Party, party, party — like you’re a room mom!

No time to chat today. I’m running like a crazy woman preparing for school parties. I’m helping with four parties today, leading one on Friday and leading one on Saturday as well.

We’ve got Rose’s school party (cut up a bag of apples and took in bulky items at 8:30 and the teacher’s present), Lilina’s school party (baked, wrapped present exchange and prepared teachers’ gifts), and then we have two Sunday School parties tonight (presents and food for those.)

In the interim I have to find Velcro tape that I can use on the school carpet to make Polar Express train tracks (school custodian won’t let me use electrical tape), magnets for the backs of the keepsake trains, jewels and glitter pens to decorate the trains.

Prepare more than 50 snowflakes to hang from the ceiling so the kids walk into a winter wonderland and then decorate his teacher’s classroom this afternoon.

I also have to figure out how to fix the photos I took of the kids for his teacher’s present and for the trains. I got too close to the kids heads and now they all look like giant heads. I already bought three copies each of 17 photos. Hmm…

I’m working with three moms tomorrow to run Walsh’s party — snack, crafts and games. Anyone for Polar Express bingo!

And just when it seems like it’s winding down, I’ve got cook two mains, an appetizer, a dessert, a punch  and decorate a hall for our children’s liturgy party.

I’m happy to do it all. I want the kids to remember special parties at school, and I want to thank our church volunteers for helping! Walsh asked me last night if I was going to at his party. I told “Of course baby, I wouldn’t miss it for the world!”

All my buddies are in the same boat. You should hear Keith’s list – she’s got so much going on! Facebook is aflutter with moms swapping party game ideas and asking how do make that reindeer food again? (Big debate over whether it was safe to add glitter.)

As Rose’s teacher said this morning, “This is the time when teachers and moms kick it into high gear – party, party, party!” (She added it all goes away so fast. She has a high school student and is feeling a little sad that time has passed!)

Have you kicked into high gear? Are you sending in items and working on multiple parties at once? Why do YOU do it even when it makes you crazy? (My husband doesn’t understand why I bother to do it. I think that’s a guy thing or is it?)

P.S. I’ve got a really good topic for tomorrow with photos but I just have to find time to post it!!!

98 comments Add your comment

Jane

December 17th, 2009
9:10 am

No time to party, party, party here. I work a real job to put food on my family’s table.

Michelle

December 17th, 2009
9:17 am

Jane, that wasn’t very nice. Theresa has a real job! She’s lucky enough that she can have access to her job wherever there is internet access!

If I had the flexibility, I would be very involved in the school activities! Unfortunately (fortunate to have a job though!), I have a M-F, 8-5 job. I do have some flexibility to work with, but not whole days or blocks of hours at a time!

As parents, we like to make sure our children have great experiences, even when we feel overwhelmed. For me though, if it takes away too much time from the kids, it’s not worth the craziness!

I am doing my share of sending in items as needed, but I’m not involved in the planning or anything like that! We have 2 room moms, and I JUST met one this past weekend!

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December 17th, 2009
9:17 am

Sounds like a nice relaxing day to me.

madmommy

December 17th, 2009
9:20 am

While I like Jane have a job, being a stay at home is a full time job that you never really get a break from where working in an office I can at least think about other things and talk to adults.

Regardless, I did want to ask one thing. Why wait until the last minute to get all the “decorations” and “gifts” together? Honestly, I know you were talking about the gift to the teacher a while back and I figured you were done with them all by now to where all you would have to do is do the cooking and walk out the door. Sorry, but that is just poor planning and I find that more often than not most parents don’t plan for things ahead of time and end up frazzled at the end.

