Are you OK with Sunday activities for kids?

A friend recently asked on Facebook if anyone else had noticed a trend of kids’ activities being moved to Sundays.

We in fact have had two groups move many, if not all, of their meetings from weeknights to Sunday afternoons in the last two months.  Girls Scouts has moved entirely to Sunday afternoons. (The leader asked if it was OK and everyone said yes.) And Boy Scouts is still meeting some during their week but also some on Sundays as well. (They also asked if it was OK.)

I wouldn’t participate in any activity on Sunday that was during church hours in the morning.  I don’t mind the Sunday afternoon meetings too much. Since my husband is almost always home on Sundays I don’t have to drag all three children to the meetings. Also on Sundays he can help take their kids to the activities.

I hate having to rush through homework and dinner to do weeknight activities. So it has simplified our weeknights some.

My only objection is that sometimes it would be nice just to come from church and not have to go anywhere.

Do you see a trend toward Sunday games, meeting and activities for kids? If so, what do you think is spurring this trend?

How do you feel about Sunday activities? Does it make life simpler or cut into your weekends? Are you willing to meet on Sunday mornings? Would you mind Sunday afternoons?

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DB

February 16th, 2010
10:23 am

I don’t really care when my “down time” is, as long as I get it in there somewhere! When the kids were younger, we spent many a Sunday afternoon at club soccer games — but we found those times relaxing and fun family time, so we didn’t really resent that they were schedule on Sunday. As they got older, we had Girl Scout meetings on Sunday afternoons (after Sunday services, before Sunday evening services) because that was, literally, the ONLY time the girls (who were in three different high schools) could meet. I personally don’t think there’s anything particularly sacred about a Sunday as opposed to a Saturday morning or a Thursday evening. We had a good family friend, an observant Catholic, who would look at her month ahead of time, figure out who was doing what when (four kids), and write it on the calendar which mass the family woudl be attending — either Friday night, Saturday or Sunday. It was a priority for them, and I admired her flexibility in not insisting on Sunday to make it work for their family to attend together.

And while I may miss my chicken biscuit from Chik-Fil-A on Sunday, or the opportunity to browse through Hobby Lobby, I have to admit, I’m glad for their employees that they can count on one day off during the week.

5!!!

February 16th, 2010
10:26 am

Sundays are not a day of rest for me BECAUSE of church. Have to set the alarm to be there. Rush out the door. I attend a small church which is like having a second job. Be there early to take care of all the things that need doing. and stay late to watch children.

Then out to lunch, then chores.

Saturdays are usually filled with “have tos” as well. Have to do the laundry. have to mow the yard. Have to clean the gutters. have to rake leaves. Have to clean the house.

Weekdays are out the door by 7 to make it to school on time, then to work, then home by 6. Dinner, help with homework, light chores, meetings at various groups.

A day of rest every week? Sounds great, but its not even close to realistic for me.

A day of rest once a quarter is more like it.

mystery poster

February 16th, 2010
10:29 am

I don’t understand what the big deal is. You don’t like a 2PM Sunday birthday party? Don’t go. It’s an invitation, not a summons.

5!!!

February 16th, 2010
10:33 am

I don’t like a 2PM SATURDAY birthday party. Sunday would be better.

And 2PM is better than 4PM. The problem is you have it hanging over your head all day. You can’t get started on something else because you will have to do that later.

I can’t tell you how many times I am in the middle of a project and I realize I have 3o minutes to go get myself cleaned up so that I can get my son to a birthday party. I am not going to let my son miss a birthday party over my chores. I am just saying it would be more convenient to get those thigns over with in the morning

Also, its nice when children’s birthday parties have things for the adults too. Obviously, if you chose Chuck E Cheese, then its going to be a chore for the adult. However, if you choose your home or a park, you could serve adult food and beverages as well as pizza, hotdogs, and sugary drinks.

cld

February 16th, 2010
10:37 am

I think my last post got lost . . .

@mystery poster – I will let you deal with the inquisition from my in-laws when we skip those parties. The fallout of not going usually is worse than just going.

I don’t care for the 2 p.m. parties because it seems like I get half-way through what I need to do for the day, then have to switch gears, and by the time I get home, it’s time for dinner. Plus, with a toddler nap schedule, having to be somewhere at 2 p.m. means choosing between arriving late or disrupting his nap schedule – so it’s partially just the phase we’re in right now. But then again, we never DO anything on Saturday nights, so 4 p.m. wouldn’t shift any of our plans. 4 p.m. on Sunday, though, is the pits. That is one invitation I would refuse, regardless of the fallout. Hello, people who work during the week, need some time to decompress and prep for Monday.

