Teen trend:Does her bracelet mean something sexual?

I got a note from one of our regulars who just found out that weaved bracelets the teens in her ‘burb of Atlanta are wearing have another meaning other than friendship. Here’s what she wrote:

“Apparently the kids in middle and high school are into colored bracelets. Kind of like the friendship bracelets we used to wear…the intertwined ones. Well…who knew that they now have sexual meaning? I certainly didn’t. And neither did my daughter. She wears them because she simply LIKES them. So when a girl came up to her and asked if she knew what they meant….she had no clue!…”

“Apparently the colors of the bracelets correlate to what you have done sexually or are willing to do. My child had no clue…she just happens to be the necklace/bracelet freak. ”…

“As her mom….do I instruct her to tell these bozo kids to shove it where the sun doesn’t shine…or tell her to just take them off? Before you know it…twister beads and parachute pants will mean you are into beastiality and spankin..un-freakin-believable.”

Have you seen your teens wearing these bracelets? Have you heard that the colors indicate your child’s sexual willingness? Will you ask them if they know what the mean? Will you tell them to stop wearing them? (Problem is even if they’re just wearing them because they like them other kids may think they are indicating something else.) What do you think?

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mom2alex&max

January 29th, 2010
8:59 am

Mmmm… I don’t have a daughter. I’d have to think about it. I think that if she was wearing them because she liked them, AND she was strong enough to put up with the peer pressure, AND I knew for sure that in fact the true meaning of the bracelets did not apply to her..I’d let her keep them. An probably as your regular said:”instruct her to tell these bozo kids to shove it where the sun doesn’t shine”

But what a load of bull…seriously.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

January 29th, 2010
9:03 am

think about that congressman tapping his foot in the airport bathroom — you don’t want to send the wrong signals if you really don’t know what it means or don’t want to indicate what the others think it means …….hmmmmm

Momof2Girls

January 29th, 2010
9:04 am

I’ve heard this about the rubber, or jelly, bracelets, but never about the woven friendship bracelets. With the rubber bracelets, the color(s) the girls wear are indicative of what the are willing to do. The boy breaks the bracelet that has the color of what he wants from the girl. They refer to this as “Snap”. It’s been prevelant in the UK for a while, and is probably here as well.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

January 29th, 2010
9:05 am

Momof2Girls

January 29th, 2010
9:12 am

I agree :-) Thank goodness I know about this from reading about it in an online article rather than hearing it from my kids.

Allie

January 29th, 2010
9:16 am

The bracelets indicating something sexual has been going on for years; it’s nothing new, along with sex parties (where the couples have an audience, or swap partners). And who’s not to say these girls are wearing the bracelet to give off the wrong impression, to be one of the “cool” girls, without actually having done anything?

However, with all this, the double standard still abounds and that’s the killer – a girl becomes a slut, while the guy is getting high fives and pats on the back. The girls are sometimes pressured into performing and then we hear those guys who did the pressuring are very often the guys who wouldn’t take such a girl home to mother.

So rather than focus all our energy on the girls, why not work on the guys too? Stop the high fives and pats on the back, stop the Dads from saying “that’s my boy!”. Treat both sexes the same (which we know will never happen), and see if they think twice before carrying on.

mom2alex&max

January 29th, 2010
9:29 am

Allie: that has LOOOOOOONNNGGG been a pet peeve of mine. I have two sons, and you can rest assured that they won’t be hearing “that’s my boy!” in my house. I want to teach my sons respect, I want to teach them the sacredness of sex, I don’t want them to be the kind of boy that a girl’s father would hate.

Michelle

January 29th, 2010
9:29 am

Until it was mentioned a day or two ago, I had no idea! My step son likes to wear them and he has several different ones. Very interesting. I’ll have to do some checking about this!

I agree with Allie, the boys should not be “congratulated” for their activities while the girls are scorned. I don’t understand why that’s always been acceptable!

As far as letting the kids wear the bracelets…we could tell them no, but I’m certain as soon as they got to school, they would put some on! It just like changing clothes once you get to school or out of view of the parents!

I think the parents should know what the bracelets mean (if they can even find out) and discuss it with the kids. Perhaps the kids just like the bracelets?

Becky

January 29th, 2010
9:31 am

Didn’t know anything abou this..I will have to ask my teenage nieces to find out if they know about this…

Single Dad

January 29th, 2010
9:35 am

this type of stuff has been going on forever. when I was in college (1970’s) in New England, I wore a red sweater on a Wednesday and some dude in my class says; “…are you gay? all gay guys on campus wear red on Wednesdays. it’s their signal…” and how about “if it’s right it’s wrong” for males with earrings? for the record; having sex with another man makes you gay (not that there is anything wrong with it) and not the color of your sweater. here’s a novel idea for parents… COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CHILDREN. if she starts wearing a bracelet, ask her about it. and, it’s 2010, in my humble opinion, parents should have the “sex” talk with children (especially daughters, who mature much earlier) around third or fourt grade (when they start to notice/talk about boys as more than playmates or classmates). and let us not forget, some (insecure) children will do anything for attention. this not only includes experimenting with sex, but leading others to believe he/she is sexually active in order to be accepted by peers. sadly enough, the previous blog (teen pregnancies) is the only true proof a daughter is sexually active.

FCM

January 29th, 2010
9:37 am

” got a note from one of our regulars who just found out that weaved bracelets the teens in her ‘burb of Atlanta are wearing have another meaning other than friendship.” They have been reporting on this for at least a decade (maybe longer?)! 20/20 did something on them a few years back…so did someone else…probably even Oprah.

When it comes to kids doing trendy find out why they want to do it. Google whatever it takes to learn what is going on. Absolutely discuss the concerns with the child!

Although as those well along the sidewalk (JJ, MJG, DB, DiedreNC) keep telling us, if we don’t start all this way early (when they still actually listen to us) then when we finally learn about things like this it is TOO LATE.

Busy…busy….busy…..will be back later and sorry if this sound harsh literally like 60 sec or less to type

JMP

January 29th, 2010
9:37 am

Allie I agree w/you, this is nothing new the teenagers are just switching the connotation each couple of years to stay ahead of parents. However, your last paragraph is really speaking to me as I have 2 young son (8&10) and I do not want them to think it’s ok to ravage their way thru girls and be high fiving w/their friends, it’s not cool. Hopefully my husband and I can have that kind of influence on them because I don’t want them out there ruining someone’s daughter’s life. Have respect for her and yourself!

Allie

January 29th, 2010
9:38 am

Oh, in case anyone’s wondering what the colors represent, here’s a little run down:
Break someone’s orange bracelet (or purple, in some cases) and you get a kiss. Red, a lap dance. Blue, oral sex. Black, intercourse. (There may be some color variation but all articles I’ve read mostly use the same colors.)

RJ

January 29th, 2010
9:42 am

This is old news. I believe Oprah did a show on it a few years ago. Yes, teens are doing things I never knew about when I was their age. My daughter has never worn them, but we have talked about it. Parents, talk to your kids! According to my daughter, one of the biggest trends amongst girls is dating other girls. According to her, girls are dating girls just to see what it’s like or to bring attention to themselves. Some say they’re gonna go back to dating boys later. We’ve seen a lot more of it. Even one of her former friends is now dating a girl for the heck of it. What is going on today? If you’re gay fine, but to do it to get a reaction out of someone or just to be trying something is insane. Parents need to step up and be better parents. You don’t need that $400,000 house, luxury car and designer bag…you need to spend time with your kids!

Michelle

January 29th, 2010
9:43 am

Momof2Girls

January 29th, 2010
9:44 am

Allie, thanks for mentioning the colors. It actually made me think of something else.

Are the woven bracelets a solid color or patterned? My daughter and her friends make these with intricate patterns. The only solid color that I’m aware of is red because it has Kabbalistic significance for healing (please look it up if you’re curious – it is too complicated to explain here :-).

Julia

January 29th, 2010
9:44 am

The boy is still home sick (taking him back to the Dr today). I just read this to him after I asked him do you have any idea what these mean which he turned and looked at me like I was on crack. He walks off and goes that is stupid … so no I guess he either does not pay attention to the kids jewelry at school or they dont do this…

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January 29th, 2010
9:47 am

I find this interesting when groups of people develop ways of communication undetectable to the general public.

You know how you see guys with sweat pants on and one leg is pulled up? That used to mean that he was “working”. (Selling drugs)

Now, it just means that he has seen other people do it and he is copying it because he is a lemming.

A tear drop tatoo used to mean something too.

How do people learn this stuff? I mean, do you have to have a guide?

For example, how did Larry Craig find out that you could tap your foot for bathroom sex? Is there a book or something?

