Is Victoria’s Secret meant for Moms?

I took a very discouraging shopping trip to Victoria’s Secret last week that made me wonder if the store and the line are actually meant for mothers.

I got my hair cut and colored and dropped into the store on my way home. I was actually alone, which rarely happens, and thought it be nice to buy a couple of new sexy items. Other than some fairly plain supportive bras and panties from Target (so sad!!), I haven’t bought any new sexy stuff in probably six years. (I keep trotting old the same numbers hoping Michael still likes them.)

I went in with high expectations all excited about the different colors and styles of the little nighties and sexy bras.  I felt like there were just hundreds of choices all around the store. But then the saleslady measured my chest.

She deemed me a 38-D and walked over and pulled out a drawer and said here are the bras in your size.

I was reduced from an entire store to a drawer!!

(In fairness I think there was one other drawer she could pull from, but definitely not a whole store.)

Very depressing. Color options very limited and styles greatly reduced. As for the nighties, a lot of them have bras inside of them which were all too small for my particular chest size. It was also very depressing.

At least the panties fit!

I came home all deflated (pun intended).  I told Michael I was trying to surprise him with some new sexy stuff but nothing fit.

In a shocking moment of a husband saying exactly right thing, Michael said, “Honey that store isn’t for you. It’s for young girls with no curves. It’s not for women.”

He made me feel a lot better. I know I can’t shop at Gap because the clothes just aren’t cut for women with curvy hips, and I guess it’s the same now for Victoria’s Secret.

I dropped into a local specialty lingerie store yesterday, Necessities by Sherrie, and she had lots of stuff in D-cup sizes. Unfortunately I had a toddler with me so I told her I would be back another day to try on.  I felt like an idiot wasting my time last week at Victoria’s Secret. I should have just headed to Sherrie’s.

What has your experience been with the sizes and cuts at Victoria’s Secret? Do you think they are meant for young women who haven’t gained the curves of childbearing? Are there other stores or other lines that you find you just can’t wear since having kids? Where do you have the best luck finding sexy stuff for mothers with curvy shapes?

Editor’s Update: In researching this blog I did find a few more 38D and DD sizes on Victoria’s Secret Web site so maybe they have more online in the bustier sizes than in the store. Although, it’s hard to buy without trying on unless you just plan to send back a bunch.

148 comments Add your comment

lovelyliz

February 4th, 2010
9:25 am

Don’t get me started. Three years ago my sister got a coupon for a free pair of panties from Victoria’s Secret she went in with her 10-year-old daughter. Guess who walked out with that pair of free panties? It was my niece who got not a pair of extra-small, but a pair of small boy-cut panties. Did I mention that not only was she 10 years old at the time, but she was, and still is, medically underweight, 4% percentile and on a weight gain program.

Now what was that question you were asking at the beginning of this blog?

TechMom

February 4th, 2010
9:25 am

That whole ‘they get bigger after you breastfeed’ thing definitely didn’t happen to me. I had the exact opposite (and I was not big to begin with by any means) so I couldn’t shop at VS except for underwear for years. I felt bad one year my husband even bought me a cute bra and panty set for Christmas and I had to return it b/c even the smallest size didn’t fit. Almost all of their bras in the store are B & C cups. I don’t shop at VS now simply because there isn’t one nearby. Kohls, Target, Ross and Marshall’s are the stores nearby so I tend to go there and find them cheaper which suits me just fine.

I definitely think the underwear from VS is great quality. Even their cute panties last repeated machine washings. Bras are a bit more delicate so I always wash them in a lingerie bag and then hang dry no matter where I bought them to ensure they last a little longer.

RJ, I’m with you on the jean issue. I am not big but my waist and hips are definitely not proportionate according to standard jean sizes. But I also cannot fathom spending $80-100 on a pair of jeans so I have only a couple and have to wear a belt to cinch in the gap.

srw

February 4th, 2010
9:27 am

I am 50 years old with 2 adult children. I buy all of my bras and panties at VS. I am a 38B/36C. I like the fit of their bras with the underwire and the minimum padding. I usually buy my bras in January during their yearly sale, where you can find a few great deals. I’ve bought a few thongs, trying out different ones, but find that they are NOT for me.

MomsRule

February 4th, 2010
9:38 am

Theresa, 34B/C depending upon the cut and time of month. My absolute fav bra…everyday, practical, not sexy at all is from Spanx.

