Teen trend:Does her bracelet mean something sexual?

I got a note from one of our regulars who just found out that weaved bracelets the teens in her ‘burb of Atlanta are wearing have another meaning other than friendship. Here’s what she wrote:

“Apparently the kids in middle and high school are into colored bracelets. Kind of like the friendship bracelets we used to wear…the intertwined ones. Well…who knew that they now have sexual meaning? I certainly didn’t. And neither did my daughter. She wears them because she simply LIKES them. So when a girl came up to her and asked if she knew what they meant….she had no clue!…”

“Apparently the colors of the bracelets correlate to what you have done sexually or are willing to do. My child had no clue…she just happens to be the necklace/bracelet freak. ”…

“As her mom….do I instruct her to tell these bozo kids to shove it where the sun doesn’t shine…or tell her to just take them off? Before you know it…twister beads and parachute pants will mean you are into beastiality and spankin..un-freakin-believable.”

Have you seen your teens wearing these bracelets? Have you heard that the colors indicate your child’s sexual willingness? Will you ask them if they know what the mean? Will you tell them to stop wearing them? (Problem is even if they’re just wearing them because they like them other kids may think they are indicating something else.) What do you think?

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April

January 29th, 2010
1:39 pm

This has been going on for at least ten years – the style of bracelet may have changed some but the meaning is the same. I find that most middle schoolers are clueless but some know exactly whAt hey are daring and why.
Sorry if I am repeating. I have not had time to read all the comments today

MomsRule

January 29th, 2010
1:39 pm

I’ve read several comments saying “this has been going on forever.” Really?

I graduated high school in 88. There were no symbols being worn by anyone indicating their sexual willingness. If there was….I was way outta the loop! LOL In all seriousness, it wasn’t going on. Casual sex (or various acts) by girls was not bragged about by the girls or advertised loudly to the boys.

Julia, I understand what you are saying about your son not being interested “in stuff like that” and thinking “that’s stupid.” I have a 13 year old like that as well.

MomsRule

January 29th, 2010
1:41 pm

April, 10 years…that I can see. I’ve been hearing about those “rainbow” parties for that long.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:42 pm

MomsRule remember the “feather” dope holder things? Everyone wore them and not every one was smoking pot :)… I had a pink one and a purple one… I have never in my life touched illegal drugs…

Dave

January 29th, 2010
1:42 pm

@ … – trust me, your wife already has those!

MomsRule

January 29th, 2010
1:43 pm

Clarification to my 1:39 post…I’m not saying it wasn’t going on anywhere, or calling anyone a liar, I’m saying it wasn’t going on at my high school.

Rod

January 29th, 2010
1:44 pm

Julia – class of ‘83 here – we didn’t have any of that kind of stuff at my school (um, not that I was looking or anything).

MomsRule

January 29th, 2010
1:44 pm

oh yeah – we called them roach clips! LOL

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:46 pm

MOM – I “get” what you are saying

Patrick

January 29th, 2010
1:47 pm

IIRC, a tear drop tattoo came about in prisons, and it meant you killed somebody. For each person you killed, you got a tear drop tattoo. There is a waitress at the Waffle House near my home that has one. We joke that she killed someone who didn’t pay their check.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:48 pm

Rod I was class of 84 – Good Ole Russell High School in East Point Ga! I was in my own little world (this is NOT under a rock) There was all sorts of crap going on there.. People smoking, doing drugs, sleeping around, sleeping with teachers…. you name it…

No Way

January 29th, 2010
1:51 pm

I just saw a mom w/ daughter buying underware in Victorias Secret that says “I WANT IT ALL”. Girl was about 11-13 years old. Now this is priceless…

Rod

January 29th, 2010
1:53 pm

Be careful about giving to much information on here Julia, someone could look you up and figure out who you are!

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:54 pm

No Way.. I be damned if you will wear plastic bracelets but I will buy you VS thongs… :)

JJ

January 29th, 2010
1:54 pm

Well la tee da Sporty Black……

OK……..my Uncle was extremely wealthy, Psychiarist, one of the top in his State. Aunt didn’t work. Beautiful $500K house (back in the 70’s-80’s). Two sons, private school, church, scouts, etc. My cousins had EVERYTHING they could ask for. The oldest was given a car on his 16th birthday, totalled it out, and was given car after car. This same child was accepted on a FULL scholarship to USC. There, he discovered more powerful drugs than what he had experimeted with in high school. He is now dead, from a drug overdose at the at of 25. Uncle, once he found out about the death of his son, committed suicide three weeks later. Mom died of kidney failure a year earlier.