And I am laughing at “the sacredness of sex” comment above. Thats great! I will be smiling all day at that comment. “Sacredness” HA!

Single Dad

January 29th, 2010
9:58 am

what man doesn’t tap his foot in the bathroom? what’s next, whistling or clearing your throat (insert homoerotic joke here). as I said, if you go to a public rest room to have sex with other men you are gay – not if you tap your foot in a stall. I like tapping my foot. I don’t like sex with other men (regardless of venue). I have to get back to work but is it me, or should parents be concerned if their teenager (male or female) is having sex (of any kind)? call me nuts, but the color of the bracelet is not the issue… sexual activity is the issue. talk to your kids, or this blog will become “grandmom(dad)ania”

Tiger needs me on his PR team

January 29th, 2010
10:11 am

I, like single dad, remember when it was the earring on either side that indicated your sexual orientation. Some of those things are urban legend, some are based in fact. I went to snopes dot com to check. They’re a website dedicated to verifying or debunking urban legends. They actually had a pretty good read.

http://www.snopes.com/risque/school/bracelet.asp

@RJ When did a $400K house, luxury car, and designer bag preclude someone from spending time and communicating with their kid(s)?

JJ

January 29th, 2010
10:13 am

Julia, he’s avoiding answering your question…..don’t think he doesn’t know……

Julia

January 29th, 2010
10:17 am

JJ naw… I can pretty much tell when he is not telling the truth, believe you me… I am not a mom that believes every word that comes out of his mouth. He really just does not care about stuff like that…

mom2alex&max

January 29th, 2010
10:17 am

Three dots dude: whatever. U find it amusing that I don’t want my boys to walk around like horn dogs? It’s ‘funny” that i want to teach them that sex is not just something to do???? is that the kind of son u think I should be raising?

idiot

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January 29th, 2010
10:22 am

NO, no, I just find the phrase itself funny. “Sacredness of Sex”.

It puts sex on such a lofty pedastal.

Of course you should talk to your kids about sex. I guess I just am more literal and technical. Sacred is not a word that comes to mind when I think of sex.

RJ

January 29th, 2010
10:35 am

@Tiger, those parents are usually too busy working (sometimes 2 jobs) to spend any time with their kids.

Becky

January 29th, 2010
10:38 am

@Tiger..About the $400K house, I’ve seen that a lot here..People think that if the child has an awesome home, that the parents really care about them..I have a niece (35yo) that was in high school with a family like that..Didn’t matter that the Dad worked all of the time and did not know any of her friends and the Mom was more into fashion..The child came to our house one weekend, the parents never came over to meet us, just sent her on the school bus..

@Julia..Honey, I’m with JJ on this one..He knows something..Good luck finding out what it is..

Tiger needs me on his PR team

January 29th, 2010
10:41 am

@RJ and Becky…I just think that’s an unfair stereotype.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
10:46 am

:), if yall want to think I live with rose colored glasses go ahead… he and I have open talks all the time and really he does not follow the popular group he likes people for who they are… He does not get caught up in all the drama and just rolls with the flow. He is not perfect and yes he has caused his own grief but he really is a good kid :)

JJ

January 29th, 2010
10:52 am

Julia, I’m sure your son it honest and open, so is my daughter. BUT they are teenagers and they DON”T tell us everything. Trust me on this one honey!!! There are some things our kids do not wish to discuss with us.

Regarding the kids in $400K homes, the majority of the kids my daughter runs with (when she is home), all come from the big fancy homes, neighborhoods, etc. BUT, guess where they like to hang out? MY HOUSE….why? Because they like the “security” I provide by being home. Their parents are never home and they are crying out for that security.

The girls are always telling me they love that I’m there. Even if they hang down in the basement, or don’t come rolling in until 3:30, they still find comfort in the fact that I am there.

catlady

January 29th, 2010
10:55 am

I would hope my children would have been strong enough to wear bracelets of many colors or no bracelets at all and tell those that question them to “bug off”. I would, however, ask them about what I heard to see if it is big at their schools, and talk again about peer pressure, “advertising” etc.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
10:58 am

JJ can you tell by body language if they are telling the truth?? I do know there are things that he is not going to talk to me about I am not that naive.. He actually read what you wrote and said.. mom who is she to judge me.. she does not know me..

Julia

January 29th, 2010
10:59 am

Good Morning Tiger.. Good to see ya today!

Tiger needs me on his PR team

January 29th, 2010
11:00 am

@JJ…so I’m going to veer from my usual tongue in cheek line of questioning here….Correct me if I’m wrong, but what you, and RJ, and Becky are really saying is that affluence in general is a cause of bad parenting, right?

Tiger needs me on his PR team

January 29th, 2010
11:02 am

morning Julia….hope the kid is feeling better.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
11:04 am

he is sick as a dog… first it was his asthma now its turned into a wet cough… he is going to his dads this weekend and his dad has tickets to the Atlanta Symphony.. I wonder if he has the sense enough that he may not need to go out in this weather.. They are calling for more sleet and cold rain here this weekend..

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January 29th, 2010
11:04 am

Affluence is not a cause of bad parenting. Excess may be a symptom of bad parenting perhaps.

Tiger needs me on his PR team

January 29th, 2010
11:06 am

yeah..I’m home with a sick one too today for half the day until mom can switch with me.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
11:08 am

I hate it when they get sick

Wayne

January 29th, 2010
11:14 am

This has been a bad year for sick people! Someone in my house has been sick since the beginning of the year. The boys, coupla times already. When does it stop? Sheesh.

The hospital I work at was over capacity yesterday because of all the sick people out there. Yikes!

RJ

January 29th, 2010
11:15 am

My comment had nothing to do with affluence. It had to do with priorities. Part of the reason people have lost their homes was their desire to live above their means. Part of it, not all of it so don’t jump on me. But so many feel that having a big house with a fancy car, buying their kids the latest and greatest is important. But if you’re working all of the time to have these things, you’re ignoring your kids. I grew up in Buckhead and I often tell my kids about th rich kids at my school. They lived in million dollar homes. They drove brand new cars (mercedes, porsche, etc). Dad worked incessantly and mom shopped or traveled. Of course not every single one lived that life, but too many of them did. Caused for some unhappy kids that were doing major drugs. Why not? They had the money to do it without anyone monitoring them.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
11:15 am

(((wayne))) dont you catch it

Tiger needs me on his PR team

January 29th, 2010
11:27 am

@RJ…all I’m saying is that I don’t think misplaced priorities are any more or less prevalent across the socio economic range. Many bloggers here spend the majority of their time identifying the latest low income, federally and locally assisted sycophants (I’m paraphrasing their opinions here) who neglect their kids every day and whose kids are doing all kinds of things because no one was monitoring them. To say parents need to step up and ONLY call out the ones with $400K houses seems a little one sided and short sighted.

Wayne

January 29th, 2010
11:28 am

I know! I already had my bout. Get my x-ray next week to make sure the pneumonia is all gone. It’s been a rough month. Poor kids have it bad though. We keep our kids home when they’re sick. Others, not so much.

Anyway, sorry to get off topic.

Wasn’t there something about lipstick and different colors? I seem to recall a TV news story or something about that. It shocked me as I like to think of myself as being pretty open-minded about sex, but these were very young boys and girls.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
11:28 am

RJ, that is the absolute truth…

Julia

January 29th, 2010
11:31 am

Wayne, he has asthma and has one or two good bouts every year,.. it then turns into bronchitis or just straight to the pneumonia… With the crazy weather this year.. I knew it was just around the corner..

Ok so the lipstick?? I love red so does that make me a ho ho ho??

Wayne

January 29th, 2010
11:36 am

I just thought I had some sort of stomach bug, ended up going to the ED, and found out I had pneumonia. Was I ever surprised!

Is that a berry red, or a fire engine red? I’m just tryin’ to get a picture in my mind…

Did I just type that??

Momof2Girls

January 29th, 2010
11:38 am

You REALLY don’t want to know about the lipstick!!

If you do, read on…..

At a party, each girl wears different color lipstick. Boys try to get as many different colored rings as they can. I’m sure can figure out where…..

greeneteacher

January 29th, 2010
11:41 am

I’m a middle school teacher and there’s some kind of bracelet now that is called a ’sex bracelet.’ Boys can ‘pop’ the bracelet and the boy who does can do whatever he wants to the girl sexually. I’ve picked this up from kids talking, but don’t know the details of the bracelet. I do know that some girls just wear it because they like it, but I wonder what happens if their bracelet is ‘popped.’

Wayne

January 29th, 2010
11:41 am

THAT’s what it was! I was shocked that that happened. I’m not a prude, but holy schmokes. Kids that young should be doing other things other than that!