And, it may be TMI, but others have raised the subject, I only wear thongs.

FCM

February 4th, 2010
9:42 am

Theresa there in lies the #1 benefit to NOT nursing my babies. It stretches your chest all out. Don’t care if that seems selfish or not. It is my body I have to live with it. And to all the nursing is best people…the pediatrician said “It helps short term with immune system. As long as you still hold, cuddle, and love your baby (while feeding with a bottle) you still bond.” Thus I am still a I am a 38B/36C.

Anyway. Yes I do think if your a THIN/AVG PROPORTIONED female VS is good for you. Once you go BIG then lane byrant (which was (still is?) owned by the same company) can help you out.

FCM

February 4th, 2010
9:44 am

Oh try Serendipity for bras…they do great fits on larger chests.

DB

February 4th, 2010
9:47 am

I have NEVER been able to buy a bra at VS, for the same reason as a lot of women here — just too much “stuff in the cup”. I hate, hate, hate bra shopping with the same passion that I reserve for buying bathing suits — HATE IT. I always snort when I see how many “WonderBras” and push-ups are on sale at different stores, and then you get to the pitiful rack with the D’s – for those with the not-so-pitiful racks . . .. *sigh*

Guy Who Loves LANE BRYANT Gals

February 4th, 2010
9:47 am

Two Words:

LANE BRYANT

Skinny Chicks are worthless.

cld

February 4th, 2010
9:48 am

FCM, I nursed my son for 12 months and after, I’m back to my pre-pregnancy size. (I lost weight and my rib size dropped a few months before I got pregnant, so I didn’t want to invest in new bras without knowing what size I’d be a few months down the road.) While I was nursing, my cup size went up one but my rib size was unchanged (it did go up from a 32 to a 34 during pregnancy). When my boobs deflated post-milk, they were the same size as before. Yes, they are saggy and stretched. But apparently they still take up the same volume, because I measured the same size.

You have every right to choose whether or not to nurse – I don’t want to imply that I’m making a judgmental statement. I’m agreeing that mine stretched out, but the size went back to what it had been.

DB

February 4th, 2010
9:49 am

BTW: KUDOS TO MICHAEL! What a perfect thing to say! He gets his share of “boos” on here, sometimes, so it’s nice to see the gracious side!

FCM

February 4th, 2010
9:50 am

cld that was with one baby right? My body bounced back after the 1st one too. My second one is 8 yo and um well I have never been the same since…except my ches is still small for my hips! LOL….Baby got back. ROFL.

Really

February 4th, 2010
9:50 am

I have the exact opposite problem. I stopped shopping at VS years ago because they never have bra’s in an A cup…sad I know…

iRun

February 4th, 2010
9:51 am

FCM – that’s so a myth…that breastfeeding stretches you out and if you don’t breastfeed it won’t happen. Getting pregnant stretches them out, if it’s going to. Even if you elect not to breastfeed your body still produces milk in the beginning and you get engorged. It’s only when you don’t start breastfeeding that it goes away.

So, what makes boobs stretch out is pregnancy and age. One you can do something about. The other, no.

FYI – I breastfed for 9 months. My boobs originally got to a 38DD, right in the days before and after my son was born. They didn’t get any bigger over the course of the 9 months. But sometime between now and then I became a runner and now I am a 36C (because I am a size 4).

So, whatever your reasons for not breastfeeding, and you’re right who cares…you were misled that by not doing so you would preserve your maidenly boobs. Credit your genetics.

cld

February 4th, 2010
9:54 am

Yes, that’s after one baby. :) I’m not holding my breath that it will stay this way forever. I have heard other women say that it’s the second baby that does them in – then again, I’ve witnessed many women say (and exemplify) that the first was all their bodies could take. I guess I’ll have to see what my body does down the road . . . for now, I’m enjoying while it lasts.

cld

February 4th, 2010
9:59 am

Ahh, the myths of pregnancy . . . I was told (while pregnant) that my rib cage would never go back to its pre-pregnancy size. That my hips would do the same. My rib cage was back within a week, and my hips were back to pre-preg size after about four months (the weight came off faster, but the hips were still a little wide for the old pants). Has there been a topic on pregnancy/childbirth myths? Boy, the things that have been said . . .