Becky

February 16th, 2010
10:37 am

@Photius..Our two grandchildren aren’t involved in any activities and it works for us just fine..They both do want to try golf and when it’s warmer, we’ll let them..They are both left handed, so not sure if we’ll be able to find someone to teach them that is also left handed..This leave us lots of time to just take off on weekends and do other things..We spend a lot of time outdoors (in the mountains) when it’s nice outside..To me, this is just as important as having them in 500 “activities”..

@ABC..To this day, I won’t go to a grocery store that is open on Thanksgiving or Christmas..I know that this is just me, but I feel that those of days that you should be with family (if thats your choice)..I know that there are jobs that you can’t be off for these days and I’m fine with that..

@JJ..Not sure if I’m the nicest person on here, but thank you..

@MJG..Good luck with the car hunt..I found mine on the AJC..We looked for 3-4 months until we found just what we were looking for..

TechMom

February 16th, 2010
10:43 am

Unless the kids are under the age of 5 or 6 or don’t play any sports, Saturday mornings are a terrible time for birthday parties. Almost all athletic organizations schedule games on Saturdays between 8am – 4pm (unless it’s baseball and they schedule games whenever they very well please – at least in our county).

mystery poster

February 16th, 2010
10:45 am

Re: hanging around Chuck E Cheese
Have things changed that much since my kids were young? Why do the parents need to hang around at their kids’ friends bday parties. Drop them off and pick them up at the predetermined times.

YUKI

February 16th, 2010
10:48 am

I just finished reading Truett Cathy’s book about how he insists on Chick-fil-a being run. Very interesting…makes me respect CFA and his business practices even more. He insistes that the individual owners spend a lot of time in the restaurants and they are very picky about who they hire. I myself have gone in with just a toddler and the young high school guy taking my order offered to bring my food to me at the table so that I could get myself and my son situated. I was more than impressed. The restaurants themselves seem cleaner and the employees are friendly in almost every situation. I would go there over McDonalds any day. Have you seen some of the people working in the other fast food restaurants sometimes??? Customer service is obviously not as big of a priority. And I do belive that all of this comes down to Mr. Cathy’s religious beliefs. His faith is what helps him to run his business and to do so many things for the community. And no, I’m not related to him just very impressed with his operation!!

TechMom

February 16th, 2010
10:49 am

@mystery poster – most parents don’t feel comfortable doing that- they’re paranoid because they heard on the news one time or got forwarded a chain email about a kid who got abducted from Chuck E Cheese. They don’t consider the fact that like 98% of kids who get abducted, are taken by family members from their own houses.

YUKI

February 16th, 2010
10:49 am

sorry, a few typos in my post above please excuse them!

wmsmommy

February 16th, 2010
10:49 am

I ALWAYS want Chick Fil-A on Sundays!

wmsmommy

February 16th, 2010
10:49 am

I ALWAYS want Chick Fil-A on Sundays!

wmsmommy

February 16th, 2010
10:50 am

I ALWAYS hate it when I post twice!

Erin

February 16th, 2010
10:54 am

I would hope that most places would not shut down all on the same day of the week. Most people do not work 7 days a week, EVEN if their workplace is open that long – that’s what shifts and schedules are for. Yes, people should get breaks (and I’d give a lot to get a 10 hr/ 4 day schedule myself) but even the weekends as they are make it extremely difficult for a regular office worker to get most things done. I have a LOT of trouble scheduling ANYTHING – doctor appointments, dentist, estimates for house work, DMV trips, tag/tax office trips, pharmacy pickups, etc. Everything is closed whenever I’m free. If schedules were not duplicated everywhere, it’d be so much easier to have a day to catch up and a day to rest, and not be half nuts about it – I’d gladly give up one of my two weekend days for a Monday or Friday.

More to the original topic, no, no problem with Sundays here. It seems that would be a great time for scheduling such meetings – everything else is closed, and most of these activities are ‘rest’/ fun activities anyways – better than couch time for the weekend. If you are taking a more traditional view of this day of rest, don’t most of these activities fit that bill? Chances for friends and camaraderie – it is a healthy break (and if not, and you’re overwhelmed, it may be time to re-evaluate the number of activities, regardless of what day they are on).

