Is Victoria’s Secret meant for Moms?

I took a very discouraging shopping trip to Victoria’s Secret last week that made me wonder if the store and the line are actually meant for mothers.

I got my hair cut and colored and dropped into the store on my way home. I was actually alone, which rarely happens, and thought it be nice to buy a couple of new sexy items. Other than some fairly plain supportive bras and panties from Target (so sad!!), I haven’t bought any new sexy stuff in probably six years. (I keep trotting old the same numbers hoping Michael still likes them.)

I went in with high expectations all excited about the different colors and styles of the little nighties and sexy bras.  I felt like there were just hundreds of choices all around the store. But then the saleslady measured my chest.

She deemed me a 38-D and walked over and pulled out a drawer and said here are the bras in your size.

I was reduced from an entire store to a drawer!!

(In fairness I think there was one other drawer she could pull from, but definitely not a whole store.)

Very depressing. Color options very limited and styles greatly reduced. As for the nighties, a lot of them have bras inside of them which were all too small for my particular chest size. It was also very depressing.

At least the panties fit!

I came home all deflated (pun intended).  I told Michael I was trying to surprise him with some new sexy stuff but nothing fit.

In a shocking moment of a husband saying exactly right thing, Michael said, “Honey that store isn’t for you. It’s for young girls with no curves. It’s not for women.”

He made me feel a lot better. I know I can’t shop at Gap because the clothes just aren’t cut for women with curvy hips, and I guess it’s the same now for Victoria’s Secret.

I dropped into a local specialty lingerie store yesterday, Necessities by Sherrie, and she had lots of stuff in D-cup sizes. Unfortunately I had a toddler with me so I told her I would be back another day to try on.  I felt like an idiot wasting my time last week at Victoria’s Secret. I should have just headed to Sherrie’s.

What has your experience been with the sizes and cuts at Victoria’s Secret? Do you think they are meant for young women who haven’t gained the curves of childbearing? Are there other stores or other lines that you find you just can’t wear since having kids? Where do you have the best luck finding sexy stuff for mothers with curvy shapes?

Editor’s Update: In researching this blog I did find a few more 38D and DD sizes on Victoria’s Secret Web site so maybe they have more online in the bustier sizes than in the store. Although, it’s hard to buy without trying on unless you just plan to send back a bunch.

148 comments Add your comment

motherjanegoose

February 4th, 2010
7:28 am

LOL…posting your bra size on here T….too funny. Wonder if anyone else will join you?
I am not small chested but will not be adding mine today.

I will say this…I do NOT wear thong panties…as someone else said, ” I do not need a string of dental floss to get stuck in there….” :) Do any 50 year olds wear them…JJ…you are a very modern 50 year old and you might? TMI maybe.

I rarely shop at Victoria’s Secret but do like fun underwear. There are other places to get it. They do have large bras at Ross, Marshalls or Target….from the bettor venodrs but they will not be able to fit you. Since you have already done so…maybe you should check? Also Kohls? I never wear white and only own one beige bra. All others are black, red, navy, grey, prints etc.

Once in a while I do see woman who still buy plain Jane underwear and I wish they would live a little but that is just me and maybe they fell better in granny panties and cross your heart bras. NONE OF MY BUSINESS FOR SURE.

Jeff

February 4th, 2010
7:42 am

I could go in several directions but will resist and stick to point. My instinct tells me that the moms that wear/shop at V.S. are not the moms that blog here. Different set of priorities.

The feeling of “that’s all the selection you got?” is the feeling I get as a man when I go in to ANY store, so I understand that feeling.

My experience with V.S. has been that the quality is extremely poor. Also my experience is that a woman’s underthings have to match both her figure AND her personality or it just isn’t sexy. When a woman matches both, very sexy.

Lissy

February 4th, 2010
7:42 am

Lane Bryant has great options for big chested women. Maybe you should try them as well. I always wondered if N.b.S. was a good store to try. Are they expensive??? You must live in the Lilburn/Snellville area. :-)

motherjanegoose

February 4th, 2010
7:56 am

@ Jeff….not sure if mine match…since my name is Jane maybe I SHOULD wear plain Jane underwear and this is why I do not like a thong…. ya think?

