Is Victoria’s Secret meant for Moms?

I took a very discouraging shopping trip to Victoria’s Secret last week that made me wonder if the store and the line are actually meant for mothers.

I got my hair cut and colored and dropped into the store on my way home. I was actually alone, which rarely happens, and thought it be nice to buy a couple of new sexy items. Other than some fairly plain supportive bras and panties from Target (so sad!!), I haven’t bought any new sexy stuff in probably six years. (I keep trotting old the same numbers hoping Michael still likes them.)

I went in with high expectations all excited about the different colors and styles of the little nighties and sexy bras.  I felt like there were just hundreds of choices all around the store. But then the saleslady measured my chest.

She deemed me a 38-D and walked over and pulled out a drawer and said here are the bras in your size.

I was reduced from an entire store to a drawer!!

(In fairness I think there was one other drawer she could pull from, but definitely not a whole store.)

Very depressing. Color options very limited and styles greatly reduced. As for the nighties, a lot of them have bras inside of them which were all too small for my particular chest size. It was also very depressing.

At least the panties fit!

I came home all deflated (pun intended).  I told Michael I was trying to surprise him with some new sexy stuff but nothing fit.

In a shocking moment of a husband saying exactly right thing, Michael said, “Honey that store isn’t for you. It’s for young girls with no curves. It’s not for women.”

He made me feel a lot better. I know I can’t shop at Gap because the clothes just aren’t cut for women with curvy hips, and I guess it’s the same now for Victoria’s Secret.

I dropped into a local specialty lingerie store yesterday, Necessities by Sherrie, and she had lots of stuff in D-cup sizes. Unfortunately I had a toddler with me so I told her I would be back another day to try on.  I felt like an idiot wasting my time last week at Victoria’s Secret. I should have just headed to Sherrie’s.

What has your experience been with the sizes and cuts at Victoria’s Secret? Do you think they are meant for young women who haven’t gained the curves of childbearing? Are there other stores or other lines that you find you just can’t wear since having kids? Where do you have the best luck finding sexy stuff for mothers with curvy shapes?

Editor’s Update: In researching this blog I did find a few more 38D and DD sizes on Victoria’s Secret Web site so maybe they have more online in the bustier sizes than in the store. Although, it’s hard to buy without trying on unless you just plan to send back a bunch.

148 comments Add your comment

Wayne

February 4th, 2010
12:39 pm

I’m learning so much by reading this blog: ‘Major mountain ranges’ I have -never- heard that one!

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 4th, 2010
12:41 pm

In my experience, major mountain ranges are accompanied by generous buttes.

Momof2Girls

February 4th, 2010
12:45 pm

@Tiger, sorry to disappoint, but I am a svelte size 6 (sometimes 8) on the bottom. This is an expansion from the size 1 to size 3 I was in high school, but when you get to be my age (born during the hippy era), you have to make some allowances. Being a guy (I assume), you wouldn’t know that the 30 in 30GG means that my back size is quite small.

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 4th, 2010
12:50 pm

@MOMof2..thanks for the lesson! I actually stole that theory from a movie called “beautiful girls” with Timothy Hutton, Matt Dillon, and Rosi O’Donnell. Rosie gave a monologue that generally speaking, bigger up top had a direct relationship to the size of the rump. And generally speaking, the smaller the back side, the smaller up top. After I watched that movie, I started looking around….and generally speaking, it stood on its merits. No judgement applied, some guys are boob men, some guys are butt guys. But those fortunuate women, who without comsetic enhancements, that have the perfect small butt and perfectly sized boobs are in the minority. Just my opinion of course.

SRH

February 4th, 2010
12:52 pm

I don’t think it is fair to judge all VS models are being silicone-enhanced. Heidi Klum has had tons of kids and seems to be able to find VS bras (of course she has trainers and such, and a perfectly fitted bra) and she is naturally endowed. Same for Tyra Banks, a very curvy gal. When did “curvy” become fat, and when did anything below a size 8 become a stick figure?? I do agree that VS tends to fit a younger crowd in terms of colors and patterns, and I have’t shopped there in years. I agree with MJD that you can find great stuff – high quality and name-branded – at Marshalls. You just need to be able to sift through a lot. Valentine’s Day coming up – I think may have to trade my cottons for sothing more enticing :). Good luck Teresa!