@ the could an atheist be president question… No, not yet. A more local position, probably, but the country still has a LOT of prejudices ingrained that would tend to prevent that.
Really, it has always scared me when someone asks how someone can be moral without church – if that person is held back only by a rule – to the point that they don’t understand not wanting to do such bad things, then that is not very reassuring.

5!!!

February 16th, 2010
10:54 am

“Why do the parents need to hang around at their kids’ friends bday parties. Drop them off and pick them up at the predetermined times.”

It depends on the party. If the parents hosting the party offer that to you, then its ok to leave. If it is not offered, I would not assume that its OK. I have been to a few parties where the parents say, “You can stay if you like or come back later”. Thats nice, but its not always and its not assumed its OK.

I have attended a few birthday parties where adults and children both are catered to and have a nice time. I think thats the way to go. For example, if you have the party at your home and its during a sporting event such as college football, or a Braves game, put the game on in a room of the house with some adult snacks and beverages and let the children’s activities be elsewhere in your home.

cld

February 16th, 2010
10:55 am

Also, my particular comment about the maddening Sunday party was an isolated incident: not Sunday vs. Saturday in general. We wanted a Saturday lunch party for our son. SIL couldn’t make it. We moved it to Sunday to accommodated. Her Saturday plans fell through but she couldn’t make Sunday either. She cries that she never sees him . . .

motherjanegoose

February 16th, 2010
10:56 am

@ YUKI…lol…I know some here will think I am nuts but I prefer not to be waited on by a person who ( as my husband says)” looks like they fell into a tackle box head first”.

Where my daughter works ( I am not saying) they cannot wear any jewelry or nail polish…no tatoos either. I was surprised but everyone in there is clean and neat and thus I feel better about where she works too!

Cammi317

February 16th, 2010
11:05 am

I don’t want to HAVE TO DO anything on Sunday afternoon. My daughter and I have began the trend of catching an afternoon movie, but that is relaxing mommy-daughter time. It is stressful running from activity to activity during the week, but it would be more stressful for me to have obligations on Sunday afternoon instead of relaxing and getting prepared for week.

RJ

February 16th, 2010
11:06 am

As a true southerner, I can tell you that Sundays have alway been off limits for anything other than church activities and family time. I have noticed more and more activities being scheduled on Sundays. I’m okay with some things, but not everything. My son’s basketball team actually had an AAU game scheduled Easter morning a few years ago. Are you serious? Needless to say the game was canceled. Apparently whoever planned it didn’t realize that Easter is the most holy Christian day.

Since I have to leave my house at 6:30am, I really like to rest on Sundays. My kids are older so no more birthday parties at Chuck E Cheese, so I’m past that. Someone mentioned just not going, but it’s not always that simple. Imagine if my son’s game hadn’t been canceled. He would’ve been devastated. Regardless of how diverse our city is, I think people need to consider that the majority of people recognize Sunday as the Sabbath and should plan accordingly.

@lulu, it seems that you grew up with some negative experiences with church folk. My beliefs are what keep me grounded; without them I would indeed be lost. You have a right to believe whatever you choose, just as Christians do.

lulu

February 16th, 2010
11:07 am

I believe it was stated earlier that people not going to church was what was wrong with the world. People have different reasons for not going to church; it is not because we are bad people. I have nothing but respect for church-goers who actually act like Christians.

I was not comparing church-goers to criminals; it was asked whether prisoners were spiritual. And many of them are. I’m not sure how that makes me unethical.

motherjanegoose

February 16th, 2010
11:17 am

@ Erin…you CAN certainly be moral without church.
Some can be moral in the midst of evil and I have ultimate respect for those folks.
I am inclined to RJ’s comment:

My beliefs are what keep me grounded; without them I would indeed be lost. You have a right to believe whatever you choose, just as Christians do.

I can certainly drive a 5 speed ( on the interstate here in Atlanta) as I used to drive one for years and could probably pick it up. If I drove one once a week, it might come quicker to me and make my trip easier….say tomorrow.

When I am in church once a week, it reminds me of the things I need to do and the way I need to live ( in the face of adversity) ….comes quicker to me when I perhaps need it most….LOL.

Michelle….still waiting for your e-mail from T.