Momof2Girls

January 29th, 2010
11:43 am

Hey Julia, I warned you :-)

Tea

January 29th, 2010
11:43 am

Don’t you think it’s a good idea to verify this claim before going off the deep end? I mean, according to the above article, ONE GIRL made a comment to your daughter. C’mon.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
11:43 am

MOM EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

Julia

January 29th, 2010
11:46 am

Blech..I need another shower… ***shudder***..

Wayne

January 29th, 2010
11:48 am

@Tea: Go back into the blog and look at the link that Michelle left.

Chip Van Distenkamp

January 29th, 2010
11:48 am

I wish it were that easy when I was in high school – back then we had to find the easy girls the hard way.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
11:53 am

I am going to go off topic here but this is just too funny not to share.. I have tears running down my face from laughing so hard… I have an african gray, she is on her perch.. she coughs like she is gonna die, she sneezes this big wet nasty one, she sings the Zaxby’s commercial then she meows like the cat.. oh then she cracks up laughing…

I do not need a tv!! ok carry on :)

uh oh whoops

January 29th, 2010
11:54 am

I’m 65 and have worn one for years and still don’t get sex

DB

January 29th, 2010
11:59 am

Tea, it’s true — at least, I’ve heard this over the last couple of years from several sources.

My daughter loves jewelry, but she refused to wear the “friendship” bracelet style because she said that “people were soooo stupid about them.” She disliked the juvenile tittering and smirking just because she may have happened to like the color combinations that morning.

Here’s a handy guide to the colors :-)

Yellow – indicates the wearer is willing to HUG
Pink – indicates the wearer is willing to give a hickey
Orange – indicates the wearer is willing to KISS
Purple – indicates the wearer is willing to kiss a partner of either sex
Red – indicates the wearer is willing to perform a LAP DANCE
Green – indicates that ORAL SEX can be performed on a girl
Clear – indicates a willingness to do “whatever the snapper wants”
Blue – indicates ORAL SEX performed on a guy
Black – indicates that the wearer will have regular “missionary” sex
White – indicates the wearer will “FLASH” what they have
Glittery Yellow – indicates HUGGING and KISSING is acceptable
Glittery Pink – willing to “flash” (show) a body part
Glittery Purple – wearer is willing to French (open mouth) kiss
Glittery Blue – wearer is willing to perform anal sex
Glittery Green – indicates that the wearer is willing to “69″ (mutual oral sex)
Glittery Clear – indicates that the wearer will let the snappee “feel up” or touch any body part they want

Just because the kids are wearing them, that DOESN’T mean that they’re willing to DO them. I sure wouldn’t forbid my daughter from wearing them — they’ll get the message soon enough as to their appropriateness. Either she’ll stop wearing them, or she’ll tell the other person to “get over themselves.” It’s probably a good time to have a talk about peer pressure and being able to say, “If you like it, wear it, and don’t worry about what anyone else thinks. It’s just a bracelet.” I think giving in to the “oh, no, someone might think she’s sexually active!” is sending the wrong signal — it’s peer pressure, plain and simple.

Just another example of the hyper-sexualization of young people. *sigh*

Julia

January 29th, 2010
12:04 pm

DB – see a list like that my boy would be just like. yall are stupid and walk away… Yes I know that for a fact and willing to bet a kidney on it :)

JJ

January 29th, 2010
12:05 pm

Julia, I am NOT judging your son. I don’t judge people, I don’t know their situations. I’m just saying teenagers don’t tell us everything. And yes I can tell from my daughter’s body language when she isn’t being truthful or avoiding telling me something. You know your son better than anyone, but I’m just telling ya……..I myself was once a teenager, and as honest as I was with my parents, there were just some things I didn’t tell them…….

Tiger, “…are really saying is that affluence in general is a cause of bad parenting, right?” NO. That was not my intent. I just see all these kids from these big beautiful homes telling me that basically their parents are never around. I know that some of their moms do not work, but they have very busy social calendars, and are not home when their kids are. These kids have had to cook their own dinners, clean the house, etc (which there is NOTHING wrong with that at all). These kids do talk to me about this stuff, and they have always commented that they like the fact that I am home. They love that I wait sometimes for them to come in, and make milkshakes, popcorn, etc for them…….Yes they can do that all themselves, but sometimes it’s nice to have a “mom” doing it for you. I think it all boils down to that “secure” feeling for them.

Edgewood Adam

January 29th, 2010
12:06 pm

“My Daughter just wears them because she likes bracelets!!?? What a fool! And i was just holding the pot for a friend when i was in highschool and we liked to hang out in the woods because camping was fun. hahahahahaha

Julia

January 29th, 2010
12:08 pm

JJ I guess the reason I am taking a bit of offense to this is because.. I do know that kids are kids and do stupid things.. I never once said that… but it would be no different that me see you and your girl on the street an she has on something that I would think is a bit to old for her.. and i go, wow she looks like a stripper and her mama just lets her wear it :)

Julia

January 29th, 2010
12:11 pm

Newsflash to some of the accusing parents out there.. There are some kids that really do not get caught up in the drama!! Some have raised really good kids that can think for them selves and not get sucked into peer pressure…. Just because some of …. were hellions does not mean the kids turned out that way…

Paul

January 29th, 2010
12:19 pm

ya’ll need to check out urban dictionary. it will give you all the details you need

KJ

January 29th, 2010
12:19 pm

Why couldn’t this kind of signaling device be available when I was in high school…. would have made things much simpler :(

JJ

January 29th, 2010
12:25 pm

Julia, it has NOTHING to do with that. You need to settle down. There was nothing I said that attacked you personally, and you should not have been offended by my general statement that teenagers don’t always tell us everything. I never said your son was lying, I never attacked him or you. If however, you are feeling offended, then apparently I have hit a nerve…..

I’m just simply saying Teenagers do not tell us everything. Anyone else take offense to that?

Julia

January 29th, 2010
12:26 pm

JJ because .. I kept saying I understand and you seemed to not “get” that part of it… I was a teenager at one time too and yes it was when people drew on caves :)

Julia

January 29th, 2010
12:29 pm

KJ there was.. it is also called how much eye liner she had on.. :)

Lori

January 29th, 2010
12:34 pm

Julia – don’t get defensive. You spend alot of time on here talking about things your son did that he shouldn’t have. So for you to now say you believe him on this sounded odd. You also stated: “He really just does not care about stuff like that…” Sex? You don’t think your teenage boy cares about sex?

Remember, he hid a facebook account from you too.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
12:35 pm

JJ, JJ

January 29th, 2010
10:13 am
Julia, he’s avoiding answering your question…..don’t think he doesn’t know……

You may not be judging me but you are judging him and he saw this.. he is the one that said.. she does not know me… how can she know that I really know about these things….

((hugs))

SRH

January 29th, 2010
12:35 pm

Theresa – your post: think about that congressman tapping his foot in the airport bathroom — you don’t want to send the wrong signals if you really don’t know what it means or don’t want to indicate what the others think it means …….hmmmmm
You are kidding right – that congressman knew what he was doing.. like all the others that get caught and then say they are not guilty!

Ezra

January 29th, 2010
12:38 pm

Some parents teach their kids traditional values but since the 1960’s they are faced with the progressive liberal movement of free sex. Sex like you want it, where ever you are, with whatever you want it with. AND the progressive liberals want you to believe it is NORMAL. So why does this really shock you? You have allowed hollywood and special interest groups dictate to you what you kid should be doing.
Have you see 2 and 1/2 men tv series? It comes on when kids are watching tv.

I use to say thank goodness I just have a son but with President Obama’s anouncement at the state of the union address I am telling my son military service is not a good choice.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
12:40 pm

Lori come to find out.. that really was not his account.. he really did not make it… We know this for a fact… and yes it is being addressed and taken care of

Realist

January 29th, 2010
12:41 pm

SRH – she meant that just because you tap your foot in a restroom, doesn’t mean you’re wanting the guy next to you to give you oral sex.

Please pay attention when you read.

JATL

January 29th, 2010
12:42 pm

How silly! Everyone saying that this type of thing has been going on for years is correct. We had all sorts of different codes for hair ribbons and jewelry and clothing in the 70s and 80s -not all of it was sexual either! How about this -if your daughter or son likes wearing these bracelets, mention that you’ve heard they mean something sexual. Watch the eyes roll! Listen for “Mommmmm or Daaaaaaaad”. Then reiterate your position on acceptable behavior. If your kid wants to wear the bracelets, let them. I don’t think bracelet-wearing is one of the battles you really want to pick at this age, right?

Realist

January 29th, 2010
12:45 pm

Ezra – seriously? You’re blaming the “liberals” for the sex movement and “free sex?” Seriously? I see you’re the type that wants to blame others for your sucky life. Yeah, you’re a Republican and everything wrong in the world is because of the Democrats. Yeah, right.

