What’s your kid’s texting record?

A friend gave her 13-year-old daughter a cell phone for Christmas. They wisely chose the unlimited plan for texting. In about three hours on Christmas morning, her daughter had 70 texts.

She reports that between Dec. 25 to Dec. 28, her daughter had sent and received more than 400 texts!

I asked what on Earth could they have to talk about that much? She said it’s like this:

“Guess what?” (1 text)

“What?” (2 texts)

“I’m wearing a blue shirt.” (3 texts) and they add up fast like that!

I was amazed at her statistics and wondered what the record could possibly be?

How many texts can your kid rack up and how quickly? What’s their record? What’s the most your phone bill has ever been?

Do you care how much they are texting as long as it’s not costing you extra money and they’re not doing it during dinner, church, or school?

44 comments Add your comment

Julia

January 4th, 2010
2:13 pm

When he had his it was probably less than 100 a day and alot of it was to me… We do have unlimited.

fred

January 4th, 2010
2:15 pm

My daughters are 7 and 8 so no cell phones and no texting yet, but I am sure it wont be too much longer that they have one, they are already pretending to send texts to each other. I have many acquaintances just out of college and when I asked them about texting it was usually in the range of 150 – 200 texts a day. many of which were texts consisting of lol, roflmao, and emoticons. I personally send less than 15 texts a day.

Julia

January 4th, 2010
2:15 pm

OH and I at my sons school if you get caught they take the phone away. I think this is a great idea.. Kids have cheated on test doing this.

FCM

January 4th, 2010
2:35 pm

I am now being texted more often than called. Which I like better! My 10yo can text and does well but she only does it for me while I am driving at this point. Texting and driving is a big no.

I did get them a phone sort of — it is active but I have not let them have it and it does not have text, download, etc. It has strict calling too. Plus I am paying to be notified when “x” minutes are up.

penguinmom

January 4th, 2010
3:03 pm

We had a friend whose son ended up with some humongous number like 25000 which is ridiculous IMHO. They took his phone away for a couple of weeks as punishment.

I don’t have a problem with texting in general. It’s a very useful way to communicate when you can’t really take the time to talk on the phone. What I have a problem with is the inane texts that get sent by so many teens. “I’m wearing a blue shirt” ?!? Really, is that something their friend needs to know? I’d take my kid’s phone away if I found too many “What’s up?”…”Nothing” type texts.

catlady

January 4th, 2010
3:25 pm

Why does a 13 year old need a phone? Where are the adults in this child’s life? What is being learned, long-term?

IMHO, if your child is involved in afterschool, at-school activities on a regular basis, you should be there to pick them up on a regular basis. You as the parent should know when the activity is to end. If there is an emergency, then the coach should allow quick calls to notify parents. As for high school students who drive or ride with other students, a cell phone that allows calls to certain numbers (like home, 911, etc) would be a good thing to help the child let the parent know if they will be late. I really think parents should be responsible for and PARENT their child!

motherjanegoose

January 4th, 2010
3:29 pm

That’s it another post evaporate….3 today! No more posting for me if my comments keep getting eaten. Theresa…you are on your own….hahaha!
Have fun! I am going downstairs for some hot tea.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

January 4th, 2010
3:31 pm

mjg — i’ll dig it out —

Julia

January 4th, 2010
3:37 pm

being a single mom its just easy to get him.. esp if he is outside or we are out some where.. like our church which is HUGE

Razz

January 4th, 2010
3:53 pm

MJG, Theresa has said before that if posts are too long then they get blocked because the site thinks it’s spam…and to be honest your posts are all looonnnggggg so that’s prob what is happening…

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

January 4th, 2010
4:12 pm

I think it must have appeared ont he other topic mjg –

Julia

January 4th, 2010
4:16 pm

Razz why are you pointing fingers?? if you dont like her post dont read them

YUKI

January 4th, 2010
4:25 pm

I don’t have a child ready for a phone yet but i see nothing wrong with a 13 year old having a phone. I would feel better knowing my son had a way to get in touch with me anytime rather than waiting for the coach or whatever to allow a “quick call”…this is 2010. Most kids have cell phones and as with anything else it is up to the parent to monitor them and make sure they are not being abused. If a kid has unlimited texting on a plan, then who cares….my 13 year old niece texts..this is how they communicate now. Back when I was 13 we just spent hours on the “home” phone talking about nonsense. The big deal was having a phone in your room… That is what kids do. If a parent chooses not to allow texting that that is their choice but I see nothing wrong with it..it’s just like anything else that advances in technology. You get used to it and adapt.