Julia

February 16th, 2010
11:27 am

Nope, we have too much to do on Sunday.. Church in the morning. I am in the choir and he is in the orchestra. Then at 4 they have orchestra practice and service that night… Our day is packed.

mystery poster

February 16th, 2010
11:30 am

Re: having an atheist president:
In 1960, they never thought JFK would get elected because he was Catholic. Just sayin’

Wayne

February 16th, 2010
11:30 am

I don’t know that not going to church is what is wrong with the world, but I do know that church attendance is much lower now than what it used to be. Up here, churches are either closing or consolidating. It might be an indicator of folks and their thoughts on Sunday’s? If less people are attending church, than it must be okay to schedule events on a Sunday.

And don’t get me started about event times. My wife’s family likes to schedule holiday events at 5:00 p.m. Whether or not the next day is a work day or not! Oh man, I blasphemed one year by having Thanksgiving at 1:00 p.m…

Julia

February 16th, 2010
11:30 am

5!!! just take them down to six flags or the mall with out supervision. **rolls eyes**

Michelle

February 16th, 2010
11:33 am

T-did you get my message?

Erin

February 16th, 2010
11:36 am

I’d rather see a business that is somewhat sensitive in it’s scheduling than one that plays some PC gamble of close on the Christian days. Closed doesn’t mean nobody is giving up their holiday (many of those businesses still have warehouse, shelving, counting, cleaning going on – sometimes overnight, and the schedule bears no arguments), and open doesn’t have to mean forcing Christians to work on their own holidays (would nobody trade out Christmas for their own religion’s day?)- wouldn’t it be better to work with the employees to give them their most relevant holiday/family days off, rather than being one size fits all, and perhaps still have some minimal staffing for quick pick ups when the holiday item is ruined/burnt/whatever or child has a holiday cold or whatever else?

Wayne

February 16th, 2010
11:36 am

Julia! You are still around!

Sally

February 16th, 2010
11:41 am

Do you think CFA will go the way of other fast food places? “Can I axe you a question?” and “We don’t got that here”? Speaking of hat,did anyone try the free breakfast promotion at Denny’s? I guess they found a price point that their customers could afford.

Becky

February 16th, 2010
11:41 am

Based on my experience with people in prison, as I was told once..They all find God when they are there, but when they get out they tend to lose him..Grew up with a guy that killed someone in a bar fight..Went to prison, found God, became a preacher..Fast forward to a couple of years after being released, back in jail for probation violation..Again, some church people are walking the talk and living the life, some aren’t..So lulu, if you don’t go to church, how do you know what christians are suppose to act like?

Jan

February 16th, 2010
11:42 am

Hey 5, thanks to your parenting philosophy, white water and six flags have become gang land.

cld

February 16th, 2010
11:49 am

@Erin, When I worked in the food and retail industries (short-lived in high school), we had no employees who celebrated something BESIDES Christmas. We had our fair share of employees who only celebrated the commercial aspect of the holiday, but they didn’t even pretend it was a religious thing. So to ask if someone can switch for their own religious holiday, is operating under the assumption there are employees who celebrate something else. Yes, there are people who aren’t Christian – but in those two cases, I didn’t work with anyone who celebrated anything other than Christmas.

@Sally, I REALLY hope they don’t!

Julia

February 16th, 2010
11:49 am

Hey Wayne, the boy and I have both been sicker than dogs. He had a sinus infection – gave it to me – I gave it back and then he got pneumonia.

Becky

February 16th, 2010
11:50 am

Where’s Tiger?

motherjanegoose

February 16th, 2010
11:51 am

@ Sally ROFL.

I have to share this on the blog. I bank at two banks: PEOPLE’S BANK in Gwinnett County ( I love them and they are the BEST with customer service) and Bank of America. I HATE B of A. They act like they appreciate you….WHEN YOU GET TO THE COUNTER….after waiting 15-20 minutes behind folks who have no account with the bank, no ID or no idea what they want to do at the bank.

Last week, I was in there to make a deposit and had to wait. It was 3:00 in the afternoon the middle of the week. When I finally got to the counter…the person who stepped over to help me was some type of VP and told me she appreciated me waiting and my patience. I told her that I was not patient and that I hated banking there even though I have had an account with them for 20 years.

After a bit of hem hawing, she said she wanted my banking experience to be memorable and hoped things would change for the better.

I told my husband and he told me that I should go back in there and close out my savings account…ask for CASH and share that I wanted this to be a memorable day for her.
I thought it was a riot.

Are you saying ( Sally) that some dining experiences are more memorable than others…..:).