If you think Obama wanting to get rid of the “Don’t ask, don’t tell” policy is going to change the number of gays in the military, you’re an idiot. He’s just saying they shouldn’t have to hide. I seriously doubt any of them would want to jump your son anyway (if he’s half as ignorant as you are, he’s pretty lame).

Julia

January 29th, 2010
12:46 pm

Thank YOU JATL!

RJ

January 29th, 2010
12:46 pm

@Tiger, I give. How about if I said that parents attempting to live above their means by working day and night so that they “look” like they have more money than they do. I chose the number $400,000 out of the air. I realize that the average American can’t afford a home that expensive.

Ezra

January 29th, 2010
12:48 pm

Realist

January 29th, 2010
12:45 pm

“Yeah, you’re a Republican and everything wrong in the world is because of the Democrats. Yeah, right.”

I am not a republican and were all those in Massachusetts republicans?
I did not mention democrats now did I? I mentioned progressive liberals. Have you got your necklace of “CHE”?

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

January 29th, 2010
12:50 pm

SRH — it just made me think of it — I believe that was his defense.

Gail

January 29th, 2010
12:52 pm

This is very old news. My kids are in college and this was VERY popular when they were in Middle School.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

January 29th, 2010
12:54 pm

I was just sent this AP News alert from my boss — This is from an AP investigation that found a toxic metal cadmium being put until children’s jewelry. The Feds announced a recall today!!! I will post a link to the story as soon as it’s up — they first sent an alert —

Feds announce recall of ‘Princess and Frog’ pendants for high levels of toxic metal cadmium.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
12:54 pm

Gail, now did your kids get pregnant or stds because of this ?? :)

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

January 29th, 2010
12:56 pm

where was I – I don’t remember this at all when I was in school

Julia

January 29th, 2010
12:56 pm

I know I will get tared and feathered for this but really what do you expect for a 2 dollar piece of jewelery from another country…its not like it is 14 ct gold or even worth the paper the money was printed on..

Rob

January 29th, 2010
12:57 pm

To everyone bringing up Larry Craig’s bathroom tap as innocent, he not only tapped his foot he also put it in the stall next to him and touched the officers foot + tried to peeped through a hole in the stall

JJ

January 29th, 2010
1:01 pm

That’s why we should NOT be buying ANYTHING that isn’t made in the USA. That and the fact that sending all that work overseas (tax cuts and cheaper work), and gave half our country away, AND put Americans out of work.

BUY AMERICAN!!!!!!

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:03 pm

JJ I agree with you there :)

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:06 pm

Theresa, here is a great topic for you.. Why do parents feel they need to get sucked in by the big ole puppy dog eyes and the bottom lip out when it comes to kids and junk toys or anything that really they do not need??? Why do “we” just give into this.. Why cant parents just say NO :)

...

January 29th, 2010
1:10 pm

“Some parents teach their kids traditional values but since the 1960’s they are faced with the progressive liberal movement of free sex.”

Yes, sex in the 1950s was so much better! Back then, a woman was submissive to her husband like it should be, right? There was never a concern for a woman’s pleasure in sex. It was her duty to please him only.

Sex is normal. Sex can be casual. Sex should be fun. Sex is not something to fear. Its not icky, or gross.

Being uptight sexually can ruin a marriage too, by the way.

SRH

January 29th, 2010
1:14 pm

JJ – have you been able to buy goods made in the USA? I am not being sarcastic here. I am speaking of regular household goods, clothes, etc.. Even the “better” stores such as Ann Taylor have all their clothes made overseas. Even US flags sold at Walmart are made in China! I really want to know where you shop. I would love to buy American made goods…. And I am not talking about cars.

Richard

January 29th, 2010
1:16 pm

color coding alive and well in the suburbs of Metro Atlanta. In Conyers Middle School a couple in class both wore red and black outfits and it was clear to me within 5 minutes that not only did they go together but that they were also sexually involved due to the amount of touching and inuendo they exhibited towards each other. It was practically impossible o keep them apart!!! 8th graders

...

January 29th, 2010
1:17 pm

There are websites that can help you buy american if you want.

I saw a t-shirt that said “MADE IN THE U.S.A.!” on the chest. I looked and it was actually made in South America. I took a pic of it

itpdude

January 29th, 2010
1:18 pm

oh hells yeah! You mean blue means this and red means that and all I have to do is break whatever color to indicate the sex I want?

See you at the malls!

ROFL

January 29th, 2010
1:20 pm

“sex bracelets” or whatever u want 2 call them aren’t “real”. kids don’t actually do this in real life. this is a made up story to scare mothers. the idea is to make something common and w/o meaning seem sinster – but there are not millions of teenage girls willing to sleep w/ any male who will simply “snap” a jelly bracelet. Think how many bracelets hot topic alone must sell…

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:24 pm

I would be more concerned with the skirt up to her ya ya, 4 inch heels and eye liner than I would be over a stupid bracelet.

...

January 29th, 2010
1:24 pm

I just bought a box of “glittery blue” bracelets for my wife!

JJ

January 29th, 2010
1:27 pm

SHR I am doing my best to find products made in the USA. Crest Toothpaste and Oral B toothbrushes are made here in the USA……..

I’ll try to send more, but it’s Friday and we are slammed here at work.

Sporty Black

January 29th, 2010
1:32 pm

Some people are so unhappy, yet others are so dumb…

1. Boys don’t ruin girls, girls do.
2. People are affluent because they do things better than others.
3. As an affluent parent in a $500k house w/fancy cars, my wife and I both work and EARN six figure salaries… Guess what?? We are scout leaders, sports coaches, tutors at school, and perform church and community service projects with our children and other kids. Go figure, between us maybe EARNING five college degrees in mathematics, engineering, and business has something to do with us being ‘affluent.’
4. Are people in the trailer parks or housing projects affluent??? Last I heard, their kids give and receive he@d, do drugs, wear bracelets, have drinking/sex parties etc.
5. What the hell does Obama, Democrat, Republican, GDI (Good Decent Individual, my party) have to do with anything?

Please stop blaming money (or lack there of), dumb decisions, and lack of ambition on what the real problem is with these kids… poor parenting skills. Stop worrying about other people and invest all that you are worth in your children.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:34 pm

Sporty Black

4. Are people in the trailer parks or housing projects affluent??? Last I heard, their kids give and receive he@d, do drugs, wear bracelets, have drinking/sex parties etc.

Does this mean your children are immune it it? Please do not take this the wrong way but just because some one makes 6 figures, does church stuff has 10 degrees does not make them have the sense enough to not drown under a rain drop…

April

January 29th, 2010
1:39 pm

This has been going on for at least ten years – the style of bracelet may have changed some but the meaning is the same. I find that most middle schoolers are clueless but some know exactly whAt hey are daring and why.
Sorry if I am repeating. I have not had time to read all the comments today

MomsRule

January 29th, 2010
1:39 pm

I’ve read several comments saying “this has been going on forever.” Really?

I graduated high school in 88. There were no symbols being worn by anyone indicating their sexual willingness. If there was….I was way outta the loop! LOL In all seriousness, it wasn’t going on. Casual sex (or various acts) by girls was not bragged about by the girls or advertised loudly to the boys.

Julia, I understand what you are saying about your son not being interested “in stuff like that” and thinking “that’s stupid.” I have a 13 year old like that as well.

MomsRule

January 29th, 2010
1:41 pm

April, 10 years…that I can see. I’ve been hearing about those “rainbow” parties for that long.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:42 pm

MomsRule remember the “feather” dope holder things? Everyone wore them and not every one was smoking pot :)… I had a pink one and a purple one… I have never in my life touched illegal drugs…

Dave

January 29th, 2010
1:42 pm

@ … – trust me, your wife already has those!

MomsRule

January 29th, 2010
1:43 pm

Clarification to my 1:39 post…I’m not saying it wasn’t going on anywhere, or calling anyone a liar, I’m saying it wasn’t going on at my high school.

Rod

January 29th, 2010
1:44 pm

Julia – class of ‘83 here – we didn’t have any of that kind of stuff at my school (um, not that I was looking or anything).

MomsRule

January 29th, 2010
1:44 pm

oh yeah – we called them roach clips! LOL

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:46 pm

MOM – I “get” what you are saying

Patrick

January 29th, 2010
1:47 pm

IIRC, a tear drop tattoo came about in prisons, and it meant you killed somebody. For each person you killed, you got a tear drop tattoo. There is a waitress at the Waffle House near my home that has one. We joke that she killed someone who didn’t pay their check.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:48 pm

Rod I was class of 84 – Good Ole Russell High School in East Point Ga! I was in my own little world (this is NOT under a rock) There was all sorts of crap going on there.. People smoking, doing drugs, sleeping around, sleeping with teachers…. you name it…

No Way

January 29th, 2010
1:51 pm

I just saw a mom w/ daughter buying underware in Victorias Secret that says “I WANT IT ALL”. Girl was about 11-13 years old. Now this is priceless…

Rod

January 29th, 2010
1:53 pm

Be careful about giving to much information on here Julia, someone could look you up and figure out who you are!