Second child, same scenario, private schools, car after car, after car. However, he did not go to USC, but got a girl pregnant at 18. They married, ended up having two kids. Now divorced, he is an alcoholic, can’t hold down a job, been arrested NUMEROUS times for DIU, etc.

Neither of these kids was taught to be responsible. Daddy did everything for them, and where are they now?

My family – somewhat wealthy parents, didn’t flaunt their money. We were never given cars, as we were taught that when we bought them we would appreciate them more. Both of us have good jobs, my bother in law enforcement, me in office management. Our parents were VERY involved in our lives, knew all our friends and their parents (small town). My brother has been on his job for 25 years, I have been on mine for 18. We both own our own homes, have a little money in the bank, and mutual respect for each other. He has never done drugs and drinks very little. I have dabbled in drugs (20 years ago) and I drink some too.

My point is, just because the parents are “affuluent” doesn’t mean the kids are perfect. I saw it in my own family. They had money, we had love!

RJ

January 29th, 2010
1:56 pm

@Sporty Black says, “People are affluent because they do things better than others.” Really?! First of all, if you live in a $500,000 I don’t consider you affluent. Remember, I said kids at my school lived in million dollar homes. Someone else used the word affluent, not me. I love how people like to throw around that they make 6 figures. What they won’t tell you is what the first number is of that six figure salary. If it’s less than a 5, you’re living well, but not truly affluent. Don’t get me wrong, I’m working on my 3rd degree, so it’s great you’ve earned so many. But let us not forget, Bill Gates would be one of, if not THE most affluent in this country, yet he dropped out of college. So with your 5 degrees he doesn’t have one but he earns your 6 figure salary in his sleep (and that’s just the first 15 minutes of sleep lol).

@Julia, amen sister!

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:56 pm

Thank you JJ!

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:58 pm

This now is gonna get funny, all of “us” trailer trash involved moms are about to take a stand :)

Julia

January 29th, 2010
1:58 pm

Hmm were the shooters from Columbine from affluent families?? Where was the memo that the more money you made and the more degrees you got made you a better parent?? I know some of these people that are dumber than a stack of rocks. Just sayin!

Rod

January 29th, 2010
2:00 pm

I guess I’m affluent. I’m working on my 7th million.

Gave up on the first 6.

No Way

January 29th, 2010
2:02 pm

Julia – i did not get my point across very clearly – underware was for her daughter…

JATL

January 29th, 2010
2:02 pm

@ Julia -I remember the feathered “roach clips” that were actually made for holding joint roaches, but we ALL wore them (I had a lavender one I loved). Regardless of what they were really intended for, they also looked SO trashy, but it was a big fad at my school. The different types of shoelaces and ribbon barrettes all meant something different and so did these safety pin things we added beads to and pinned to our tennis shoes. I guess it depends on where you grew up MomsRule, but we had quite a few “meaningful” fads in the 80s in middle Georgia! Like I said before though -not all of them meant something sexual! Also, the stuff that SUPPOSEDLY meant something sexual was scoffed at by those of us who didn’t do whatever it was but still wanted to wear whatever. Oh yeah -3 piercings on one ear and two on the other; ear clips, jelly bracelets the FIRST time around -it goes on and on!

JATL

January 29th, 2010
2:03 pm

A lot of people are calling Sporty Black on the carpet, but I agree with what he said about your economic level not being what makes your kid “good” or “bad” -it’s what kind of parent you are and how much parenting you actually do! Of course we also have to take into account the “bad seeds” we ALL know of -kids who were definitely raised right and given plenty of parental attention but turned out to be nightmares anyway.

Julia

January 29th, 2010
2:04 pm

Rod :) the name in my year book is a nick name and it blows everyone that I know’s mind that I am going by this now… I see what you are saying but you would have to be from my school and know who I am to really get that one :)…

I did go to school with Julia Roberts for a few semesters

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

January 29th, 2010
2:04 pm

Federal government is recalling The Princess and The Frog pendants for high-levels of toxic cadmium — from ABC News

Federal consumer safety regulators on Friday announced the recall of “The Princess and The Frog” pendants because of high levels of the toxic metal cadmium, an unprecedented action that reflects concerns of an emerging threat in children’s products.