@ Lissy, Yes, I think T lives in Lilburn GA , not positive though.

mom2alex&max

February 4th, 2010
8:13 am

Theresa, it’s not just moms. It really is ANYONE that has a bra size bigger than 34B. I’ve always been um…endowed, even before I has children and I never was able to shop at V.S.

So don’t feel bad.

RJ

February 4th, 2010
8:14 am

Hmmm…I love Victoria Secret bras. That’s all that I wear. I’ve always had just the opposite issue, even when I was in my 20’s. I have a smaller chest but big butt and hips. I have never bought a bra and panty set for that reason. My daughter loves the Pink section for bras and panties. They’re fun and appropriate so I don’t mind. She will also have difficulty finding sets when she’s older ’cause she’s got momma’s butt and hips. It’s really hard when you have a tiny waist and the bottom half is curvy. You can imagine what it’s like trying to find a pair of jeans that fit. It’s been an issue my entire life, and my daughter’s as well.

MomsRule

February 4th, 2010
8:19 am

I love VS and shop there often (on line and in store).

@Jeff, Interesting comment about the quality. I haven’t had any issues with quality.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 4th, 2010
8:21 am

Hey guys — My point in revealing the bra size (which I think I’ve actually talked about before) is that I’m not fat — I just have a big chest cause I nursed three babies for 18 months each. And what doesn’t make sense to me is in all of VS’s ads they’re showing big boobs so why the cut off???? I did find more colors online for one bra I tried on and liked pretty well.

Lissy — NBS is great. Sherrie is fantastic and gives very personal service. She will remember you and help you. She was working with an older woman yesterday when I popped in sitting on her couch talking with the woman about what she was looking for in a bra and how Sherrie could help with a lot of her health issues by just a better fitting bra. (hard not to hear in the store)

The last bra i bought from Sherrie a year ago was $95. That was part of the reason I went to VS first was I was just looking for some cheap sexy stuff not something to support me all day long. But I did notice yesterday when I walked through that she had a lot of $60 bras — so I think instead of paying $45 for a bra I’m OK with I should have just asked Sherrie to find me a $60 she felt good about. She had some whole lines that were just for D cups and above. So I do feel like I messed up.

JJ

February 4th, 2010
8:22 am

Nope sorry MJG – no thongs here, unless they are on my feet…….LOL

Funny story, years ago, we were all sitting around my mom’s house, talking about how she used to disclipine my brother and me. My sister in law was there as well. My brother goes “yea Mom used to spank me with her thong”. My sister in law’s eyes got huge, and she turned and looked at me, with this crazy look on her face. I whispered to her, that’s what we used to call “flip flops” back in the day. My SIL goes, “oh my god, I had this vision of your mom stripping down to her underwear, and whipping off her thong and hitting him with it.” We still laugh about that……

VS is for the young “skinny-minis”, size 0. My daughter and nieces love their stuff, and have shopped there for at least 5 years. I have NEVER bought anything from there for myself, as I’m an average sized woman, and they just don’t cater to my size. But I don’t really care…..I’m happy with Kohl’s clearance rack. I just bought a beautiful bra, on clearance, for $6.50.

Momof2Girls

February 4th, 2010
8:23 am

Theresa – get to either Intimacy in Phipps or LiviRae in Marietta and get yourself fitted properly. I think you will find that you are not anything like the size VS said you are. And you’ll find some beautiful (albeit expensive) things to wear.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 4th, 2010
8:23 am

momsrule – what size are you????

mom2alex — that helps me feel better — I did shop there before — was C before children — so I’m just feeling like I’m old and fat when the point is it’s a problem inherit in their line –

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 4th, 2010
8:23 am

Sherrie put me in a 34-E

Jeff

February 4th, 2010
8:28 am

@motherjanegoose……..umm, not sure how to appropriately respond. LOL.

@MomsRule…….maybe it’s just my experience that my ex wife’s V.S. products tended to fray at the seams fairly quickly in the wash. I know there are steps to take to prevent, but just saying….. Then again, if they were made of IRON, that wouldn’t exactly work either! :)

Andrea

February 4th, 2010
8:29 am

I don’t the issue is being a mom – the issue is having real boobs. The silicone parts will fit because you can literally move them around to fit the bra. But true busty women won’t find much there. Having curves won’t exclude you because I have curves and I can fit the panties and some of the nighties. But, then again, I am a member of the IBTC (Itty Bitty T***y Committee – TMI – I know).