We are not doing any holiday parties other than a few treats we are bringing to Little Gym tomorrow for the last class of the season. Gifts for the teachers is coffee and maybe donuts or a coffee cake that we make together. Sometimes I think parents get to crazy about parties and what not and miss out on what the season means. Just because we want our kids to have “better” or “more” than we did, doesn’t mean we have to do everything over the top. Having it all doesn’t always mean what you want, but what you might not have noticed you needed.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

December 17th, 2009
9:26 am

I had the teacher’s gifts weeks ago, I just like to write nice messages in each card thanking them and making sure I’m giving the right thing to the right person — I had nine presents for school teachers, preschool and sunday schoool. Plus I’m working on the class’s present to Walsh’s teacher.
I literally have lists of what needs to go where and piles in the laundry room for the different parties.

they just all hit on the same day — you would be fine if they were spread out.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

December 17th, 2009
9:29 am

Jane — I think SOME mom is planning your child’s party. And if the parents don’t send stuff in then the room moms end up buying the stuff and often times the room moms are houses with only one income (as you pointed out)—- They have to the time to share with the kids but not always the money to fund everything.

Really

December 17th, 2009
9:36 am

Jane~ you sound awfully bitter!

JATL

December 17th, 2009
9:37 am

Wow Jane -get over yourself! My mother job is EONS tougher than any so-called “real” job I’ve ever had -and that includes teaching high school.

I know it’s too late for you this year to do this Theresa, but we ordered tons of snowflakes to hang from the ceiling a few years ago from Oriental Trading. It’s a valuable resource for kids party and decoration items!

Lori

December 17th, 2009
9:47 am

I wish so much I could be there for all my son’s events. I too have an 8-5 job, but I’d love to be able to stay at home and be a supermom!!

lakerat...

December 17th, 2009
9:54 am

I basically agree with Jane – try to handle an “out of the home” 40 – 50 hour a week job AND still participate as a room mom helper, Sunday School assistant, wife, mom, etc, then tell me how stressed you are! Until, then, just deal with it because, remember, YOU volunteered to do this, YOU decided to have three kids, YOU decided not to ask your hubby to assist, etc.

While I am not trying to disparage any of the stay at home moms or anything Theresa is doing, I did take offense at some of the comments directed at Jane. Please try to “think” before piling on someone who has just as many responsibilities AND volunteer efforts as many who participate regularly on this blog.

motherjanegoose

December 17th, 2009
9:54 am

Theresa, there are many moms ( like you) who are the backbone of all extra activities in the classroom.
WE TEACHERS APPRECIATE YOU! Sometimes my room moms were absolutely incredible and made the day wonderful for everyone.

Reality is that now many moms do work but they can still have a part by perhaps securing those items in the third paragraph that you need. I know it is too late now but you need to delegate, so that you will not be overwhelmed. I am also aware that some folks blow things off and FORGET so that this will leave you in a lurch and making more trips to the store, at the last minute.

I may have shared this but a neighbor was in charge of the spring party for her then 4th grader….years ago. They were trying to include healthy foods such as fruit, cheese and crackers.
One mom signed up to send in grapes and she sent in a bag of EIGHTEEN INDIVIDUAL GRAPES….there were eighteen kids in the class. This falls under yesterday’s topic of WHAT WAS THE PARENT THINKING? If one grape fell on the floor, should they cut another one in half to share…..hello?

I volunteered in middle school years ago and was sitting at the desk with magazines and books.
A lady leaned over the desk towards me ( to check out her son0 and said, “My isn’t this a cushy job?” I replied, “Yes, since I am NOT being paid at all to be here 4 hours per month, I really can do what I want!…It is called volunteer and you to can sign up!” She glared at me and replied, “I have a real job…” I replied, ” I have my own business but make time to volunteer as someone has to do it.”

Yes, I have finished with Christmas 1 party and have 2 to go. If everyone hosted 3 parties per year, THAT would be a lot of parties! Fortunately, I am just co-ordinating and do not have to do everything. i ask others to pitch in, I will also have friends over for dinner as this is better time for me since I am not traveling!

I do know this…some throw parties and some just like to attend…less hassle.