Razz

January 4th, 2010
4:28 pm

not pointing fingers, just letting her know why her posts disappear. I actually find most of what she says interesting…but thanks Julia

Julia

January 4th, 2010
4:31 pm

I think today because its cold the site is just eating the post :)

Lynn

January 4th, 2010
4:36 pm

My girls certainly text a lot but one good thing has come of it; Our shared mins are now only shared between me and my husband so no more upping the plan for us.

motherjanegoose

January 4th, 2010
4:41 pm

@ Theresa…my other post is up but the one I left on this topic is not.

@ Razz…yes, I am known for long posts;however, they are NOT all long. Why is is that some long posts of others post and mine do not? If there is a word limit, please clue me in, I missed it.

Sometimes, my long posts make it in but the short ones do not. As Theresa once suggested, I have even halved my posts and the first part shows up and the last part never does. I would love to hear the answer to this and will be thrilled if you help me.

One thing you may want to know about me…I love to talk and all of my friends know this.
Even, DB ( on this blog) who has endured 2 hour lunches with me. Thus, my posts can be long.
Fortunately, I can talk for a living and so I get a LOT of practice doing what I love…does that make sense?

@ Julia…some folks have nothing interesting to say but like to point fingers at me…

Maybe Razz can contribute now and answer my questions. ( haha…do not tell Razz but I think the sentence posted @ 3;53 is too long and may be considered a run on sentence…)

Julia, I very much appreciate your support but this has been happening for a long time now and will still happen, I am sure. It helps me to know that some on this blog might enjoy even a tidbit of what I have to say…hugs to you!

motherjanegoose

January 4th, 2010
4:47 pm

@ Razz…o.k. sorry, Julia and both thought you were attacking me …it came across that way to both of us but maybe that is not how you meant it. You seem nice enough in your 4:28 post. Sorry for the error of attitude judgment on my part.

That is the thing about the blog, without voice inflections and facial features…things can be misconstrued….TRUCE? Was that short enough?

My evaporated post WAS on this topic! Maybe it will show up.

Razz

January 4th, 2010
4:55 pm

sheesh, I was just trying to be helpful…

DB

January 4th, 2010
5:02 pm

My daughter, the Text Queen, averages around 6,000 messages a month at college. Basically, she and her friends don’t talk — they just text. She’s usually carrying on “conversations” with three or more people at the same time. My son usually has less than 400 — but I note that when he has a current girlfriend, the number of messages escalates noticeably :-) I usually have between 500 and 800 a month, and my husband, who doesn’t have a full keyboard on his phone, usually has less than 300. When she was in high school, she was between 3,500 and 4,500 a month, and that was with the phone being turned off at 10:00 pm!

When we first got texting, my daughter had to pay the overages, since none of us were doing more than 100 or so. Then one month, she had to pay $130.00 (at $.10 each), and then she came to us and sensibly offered to pay $20 a month towards an unlimited texting plan, figuring that she would save money in the long run. We did that for a year or so, until everyone else’s texting escalated.

Julia

January 4th, 2010
5:08 pm

FCM – can I smack him?? I fixed that turkey and he wants Sonic!!! pfft I am NOT going out for a burger in this cold!! :)

FCM

January 4th, 2010
5:17 pm

Julia maybe he is testing you. You could smack him or you could point out (nicely) that you did the turkey that is dinner he has a choice that or whatver cereal he finds in the pantry. 1 — your not doing short order cooking. 2 — you are providing him meals 3 — he is 14 if he does not like what he has in front of him it is not likely he will starve–the survival instinct is too strong he will forge in the pantry!!!

My eldest will often announce that which she learned at Pre-K: “You get what you get and you don’t pitch a fit.”

FCM

January 4th, 2010
5:18 pm

er “forage” not forge

Becky

January 4th, 2010
5:18 pm

I have a limit of 400 per month and use less than 100..I couldn’t imagine texting 1000 or more..

@Julia, throw some mayo, let and tom on the bread with the trurkey and tell him it’s a turkey burger..lol..I don’t blame you for not wanting to go out in this weather for a burger..

FCM

January 4th, 2010
5:26 pm

@ catlady…perhaps the kid stays at home alone and they got rid of the Land Line? I do not have a Land Line in my house. My kids may get the “spare” phone eventually but that is not decided yet. As I said the only texting my child is allowed to do is for me…work was zapping me and I needed to respond while driving the other day and she helped me tremendously.