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:54 pm

No Way.. I be damned if you will wear plastic bracelets but I will buy you VS thongs… :)

JJ

January 29th, 2010
1:54 pm

Well la tee da Sporty Black……

OK……..my Uncle was extremely wealthy, Psychiarist, one of the top in his State. Aunt didn’t work. Beautiful $500K house (back in the 70’s-80’s). Two sons, private school, church, scouts, etc. My cousins had EVERYTHING they could ask for. The oldest was given a car on his 16th birthday, totalled it out, and was given car after car. This same child was accepted on a FULL scholarship to USC. There, he discovered more powerful drugs than what he had experimeted with in high school. He is now dead, from a drug overdose at the at of 25. Uncle, once he found out about the death of his son, committed suicide three weeks later. Mom died of kidney failure a year earlier.

Second child, same scenario, private schools, car after car, after car. However, he did not go to USC, but got a girl pregnant at 18. They married, ended up having two kids. Now divorced, he is an alcoholic, can’t hold down a job, been arrested NUMEROUS times for DIU, etc.

Neither of these kids was taught to be responsible. Daddy did everything for them, and where are they now?

My family – somewhat wealthy parents, didn’t flaunt their money. We were never given cars, as we were taught that when we bought them we would appreciate them more. Both of us have good jobs, my bother in law enforcement, me in office management. Our parents were VERY involved in our lives, knew all our friends and their parents (small town). My brother has been on his job for 25 years, I have been on mine for 18. We both own our own homes, have a little money in the bank, and mutual respect for each other. He has never done drugs and drinks very little. I have dabbled in drugs (20 years ago) and I drink some too.

My point is, just because the parents are “affuluent” doesn’t mean the kids are perfect. I saw it in my own family. They had money, we had love!

RJ

January 29th, 2010
1:56 pm

@Sporty Black says, “People are affluent because they do things better than others.” Really?! First of all, if you live in a $500,000 I don’t consider you affluent. Remember, I said kids at my school lived in million dollar homes. Someone else used the word affluent, not me. I love how people like to throw around that they make 6 figures. What they won’t tell you is what the first number is of that six figure salary. If it’s less than a 5, you’re living well, but not truly affluent. Don’t get me wrong, I’m working on my 3rd degree, so it’s great you’ve earned so many. But let us not forget, Bill Gates would be one of, if not THE most affluent in this country, yet he dropped out of college. So with your 5 degrees he doesn’t have one but he earns your 6 figure salary in his sleep (and that’s just the first 15 minutes of sleep lol).

@Julia, amen sister!

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:56 pm

Thank you JJ!

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:58 pm

This now is gonna get funny, all of “us” trailer trash involved moms are about to take a stand :)

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:58 pm

Hmm were the shooters from Columbine from affluent families?? Where was the memo that the more money you made and the more degrees you got made you a better parent?? I know some of these people that are dumber than a stack of rocks. Just sayin!

Rod

January 29th, 2010
2:00 pm

I guess I’m affluent. I’m working on my 7th million.

Gave up on the first 6.

No Way

January 29th, 2010
2:02 pm

Julia – i did not get my point across very clearly – underware was for her daughter…

JATL

January 29th, 2010
2:02 pm

@ Julia -I remember the feathered “roach clips” that were actually made for holding joint roaches, but we ALL wore them (I had a lavender one I loved). Regardless of what they were really intended for, they also looked SO trashy, but it was a big fad at my school. The different types of shoelaces and ribbon barrettes all meant something different and so did these safety pin things we added beads to and pinned to our tennis shoes. I guess it depends on where you grew up MomsRule, but we had quite a few “meaningful” fads in the 80s in middle Georgia! Like I said before though -not all of them meant something sexual! Also, the stuff that SUPPOSEDLY meant something sexual was scoffed at by those of us who didn’t do whatever it was but still wanted to wear whatever. Oh yeah -3 piercings on one ear and two on the other; ear clips, jelly bracelets the FIRST time around -it goes on and on!

JATL

January 29th, 2010
2:03 pm

A lot of people are calling Sporty Black on the carpet, but I agree with what he said about your economic level not being what makes your kid “good” or “bad” -it’s what kind of parent you are and how much parenting you actually do! Of course we also have to take into account the “bad seeds” we ALL know of -kids who were definitely raised right and given plenty of parental attention but turned out to be nightmares anyway.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
2:04 pm

Rod :) the name in my year book is a nick name and it blows everyone that I know’s mind that I am going by this now… I see what you are saying but you would have to be from my school and know who I am to really get that one :)…

I did go to school with Julia Roberts for a few semesters

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

January 29th, 2010
2:04 pm

Federal government is recalling The Princess and The Frog pendants for high-levels of toxic cadmium — from ABC News

Federal consumer safety regulators on Friday announced the recall of “The Princess and The Frog” pendants because of high levels of the toxic metal cadmium, an unprecedented action that reflects concerns of an emerging threat in children’s products.

The recall affects two products, about 55,000 items in total, sold exclusively at Walmart stores for $5 each. The action was taken voluntarily by Rhode Island-based jewelry company FAF Inc., which did not immediately respond to a request for comment.

The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission, which disclosed the recall, had been testing for cadmium in children’s metal jewelry for several weeks in response to an Associated Press investigation that reported high levels of the known carcinogen in the Disney movie-themed pendants and other children’s metal jewelry imported from China.

In reaction to the AP’s reporting earlier this month, Wal-Mart Stores Inc. had pulled three items from its shelves, including the two recalled Friday — a crown pendant with UPC number 72783367144 and a frog pendant with UPC number 72783367147. The items had been on sale at Walmart stores since November, in conjunction with release of the animated movie.

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/wireStory?id=9698836

Julia

January 29th, 2010
2:07 pm

NO way.. I know what you mean :)

JATL, the good ole days…. :)

MomsRule

January 29th, 2010
2:12 pm

JATL, yes, I recall many of the things you mention but in Mpls MN, most of them didn’t have a meaning other than they were “cool trends”…maybe I mis-understood, I thought people were saying the color symbols regarding sex had been around forever….that I was not aware of….

you post is bringing back memories! LOL — I loved those pins with the beads!

SRH

January 29th, 2010
2:12 pm

@JJ – that would be great – Thanks! I do shop at Target rather than Walmart as at least Target gives the 5% back into the community. Plus, their products seem to be a higher quality – though just as foreign!

Saul Good

January 29th, 2010
2:14 pm

It’s only SEX people. Kids are going to do it no matter WHAT you try to do to prevent it. So instead of them being dumb and uneducated like Bristol Palin, teach them to protect themselves. No matter WHAT you say or do, kids are going to have sex. Always have, and always will. (oh except for YOUR kids…right?….keep telling yourself that…hehe).

Dave

January 29th, 2010
2:20 pm

“it’s only sex”

Yeah, Saul Good is a proud parent.

Betsy

January 29th, 2010
2:22 pm

Is Tiger needs me on his PR team now using the nickname Saul Good?

Jess

January 29th, 2010
2:24 pm

When I was in elementary school if you wore green on thursday it meant you were “horny”. I had NO idea what that meant. I called my own grandmother the H word when she was wearing green on thursday. Lets just say I almost got slapped until she stopped and realized i had absolutely no idea what that meant. She did tell me what it meant and I think my whole family were trying to hide their laughter! Do what you want to do, teach your kids to be strong enough to ignore other’s stupidities!

Dave

January 29th, 2010
2:30 pm

Sounds like Saul Good is a child molester and pedaphile!

Saul Good

January 29th, 2010
2:30 pm

As, I said…kids are going to have sex no matter what. I guess nobody here remembers their hormone levels when they were 14-18. Yet keep telling them that sex is dirty. Must be why girls who attend christian schools are having both oral and anal sex at a much higher rate compared to public school kids. Keeps them “pure” and virgins… The evilgelicals have done a wonderful job at raising a whole generation of your teen girls who willingly will give oral sex out as if it was like a kiss goodnight.

2moms

January 29th, 2010
2:35 pm

I am so surprised that I haven’t heard anything about gay parenting and how that has corrupted these children!!! Saul – I love the evilgelicals, I will have to start using that!

