We’ll have two or three rounds of “The Marriage Umpire” today spread over several blogs. You can still send us your marital problem and we’ll help you solve it. (We actually do this all the time, but we’re officially playing this week as we await the new show “The Marriage Ref” by Jerry Seinfeld on NBC.)
In our first installment, we have a woman who will be wed this FRIDAY! So we need to help her sort out this problem before she heads down the aisle. Here’s what she writes:
“OK so I am not officially married yet… (I will be on Friday) But my husband to be and I just had a HUGE fight last night about decorating. He calls it clutter and I call it decorating. He wants nothing on the counter or table. I like to put candles and items on them. How can we compromise?”
Boy does this sound familiar! I think this is a very common problem among couples – hubby trying to get involved in the decorating. Throw pillows for your bed come to mind as a particular point of dispute for many couples.
When Michael and I first got married he kept vetoing bed spreads. He was killing me. Nothing floral at all. I took back three comforters until finally we settled on a plain white duvet – with eyelet edges. I don’t think he understood that eyelet is pretty girlie.
He also was way too involved in choosing our first cookware. My mother couldn’t believe how many opinions he had on domestic items. She felt like that should be my realm and he should butt out. On the other hand he did have to live there too.
Sixteen years later he’s far more relaxed about commenting on what I bring into the home, but I think we’ve also found some compromise. He’s OK with toile or floral on the pillow shams but not on the bedspread.
So what do you think: Does hubby get to vote about decorating? Are candlesticks and picture frames clutter or do they make a house a home? End their fight now before they head down the aisle.