Bad idea or good idea: Setting up your child’s teacher?
I recently met an eligible bachelor that I think would make a good match for one of my children’s teachers.
He’s smart, well educated, good job, cute and seemed very nice. And I just adore my child’s teacher. She’s in her 20s, very cute, very smart and just the sweetest woman ever! Plus she owns her own home. (She’s responsible with money.)
I know she’s not married but I need to investigate a little bit to find out if she’s dating anyone seriously. There are approximately three men in our entire school – all unavailable. An elementary school is not like a regular office where you have lots of chances to meet people.
I keep trying to think of “natural” ways they could meet each other. He could come to school and have lunch with me and my son one day and meet her after lunch. (He’s generally working during the day and works about 25 miles from our school so not that organic.) Another option is bingo night at the school. I bet she would be there and it wouldn’t be that odd for him to be there. Plus, he’d be off work. Also if they had a skate night and she was there – that could work too. (Unless he can’t skate. I’m sure she can skate – she’s very athletic.)
My husband says this is a terrible idea that could go wrong in so many ways. And I know he is right! However, I’m like a dog with a bone – it’s hard to get me off of an idea once it’s in my head.
Setting up single friends is Classic Theresa. I did it a lot when we lived in New York, and we were the only married people around.
I swear I would just introduce them and then get out of the way. If they chose to go out, that’s great. If not, that’s fine too. But at least give them the chance to meet.
How do you vote? Would you try to set up your child’s teacher? Is this fraught with way too many problems? Should I wait until after the school year is over? (We all know that patience is not one of my virtues.) What’s the best way to casually introduce them? (I could just tell them about each other and see if they want to email for while and then maybe move on from there?)
(Sorry I’m so late getting this topic up. I had to take my car in for work.)
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what?
December 30th, 2009
9:56 pm
Not only do you not have the slightest bit of reason to interject your control issues into your CHILDS teacher’s personal life, the AJC should fire you for even referencing the ladies personal status. IDIOT!!!!
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
December 30th, 2009
10:36 pm
mom2alex — i didn’t take it as snippy – no worries.
Cynthia
December 31st, 2009
1:33 am
Everybody is so overreacting. Just be honest and tell her you would love to introduce her to someone she might find interesting. If she is u to it, set up a harmless intro and then let it go or not go from there. You just never know…
teachermom
December 31st, 2009
8:17 am
You’ll never know unless you ask. All she can say is “no”. I’m a teacher (happily married), but if I were a single teacher I would be touched by the fact that a parent thought enough of me to be concerned about my happiness. There’s enough cynicism in this world. Who knows? It could be the love of her life-or at the very least she might meet a new friend.
Active Duty Mom
December 31st, 2009
5:40 pm
Bad idea and I feel for this teacher. If I were that teacher and read this blog, I would be very embarrassed. Please get out of the matchmaker business and mind your own. The relationship between you and your child’s teacher should remain strictly business otherwise you do run a risk of becoming “that parent”. Besides, the gal is in her 20s and has PLENTY of time to decide what she wants to do with her life. Why rush her into dating and marriage?
what?
January 1st, 2010
9:50 am
Something tells me she is already “that parent”. Can you imagine what it must be like to have to go to work everyday and have to deal with parents like this? This ….blog? should be used as evidence to support the argument that teachers salaries should be doubled…immediatly!
catlady
January 2nd, 2010
2:10 pm
No, no, a thousand times no. No to the nth power. Allow her to keep her personal life and professional life separate. There are boundaries. Would you want her (or any of your other choldren’s teachers setting you up if you were divorced?
While your child will have only 6 teachers in elementary school (maybe more depending on organizational patterns), she will have HUNDREDS of students. Imagine what that would be like, to have all your parents trying to set you up. You don’t want to offend them….
If, after ALL your children are out of elementary school, you still remain close friends with this teacher (I doubt you are now), THEN broach the subject with her.
Jeff
January 3rd, 2010
9:43 am
Theresa – a topic for another blog could be why are there only 3 men in the entire school? Shouldn’t we be encouraging more balance in children’s lives. From a more diverse set of experiences and viewpoints? If the numbers were reversed, what would we say? Maybe we need to take whatever steps are necessary to make men feel more comfortable working in this environment.
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
January 3rd, 2010
11:16 pm
what — I always say I try to be as helpful as I am a pain in the butt. I hope I equal myself out!
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
January 3rd, 2010
11:18 pm
Hear, Hear Jeff! I agree. It’s shocking how few male teachers there are!!
You guys have talked me out of this one — i will hear a resounding NO!! in my head the next time I see the teacher!! I will be good and mind my own business (at least until after we’re out of her class.)