Are you too tired for sex?

A new study from the National Sleep Foundation shows about one in every four Americans married or living with someone says they are often too tired to have sex.

The New York Times reports:

“The study, based on a random sampling of 1,007 adults ages 25 to 60, focused on differences in sleep habits among ethnic groups — but the responses on tiredness and sex were about the same across the board.”

The report found that Whites were most likely to have a diagnosis of insomnia. Black were most likely to have sleep apnea and Hispanics stayed awake worrying about work, money and relationships.

The Asian-Americans reported getting the best sleep. Interestingly they were less likely to watch TV or drink alcohol before going to bed and were less likely to share a bed with their mate.

So what’s your status: Are you too sleep deprived to have sex? How many hours of sleep are you getting a night? What time are you getting to bed? Are your pre-bedtime ritual conducive to sleep:? What do you make of these racial breakdowns in the sleep study?

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None

March 9th, 2010
4:47 pm

I get none…and like it! Not…

T

March 9th, 2010
4:47 pm

@ BamBam – If she doesn’t touch it how will she know what she wants? Self love is very healthy and important. Heck, I like for you to watch me, while I do….

Simple Man....

March 9th, 2010
4:50 pm

T

March 9th, 2010
4:38 pm

It most likely has to do with some guys not being completely secure in their ability to satisfy a woman. They view any instruction as some sort of declaration of “Thats not it!!!) A conversation when sex is not forthcoming might go a long way towards moving past that, but i gotta say, I am all the the open dialog! I am all about listening to what makes you feel good and getting that done. It takes a strong confident woman to give “in game instruction” and a really confident man to put them into play!!!

Becky

March 9th, 2010
4:51 pm

@Tiger..Sorry to make you blush..As for talking, boy do we talk..If I want something done, I just tell (ask) him and vice versa..With my ex, it was all about pleasing him..With my husband now, it’s all about pleasing both of us..Women should be open to trying (just) about anything..Like was alwys said about Mikey, try it, you’ll like it..

BamBam

March 9th, 2010
4:51 pm

Heard it here first

March 9th, 2010
4:52 pm

First off – if you’re tired, change your diet and excericse – its almost that simple.

Second, if you dont feel like having sex, you either dont do it right, or your spouse is gross to you. Sex thats good for both parties will never get old. So basically alot of you are unhappy with your life or aspects of it, or your weight so sex suffers. Not for me my friends. Excercise is a great stimulant for sex – try it sometime.

Tiger Ochocinco Mellencamp

March 9th, 2010
4:52 pm

@Becky….words to live by!

TechMom

March 9th, 2010
5:07 pm

I’ve told my husband many times, early on in marriage especially, that I won’t cease to love him if he gets fat, but I won’t be turned on by him (his parents are both severely obese). 13 years into our relationship, I’m 15 pounds heavier but still on the slender side (I was 17 & rail thin when we met) but I work out 3-4 days a week and consider myself a healthy weight. He’s 75 pounds heavier and has no motivation to lose weight. Though I don’t intentionally withhold sex, it no doubt has an impact on my level of interest.

BamBam

March 9th, 2010
5:09 pm

@TechMom
So what do you propose to do about that

T

March 9th, 2010
5:13 pm

@ Tech Mom – that’s very honest of you. And I am sure it is HARD for him, because you have been so honest with him about that. Has he thought about addressing whatever the mental issues are that causes the weight? Maybe see a pyschologist or join a support group and don’t even talk about a diet, then just start walking, say it’s for you…if you could just get him to see a little results it may be the spark he needs to get motivated. You know, sometimes we have to come at these men through the back door girl…and let them believe it was all their idea. Good luck to you and your marriage.

TechMom

March 9th, 2010
5:20 pm

Not sure quite honestly. Sex is not real high on my priority list; never really has been though I’m quite sure in the long run it will impact our relationship negatively. Right now it’s easy to use the excuse of being too busy with ‘life’ but in a few years when the boy graduates from HS and it’s just us, I’m sure all this neglect will come back to haunt our relationship.

TechMom

March 9th, 2010
5:31 pm

@T, been there, done that but at the moment, trying to do stuff with him isn’t an option. He works out of town Mon-Fri but 4 days a week he gets off work at 4 or 4:30 and does NOTHING. He has access to a gym and probably has gone a total of 5 times in the past year. He says he doesn’t like it (ha, neither do I but I still go!). He’ll go through times when he is motivated and drop 50 pounds but usually within a year or so, he’s gained it right back. He does come from a family with mental and food issues. He is on anti-depressants and goes to counseling, though not specifically about the way he eats or his weight. I’ve tried not to press the issue too much from a weight perspective since he’s had to take this out-of-town job but more from a ‘you’ll have more energy and be less stressed’ perspective but that hasn’t seemed to work.

Joyce

March 9th, 2010
5:44 pm

Too tired for sex?,…..Never. Good sex is relaxing. I think people are too tired for BAD ,MEDIOCRE,RUN OF THE MILL, AVERAGE, ORDINARY SEX My husband and I never had that problem. Something we enjoyed everyday.

Simple man...

March 9th, 2010
5:53 pm

Joyce

March 9th, 2010
5:44 pm

SHOWOFF!!!! LOL

BlondeHoney

March 9th, 2010
6:14 pm

DEFINITELY not too tired for sex…had some awesome sex at lunchtime while you guys were busy posting about it ;) With my ex, it was all about him, him, him which was not much fun at all but with my guy now, WOW can’t get enough he is amazing. It helps that there are no little kids at home (we can scream as loud as we want) and key is that we both love pleasing each other :)