The recall affects two products, about 55,000 items in total, sold exclusively at Walmart stores for $5 each. The action was taken voluntarily by Rhode Island-based jewelry company FAF Inc., which did not immediately respond to a request for comment.

The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission, which disclosed the recall, had been testing for cadmium in children’s metal jewelry for several weeks in response to an Associated Press investigation that reported high levels of the known carcinogen in the Disney movie-themed pendants and other children’s metal jewelry imported from China.

In reaction to the AP’s reporting earlier this month, Wal-Mart Stores Inc. had pulled three items from its shelves, including the two recalled Friday — a crown pendant with UPC number 72783367144 and a frog pendant with UPC number 72783367147. The items had been on sale at Walmart stores since November, in conjunction with release of the animated movie.

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/wireStory?id=9698836

Julia

January 29th, 2010
2:07 pm

NO way.. I know what you mean :)

JATL, the good ole days…. :)

MomsRule

January 29th, 2010
2:12 pm

JATL, yes, I recall many of the things you mention but in Mpls MN, most of them didn’t have a meaning other than they were “cool trends”…maybe I mis-understood, I thought people were saying the color symbols regarding sex had been around forever….that I was not aware of….

you post is bringing back memories! LOL — I loved those pins with the beads!

SRH

January 29th, 2010
2:12 pm

@JJ – that would be great – Thanks! I do shop at Target rather than Walmart as at least Target gives the 5% back into the community. Plus, their products seem to be a higher quality – though just as foreign!

Saul Good

January 29th, 2010
2:14 pm

It’s only SEX people. Kids are going to do it no matter WHAT you try to do to prevent it. So instead of them being dumb and uneducated like Bristol Palin, teach them to protect themselves. No matter WHAT you say or do, kids are going to have sex. Always have, and always will. (oh except for YOUR kids…right?….keep telling yourself that…hehe).

Dave

January 29th, 2010
2:20 pm

“it’s only sex”

Yeah, Saul Good is a proud parent.

Betsy

January 29th, 2010
2:22 pm

Is Tiger needs me on his PR team now using the nickname Saul Good?

Jess

January 29th, 2010
2:24 pm

When I was in elementary school if you wore green on thursday it meant you were “horny”. I had NO idea what that meant. I called my own grandmother the H word when she was wearing green on thursday. Lets just say I almost got slapped until she stopped and realized i had absolutely no idea what that meant. She did tell me what it meant and I think my whole family were trying to hide their laughter! Do what you want to do, teach your kids to be strong enough to ignore other’s stupidities!

Dave

January 29th, 2010
2:30 pm

Sounds like Saul Good is a child molester and pedaphile!

Saul Good

January 29th, 2010
2:30 pm

As, I said…kids are going to have sex no matter what. I guess nobody here remembers their hormone levels when they were 14-18. Yet keep telling them that sex is dirty. Must be why girls who attend christian schools are having both oral and anal sex at a much higher rate compared to public school kids. Keeps them “pure” and virgins… The evilgelicals have done a wonderful job at raising a whole generation of your teen girls who willingly will give oral sex out as if it was like a kiss goodnight.

2moms

January 29th, 2010
2:35 pm

I am so surprised that I haven’t heard anything about gay parenting and how that has corrupted these children!!! Saul – I love the evilgelicals, I will have to start using that!

Michelle

January 29th, 2010
2:39 pm

SRH, this is off topic BUT Target is not the only company that gives back to the community! Walmart gives LOTS & LOTS back to their local communities through money and volunteering!

2moms

January 29th, 2010
2:39 pm

Oh and Sporty Black…you don’t have to live in a trailer to be trashy. Trash comes in all shapes, sizes, colors and socio-economic status. Trash to some of us are people who flaunt their middle class (yes you are middle class) wealth as if they were Bill and Melinda Gates. How much of those six figures do you give to others?

Sit N Spin

January 29th, 2010
2:42 pm

This is urban legend spawned by the internet. Who can you be so obtuse?

Maurice Garland

January 29th, 2010
2:44 pm

theyve been doing this for years…nothing new.