Uconn

February 4th, 2010
10:00 am

@4190B … AMEN! Just becuase you are a mom does not mean that you have to stop caring how you look or feel you have to “look” a certain way. I know my mom did not look like your typical mother and you know what I was proud to know that she took care of herself and wanted to look good..

FCM

February 4th, 2010
10:02 am

I said it was a BENEFIT not a REASON I didn’t. So obvious that you did not read it. My reasons were much different

Bob Dole

February 4th, 2010
10:02 am

Sarah Palin is a mom and I bet she can find something at Victoria’s Secret.

sarah palin

February 4th, 2010
10:05 am

i bet she wears a beaver pelt for a bra and goes commando down below

iRun

February 4th, 2010
10:09 am

And I said it’s a myth so it’s not even a benefit. Your boobs didn’t stretch out during your pregnancy, etc, because you got lucky with genetics.

I only gained 30lbs during pregnancy yet I got the worst and most prolific stretch marks all over my belly. My friend who was pregnant at the same time, same height as me, gained 80lbs. Not a stretch mark on her. Better skin genetics than me!

MyOpinion

February 4th, 2010
10:12 am

I love VS panties and the Body by Victoria collection when I find it on sale, but I have a hard time finding bras period because I am a 40DD. I was a B cup in Elementary, a C cup in Middle, and a D cup in High school. I do not have any children nor was I ever pregnant, it’s all natural. My older sister was part of the IBTC and complained that I took her share of hips, breast and butt.

JMS

February 4th, 2010
10:13 am

Is VS for Moms? Sure, petite moms who go back down to pre-pregnancy weight. The problem with VS is that they are not made for truly curvaceous women, but instead the petite, delicate, possibly artificially enhanced women. I used to shop there with my former MIL, and she was tiny with DD implants. (She’d had breast cancer, before anyone makes snap judgments.) She would fit into everything, while me as a 38D had NOTHING to try on. I’m still okay with that though, because she was always so frustrated that most of the bras and panties did not match perfectly, yet when we went to Lane Bryant I could easily get cute and matching sets.

Lane Bryant is a great place for larger bras and panties. I’ll readily admit that they’re not very friendly to the smaller plus-sized women nor the largest plus-sized women, but for those in the 18-24 size range (or 38D-44DD range) they’re very nice. I don’t know that they have 34E in too many styles, unfortunately, but you could definitely check their website before driving around to check stores. I’ve been extremely happy with LB’s bras since I started wearing them about 8 years ago. They are fairly durable and generally always fit well and are sexy, and generally you can catch them on sale and only spend about $30 per bra. Good luck!

Jess

February 4th, 2010
10:20 am

VS is for women and some women are moms. VS has most sizes, xs to xl and from a cup to d cup.

Michelle

February 4th, 2010
10:33 am

I’m going to have to go back through and read the responses…VS is only good up to about a D size. Once you get above that, they start increasing the band size to make the cup fit! WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!

I used to shop there pre-baby. I started out about a 33 DD before the boy, now I’m at a 33 G! I was up to a J during pregnancy and nursing! You HAVE to get them fit properly to feel good! Then, when they fit right, they look good too (even though it’s hard to look good when each boob is as big as your head! LOL). Keep in mind, I’m only 5′2″ and about 140-145! Guess where most of that weight is coming from!

I typically will shop at Intimacy at Phipps. They do carry some pretty/sexy bras and panties! My stop is going to be NBS because they are MUCH closer than Phipps! The down side is that they are more expensive. The up side, they will alter the bra to fit you (i.e. they come in even sizes 32, 34, etc. but I am a 33 and they will decrease the strap length so you don’t have to adjust so much!)

I used to wear thongs until baby came along. Now I am just not comfortable with my body like I was. If I could lose some of my weight, I would wear them again! There are different kinds that are VERY comfortable! (I’m 40) I also know of several women who are a little older who are comfortable wearing thongs as well!

VS is more for the young ladies with the perfect figures (or close to it)!

FCM

February 4th, 2010
10:36 am

I know lady has 4. The youngest born last November and to look at her you would never think she had even 1. So I agree a good portion of it is luck of the draw. I was saying that for me…that 2nd baby did a number on my body and it never went back close….right now iRUN your serving as inspiration that I can get some body back instead of adding to the issues like I did. I believe you mentioned your a former fat chick.

iRun

February 4th, 2010
10:41 am

Yes, I used to weigh 220lbs…back after having my son, finishing grad school, and moving away from family to Atlanta (though I love it here – but it took a few years to put down roots). I used to commute 36 miles a day (1.5 hours up/down I-85) and I put on a lot doing that and the fast food cuisine. But a few years ago I moved to town, found more time to cook, took control of things before I got much oler, and along the way fell in love with running. Now I commute to work by bike 2x a week and once a week I run to/from work (10 miles roundtrip). Either way takes me about 40-45 minutes. Takes 25 to drive.