Theresa – don’t be discouraged. There are literally tons of places you can get some really hot underwear. When you really want to walk on the wild side, check Frederick’s of Hollywood. But remember, the sexiest thing you can bring into the bedroom is confidence!

cld

February 4th, 2010
8:30 am

I’m a D also and have always found VS bras hard to find in my size (especially since I started running and dropped to a 32 rib size–last time I went in, there were two bras in my size–not two styles, but two individual bras, same style, different colors). I ended up ordering online. It was after I’d finished nursing my son and needed to re-stock my “real” bras in my updated size – so I ordered five during the semi-annual sale and got free shipping.

I love VS underwear, though! I am not brand-loyal about many things, but I am about underwear. I only wear VS, and I must have 30-35 pairs of their standard cotton – in almost every color and pattern that has been offered in the last five years. I used to stock up during the sem-annual sales, when I could get them for $2.99+ each. Now I have enough that I only buy on occasion. The only underwear I’ve ever found to be more comfortable, is the Body By Victoria collection – but they cost a lot more, so I don’t have quite as many. :)

I have found that Frederick’s of Hollywood seems to have “curvier” lingerie. There is an outlet at Discover Mills and I have been able to get some GREAT deals there (and while I used to think that store was trashier than VS, I’ve found they actually have some relatively conservative, “prettier” rather than “trashier” options). We don’t exchange V-Day gifts, but it seems to be our tradition for one new item every year, at Valentine’s Day. Not that I use it that often, but it’s nice to get some new players in the rotation.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 4th, 2010
8:31 am

(confidence) …… which was reduced greatly leaving the VS!!!

Uconn

February 4th, 2010
8:31 am

Hmmm… I am better endowed than most and I LOVE V.S. and as for the quality… Seriously I have a bra I wore in college still (15 yrs) so I think the quality is fine …

Andrea

February 4th, 2010
8:31 am

@RJ: If you are looking for jeans – try the ones made by Cookie Johnson. They are really pricey but man oh man, do they fit a woman with curves!

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 4th, 2010
8:32 am

new players n the rotation — hehehehehe

gpkbsin

February 4th, 2010
8:32 am

Interesting topic. On a good day, i’m 36C and bad day i’m 38C. I get all my bras at VS because I don’t know any other place that sells cotton bras for cheap. It was tough for me to understand that I went from 34B to a bigger size. Anyways, the bras are not sexy but they fit and they are cotton. My husband doesn’t care one way or other what I wear. so, works out for me :)

hph

February 4th, 2010
8:33 am

I love NBS! I discovered them when I was looking for decent maternity bras, and now it’s the only place I go for lingerie.

cld

February 4th, 2010
8:36 am

Theresa, I think the big-breasted models are (like someone else noted) working with silicone :) and also are being shoved into cups too small for them – so they look even bigger. I look at those catalogs and think how UNCOMFORTABLE I would be if my bra only covered half of my boobs. No demi cuts for me!

Raqi

February 4th, 2010
8:36 am

Theresa, while reading your entry I was going to say try the online store. That’s where I get a lot of my VS undies. I have an 8 month old and my breast size has remained at a 36C since they plumped up while being pregnant. I like the sexy stuff that I get at Victoria’s and so does my husband. But he also likes the “fun” stuff that I get at Target, Macy’s or buy online from Hane’s, Jockey, etc. like the matching colorful bras and panties.

I love to wear boy shorts with matching tank-tops to sleep in. They are comfortable and non-granny looking. LOL

Another place you can try is Bare Necessities.

JJ

February 4th, 2010
8:36 am

35 pair of underwear? DAMN. I have maybe 10……

motherjanegoose

February 4th, 2010
8:39 am

@ JJ…funny story.

TODAY, we are on the same page;

I have never paid more than $25 for a bra and typically $12-$20:they do retail for $40-$60…
You can get goods buys on bras but I DO NOT want to keep one for 15 years…5 is max for me, so I guess if you pay $95 for a bra…it should be around for a while. I have at least 8 bras and that would be quite a purchase! Kinda like some ladies pay $200 for a purse..not me!