Tiger needs me on his PR team

January 29th, 2010
2:45 pm

that actually wasn’t me Betsy….but I do find it interesting that in each of your last three posts over the last few days, you’ve decided to make ME the issue instead of the topic that Theresa threw out there to discuss. It’s true…look it up. I’m flattered I have developed such a following with you.

I’ve got a couple of guesses regarding you….

(1) You use a different name for most of your entries, and just reserve Betsy just for me..again, I’m flattered…or
(2) You don’t really have a logical argument to present on the topics, but you love to throw out personal attacks.

If you really wanted to put my perceived megalomania in its place…someday you might actually want to try getting off the pot and getting into the debate of the topic instead of just saying what a worthless person I am.

OR…I could make a “Tiger’s greatest hits” all for you. I’ll put in a word document all the statements I’ve made over the months that epitomize why you hate me so much. Then, any time you want to really have a good time, you can smear yourself in peanut butter and go into a closet with a flashlight and do what you do best….revel in the thought that someday there will be divine justice for me actually enjoying my life and having a whole lot of fun without any guilt while you toil in your rage and anger. You can read my “greatest hits” and smile from ear to ear thinking about your eventual eternity of bliss while I most certainly burn in hellfire. I’m really getting the feeling that is what constitutes a good time for you.

YUKI

January 29th, 2010
2:47 pm

Jess, too funny!! In my middle school, being green(not wearing, they just called you green)meant that you had never kissed anyone. It was horrible and embarrassing to be “green”. It’s so funny to look back and see how seriously we took that stuff. Although today, it’s involving much more adult activity at an earlier age and that is scary.

YUKI

January 29th, 2010
2:49 pm

…and i just got “SAUL GOOD”. hee hee

joeschmo

January 29th, 2010
2:49 pm

is there a bracelet for “shoving it where the sun dont shine?”

Sporty Black

January 29th, 2010
2:52 pm

@ 2moms: Your comments are the very reason I volunteer in the schools; COMPREHENSION is really lacking. Go back and READ versus calling out words and you will come to the realization that you should be paying me for this therapy.

YOU can not define anyone (let alone my class). Stop worrying about others (Sporty Black, the Gates, etc) and examine what 2moms is doing. Heres a hug for you :) too.

@2moms:

Dave

January 29th, 2010
2:52 pm

Leave it to the lesbian to support Saul Good and his “it’s only sex” comment and support his comment that all Christian teen girls willingly will give oral sex out as if it was like a kiss goodnight.

Two nasty, vile people.

JJ

January 29th, 2010
2:54 pm

Joeschmo – yes, and it’s brown…..LOL…..

2moms

January 29th, 2010
2:57 pm

@dave – What part of my response gave any indication that I supported Saul Good’s platform? I liked his comment about evilgelicals. But I do think you are funny…leave it to a lesbian? oh Dave, really you continue to make my day.

Saul Good

January 29th, 2010
2:58 pm

That’s right Dave…just being a member of your cult (and brainwashing your children into it from the time they are born), means that thou does no sinning (yet it’s only YOU and the other cult members who believes sex is a sin in the first place). The cult has been ruining and corrupting children for years. This is just what your cult is doing in modern times….pushing back against nature and what is “normal and natural” and then expecting no consequences.

2moms

January 29th, 2010
3:03 pm

Hey I have an idea that will keep your daughters from engaging in promiscuous and unhealthy activities. Home school them or send them to a christian school that teaches them that sex is sinful and bad. Hide them from the evil of the world so that they are just bursting to break free. That should really keep them pure and sweet and virginal. A bad idea would be to build their self-esteem and teach them that sex is a wonderful thing when the time is right and teach them good decision-making and have honest open dialogue…YEAH THAT’S A HORRIBLE IDEA

Becky

January 29th, 2010
3:38 pm

@Tiger..Sorry that I waited so long to reply..We lost internet service here..No, I’m not saying that people that live in these big houses and drive fancy cars are bad parents..In what I was talking about, the parents were just more concerned with being able to show that they lived in a nice house, than they were in spending time with their daughter..She spent many weekends at my house..As JJ said, she liked the hominess of having someone show her some attention..

@Julia..I wasn’t trying to attack you..It’s just that I’ve learned (from having so many nieces and nephews) that yes they usually are hiding something.. So, if I upset you, I’m sorry..

Hope that everyone has a great weekend..We are off to go play in the snow..