Hey, I love food and BEER. But I run 40+ miles a week so I can still indulge a little.

But no amount of exercise (or hair style or clothes style) will disguise the fact that I am closer to 40 than I am to 20. And that’s okay. I sure as hell don’t want to be mistaken for a younger woman. I earned this.

So did all y’all!

I am whatever you say I am

February 4th, 2010
10:43 am

I love the lingerie from Victoria’s because it lasts a lot longer than the panties I would buy at a cheaper store. But, I like Victoria’s lacks the sexyness that I am looking for.
Victoria’s is a bit plain I prefer Frederick’s of Hollywood for my sexy factor.

I am whatever you say I am

February 4th, 2010
10:44 am

typo:
I meant to say Victoria’s lacks the sexyness that I am looking for.

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 4th, 2010
10:48 am

my wife turns 40 this year. She is mom to our almost 6 year old. She’s 5′ 0″, 100 lbs soaking wet. She wears VS and looks really nice in the stuff she picks out (lacey bras and thongs).

So let’s see…she’s a mom and looks good in VS….therefore, the answer is YES, VS is meant for moms.

cld

February 4th, 2010
10:49 am

@I am whatever you say I am . . . I have seen some items at VS that took me by surprise. I’ve never seen them at the Mall of Ga store, but at the Stonecrest store I have seen cut-out bras. I didn’t realize VS carried that stuff until I saw it in that store . . . don’t know if they still carry them. That was a few years ago; I live near Mall of Ga but work near Stonecrest.

LibraryJim

February 4th, 2010
10:51 am

“Is Victoria’s Secret for moms?”
No, silly, it’s for dads!

From Home Improvement, when Jill is playing around with a computer program to ‘enhance’ a person’s looks:
Jill: I’d like to look like that for my birthday present.
Tim: No, that would be MY birthday present!

cld

February 4th, 2010
10:53 am

Tiger makes me wonder, would the dads have a different opinion than the moms? We’re usually so much more critical of our bodies. Are our men more apt to say yes, VS looks great on us – even if they only see it for five minutes?

s

February 4th, 2010
10:56 am

“Are our men more apt to say yes, VS looks great on us – even if they only see it for five minutes?”

If you look good, then you would look great in underwear. Not a lot to expand upon. Men don’t really care where you bought the underwear, if it fits well, costs a lot, or even if it has holes in it. If you have a nice body, we would like to see you in underwear. If you do not have a nice body, we would like you to wear a lot of clothes.

cld

February 4th, 2010
10:58 am

40something

February 4th, 2010
11:03 am

I have found success at Soma at Perimeter. They have sexy and more comfy lingerie in the bustier sizes.

mscutie78

February 4th, 2010
11:11 am

Hello all….many have mentioned the quality of VS products and I have to agree that the quality of the VS brand has deteriorated over time. I used to love the VS cotton panty line, but within the last five years, the materials have changed – the cotton line is starting to resemble the Pink like which for me results in a lot of riding. I enjoyed the VS brand because it was the only brand of panties I found that did not ride…that is no longer true. Additionally, their bras aren’t much better. I spent $42 on the full-figured Biofit bra and within a month the wire started coming through the bra. I only hand washed per the instructions and still has this issue. A $50 bra should not ‘break’ within a month.

38D and Proud of it

February 4th, 2010
11:14 am

I like you am a 38D and was incredibly disappointed when I last went shopping at VS. I can not shop at Lane Bryant and stores of that nature because I am a size 8 but have curves; like many of us moms! And I am happy to report that I have found a better store than VS ever thought of being and they have REAL women bust sizes!!! Livi-Rae -It is in Kennesaw but I promise you you will be soo happy you made the trip! It is sexy, hott and very reasonable prices!!! It is a must shop!!!

cld

February 4th, 2010
11:20 am

mscutie78: I agree about the change in the cotton panty line. That’s why I’m still hanging on to my older ones – the newest “Pink” like style does not stay in place like the old style does.