ATL06

December 17th, 2009
9:58 am

My son’s holiday party is today and I really wish that I could be there. I try to make it to as many school functions as possible. My son’s school has mandatory volunteer hours that we are required to complete so I like to do the parties and field day activities in addition to the parent center responsibilities. I will send in his teachers giftcard tomorrow. He was concerned though because alot of kids hadn’t turned in their money for the holiday party so I hope it all goes well.

motherjanegoose

December 17th, 2009
10:04 am

@ lakerat….you make a very valid point, as usual.

My job is flexible and there are times of the year, like now and in the summer, where I am not working very much. Other times, I wake up and wonder what hotel I am in and whether I have to got to an airport or conduct a meeting.

Some try to be supermoms ( I have been there) making their own bed and then bemoan the fact that they have to lay( sp?) in it. I have been VERY guilty of this and my family has reminded me that there are others out there who could and should do their part…I am not in charge of every venue. This is when I cut back.

Those who work a full time job CANNOT do all these things Theresa has mentioned. Perhaps they could select one or two.

When you are volunteering and it becomes stressful ( not fun) and way to much like a hectic job…perhaps you need to say…WHOA! I learned this at 40…

FCM

December 17th, 2009
10:06 am

Theresa check Michael’s or Walmart I found plastic snowflakes — like a dozen for $1 or $2. These came with plastic string attached and then you won’t have to make them. Also, pick up some food rather than prepare all that yourself. The holidays should not be stressful.

I took a premade spin-dip tray (publix)to a party last week. People ate it and no complaints. You can get cut up cheese in the diary case, veggies in the produce….Learn from Sandra Lee and do it Semi-Homemade.

Get a plastic sheet or cloth, or old sheet and put the train-tracks on that rather than sticking anything to the school floor.

I have done the room Mom thing….I did not find it very stressful at all when I delegated some of the work. The rooms were not decorated tot he extent your talking about, but honestly when I seems over decorated like that I think “there is a Mom who has way too much time on her hands and needs to focus on something other than her kids!”

here we go again!

December 17th, 2009
10:14 am

Is this about the kids parties, or teresa’s transparent supermom act?

Photius

December 17th, 2009
10:24 am

I agree entirely with Lakerat and Jane; Bravo~

JJ

December 17th, 2009
10:28 am

As a working mom, I really appreciated the Moms who helped out in my child’s classrooms, as I wasn’t able to to a lot. But, I did work very close to her school and I was able to do what I could.

We put too much stress on OURSELVES this time of year. We HAVE to do this and that…….we feel pulled in numerous directions.

That’s why I usually take the week off before Christmas. I can relax a little, sleep in a little later than usual and enjoy shopping at the mall, without pressure.

We are having our cookie party Saturday, and I’m expecting about 10 teenagers over and a few neighbor kids. Then, after they all leave, my poker buddies and their kids are coming over for our christmas party and dinner. Everyone brings a dish, I’m making the main course, and we will eat, let the kids open their presents and we will play some poker until late into the night.

Food has already been purchased, cookie stuff too. The gifts for the kids have been purchased, and my daughter is wrapping them today. The roast will go into the oven after the cookies have been baked, and all is well!!!!!

No stress, no Drama!!!!

Uconn

December 17th, 2009
10:31 am

I have to agree with Jane… Not everyone is so lucky or fortunate to be able to devote so much time to being a room mom. My mom was able to do it and of course I wanted no part of her being there.. Also, please don’t start on the “if you can’t afford to have kids, then don’t” If that were the case, then a majority would not have kids… Some may not have planned to work but due to circumstances beyond their control they have to work… JMHO

Uconn

December 17th, 2009
10:31 am

Oh and dare I say… Merry Christmas?

anne

December 17th, 2009
10:32 am

DD is is middle school. Her school Christmas party is tomorrow. It gets easier as they get older, only then the kids don’t want the parents to come!