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 4th, 2010
12:56 pm

@SRH……well said SRH. Personally I find it surprising that a major international fashion conglomerate like VS would target the youth demographic by digitally enhancing their models and making them look thinner and younger. SHOCKING!

Allie

February 4th, 2010
1:23 pm

I love to shop at VS and have never had an issue finding something cute/sexy/comfy in my size – which is 36DD. I’ve noticed some of the sales people would rather cater to the young, skinny, perky customers so I just help myself to each drawer until I find what I’m looking for.

Did anyone tell you to look for difference sizes? For example, while they measured me to be a 36DD, I can also wear a 38C or D, depending on the style and the cut. My sister is an almost B cup, and has a harder time than me finding something to wear in there.

Kris

February 4th, 2010
1:25 pm

Geez, all you ladies with the Ds, Es, GGs, Js, etc!!
Where was I when our maker was handing these out??

HB

February 4th, 2010
1:33 pm

Re: models. I seriously doubt the models are wearing exactly what one would buy off the rack (so to speak). I would imagine everything is tailored to fit them perfectly on the runway and in photos.

Michelle

February 4th, 2010
1:38 pm

Momof2girls…yep all natural…and my grandmothers were both quite large as well! I was hoping I’d be lucky and lose some with pregnancy…it just wasn’t in the cards! :o(

I live over in Gwinnett county. I doubt that I will drive to Marietta, but I guess I can never say never!

RJ

February 4th, 2010
1:47 pm

“But those fortunuate women, who without cosmetic enhancements, that have the perfect small butt and perfectly sized boobs are in the minority.” That’s a matter of opinion. Beyonce doesn’t have the perfect “small butt” and she looks awesome! I like my round, well endowed behind. My husband reminds me that it was definitely a huge attraction (we’ve been together since I was 20). With the number of Brazilian Butt Implants (and exercise videos) being done today, more men are liking them as well.

Michelle

February 4th, 2010
1:48 pm

Man…I’d like to have a bigger bootie! I don’t really have one! The chest was extra blessed and the bootie was neglected! ;o)

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 4th, 2010
1:50 pm

My apologies to all…maybe I’ve been influenced inappropriately by Rosie!!! I promise to spend the entirety of my weekend at the grocery store and mall checking out all the padunkadunks in relation to the size of the mountain ranges!!! It will be a labor of love!

JJ

February 4th, 2010
2:00 pm

Tiger please report back on Monday morning with your results. :((

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 4th, 2010
2:02 pm

@JJ…yeah, i’m sure I won’t be labelled a pig for that!!!

Tiffany

February 4th, 2010
2:26 pm

I don’t like to hear that Victoria’s Secret is not for moms! I just think it has more to do with your bra size than anything. ANY mom should be able to go into a store and buy herself something sexy if that’s what she wants. I have found however that most of the mall stores seem to cater to teens…and that goes for just about any type of clothing. Tiny waists…no curves. If a store has an online version you can usually find a MUCH BETTER selection of sizes. That being said, it is better to be able to try the stuff on…so finding a store that caters to the curvy would be a real time saver. I do wear the VS panties, and I love their lotions, ect. But I, like Theresa must search for a more supportive bra.

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 4th, 2010
3:27 pm

OMG…I just clicked on the necessities by sherrie link. Do you know how hard it is for a guy to actually fall asleep perusing women in their underwear? Unless you’re shopping here for absolute comfort, disregarding ANY visual aesthetics…RUN, DO NOT WALK from this store. And ladies, if you’re looking for something to treat your hubby to visually, unless the store has a much bigger selection thant the website, you’re not exactly making a statement that says “look at me baby!”