Michelle

January 29th, 2010
2:39 pm

SRH, this is off topic BUT Target is not the only company that gives back to the community! Walmart gives LOTS & LOTS back to their local communities through money and volunteering!

2moms

January 29th, 2010
2:39 pm

Oh and Sporty Black…you don’t have to live in a trailer to be trashy. Trash comes in all shapes, sizes, colors and socio-economic status. Trash to some of us are people who flaunt their middle class (yes you are middle class) wealth as if they were Bill and Melinda Gates. How much of those six figures do you give to others?

Sit N Spin

January 29th, 2010
2:42 pm

This is urban legend spawned by the internet. Who can you be so obtuse?

Maurice Garland

January 29th, 2010
2:44 pm

theyve been doing this for years…nothing new.

Tiger needs me on his PR team

January 29th, 2010
2:45 pm

that actually wasn’t me Betsy….but I do find it interesting that in each of your last three posts over the last few days, you’ve decided to make ME the issue instead of the topic that Theresa threw out there to discuss. It’s true…look it up. I’m flattered I have developed such a following with you.

I’ve got a couple of guesses regarding you….

(1) You use a different name for most of your entries, and just reserve Betsy just for me..again, I’m flattered…or
(2) You don’t really have a logical argument to present on the topics, but you love to throw out personal attacks.

If you really wanted to put my perceived megalomania in its place…someday you might actually want to try getting off the pot and getting into the debate of the topic instead of just saying what a worthless person I am.

OR…I could make a “Tiger’s greatest hits” all for you. I’ll put in a word document all the statements I’ve made over the months that epitomize why you hate me so much. Then, any time you want to really have a good time, you can smear yourself in peanut butter and go into a closet with a flashlight and do what you do best….revel in the thought that someday there will be divine justice for me actually enjoying my life and having a whole lot of fun without any guilt while you toil in your rage and anger. You can read my “greatest hits” and smile from ear to ear thinking about your eventual eternity of bliss while I most certainly burn in hellfire. I’m really getting the feeling that is what constitutes a good time for you.

YUKI

January 29th, 2010
2:47 pm

Jess, too funny!! In my middle school, being green(not wearing, they just called you green)meant that you had never kissed anyone. It was horrible and embarrassing to be “green”. It’s so funny to look back and see how seriously we took that stuff. Although today, it’s involving much more adult activity at an earlier age and that is scary.

YUKI

January 29th, 2010
2:49 pm

…and i just got “SAUL GOOD”. hee hee

joeschmo

January 29th, 2010
2:49 pm

is there a bracelet for “shoving it where the sun dont shine?”

Sporty Black

January 29th, 2010
2:52 pm

@ 2moms: Your comments are the very reason I volunteer in the schools; COMPREHENSION is really lacking. Go back and READ versus calling out words and you will come to the realization that you should be paying me for this therapy.

YOU can not define anyone (let alone my class). Stop worrying about others (Sporty Black, the Gates, etc) and examine what 2moms is doing. Heres a hug for you :) too.

@2moms:

Dave

January 29th, 2010
2:52 pm

Leave it to the lesbian to support Saul Good and his “it’s only sex” comment and support his comment that all Christian teen girls willingly will give oral sex out as if it was like a kiss goodnight.

Two nasty, vile people.

JJ

January 29th, 2010
2:54 pm

Joeschmo – yes, and it’s brown…..LOL…..

2moms

January 29th, 2010
2:57 pm

@dave – What part of my response gave any indication that I supported Saul Good’s platform? I liked his comment about evilgelicals. But I do think you are funny…leave it to a lesbian? oh Dave, really you continue to make my day.

Saul Good

January 29th, 2010
2:58 pm

That’s right Dave…just being a member of your cult (and brainwashing your children into it from the time they are born), means that thou does no sinning (yet it’s only YOU and the other cult members who believes sex is a sin in the first place). The cult has been ruining and corrupting children for years. This is just what your cult is doing in modern times….pushing back against nature and what is “normal and natural” and then expecting no consequences.

2moms

January 29th, 2010
3:03 pm

Hey I have an idea that will keep your daughters from engaging in promiscuous and unhealthy activities. Home school them or send them to a christian school that teaches them that sex is sinful and bad. Hide them from the evil of the world so that they are just bursting to break free. That should really keep them pure and sweet and virginal. A bad idea would be to build their self-esteem and teach them that sex is a wonderful thing when the time is right and teach them good decision-making and have honest open dialogue…YEAH THAT’S A HORRIBLE IDEA

Becky

January 29th, 2010
3:38 pm

@Tiger..Sorry that I waited so long to reply..We lost internet service here..No, I’m not saying that people that live in these big houses and drive fancy cars are bad parents..In what I was talking about, the parents were just more concerned with being able to show that they lived in a nice house, than they were in spending time with their daughter..She spent many weekends at my house..As JJ said, she liked the hominess of having someone show her some attention..

@Julia..I wasn’t trying to attack you..It’s just that I’ve learned (from having so many nieces and nephews) that yes they usually are hiding something.. So, if I upset you, I’m sorry..

Hope that everyone has a great weekend..We are off to go play in the snow..

Tiger needs me on his PR team

January 29th, 2010
3:45 pm

@ Becky…and I don’t disagree with that…all I was saying was that the blanket statement, as it was stated, was an unfair stereotype of a certain group of people that implied ALL (or even most) people in that group put material possessions as a priority over their kids, which is simply untrue.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
4:44 pm

Sporty whom ever you are… I am gonna bet a kidney – with all your “education” and money and fancy cars… Your kid has just as much chance as any one else ruining their life… Your children are no more or less immune to life’s tragedies as any one else…. Money can not buy a brain.

uberVU - social comments

January 30th, 2010
2:59 am

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notnaive

January 30th, 2010
8:57 am

My kids went to a prominent christian school for one year, this is what happened there in one year;

1. 2 teachers were fired for innapropriate relations with students, 2 seperate cases.

2. 2 seniors were expelled and not allowed to graduate after being caught drinking with and having innapropriate relationships with a mother of another student.

3. A baseball coach was fired after being caught having an affair with another coaches wife.

1 year!!!!

Get your head out of the ivory white, cleverly packaged, play sand, christian schools are not for christians, they are for affluent families that wish only not to associate with the unwashed masses. I actually dont have a problem with that, but dont pretend it is for the christian values! Now go clean out your mini van, you left the chik-fil-a wrappers in there.

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Z truth

January 31st, 2010
9:40 am

Why don’t we tell our girls the truth about Biology. Women do not hit their peak until their 30’s, men peak 20(start declining soon afterwards). However, most men do not know what they are doing until they are in their 20’s. This sums it up. Sex before college is just a waste of effort and disappointment.

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FCM

January 31st, 2010
8:02 pm

Julia honey one day you might need that kidney. Now as far as affluent families and a propensity for “trouble” — Paris Hilton. Do we really need anyone other than this poster child of affluence without a clue?

I seem to recall that Rhett Turner had a share of trouble as a teenager. The Bush girls (and I like them) got caught under aged drinking with fake IDs. Amy Carter certainly caused Rosalyn and Jimmy a fair share of extra prayer. What all of the “kids” had in common is affluence and good schools — I am not 100% sure where Paris went but the others were certainly in private school.

On of my best friend in HS went to Lovett (I did not). He says he spent most of his Junior and Senior years in the parking lot, skipping class, experimenting with sex, drugs, and alcohol.

Certainly that stuff went on in my public Cobb County HS. Another of my best friends got an abortion one summer. She was drunk at prom and got pregnant.

Just keep talking and praying. For me, no drugs, no alc, no sex until 18 and then over 2 years of abstinence until I did again. In fact I have always said my friends spoke to me about their plans for 2 reasons: they wanted me to talk them out of it OR they wanted me to tell them all the ways the plans could go wrong (so they could cover the bases and not get caught). Both ways worked for them. The #1 reason I did not do much of the really stupid stuff (though I did my share of things that I say what was I thinking) is my parents. My parents were the strictest in the neighborhood as voted on by OTHER parents. Later it became what it is today–because I have to look at myself to put my make up on each day.

DB

January 31st, 2010
9:47 pm

FCM, actually, Amy Carter did NOT go to a private school when Jimmy Carter was President. There was a big to-do about her going to attend the public school where the White House was zoned, Stevens Elementary School and Hardy Middle School. When they went back to Plains, she went to Tri-Counties High School down there around Plains/Columbus/Buena Vista. She didn’t much like the public school, though, because she wasn’t allowed to go out at recess because the Secret Service couldn’t guarantee her safety — the playground was too close to the street — and she had a hard time making friends. Carter used his daughter to push his own “democratic” agenda and image as a down-home kind of guy by claiming that “private schools are havens for the rich and powerful elite
and the President of the world’s leading democracy should oppose elites.” Yeah, whatever . . .