deidre_NC

December 17th, 2009
10:40 am

i think the reaction to janes comment wasnt because of the message it was the way the message was delivered…sure we would all love to be able to be there 100% for our kids..but when we have to work at jobs that are increasingly time consuming it just isnt possible…we can 9if we can afford it) buy stuff to send to parties…but as for being there lots of times it is just not possible. i was lucky with some of my kids to be able to do that…but with my last one (the one in college now) i rarely got to participate in her school parties and things…i did always send items..but i (and she) really hated that i couldnt be there….she has turned out so independant and has been since she was little. i used to go to parties of my older kids and feel so bad for teh kids whose parents couldnt be there….some would be so upset…but we all do what we have to..and do as much as we can for aour kids…and if that means working to put food on the table and missing their parties so be it…doesnt make you less of a good mom…and god bless and thank you for the ones who are able to be there…with my youngest i was always so thankful for the ones who would watch my child when they went on field trips that i couldnt make it to. and i dotn think theresa is a “transparent supermom actor” that was mean too. people need to be thankful for what they have..whether its a job or the ability to be a sahm…and those that have to work and miss out on the kids stuff…be thankful for the sahm that can be there to make your kids day a great one….

motherjanegoose

December 17th, 2009
10:42 am

Hey Uconn…I planned my kids and still can’t afford them AND they both have a job….HAHA!
I love them to death most days and would not trade all the hassle ( on my end) for not having them.
Outta’ here for lunch…have fun y’all!

Yes, Merry Christmas!

Alecia

December 17th, 2009
11:04 am

I am the sole room mom this year and it is not stressful. It all boils down to time management and knowing how to delegate. I started organizing right after Thanksgiving. A list went out to all of the parents with things needed for the party and a request for volunteers. Hobby Lobby had some great craft ideas. I did a dry run with the crafts to make sure that they worked. Some of the Oriental Trading crafts look tacky. The teacher gave me a few game ideas and 1 parent has offered to volunteer. Decorating a classroom like a winter wonderland or building the Polar Express is just creating your own stress. Who are the decorations really for, the other moms or the kids? Think simple. Your child would much rather have a mom that is mentally balanced and put together than one that is over stressed.
It is also sickening to realize a lot of these stay at home moms that are over stressed are on anti-depressants and are more than likely one step away from taking out the whole school.

Stress is what you make it. It is funny to see stay at home parents talk about being overstressed, when they are in control of the stress themselves. Pace yourselves ancd have a happy holiday.

DB

December 17th, 2009
11:15 am

Theresa: I see that we’re going to have to teach you a very useful phrase:

“No, I’m sorry, I’m not going to be able to help with that this year. But please check back with me next year.”

Pace yourself, girl, before you burn out! Honestly, give the other moms a chance to step up to the plate — it may not be done the same way you would have done, but truthfully, it doesn’t matter that much. The parties begin to blur together after a while, and with three kids, you are going to have to learn to say “no.” Been there, done that, lost the clever party favor! :-) Learn to pick just one or two events that you care about, devote your energies to doing them well — and let the other moms jump in and “rescue” the parties and bitch about how the other moms don’t help, and it’s all on them (you aren’t dong that — but you know the type I mean.) When my kids were in lower school, it was always funny how there was just one or two moms who felt they had to do EVERYTHING — they got to the parent night meeting early, filled up all the slots for the Christmas party, the Easter pageant, chaperoning field trips, coordinating field day . . . when the clipboard got around to the rest of us, the slots were all filled, by all the same people. One of them had the nerve to bitch about it into the school year — “nobody else helps!” — and I finally had to remind her that if she hadn’t put her name down on every single event, maybe someone else would have had the opportunity to volunteer. There are few things more annoying than a put-upon “volunteer.”

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that because you’re helping with one child’s party, you have to help with EVERYONE’S party at the same time, or else you aren’t being “fair.” That’s b.s. Take one child’s party one year, the next child’s party the next year, the next the next year . . . etc. Do a Christmas party with one, field day with another, chaperone a trip with yet another. Spread yourself out a bit — don’t feel that you have to do everything for everyone at once!