I felt like I was 8 again looking at the Sears catalog! It was like looking at stuff my mom would wear. Ugghh. I need to go take a shower.

motherjanegoose

February 4th, 2010
3:35 pm

@ andrea…thanks for the compliment. I know some folks here do NOT get what I am talking about., nor do they care…others might.

Sometimes in meetings, I will make a comment and 9 out of 10 people are laughing their heads off and the rest are looking at my with a deer in a headlights look.

I do know that there are those ( here) who cannot stand me or perhaps have no idea what I am talking about.

Last week, I was in Houston and talking about a literacy game I play with kids called the:

WHAT DOESN’T BELONG GAME

it is a way to distinguish attributes and classification.

Anyway, I shared several examples including;

PIG PENGUIN COW ( one way is penguin does not live on the farm)

ICE CREAM PUDDING POPSICLE ( one way is popsicle is not a dairy product)

CAR WAGON BUS ( one way is the wagon does not have an engine)

Remember, I work with teachers of young children.

I asked the teachers in the session to come up with their own set of items and share it with their neighbors.

The back row busted out laughing and I asked what what up. A lady said:

ALCOHOL, PROZAC, HUSBANDS

I was thinking….”where is she going with this?”

She said….you will need alcohol or Prozac if you have a husband and will not need either if you don’t.

I AM CERTAIN SOME FOLKS DID NOT GET IT!!!!

But to her, it made perfect sense!

lovelyliz

February 4th, 2010
3:40 pm

I’ll say this again, if VS small, not extra-small, panties fit well on an underweight 10 year old girl, it’s time for anyine above a size 6/8 or a 34C to go elsewhere.

YUKI

February 4th, 2010
3:57 pm

Beautiful Girls is a great movie.

HB

February 4th, 2010
4:01 pm

And the “woe is me, no one gets me here, but clients think I’m brilliant” rant relates to the discussion how? Sorry, if I missed something, but today’s really seemed to come out of nowhere.

motherjanegoose

February 4th, 2010
4:25 pm

@ HB. sorry if I bug you…the feeling is usually mutual.

Someone said this once before and I do not know who it was:

this blog is like chatting over the fence with neighbors as the conversation may veer off into a different arena and then it can also come back. We may not stay on topic. This is what some Moms do. I would guess Dads too.

I said something about shoes earlier and others mentioned a shoe comment too. I also mentioned thongs and JJ shared a funny story about thongs ( NOT UNDERWEAR) that I thought was hysterical.

I was just sharing something I found to be funny that happened to me.
I missed the part about all posts, on this blog, needing to stay strictly on topic title.

I was replying to Andrea:
February 4th, 2010
9:10 am

@MJG: I mean I appreciate you just as you are. Some call it sarcasm, I say it’s wit. Besides, I think you sometimes break one of my cardinal rules – Never have a battle of wits with an unarmed opponent! Have a great day.

I remember Julia mentioning something about her bird a while back and I do not recall the topic being bird related. She just wanted to share.

Yesterday, I shared about volunteering at the check in desk and then Becky shared something else related to that. The topic was not about volunteering nor the check in desk.

I will leave it to those who ONLY have underwear stories today and sorry for the trouble.
Have a good evening!

New Stepmom

February 4th, 2010
4:27 pm

This discussion has made me chuckle!!!! I am fortunate to have a body that I like (size 8 when not pregnant) and i am tall and can find bras easily. I do tend to like the Wacoal brand which is pricier, but they last forever. I have had quality problems at VS as well.

Theresa, it sounds like you have a good spot close to home, but Intimacy at Phipps is great for bigger bra sizes.

Wayne

February 4th, 2010
4:31 pm

Phipps out here where I live is a couple of package stores. I get a totally different picture when y’all talk about Phipps!