@ Jeff it is o.k. I got raked over the coals yesterday, so I am trying to be lighter today!

Andrea

February 4th, 2010
8:44 am

@MJG: Don’t be lighter – the other side is so much more fun!

RJ

February 4th, 2010
8:46 am

@Andrea, I did check out her jeans and I just can’t do it. I just learned of the PZI jeans so I plan on ordering a pair. I found some on sale for $50 on line, so I’ll definitely give them a try. Honestly, I usually do Baby Phat jeans (when I can find them without the huge cat going across my butt). But they fit really well. I just hate the cat. I am a grown woman and I don’t care to look like a teenager. My daughter would never wear the CJ Jeans because she’s 15 and they’re not flashy enough. But she literally has the waist of someone that wears a size 2 but the hips of a size 4 or 6. She just becomes very frustrated.

Raqi

February 4th, 2010
8:48 am

35 Pair of underwear is really not that many. And I have a tank-top and/or bra almost for every pair of cotton undies that I own. You can never have too many pairs of underwear and shoes. Just like you can never have too many white shirts.

cld

February 4th, 2010
8:52 am

@JJ, those are just the “plain” cotton ones. I have two drawers of underwear. It was an obsession for a while (pre-parenthood). But, I never have to worry about having a clean pair! And considering I have some that are worn only a couple times a year (because they get shoved to the back of a drawer and forgotten for three months), they last practically forever. I’m just now starting to see some fraying on my oldest pairs – and they’re about 10 years old.

motherjanegoose

February 4th, 2010
8:52 am

@ Raqi…do not get me started on shoes….I have over 50 pair and half of them are probably black.
I LOVE shoes.

@ Andrea….do you mean fun as everyone attacks me and I get frustrated with them or what? LOL.

motherjanegoose

February 4th, 2010
8:53 am

OMG 10 YEAR OLD UNDERWEAR? I have to get to work now…hugs to all!

Van Jones

February 4th, 2010
8:59 am

This blog is brought to you today by the letters D and E. :->

ATLien

February 4th, 2010
9:00 am

I stopped shopping at VS in my late 20’s because their bras are cheaply made, offer no support, and are only made for B cups or smaller.
Adult women can get better bras and undies – even sexy – at Soma or Nordstrom.

cld

February 4th, 2010
9:00 am

@MJG, based on your bra comment, I thought that probably would get you. But, I’m only wearing them a few times per year. A pair that is worn once every other week gets more wear in 2-3 years than mine get in 8-10 years.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 4th, 2010
9:00 am

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 4th, 2010
9:00 am

Going to go work out — don’t think it will reduce my bra size though

Becky

February 4th, 2010
9:01 am

I love VS undies, not so much there bras..I have a hard time paying more than $10-20 fpr a bra..Theresa, if I paid $95.00 for a bra, I would plan on wearing it forever..When I was younger, like Raqi, I didn’t think you could ever have to many bras or panties..LOL

@MJG.. I’m 48 and I have worn thongs before..Actually, if you get the ones with the very thin thong ppart, they aren’t so bad..I don’t wear them anymore, because my butt is way to big..

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 4th, 2010
9:03 am

one other thing — I am happy to know the silicone explanation because I just wasn’t understanding the disconnect between the ads and what I was finding. I’m glad you guys knew that and could explain it to me!

Becky

February 4th, 2010
9:04 am

@MJG..When I met my husband, I thought he was going to have a stroke when he saw how amny pairs of shoes I had..At that time, I had at least 130 pairs..Every color, style and shape..

4190B

February 4th, 2010
9:04 am

It can be for Moms. Some women don’t change their looks just becauuse they are a mother. Some women don’t start wearing ugly jeans with long zippers, coloring their hair, getting perms, cutting it short, and wearing blouses. Some women keep their thin figures, keep their hair long, and dress just as they did before.

Raqi

February 4th, 2010
9:06 am

I wore a thong only once. I didn’t like it so never again.