And as for the rest of us — Jane had a point, although she could have been a bit less mean-spirited about it: Many parents simply cannot take the time from work, even though they would love to. We have enough things in our lives to fret about — a school party shouldn’t be one of them. What our kids want, more than anything else, is OUR undivided time and attention. If not at a school party — then making cookies together at home, taking them out for a special ice cream, taking a walk in the neighborhood at night to admire the decorations, etc., etc.

Tonight, I’ll have everyone back from college — I’m so excited!

New Stepmom

December 17th, 2009
11:33 am

Theresa, I think you are doing a great job! One suggestion though, could you be home room mom for one child’s class each year and participate as needed in the other’s classes. THat might help with time management.

I am still figuring out if I will work or stay at home. I think for us, it will make sense for me to stay at home and try to get my decorating business going as I have been doing freelance jobs for years now but have never left my corporate work. BUT, if I ever am working full time I will appreciate the moms like Theresa who make parties possible for every child. Yes, times are hard and many families have struggled (ours included with job loss and my medical bills), but playing the haves vs have nots game does no one any good.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

December 17th, 2009
11:42 am

I’m not room mom for Rose’s class just for Walsh. I just send things in for Rose’s and help as needed. You can’t be room mom for two classes because often the parties conflict — I know two moms that are “room moms’ for more than one kid and they are super crazy!!!

I cut the snowflakes out at the school on Tuesday with their die cut machine. so those are done i just have to cut the ribbon to hang. the thick Velcro tape is too cost prohibitive to use in the classroom — $12 for 4 feet of it — I won’t be buying that so the kids will go without train tracks.

I think I shouldn’t have used the word room mom in the headline because it’s really any mom contributing to parties whether she’s officially room mom or not —

I think the term is polarizing and I didn’t mean it to be.

As far as working moms go — 80 percent of mothers have to work so often they can’t be there — that’s just the fact — but they can send in what the class needs and that is a huge contribution. The are multiple working moms in our classes that I know I can count on to always supply what the kids need! And we are soo appreciative of those efforts!

I’m typing fast cause I’ve got to get Lilina from preschool and run back to Target to get two discounts I didn’t have with me — I will be working over customer service!!

iRun

December 17th, 2009
11:54 am

I only have one kid, I do work outside the home (though it’s a VERY family friendly environment), but what it comes down to is…I have no desire whatsoever to do any of this. None. And if no other mom did it I don’t think the kids would “suffer”. On the other hand, if another mom really wants or feels compelled to go to great lengths then good for her. Go for it. Don’t expect a pat on the back from anyone…do it because you want to. But, sheesh, don’t do ANYTHING in life to get a pat on the back…you should do things because you have to or want to. But I digress…

Last thing my kid needs is a grumpy mom. I did volunteer to make cookies for the holiday party tomorrow but how hard can it be to slice pre-made cookie dough and lay them out on a baking sheet? We’re going snow-skiing this New Year’s, so we’ll make our own memories then and there.

I am looking forward to making loaded baked potato soup for dinner tonight, though. So are my son and husband.

Call me slacker-mom. I’d rather set aside time to train for a marathon than participate in schoolroom festivities.

Kelly

December 17th, 2009
11:57 am

WOW! Some of the responses…

Up until the last year, I have worked an office job and been a room mom in my daughters’ classrooms. I have been the only room mom some years and other years I had help. I’ve been lucky that all of my employers all me time to participate in my daughters’ classrooms. Is it stressful? At times, but it is much more rewarding. Last year, I decided to do Girl Scouts instead with one of my daughters than be a room mom. I’ve enjoyed it more. However, I still help in the class whenever it is needed.

Uconn

December 17th, 2009
12:08 pm

@irun – That soup sounds yummy and perfect for the weather we are having! Dare I say it could snow this weekend? All I want is some flurries before I leave for florida!