HB

February 4th, 2010
4:34 pm

Nope, no need to stick strictly to topic. There’s just usually some kind of jumping off point for your diatribes about people here not getting you, but for the life of me on this one, I couldn’t figure out what it was (still don’t see it really, but whatever). Rant away…

JATL

February 4th, 2010
4:46 pm

Hee hee Wayne -yes, Phipps here is Atlanta’s most upscale mall with shops like Saks, Versace, Gucci, etc. They have started catering to “regular” folks in the last 10 years though and they do have a Nordstrom, J.Jill, Chico’s, etc. Still really nice (and not exactly cheap) stores, but stuff you can actually wear and afford! Intimacy there is awesome!

Cammi317

February 4th, 2010
4:48 pm

Better question of the day is should a 9 year old be coming out with a line of Lingerie. Did any of you see that crazy article about Miley Cyrus’s little sister? There were pictures of her scantily clad as well as pictures of her at a pole dancing class. Someone please call DFACS!

Cammi317

February 4th, 2010
4:50 pm

JATL

February 4th, 2010
5:01 pm

OK -Cammi317 you’re right -that’s GROSS! And, she’s even uglier than her sister! I’m so thankful I don’t have pre-teen or young teen daughters. Who on earth is the Cyrus publicist? That person deserves millions from them because Miley is one of the ugliest trashy looking things I’ve seen in a long time and this sister looks even worse!

rmh

February 4th, 2010
6:24 pm

This 59 year-old has several pair of thong panties. However, they don’t stay on long. I am also big chested. I have gotten some sexy stuff at JC Penny and online. Your husband is correct. Victoria’s Secret is for little girls, not women with curves.

justmy2cents

February 4th, 2010
6:30 pm

Skimmed through the responses….I am a 36/38 DD and have LOTS of bras and panties from VS. As far as sexy stuff for men goes…show up nekkid, with beer….if you have to do more than that…he is probably gay or SO not into you. Quit overthinking it women!

Way

February 4th, 2010
6:31 pm

i almost missed the discussion… i go with liz claiborne or calvin klein. i abandoned VS – the quality is just not the same as it was 10 years ago. i have to say that i loved VC cotton underware, but lately their cotton became so see-though. i think VS lately became so teen oriented. as for my girls, they are small :-(, so i can get my bra almost in every store.

I love underware and my “comfort zone” is about 40 pairs.

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 4th, 2010
6:36 pm

@justmy2cents….nekkid with beer…you southern belles get right down to business. I’ll admit, most guys will initially be glad that’s your move…but after about a year..that gets pretty old.

JATL

February 4th, 2010
7:35 pm

True -I’ve always found nekkid -with or without the beer -to do the trick!

FCM

February 4th, 2010
10:51 pm

Shoot there are times you don’t even need the beer! Call your honey on his/her cell phone and ask them to please come see you (state a place/room) because you have a problem. When they show up be nekkid or otherwise let them know what the “problem” is.

The guy I dated for awhile (broke up almost a year ago) loved this one: I called him and he did not answer his phone. I left a voice mail that plainly stated “Too bad you did not answer. This was your Booty Call. If you call back soon you might get lucky. You wait too long I might have lost the mood.” He called about an hour later (he lived a 45 min drive from my house) and said “you had better go to your door or your neighbors will be calling the cops.” don’t recall what I wore to the door but I doubt he cared. He walked in, locked it grabbed me in a fierce kiss and um……I remember still being in bed at noon the next day. I ;)

Some how I don’t think it is all that a new an idea either:
“Well East coast girls are hip
I really dig those styles they wear
And the Southern girls with the way they talk
They knock me out when I’m down there

The Mid-West farmer’s daughters really make you feel alright
And the Northern girls with the way they kiss
They keep their boyfriends warm at night” (Beach Boys–no I am not that old! It is CLASSIC).

Justmy2cents

February 5th, 2010
8:17 am

I am NOT a Southern belle…ewww…damn Yankee here. Tiger- I over-simplified it of course, but if, initially, that does not garner the response wanted…time to move on. Besides, you know you can’t throw all your mojo out there at once. You have to unveil your tips & tricks gradually to keep things interesting.