Wayne

February 16th, 2010
11:56 am

@MJG: I dislike BofA greatly. One of my last experiences, my wife says I should write a book on it. It was awful. I was telling the ‘agents’ how they conduct business. To long a story for here, but just don’t take your B0fA American Express card into any branch and expect to use it. Just sayin’

Wayne

February 16th, 2010
11:57 am

@Julia: I feel for your son. I had pneumonia and it sucked. It does seem to be making the rounds though, I’ve noticed.

Erin

February 16th, 2010
12:01 pm

@cld That hasn’t really been what I’ve seen – either in high school at such jobs, or later in more office type settings. However, as few are interested in such accommodations, and it invariably means trouble at work, there is little point in making any diversity known or obvious.

motherjanegoose

February 16th, 2010
12:05 pm

@ Wayne…I have a Hilton Honors American Express with nearly 800,000 points on it from business purchases…no balance. I use it for FREE trips as we can stay at any hotel in the Hilton chain.
( anywhere from 30-70 nights for free now or 4 people on cruise)

Thanks for the tip!

Sorry, since I do go to church perhaps I should not have said hate…LOL.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 16th, 2010
12:06 pm

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Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 16th, 2010
12:08 pm

Julia –did you both get some get good meds — what do they treat pneumonia with?? they think my brother had it in the hospital from all the laying around in ICU – very common!! Hope you both feel better soon — I am so sorry you guys have been so sick!!

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 16th, 2010
12:08 pm

mjg – that’s a crapload of points — what’s your plan for those??

Julia

February 16th, 2010
12:18 pm

they gave him antibiotics I cant remember which one but it was stronger than amoxil They also had me do his breathing machine around the clock for 3 days and keep his humidifier on as well… it was LOADS of fun :)

Lisa

February 16th, 2010
12:24 pm

@MJG – so in your 11:51 am post, you’re saying that one of the bank officers was especially nice to you, apologized and tried to help you, and you and your husband are being nasty to the woman?

You surely have no class. Shame on you.

NFulton

February 16th, 2010
12:29 pm

If Chick-fil-A made hiring decisions (teen or otherwise) with any preference to church attendance, they would be breaking the law! It’s call the EEO and it’s a federal law to prohibit job discrimination.

Erin

February 16th, 2010
12:36 pm

@NFulton They have been sued on such grounds – and settled out of court. Many of the stores have employee daily prayers.

Jane

February 16th, 2010
12:37 pm

@NFulton – you said “it’s a federal law to prohibit job discrimination.”

Um, wanna rethink that one?!?!

Julia

February 16th, 2010
12:39 pm

Lisa, I doubt that she was nasty to the woman in the bank and I bet a kidney you have said a snide comment under your breath at some point.

motherjanegoose

February 16th, 2010
12:40 pm

@ Lisa, this is not the first time I have been told that they (Bank of America) appreciate my patience and they want me to be happy. The officer was actually not especially nice…she came over to clean up a mess of a line with 12 customers waiting when there was one teller for the drive through and one at the counter. It was not a good day.

They offer lots of lip service but the banking experience itself continues to be a bad one. I have heard this from others too ( including the lady in front of me who told me she closed her account and move to Wachovia but promised her mother she would take her checks to the bank).

Even Clark Howard ( here in Atlanta) recommends not banking with them. He also tells us to vote with our pocketbook and ( to me) this means putting my money somewhere where they appreciate me. After 20 YEARS I am not convinced.

I am a Medallion with Delta and a Gold Level with Hilton, Holiday Inn and Choice Hotels. Each of them recognizes my continued loyalty and appreciates my business. They offer perks and greet me with a ‘THANKS FOR FLYING/ STAYING WITH US…WE APPRECIATE YOUR BUSINESS” When you are appreciated, you are more apt to remain loyal….maybe it is just me?

Would anyone continue to eat at a restaurant where the service is always slow and you have to wait for your food only to be apologized to every single time? Not me….

Theresa…I use my points to take various trips when I want to. We went to NYC last year and stayed at the Embassy Suites. My daughter and I will go to the beach over spring break. My husband may go to Las Vegas with our son as our son does not like the beach . We will also go to Boston this summer. I am frugal with the points and cash them in a little at a time, so I can have a fun treat once in a while. We went to the Smokey Mountains on my Choice Points in December.

Have you sent me Michelle’s e-mail yet? I do not see it. Thanks!