Jane

December 17th, 2009
12:11 pm

If my post sounded to blunt for some, sorry.

But…I work 40-50 hours a week at the office (add another 1 – 1/2 hours drive time a day) and take care of two children (under 10) and my husband. So, yes, I am a full time mother and wife as well. And you CAN be a full-time mother while working a job outside the house. My children have all the love and attention that any mother can bestow upon her children.

Having said that….I actually had two moms (stay-at-home) ask me what was I going to do to help out at the kids’ school parties. They wanted to know was I going to cook something or help with the decorations. Needless to say, my response wasn’t pretty.

So, the parties may go forth thanks to these stay-at-home moms, but the world goes on thanks to working-outside-the-home moms like me.

deidre_NC

December 17th, 2009
12:14 pm

http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/34453741/ns/us_news-education/

sounds like a good topic to me for another day….

Ok people

December 17th, 2009
12:18 pm

It’s Christmas Party not friggin Holiday Party!!!!!

Jane

December 17th, 2009
12:25 pm

Theresa, you said: “school custodian won’t let me use electrical tape” for the train tracks. I would assume because it’ll stick to the floor making a mess when you try and get it off. Therefore, try using masking tape. It may not be black, but it’ll get the job done and pull off the floor easily when you’re done.

Working?

December 17th, 2009
12:38 pm

If Jane were really working hard would she be reading this blog on a Thursday at 9:10am when most people’s days are in full gear?

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

December 17th, 2009
12:50 pm

I’ll ask the teacher — i think they’re being rather strict on the tape — for 24 hours I don’t think the electrical tape would leave much residue — but white masking tape doesn’t look like train tracks -

deidre_NC

December 17th, 2009
12:58 pm

be nice people…

JJ

December 17th, 2009
1:01 pm

Um, I work a full time job and I still make time to come here and read this blog……..

I’m sure Jane is working hard…….just as I am. I just take a few little mini breaks during the day……four minutes to read and make a post will not ruin a work day….most of us on here are working…….

cld

December 17th, 2009
1:03 pm

I work outside the home and hope that before long, I will be able to work from home. My son is in daycare (one and a half years old) four days a week, as I work a compressed schedule M-Th in order to be home on Fridays. His holiday parties (Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas) seem to be falling on Fridays this year – probably because Halloween was on a weekend and next week is a wash for many companies. Because I’m at home on Fridays and think my son is old enough to enjoy parties with his friends, I participated and assisted with the Halloween party and am doing the same with the Christmas party (tomorrow). (I didn’t think the Thanksgiving celebration, which was just a special lunch, was a big enough deal to bring him in.) Because it is a daycare, the assumption is that all these parents are working while their kids are there–there are no stay-at-home parents for these kids. So we all sign up for food, goodies, etc, and those who have flexibility attend . . .

I hope to be a room mom one day. My mother did it many times for my sisters and me. Somewhere around fifth grade it became more of an embarrassment than it was “cool”–but she was still there. Throwing parties, chaperoning field trips, making connections with our teachers.

You take care of your husband????

December 17th, 2009
1:03 pm

I certainly hope you mean that in the conjugal sense!

@Working – get off your high horse – most of the bloggers here are at work when they read and comment – including me and, probably, you!

deidre_NC

December 17th, 2009
1:07 pm

well i dont get on here at work because its just not an option..but i used to at my old job…doesnt take much time at all to read and post…it can even be done when on hold on the phone…now i have to only post when im at home…darnit lol…

DB

December 17th, 2009
1:08 pm

Ugh — Electrical tape is a MESS. I hate it, it always gums up on everything and smells weird. I think the custodian might be right on this one, Theresa!

If you really want to go “Thomas” on the train-tracks, go to a hardware store and get the blue masking tape that painters use — it pulls up very easily.