And Becky I am 41 and I still believe you can never have too many. LOL

JATL

February 4th, 2010
9:06 am

First of all the VS models have fake boobs and small chest measurements (around). They’re probably 32 and 34 Cs and Ds -and as someone else noted -they’re shoved into different sizes to make their boobs look bigger. VS does cater to the younger, less curvy type when it comes to sexy stuff. I do LOVE their cotton bras and panties for basics. They’re super comfortable and come in a variety of colors and the cotton high-cut briefs have long been a fave -they usually have really cute patterns. I am and always have been very curvy. No matter where I am on the scale, I have definite curves and a C cup. My derriere is large and has always been the biggest part of my body, but I’ve always been able to wear VS cotton stuff. When I’m over a size 14 however, (I sadly have a tendency to yo-yo), I find that their sexy stuff doesn’t work. I second what others say about ordering online from them -MUCH larger selection (in both ways).

Intimacy at Phipps will make sure you have a good fit AND they have lots of sexy stuff! It is expensive though. I was actually surprised and very happy to find some really sexy and lacy nice bras and panty sets at the Vanity Fair/Hanes outlet at Discover Mills. They have great buys and sell a lot of Bali underwear too. They have a variety of sizes including some VERY large ones and I got sexy looking black late and leopard print tap pants and matching bra and solid black lace matching sets there. Currently I’m a 38-40 C.

JATL

February 4th, 2010
9:08 am

oops, meant to say “black LACE and leopard print tap pants…”

Raqi

February 4th, 2010
9:10 am

130 Pair? I am so jealous. LOL I am up to about 80 and my husband says no more. We share a closet so I have to respect his wishes.

I remember right after we finished our renovation to our room which merged our closets he complained about me having too many clothes. To appease him I decided I would go thru them and give some to the women shelter and Goodwill. I was surprised at the number of white shirts that I had.

Thankfully I am a much better shopper now. I try not to buy what I really don’t need. LOL

Andrea

February 4th, 2010
9:10 am

@MJG: I mean I appreciate you just as you are. Some call it sarcasm, I say it’s wit. Besides, I think you sometimes break one of my cardinal rules – Never have a battle of wits with an unarmed opponent! Have a great day.

P.S. Don’t feel bad about the shoes – I am a shoe fanatic as well.

JATL

February 4th, 2010
9:13 am

@gpkbsin -check out Hanes/Vanity Fair/Bali outlets! In addition to the sexy stuff, I purchased two cotton bras for $14 a piece, and they’re definitely giving the VS cotton bras I love so much a run for their money. They’re VERY comfortable and supportive! ATLien is correct -Soma has some great stuff for real women (I’m not talking really big sizes, but average grown women who aren’t 21 and a size 2). I’ve also had good luck finding some really sexy stuff that fits at department stores like Macy’s, Nordstrom, Dillard’s, etc. WOW -didn’t know I had so much to say about undies!

iRun

February 4th, 2010
9:17 am

I don’t buy sexy underwear. My husband doesn’t appreciate them (he just wants to get nekkid) and I have a build that is difficult to flatter. I have average size breasts and a curvy butt, however from the front and back I don’t really have an hour-glass shape. I’m built more like a gymnast – no waist or hips but flared muscular legs. As a result most sexy underwear are cut in ways that make my legs look short and heavy (well, they ARE heavy but they’re pretty lean).

I do appreciate a good bra for how it helps me fit a shirt, though. But I won’t spend the money at VS.

cld

February 4th, 2010
9:19 am

JATL’s comment about Dillard’s is spot-on. I have been surprised by their selection in the D-cup range. Besides VS, that’s the only store where I’ve ever found a bra stocked in my size.

Raqi

February 4th, 2010
9:21 am

IMO the key to good underwear is cute AND comfortable. There are some pieces that I have that I purchased at lingerie parties and other places that most would say is really sexy, but they are quite uncomfortable. Some of that super lacy stuff is itchy.

When I buy stuff now, be it bras, panties, camis, teddies, it has to be as comfortable as it is sexy. Because you know sometimes I just like to wear the super sexy stuff under my clothes even when the hubby doesn’t know I have it on.

JJ

February 4th, 2010
9:24 am

I’m a purse junkie. I have a box of purses in my closet. I probably have 25 purses.

I used have a ton of shoes, but now I just wear my tennis shoes all the time. My work is VERY casual and I’m out in the warehouse a lot, so I just can’t wear heels. Plus I wear jeans and have to have comfy shoes on.

I do have three pair of boots, and one pair of black heels, just in case…….