Julia

January 4th, 2010
5:37 pm

Oh I wont smack him… he really is a good kid…. He asked me this at 4 and said.. its lunch time.. I said no its almost supper time :).. go eat a sandwich if you are now hungry.. this is dinner :)

Today has been a jammie day.. he goes back to school tomorrow, why could it not snow tonight :)

motherjanegoose

January 4th, 2010
5:43 pm

@ FCM…I was told by a teacher in another state;
Take what you get and don’t pitch a fit…

@ Julia…no, do not cave and become a short order cook. I know your balloon is deflated and I would be glad to come over and enjoy dinner with you…hint, hint… I bought steaks and am not sure who is going to be excited about going out to grill in long underwear….hahaha!
Just let him know that when he ever may decide to cook, you will enjoy whatever he cooks as it is the effort and thoughtfulness of preparing a warm meal for others.

My 22 year old son is much more grateful about dinner since he had to forage for his own meals a few times in the past 4 years….haha!

Julia

January 4th, 2010
6:01 pm

he made breakfast :). I guess I cant ask for it twice in one day.. :) I am going to publix tomorrow and get a couple of the big sirloin steakes pan fry them for a crust then throw them in the cock pot with gravy :)

fk

January 4th, 2010
6:44 pm

Catlady: My son had a phone at 13. He was in middle school and participated in sports (3). I worked. Sometimes, practice would let out early, and he’d be waiting around for a quite a while (practice was at the high school). Many times, practice ran over, and I sat around waiting for him when I could’ve done a quick errand or two. Not fun running them with a teenager. He was a responsible kid and we were never sorry about this choice.

deidre_NC

January 4th, 2010
6:56 pm

i love texting..now that i figured it out lol…actually i finally got a qwerty keyboard so its a cinch…my kids text..we all text…its our main form of communication when we arent together ….. and….even then..i will text them after i go to bed to turn down the tv..or to look at the calendar to see what time i have to be at work…or whatever….isnt that awful!!! i do it yes..and i will continue to,…and yes i know its lazy..but man when i get all cozied up in my comfy bed i do NOT want to get back up to tell the kids anything…so i text lol…

deidre_NC

January 4th, 2010
6:57 pm

and of course we have unlimited texting…no way would i ever not have that…

penguinmom

January 4th, 2010
7:40 pm

Catlady, we just gave our son, 13, a phone for Christmas. It is mainly for our convenience not his. We go to a large church which has a huge Wednesday night middle school program. It is nearly impossible to pick out my son from a crowd of 300-400 kids. We had been lending him my phone on Wednesdays so he could call my husband and we could meet up with him. But, on nights my husband wasn’t with me, I just had to give him a place to meet me then wait around for him to show up. Not fun when I have 2 other kids I’ve already picked up in the church carpool line and we’re all hungry and tired after a long day.
His phone isn’t so he can chat with all his friends about some TV show or whatever. It’s for him to talk to us and us to talk to him. He has enough minutes to have some other minor social calls but not many.
I agree that a 13 year old doesn’t need a phone for socializing. But, they are starting to have more activities away from home and it is just easier for them to have their own way of getting in touch with parents.

April

January 4th, 2010
7:58 pm

This is 2010. Most kids I know (and I know a lot) get a phone around age 10-11. My 13 year old never makes calls on her phone. She texts almost exclusively. She averages about 200 day. They add up fast as Theresa demonstrated.

The “I’m wearing a blue shirt” texts seem silly and are harmless. I remember the land line conversations I used to have with my friends. They were very much the same. Did no one else hold the phone in front of the radio so her bff could hear her favorite song?

I do parent my kids – quite successfully thank you very much – and one of the modern devices that helps me do this is the cell phone. With several kids going in different directions it is nice to know that they can get in touch with me at any time.

FCM

January 4th, 2010
8:01 pm

Julia you did get that I was not recommending smacking him right? I am sure he is a good kid. I am also sure that being that he is 14 he will get hungry often (the summer around 15 is when all the boys suddenly turned into giants in my neighborhood!) and stay that way for a few more years. Thus, the need to stock the pantry and I know that you being a good mom do just that.

Sigh, as the Mom of 2 girls I am sure my food bills will go crazy in about 5 years when they bring boys home. My brother and I downed a gallon of milk each per week when were in HS. Ate full pizza between us too. I was much more active then than I am now…

Julia

January 4th, 2010
8:52 pm

I do hope you know I was teasing :).. he is a normal teen kid that stinks :)

DB

January 4th, 2010
10:43 pm

What MJG said was true: After the boys have been on their own, they are insanely grateful for whatever crumbs you choose to throw their way, as is evidenced by my son’s almost pathetic gratitude for home-cooked dinners during the three weeks! Never have I been thanked so sincerely for dinners! This is the first year my son hasn’t been on a meal plan and has had to fend for himself, and he is MUCH more interested in food preparation now than he ever was — to the point of watching me cook dinner, and asking me why I do this, or why I do that . . . I was never able to interest him in it before he went off to college, but I trusted to native intelligence that he’d figure it out eventually :-)

And, to everyone else: A two hour lunch with MJG flies by — we were having so much fun at the last one that I ended up checking the time and realizing I was almost half-an-hour late to my next appointment!

