Comments on: Drunk Thanksgiving? What does it take to get through holidays?

By: nurse&mother

nurse&mother — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 18:51:33 +0000

Theresa, I was wondering how your brother was doing. I remember that he had a REALLY rough recovery. I hope he gets good news.

BTW, how was your Black Friday experience?

By: Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 15:56:11 +0000

uCONN — I just caught up on the comments — I am sorry to hear about your dad. We are so lucky and blessed that my brother was able to get to a new heart but it has been a rough rough road. We couldn’t be with him this Thanksgiving because he’s so afraid of picking up germs from kids. We celebrated separately but I called him and cried and told him I was most Thankful this Thanksgiving that he had his new heart and is alive! It is truly a miracle. He had a biopsy this morning. We’re waiting to hear if he’s in rejection or OK — so still stressful. Uconn I hope you made it through the holiday Ok — I’ll be thinking about you!

By: FCM

FCM — Mon, 30 Nov 2009 02:00:10 +0000

@ UCONN many hugs and prayers of peace in this time.

I do appreciate my Mom, her cooking, her love, her being. I just long for a peaceful gathering when the family is together.

I broke my promise to her last night. We were in her neck of the woods with some friends. The friends and I had decided to eat a place I know my folks enjoy. They met us at the restaurant and we had a delightful time together. So different from the days just prior. :)

By: motherjanegoose

motherjanegoose — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 19:14:11 +0000

@ Uconn…I am so sorry for your loss and know you miss your Dad.

There is annoying and there is ANNOYING. My Mom passed away over 12 years ago and none of three sisters ( all adults) even miss her. Isn’t that awful? We do not have any fond memories that stir our hearts during the holidays…only heartbreakingly sad ones and we know most everyone else could not even relate to our situation. A real shame.

I know it would break my heart if my kids felt the way ( I do about my mother) towards me!

By: nurse&mother

nurse&mother — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 16:43:37 +0000

Uconn, I am sorry to hear that. I definitely appreciate my family. My dad passed away when I was 12. It’s hard to fathom that 24 years has passed. I hope time will help you to heal.

@ No name- thanks so much for the laugh of the day. That is so bad it’s hilarious!! You gotta look back and laugh your rear end off!

By: Uconn

Uconn — Sun, 29 Nov 2009 04:02:32 +0000

I would give ANYTHING for my family at thanksgiving… My dad passed away on Monday 11/23 … I thought that I would be emailing theresa for advice on how to deal with loved ones needing heart transplants… Not meant to be… Appreciate the family that you have… as annoying as they are… They are the best…

By: quotewoman

quotewoman — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 14:30:56 +0000

Here’s a quote for the day: “To the outside world we all grow old. But not to brothers and sisters. We know each other as we always were. We know each other’s hearts. We share private family jokes. We remember family feuds and secrets, family griefs and joy. We live outside the touch of time.” (by Clara Ortega)
Happy Thanksgiving All !

By: catlady

catlady — Sat, 28 Nov 2009 13:56:03 +0000

deidre,thanks. I think her values are ok, altho I don’t always agree with her. She doesn’t suffer fools lightly, that’s for sure. I had expected that she would want a big to-do for the wedding but she and the groom prefer this way. And, Audrey, they are paying for everything but the flights (villa, food, ground transportation). It is part of her learning experience that wishing for something does not make it so.

Each of my three have had vastly different weddings. All of them have married as adults (30, 27, 24) so they could have what they wanted and could afford. Oldest daughter had a pretty traditional wedding. Son had an outdoor, camp-out wedding where 100 people walked in a mile in the summer for the ceremony and cookout/campout on the Ivy River (near Jupiter, NC, deidre), which went on for a week before the wedding. (5 dogs also attended, and got along!) And now, the youngest, with a small destination-type wedding.

Everyone had a great time for the day on Thanksgiving. No one was grossly overworked or inconvenienced, everyone pitched in to bring and clean up, the grandchildren played happily, conversation and laughter flowed. Those who “married in” were swept up in it, too.

FCM, I can really relate on your story. My mom used to do the same thing. Now, I miss her. Try to laugh about it if you can. My kids told stories yesterday about Thanksgiving (and other visits) at Grandmother’s. It was years into adulthood before I understood that not everyone had the kind of Thanksgivings we had.

Best wishes to everyone.

By: FCM

FCM — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 17:35:37 +0000

MJG we both have the gift of gab I suppose. Not sure the elective process of the server though.

By: motherjanegoose

motherjanegoose — Fri, 27 Nov 2009 15:58:47 +0000

FCM…how is it that you get to post such a long post and mine get kicked out….haha