A

December 17th, 2009
1:13 pm

Jane–there was no reason to be snippy with the 2 moms who asked you for help. They might not know your schedule. I am lucky enough to work from home and keep my own hours, but even so I can’t always help out in the class. I do what I can and no more. And if asked to go above and beyond what I’m able to, I would tell the room mom – politely – that my work schedule doesn’t permit whatever it is.

Simple politeness and courtesy will take you far, Jane.

Be Nice

December 17th, 2009
1:17 pm

@Jane–how very short-sighted of you to state that the world goes on due to moms like you who work outside of the home. Don’t you think stay-at-home moms are doing their part to raise upstanding citizens, which goes a long way to making the world “go on” as you said. Whether you are a full-time working outside the home mom, a stay-at-home mom or somewhere in between (like me and many others) is beside the point; it’s your attitude that speaks volumes about the kind of person you are. And Jane, I doubt anyone on this blog would want to make your acquaintance in the real world.

FCM

December 17th, 2009
1:25 pm

They make painter’s tape in several colors—you might find brown if black is not an option….besides tracks are usually of steel so they are grey! Don’t use the DuckTape though (to be grey) that IS a mess to get off carpet—don’t ask how I know!

Valstake

December 17th, 2009
1:26 pm

You’d never see me go to any of that kind of effort. I’d rather save my pennies and hire a caterer and decorator. Just kidding. I have to agree with iRun, absolutely no desire to get involved.

Theresa, sounds like you’ve got a better job than the AJC publisher or managing editor.

Jane

December 17th, 2009
1:31 pm

@Be Nice – try being nice yourself!

First, the moms I was referring to at school are like many other moms at that school – they look down on working moms like we don’t love our children and don’t want to be with them. If I won the lottery I’d quit work that day and never go back. I’d enjoy spending more time with my children – but that ain’t happening. I know there are some nice stay-at-home moms, but most of the ones I’ve meet have a holier-than-thou attitude and I have to deal with it repeatedly. You’re a classic case. You stated that: “stay-at-home moms are doing their part to raise upstanding citizens.” That’s the attitude I’m talking about – I work, but I also (as are most working-moms) am raising upstanding citizens. Working moms have great kids too.

Second, yes, I do make a contribution to society with my job. It’s alot of work and high stress, but I make a difference for society. And “Working?”, most of my work is computer related so I am on the internet alot, get over yourself with your accusations.

Third, don’t worry – I have no interest in making your acquaintance either.

Katie

December 17th, 2009
1:32 pm

Had S’s party this morning. 7 parents volunteered and we used them all! It was fun. You guys are going way out for Polar Express Day! Sounds fun. Our class is just wearing pj’s, having hot choc., and cookies while reading the book – and they get to bring a towel and stuffed animal to lay on the floor with them :). It is stressful, but by this weekend, it will all be done.

Be Nice

December 17th, 2009
1:40 pm

@Jane–it’s all about the attitude, and yours is really bad. Yeah, there are SAHMs who look down on working moms, but there are working moms who think SAHMs have the easy life. Rather than turning on each other, we as moms need to support each other no matter our choices. Sure my choice would not be to run or be part of 4 kids’ holiday parties, but some people thrive on that.

Live and let live, Jane, is all I’m saying. We all love our kids and do everything we can for them. Simple as that.

cld

December 17th, 2009
1:51 pm

@ “You take care of your husband?!”: Come one, let’s be honest. How many of us make lunches, dinners, fold laundry, etc. for our husbands? How many of those same men would be eating out or buying more clothes if we weren’t around? I consider that “taking care of” him–don’t know what the other poster meant. But I think we all take care of one another–not that the spouse is incapable, but we all have to scratch one another’s backs. I didn’t take it to mean she’s waiting on his every need . . . just that maybe she provides some of his basic necessity like meals, just like we do for our kids.

Geez, cld...

December 17th, 2009
2:08 pm

Lighten up – it was a joke and you missed it, even though I gave you the punch line (it ain’t funny if I gotta explain it!)