Van Jones

February 5th, 2010
9:18 am

“but after about a year..that gets pretty old.”???

Which team do you play for? Or are you a switch hitter?

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 5th, 2010
9:54 am

@Van….yeah, look how well a wife just being available to have sex worked for Tiger’s wife, Elin! I’m telling you ladies, if your signature move that you go to 99% of the time is to just get naked (with or without beer), I’ll admit your guy may oblige every time…but sooner or later, he’s thinking and wishing you were trying something new (or wishing or fantasizing that he was with someone else who would!)

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 5th, 2010
10:04 am

New topic up -= sorry so late!!!!! Michael’s been out of town so I’m running behind — Michelle Obama under fire for talking about her daughters’ issues with weight — also under fire for using words like chubby and diet — see what all the hub bub is about and weigh in.

http://blogs.ajc.com/momania/2010/02/05/michelle-obama-criticized-for-obesity-comments-was-she-really-out-of-line/

Van Jones

February 5th, 2010
1:46 pm

@Tiger… How do you know so much about the Woods’ sex life?

And I don’t think we got a single pic from this blog. At least it was exciting to read!

deidre_NC

February 5th, 2010
7:36 pm

BareNecessities.com has great undies in bigger sizes..thats where i usually get my stuff

lucky dog

February 6th, 2010
8:13 pm

My wife turns 52 in March and even after having 3 kids, she still looks FANTASTIC and yes she does wear a thong most of the time! She use to shop a VS, but hasn’t in the past several years as she finds Nordstrom’s more to her liking. Interestingly, in a recent purchase she was measured after not having been measure in several years and was informed she had moved from a C cup to a D cup. Grrrrrrr!! Oh, baybay……I think I’m feeling a bit randy…..gottta go………..

Jill

February 12th, 2010
2:46 pm

You know, for all these complaints about VS – the simple truth is that they don’t have a smorgasboard of delicates in any one size. They carry a wide range of items, in a wide variety of sizes. ANY woman, of ANY size will have trouble finding a whole bunch in HER size, because they will only have a few things of EACH particular size.
I am very small busted, and always find they only have a few items for me, because they carry a little bit in every size.
If you want to guarantee a huge number of choices that will fit YOU, the store would need be a gigantic warehouse.

Youth Seeker

April 24th, 2010
10:27 am

As women get older, the hair gets shorter, and the underwear gets longer……

So sad…why is that?

Guess this is what keeps us older men (40’s) seeking those beautiful young ladies who know what it takes to keep a man. Affair start when we are neglected :)

But at least she tries……

Catherine

April 24th, 2010
10:30 am

I just don’t think they know how to stock the stores right. I am petite, XS and 32 A or B, and have always had a hard time finding the right size/style at VS. There are always just a small number of bras (like 2 or 3) to choose from in the 32 A and B drawers. Sometimes they are empty. If I see some cute panties with cute prints, I am likely to see a bunch of L and XL but not XS. If I see some XS panties, they are likely the plain kind that I don’t like. I have much better luck shopping on their web site.

octbaby

August 9th, 2010
4:21 am

ok… i am 38 c and there sooo many fun colors in my size…. and i have been looking at other sizes they have sooo many fun more colors…. and i am in my late 30s with 3 kids… and i can find sexy fun stuff there in my size

voice of reason

August 12th, 2010
7:30 pm

Fact: A blog is a great way for fat women in denial to vent after they’ve been told the truth.

Two words from Dr. Phil: GET REAL!

JLH

August 15th, 2010
9:56 pm

I am 42 years old and wouldn’t buy my bras anywhere else. I do not shop in the VS stores because the selection is small. I shop online and purchase bras, undies, dress pants and shirts for work, sweaters, t-shirts and bikinis- you name it! I am an almost exclusive VS woman. And yes, I have a curvy figure that VS works well on, 34D-25-36. I LOVE their clothing!