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 4th, 2010
11:23 am

I think the distinction needs to be made, are we talking about bras and panties for everyday use, or are we talking about lingerie for visual use and enhancing a mood after hours?

When we’re getting ready for work in the morning and the wife is putting on her everyday VS stuff…she’s smoking. I love it. I honestly think Dillards competes pretty well against VS for that special, mood enhancing, lingerie.

I think the real answer to this question has as much to do with self body image as it does with anything else.

@CLD…the answer to your question for me is this…I don’t really care what brand or style my wife is wearing. If you want to enhance the mood, start with getting over being shy about sexuality. If women say and act in a way that is actually fun and doesn’t have to be ALL about intimacy and love and being “one” with each other, it won’t matter if you’re wearing 15 year old jeans or 5 minute old thigh highs. We guys are simple…intimacy and closeness is great, but so is leaving the lights on and having fun. My wife could dress in a burlap sack at dinner and whispered some “fun” things in my ear, she’s the hottest girl in joint!

Van Jones

February 4th, 2010
11:30 am

I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again… This thread is useless without pics!

I am whatever you say I am

February 4th, 2010
11:30 am

I wish i had someone in my life that I could dress sexy for so for now, the lacy boy shorts and sexy bras are just for me.

Uconn

February 4th, 2010
11:32 am

@Tiger…. You are AWESOME… You remind me a lot of my fiance… He just doesn’t care what I wear or where its from..

Wayne

February 4th, 2010
11:33 am

Tiger, you made me think of a comedian that was on TV a couple of weeks ago: he said that guys were simple. All a woman has to do is touch it! My wife and I died!

s

February 4th, 2010
11:38 am

“… This thread is useless without pics!”

Reference to PT? Rule #1?

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 4th, 2010
11:38 am

@UCONN…thanks, but don’t get me wrong, going away for a birthday celebration in Vegas and seeing her in the push up, very short skirt, and 4″ stilettos DOES definitely enhance the attitude!

To be honest, I’m just thankful we’re both entering our 4th decade of life and she gets better each day. She’s not just lucky though, she was 15-20 lbs heavier before the kid, but some how, some way, her body chemistry after benefited her….or maybe just running around after a very lively 5 year old has burned extra calories! She is also the most discplined exerciser and nutrionally sound eater I’ve ever met.

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 4th, 2010
11:43 am

We are simple….it’s the truth! Contrary to all the myths that we’re totally visually motivated, the biggest erogenous zone for us is between the ears.

I can prove it too for anyone daring enough to try the experiment. Ladies…one night, wear something sexy from wherever you choose when hubby/SO comes to bed…then tell them it’s time to turn out the lights and get busy.
The next week, call your hubby/SO 6 or 7 times throughout the day and tell them, graphically, all the NAUGHTY things you’re going to do to them that night. Wear sweatpants and a T-shirt when he gets home. See which one has the more enthusiastic response!

senoiadawgs

February 4th, 2010
11:50 am

My wife(who is a mom) looks great in everyday VS bra’s and panties. No more thongs for her though. Of course, I think she is hot in them but for some reason she has self image problems. She is all of 125-130lbs and a C or D depending on style is seems. I have tried to purchase the sexier stuff(not trashy) for her but it’s just wasted money. Personally I like the visual of the sexier stuff even if for just a few minutes but no luck for me in the that department. Any ideas to help out in that department?

What kind of underwear do you women like for us to wear everyday or set the mood?

Brannon

February 4th, 2010
12:13 pm

@ I am whatever you say I am – 11:30 am

I’m available, and this guy would be VERY appreciative.

I am whatever you say I am

February 4th, 2010
12:24 pm

Thanks Brannon I appreciate it.
I’m actually heartbroken, the man I love doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me.
So sad…..
I don’t understand why he acted like he wanted to be with me (gave me a key to his place) only to say otherwise.
Very hurtful when guys play games.

Momof2Girls

February 4th, 2010
12:37 pm

@Michelle – just checking in at lunch, and you sound just like me! I’m a 30GG, and I went up to J when I pumped (never nursed, long story). I don’t know where you live, but LiviRae will also alter bras as needed, for the life of the bra. Free for those purchased from them, charge for bras purchased outside.

And yes, the girls are all mine – no implants. Major mountain ranges run in my family on both sides.