Lawrencevillemom

January 4th, 2010
11:33 pm

Thank God for unlimited texting…my 19 yr old is away at college and uses about 400 min/mo & about 2000 texts … however my 16 yr old averages 8 – 9,000/mo & uses about 10 minutes (mostly me). The phones have been a great way to keep track & make sure I know where they are & what is going on. We have always told our girls that if they are somewhere and want to come home…just call and they will be picked up with no questions asked (friends being stupid, bad decisions, etc.) – have only received one such call (younger child at a party where things were getting too grown up for her because of her friend’s older siblings) but the price of the phones is worth the security.

Momof2

January 5th, 2010
12:01 am

Maybe I need to re-evaluate the different plans but texting was too much money the last time I looked at it. My kids can call me for free and if they EARNED the money I would consider adding texting to their phones – so far that has not happened. Their father has no land-line and often leaves them on their own so cells are necessary. All you have to do is call the cell phone company and tell them to cut off texting completely for the kids phones. It’s easy and cheap and no billing surprises.

MomsRule

January 5th, 2010
6:48 am

Momof2 – we have a family plan (4 phones) with unlimited texting. The unlimited texting is $30 per month. In Dec, I was paying $20 per month for my individual plan alone. So it is only costing me $10 more to have an additional 3 phones covered.

FCM

January 5th, 2010
8:47 am

I pay $95/month for two phones unlimited everything on mine. I did limit the one phone but that is my choice by having an email tell me when they have used 100 minutes.

b

January 5th, 2010
11:47 am

We have unlimited texting and it is how I generally communicate with my college student and a lot of times with my high schooler. I don’t usually know what my college student’s schedule is so it is easier to text and then call when both are free. High schooler needs to be able to get me when plans, practices, change, etc. We average as a group of three about 6000 texts per month.

catlady

January 5th, 2010
3:09 pm

FCM–forgot about the land line business. Thanks for your patient response.

Others: I live 20 miles one way from the only high/middle school so yes, I have spent many an hour waiting outside in the cold and dark for one or another of them to finish when practice ran over. Yeah, it’s a hassle but I signed on for parenthood, and the children are most important.

I just think the disadvantages for such a young person outweigh the “advantages,” but different people value different things and see things in different ways. We have kids here at elementary school with cells whose misuse will/has landed them in big trouble, even trouble with the law, not to mention other disruptions and being exposed to some unsavory situations. Parent, beware! is what I say.

FCM

January 5th, 2010
5:09 pm

catlady — well as a single mom I am sure the phone will become a necessity for the kids at some point. As it is I am pretty lost when I forget mine or the battery is dead. My new phone has my mail, internet, maps, phone, calendar, etc in it

The world is getting more tech by the day and in what I do it is really a use it or die situation. We are constantly moving forward and streamling everything. I read contracts housed 3 states away via my computer screen.

The world is getting increasingly Global and that is what we really have to make sure our kids are ready to deal with. They are no longer competing with Johnny next door or even Sally from Harvard. They are compting with the entire world. That is why I mentioned (in another blog) they may not be needing to do 9-5 schedules. They may need to be ready to take a call with Spain, Hong Kong, or India while the rest of us are asleep. One guy I dated did most of his work between 10PM and 7AM because that is when he installed software on client’s computers all over the world without ever leaving his house.

April

January 5th, 2010
6:18 pm

FCM – You make some great points.

As a parent, part of my duty is to teach my children to use all technology safely and responsibly – not to hide it away. I am a teacher and am well aware of the dangers and problems cell phones can cause, but there are dangers in everything and we must educate our children to make good decisions. Good parenting does not mean never letting the child out of your sight. A large part of it is teaching them how to behave when they are away from us.

I don’t consider it a hassle to wait on my kids when they are involved in an activity, but I can not always sit there for the entire time waiting for that one child to need me. I have other children and other responsibilities. I always return at the specified time, but it is nice to know that my child can reach me without having to rely on someone else to provide the means to do it.

Many people are afraid of new things – there were those who refused to ride in cars or use regular land line phones when they first became available. But like cell phones, those things proved to be more than fads.

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