Having put two children through 13 years each of private school, I can tell you uniquivocally that just because a child is in a private school, they are not “protected” from the big, bad world. Kids still need to be wisely parented and supervised. I think the biggest mistake parents make is in middle school, when the kids start to try to pull away to “establish their independence.” Many parents have the idea that if they don’t allow them their “independence”, they will grow up “sheltered” and “unable to cope.” B.S. There is appropriate independence, and there is inappropriate independence, but many parents have trouble telling the two apart.

Dave

February 1st, 2010
7:27 am

@notnaive – you made OUR point. If those things happened, at that Prominent Christian school the people were fired and things were corrected. If that had been a public school, NOTHING would have been done about it!

Julia

February 1st, 2010
7:56 am

Morning FCM, I am so glad you can put be back on the straight and narrow :)

I do have one question thought.. really.. its this part of all those boy girl parties starting at 12?? It just seems to me that parents are setting up a brothel in their house with these things when the “supervising” parents go up stairs to watch tv :)

JJ

February 1st, 2010
8:30 am

Julia, you will probably die at this one, but on my daughter’s 18th birthday, I allowed girls and boys to come over and party, and most of them spent the night, even the boys. They partied until 3:00, down in the basement, and I was upstairs. There is no bathroom down stairs, so they had to come upstairs and they knew I was in the living room. Like I have said over and over, I know these kids, I know their parents, and all the other parents knew where the kids were. I called all parents, and let them know of my plans. Not one parent balked…..

Kids, in my opinion, need a place like that, where they know a parent is home, but they are safe to have a good time, and no one is drinking and driving on my watch.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 1st, 2010
8:45 am

Hey Guys — the “baby” is sick — I have to take her to the doctor — i will try to post later today when I get back — Walsh had strep last week so I suspect tis the same —- sorry nothing new for this morning. check back this afternoon and hopefully I can get something up – she feels pretty badly!

Julia

February 1st, 2010
8:46 am

JJ she was 18 not 12 :)… just most girls now they have to grow up way faster than we did in the 80’s :)

Yea I would have been up all night with them as well :)

Julia

February 1st, 2010
8:47 am

Theresa, hope she feels better.. J was out of school all last week with the crud!

FCM

February 1st, 2010
9:07 am

DB thanks about Amy Carter. I always felt bad for any POTUS child. I was a private school kid myself until my later education…I am an alumni of a public school as I stated.

Julia–I agree it is a narrow walk. Will not agree I always walk it straight. (Que Johnny Cash and I walk the line).

Julia

February 1st, 2010
9:10 am

FCM none of us have ever walked it straight :)

you will love this, so this past weekend was dad’s weekend – the boy was sick but his dad had purchased tickets to the symphony. He really tried to guilt the kid into going sick. I love the fact that now in the new custody papers… ALL major decisions if we can not come to a conclusion.. My decision is the bible :) No I will not abuse it.

Erin

February 1st, 2010
10:24 am

This has been rumored forever. It’s practically urban legend and the only school kids who believe it are the same ones who believe every legend, rumor and media trend. If your child wants every item the TV says is popular, even if it is in no way related to their previous interests, THEN this might be an issue with them. Otherwise, no. And most won’t worry if another kid does believe it when they wear it – that’s probably the same person who worries about what side others part their hair on, and whether their cell phone is the ‘right’ one this month, and whether they have the right brand of shoes, and thinks that almost every color in the rainbow means some gang or signal or another.

This trend is FAR more popular in the media because it is ’shocking’ than amongst kids, and if it weren’t reported on, it likely wouldn’t exist at all.

Judge Judy Fan

February 1st, 2010
10:49 am

As Judge Judy would say, “How do you know when a teenager is lying?” Answer – “When their mouth is moving.” I love it. I don’t totally agree with it, but I love it.

RJ

February 1st, 2010
11:08 am

@JJ, not in a million years! I don’t care if she’s 18 or 28, I don’t think so. I would’ve been the parent you called and said, “I’ll be by to pick her up.”

HB

February 1st, 2010
12:43 pm

Re: Amy Carter and private school. I’m pretty sure she went to Woodward for at least part of high school — think I know someone who was there when she was. I thought she raised a fuss by breaking school policy when she arrived at the prom with an African-American date (good for her!).

jd

February 1st, 2010
2:31 pm

JJ – my daughter that I spoke of last week was in the basement watching a movie and I was upstairs. She’s 18 as well but I still wish she’d of had that fear of mom just popping in to check on her and she might have remained a virgin for at least another day ;)

julio luis

February 1st, 2010
3:19 pm

well would someone tell us what the colors mean so we can look out for the ones we particulary are fond of !

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 1st, 2010
3:27 pm

Julio…doesn’t matter, from what i’m reading, only teens are wearing them and that will get you some well deserved shaming and jail time on “To Catch a Predator” on NBC…

BUT..on the offchance your very of age significant other wants to follow the kids lead, be on the look out for Purple, Red, Clear, Blue, Glittery Blue, and Glittery Green…those are the premium bracelets from an earlier post!

Was getting bored here so I had to contribute my two cents!

motherjanegoose

February 1st, 2010
3:34 pm

@ Julia….I am just back from Texas and asked BOTH my 17 year old and my 22 year old about the sex bracelets, I also told them that some posters appeared to be criticizing you for not “knowing” your son.

My son said, ” Oh yeah….those rumors have been around for a long time and I personally never saw ANYONE at my MS or HS wearing one. Sheesh…some parents just need things to get worked up over. That did NOT happen in my peer group. Her son is most likely telling her the truth and she probably knows it.”

My daughter said, “Who are those other posters that are judging her relationship with her son.’
Maybe they have more trouble in their own back yard and cannot understand a parent who KNOWS their own kids. No, I have not seen any of these bracelets on any of my friends but maybe it is just not the crowd I hang with. I am too busy working, going to church and studying to get involved with those kinds of kids….the most I do is go to the mall, dinner or the movies.”

My kids are 17 and 22 and my son also told me, “Mom, you may not know everything I have ever done but I will NOT lie to you if you ask me.” Also, “_____ ( his sister) is not going to be involved with the fast crowd or do any of that stuff. It is not who she is and we both know that.”

I do not know your son Julia but I do know my kids and they know what boundaries I have set for them. I know they are not perfect but they are decent kids.

I would NEVER have a spend the night party at my house with 18 year olds in a mixed group.
Since college, I am sure my son has spent the night with mixed groups, had others over to his apartment and still goes to friend’s houses now but he is almost 23 and that is not something I worry about. He is an adult and he knows the consequences. Kids in HS probably do not.
He came home from a graduation party that he was invited to….a room at a local hotel where the uncle brought plenty of liquor and left, most of the kids were drunk and the girls were naked. He told us what was going on and proceeded to go somewhere else with other kids he knew.

I am fairly conservative about teen behavior under my roof as I do not want to be responsible for anything later that could be a problem. My kids know where we both stand and they have mostly lived up to the requirements. Again, my son told me today that he would not lie to me about anything he did…I did not ask him this but he volunteered it.

Some parents are loose parents and that is everyone’s own choice. I see lots of kids who do things that would send me into an early grave and parents who guffaw, and laugh about it. It may not be funny when your kid’s picture is in the Gwinnett Mugs due to problems with underage alcohol….this has happened in my neighborhood. A very unfortunate event.

I have not allowed too much foolishness with mine and so far, things have been o.k.

I have a very conservative neighbor, who also teaches HS. She asked my daughter to watch her dog while they were out of town. Upon the return, she called and said, “I felt totally safe about leaving our house and pet in your daughter’s hands as she is very responsible.” I was delighted to share that compliment with my daughter. One of her bosses told me, ” she is very mature for her age and a hard worker….a rarity in teens now adays….” So, I MAY have done something right.

DB and I agree that we are hopelessly old fashioned with regards to child rearing but we are nearer to the finish line than some others here…..LOL!!!!

Tiger needs me on his PR team

February 1st, 2010
3:35 pm

Hey MJG…nice to see you back. You asked me a question on a different topic, which i answered and returned a couple questions of my own…I was just wondering if you had a chance to see those.

motherjanegoose

February 1st, 2010
3:36 pm

re: HS graduation party for my son in 2005.

DB

February 1st, 2010
4:32 pm

HB, yeah, it looks like she didboard at Woodward for a bit, and also Holton Arms, another private prep school up in Maryland, before she went to college. Basically, she had a rather chequered academic career as far as variety. She spent two years at Brown and dropped out (or was asked to leave, depending on who’s doing the talking), and ended up getting a degree in fine arts from Mephis College of Art, and a masters from Tulane.

