time thinking.wth am i doing lol..but 2 am and sleepless theres not a lot to do…those quizzes just seem to be made for those times :) if someone doesnt like seeing all the quizzes ive bombarded the wall with they can hide them like i do …wont hurt my feelings a bit..

i have to say-my brother and sister (who really dont like each other) befriended each other….then one unfriended the other and caused a huge deal in the family….im like-who cares if someone unfriends you???/yall dont like each other anyway lol…i could care less if someone quits being my friend on facebook…i havent unfriended anyone but i sure have a lot of stuff hidden…

JJ

April 7th, 2010
10:10 am

I’ve reconnected with SO many friends, mostly from High School, on Facebook. It is a great tool to catch up with friends. I also found out about my daughter’s boyfriend on Facebook…..

Just this past weekend, my ex step daughter had a baby boy (my daughter is so excited to be an Aunt). I was able to see the pictures her mother posted.

JJ

April 7th, 2010
10:23 am

I’ve had to unfriend several people, due to their inappropriate posts, or pictures……

I had to unfriend my neighbor’s daughter, because of her boyfriend……he was flashing pictures of drugs, money, etc. and was posting horrible language…..and was picking fights with me. You don’t want to mess with me!!!!

deidre_NC

April 7th, 2010
10:31 am

what moron would post pics of drugs on facebook…good grief

DeaconFB'er

April 7th, 2010
10:33 am

I am a mid 30’s facebooker. Sometimes I go several days without posting a status, sometimes I post one daily…depends. Ironically, I’ve been known to not even log onto fb over a whole weekend, even though one would think that’s when the free time may be there. I KNOW some of my “fb friends” may not want to read musings on my faith but that’s a big part of my life. They are welcome to not read posts or hide them, etc as others said…but if someone is bothered that much by “Praising the Lord”, then it sounds like they are the ones who need to hear it.. Way to go, @deidre_NC! I also will not be fb friends with current co-workers, just out of common sense.

Two-Facedbook

April 7th, 2010
10:38 am

Don’t share too much – remember the story about the woman who tlaked on Facebook about her inherited jewelry from her grandmother and then mentioned her vacation plans – one of her Facebook “friends” broke in and robbed her when she wasn’t home. I always talk about my vacation AFTER I’ve already returned. I don’t want everyone knowing exactly when I’m home and away. All soemone has to do nowadays is Zabasearch your name and they conveniently get your address and a map to your house.

David

April 7th, 2010
10:38 am

Facebook can’t become twitter…facebook was before twitter! Twitter is absolutely stupid…if you aren’t famous then you are an idiot to have tweet yourself..

I get annoyed with some of my friends when they go to a place and take like 100 pictures of the same pose or something else…they dont live in the moment…but other than that..post what you want…and the correct word is “defriend” lol :)

farmville player

April 7th, 2010
10:38 am

You all do know you can EASILY turn off the Farmville, Mafia Wars, and other game feeds so that you never have to see them unless you feel like it. It saves from having to complain about it.

David

April 7th, 2010
10:40 am

and wow farmville player..i didnt know that..i thought you could only hide the person that posted it…I just tested it out..phew thats gonna save ALOT of space! Thanks!

Magenta

April 7th, 2010
10:42 am

I’m gravitating more and more toward Twitter lately. It takes less time to scroll through, even when following about as many people there as on FB. I noticed that many of my FB friends are also on Twitter, especially those who have a blog. Much easier to tweet, and no Farmville on Twitter, either! Several FB friends have been quietly dropped for that reason and this makes it a much faster read there. As for photos, I upload & promptly forget. Occasionally, a comment will get my attention, but I have to make an effort to go into my albums and see if anyone has commented. The best thing about uploading photos is you never have to worry they’ll get lost or destroyed. Finally, Facebook does provide that handy “hide” option. You overload me with your silly Farmville activities and you will be hidden until I find myself getting curious about you again.

DeaconFB'er

April 7th, 2010
10:43 am

@Two-Facedbook: I do the same thing about being away and not posting until after I’ve returned. I don’t even like to mention if we’re going to be gone for even a few hours! Maybe that’s taking it too far haha.