You’re right — she did bring an African-American date to the Woodward prom: http://news.google.com/newspapers?nid=888&dat=19920422&id=dhoMAAAAIBAJ&sjid=eFwDAAAAIBAJ&pg=2194,1105166
Interesting article, if you have time to read it. I especially like the description of people watching the door waiting for the Carters to show up. :-)

Julia

February 1st, 2010
4:47 pm

motherjanegoose awwwwwwwwwwwww you are such a sweetheart. I just read this to the boy and he smiled and was shaking his head. No our relationship is not perfect but I am a no bull shit kind of mom. He knows I will do what ever I have to do to help him in a situation but he better be telling me the truth for me to put my neck on the line. There are boundaries in our home (not his dad’s as much) and I take the heat for that as well.

He does not hang around the “fast” kids. He also is very involved in his music at school and at church.

We were coming back from the dr for him on friday and passed this one girl checking the mail. She had stuff showing that was not good for a teen girl and he said, mom they named a state after her. He does not eve like the girls that wear make up at that age.. He says it just looks cheap :)

You made my day and his :)

motherjanegoose

February 1st, 2010
4:55 pm

too many miles since last week tiger….too many people too! Ii do not have time to review all posts and am getting back to paperwork now, as I have expense reports due!

Julia, I think you probably know your own son better than most on this blog and my kids both think he is probably telling you the truth too…in the for what it is worth department.

Julia

February 1st, 2010
5:01 pm

awww MJG thank you so much. I just read this to the boy and he was smiling and said to tell you thank you as well.

I am a no bullshit mom and he has learned this. Has he got in trouble over this, yes and all but got killed over it. He learned the boundaries the hard way. He actually now knows “mama dont play”.

He does not hang with the fast pack, he is too involved as well with his music at school and church. He does not even like the girls with make up, he says it makes them look cheap. He really did feel he was being judged and he thought I was as well that they do not know our relationship.

I really do not think I will have to worry about drugs or drinking with him. This is just not his style.. He also has asthma and allergies to every thing so he thinks something could kill him for sure…

Thank you so much for your kind words, it sure made both of our days :)

Julia

February 1st, 2010
5:04 pm

where are my post!

Julia

February 1st, 2010
5:06 pm

Thank you so much for those words of encouragement. I read that to him and he was smiling and nodding his head going I have no reason to lie it will only get me in trouble.

He has been busted so it has come to our home but he also was almost killed over it (ok not really but).. He knows now his mama don’t play. To him getting in trouble over something stupid is not worth it.

He does not hang out with the fast crowd either. He is too involved with his music at school and church.. He does not get caught up in the drama and he really goes by, he tries to treat people how he wants to be treated. I have to laugh because he does not like the girls with make up, he says that they look cheap!

MJG, you really made our day :)

HB

February 1st, 2010
5:38 pm

Thanks for posting the article, DB! The description of parents standing around hoping to get Inaugural programs autographed (I presume) is hilarious!

I find the whole mixed gender sleepover thing interesting because I grew up in a VERY conservative area, but we had mixed sleepovers all the time. No one seemed to think anything about it and certainly no hanky-panky went on. Not that I think no one I knew was having sex — they just didn’t at the sleepovers. At our house, boys and girls slept in separate rooms (mine and my step brother’s bedrooms), but I think sometimes we ended up crashing in the same room (a den or other not-so-private room) at other houses. Really, I never thought twice about it until TV news magazines a couple of years ago started running stories on the “new and disturbing trend.” Maybe we avoided trouble by not having basements — couldn’t get too far from parents ;).

Julia

February 1st, 2010
5:50 pm

Hell I remember when I was 17, I wanted to go with my BF whom my mom knew down to see a friend at college.. She would not let me go so I asked my big brother.. he goes are you an idiot.. hell NO

Not Today

February 1st, 2010
7:38 pm

Female and fondly recall a basement of my 20s. When a friend’s apartment wasn’t open a basement worked. We were in college and did not have our own space. You do know those rental homes and townhomes in college towns are perfect for these trysts right ?

BlondeHoney

February 2nd, 2010
12:19 am

Julia, I also believe that your son is telling you the truth.My two boys have always told me the truth about what’s going on with them and their friends (and what they have told me would make some of your hair stand up i am sure). My 23 year old, who graduated from FSU in May and is now a Navy ensign in Nuke school in Charleston recently moved out of the house he was sharing with some ex-marines because, as he told me, “there were too many weird people smoking & doing other drugs coming to the house & I can’t be around people like that.’ I have ALWAYS kept the lines of communication open while teaching them what’s right and that’s why they 1) make REALLY good decisions and 2) they can tell me anything and i don’t freak on them.

motherjanegoose

February 2nd, 2010
7:26 am

@ BlondeHoney…yes, you have children who are a bit older ( than some others here) too and understand what is out there now.

My number 3 rule is remember the rewards and consequences. Some children have not had to suffer their own consequences and thus they get into more trouble due to it.

Oh yeah, my son has told me….the kids whose parents you know, are not always the kids their parents think they are. Our sons are the same age and with your son being in Nuke school and my son being in Pharmacy school, they have to behave or they are out on their butts. They are in the reward period and plan to keep on course.

This is why DB and I enjoy swapping stories as we are on nearly the same square on the sidewalk and perhaps know a few things that others ( whose kids are under 12 or do not have kids at all) may not but perhaps need to! Just sharing information that may not be received but that is not my issue.
We are having lunch again this week and I look forward to it. Did anyone else get together for lunch…I hope so.

The reason I asked my kids about this is because I AM NOT on the same square of the sidewalk ( as them) and while I can give all sorts of unfounded opinions about this topic…I DO NOT KNOW and I trust they will know and tell me because that is how I reared them.

Remember….if you laugh at the little shennanigans they pull while they are 8-12 and cover for them….the cover will get bigger and you may not be laughing later….you may be crying.

Denise

February 2nd, 2010
8:49 am

Where I grew up we all grew up in small-ish ranch houses so it was a lot easier to monitor all behavior. We had a friend whose mother allowed mixed sleep-overs and we could drink. In Louisiana when I was 18 we were legal so don’t start about underage drinking. First thing, we handed over the keys that stayed in the mom’s room until the next morning. Second thing, we stashed all our stuff somewhere in the LIVING ROOM. When it was time to go to “bed” we all slept in the living room. NO ONE took a shower over there. We either came clean or got clean when we left. We could go to the bathroom of course but nobody got nekkid. Girls put on PJs in friend’s room. (PJs were SHORTS or SWEATS depending on the weather…yes, mom would check to see if we were appropriate). Boys would put on PJs in office. We hardly ever had a boyfriend-girlfriend couple in our friend group so we didn’t have a lot of temptation. No spend the bottle and games like that. We played cards, watched movies, danced and laughed…and drank daiquiris. In the morning we ate breakfast and were out the door by 11. Best times of our senior year!! And NO SEX!!! Teenagers can have fun without getting in trouble with specific guidelines that they knew would be upheld.

Jesse's Girl

February 2nd, 2010
8:59 am

I think I’m gonna start wearing them…let em talk:)

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

February 2nd, 2010
9:15 am

I have a sick baby and a new topic up!!! Sorry for the delay — Link is below

http://blogs.ajc.com/momania/2010/02/02/parenting-via-facebook-vomit-reports-and-baby-advice-abound/

Elizabeth

February 7th, 2010
10:23 am

I would just like to say that I stumbled onto to this article and that I can’t believe parents are STILL talking about this. I am currently in college and when is was in middle school, at just the turn of the century, this was the trend to call them sex bracelets. Preteens like to talk about sex, but not necessarily do anything. These jelly bracelets were out in the 80’s, too, and I believe the snap game goes that far back as well. I know from older siblings that a similar trend went on with soda and beer can tabs in the 90’s.

All I can say is that I never participated the ‘game,’ and throughout highschool i wore them and no one ’snapped’ or ‘broke’ one. Kids like to inform others of their knowledge that is all. And as far as i know that double standard for boys and girls doesn’t apply here, is in fact disappearing throughout generations. I did actually know guys that were these and joke about them.
This Snap trend has been out since before I started highschool, maybe not the bracelets themselves. Learn what is current by actually talking to your kids and not listening to the news, i seriously wish my parents had.

Jossie

June 10th, 2010
12:50 am

Wow. I am a teenager and none of my friends ever heard of this. Like we could ever make a comprehensive list of all the sexual acts we would do? We dont even know what half of those are… I think this started out as a kissing game parents are turning into something much worse. Girls will wear bracelets. Boys will want to kiss them, thats 5th grade science. Dont turn it into some underground sexual game every girl with bracelet is a part of. If u raised ur daughter right u wont have to worry