Is ‘New Moon’s’ message bad for our girls?


Ae you worried about "New Moon's" message to your daughter about how to get a man? (Kimberly French)

“The Twilight Saga: New Moon” opened to an unbelievable $140.7 million this weekend with 80 percent of its audience women and half under the age of 21.

Based on the second book in the popular series by Stephanie Meyer, “New Moon” is rated PG-13 for violence and action. But according to a recent CNN story many mothers are worried about something else in the film.

“It’s the all-consuming obsession that the main character Bella, played by Kristen Stewart, has for Pattinson’s vampire Edward Cullen. For parents who want to raise self-confident girls who first and foremost love themselves, it is hard for them to stomach 18-year-old Bella’s all-encompassing and self-destructive passion for Edward.”

“In the second installment of the series, Edward leaves Bella because he believes she is better off without him in her life. Bella is heartbroken, but discovers that the supernatural Edward appears before her when she is doing something dangerous or harmful to herself. This leads Bella to attempt cliff diving and dangerous motorcycle stunts that endanger her life.”

” ‘This ‘I will do absolutely anything and everything for another person’ is not a good image for young girls,’ Kimberly Noe, mother of an 11-year-old daughter said. ‘I don’t want my daughter to believe that she should do anything just to be liked by a boy and at the end of the day I’m going to have to explore with her what her conclusions about Bella are before I let her see the film — but she will not be seeing it in the theaters.’ “

I haven’t read the books or seen the movies but I do have friends dealing with this issue. They are definitely concerned about the impressions their tween daughters take away from the book about love and sex and are previewing the material and having lots of discussions afterward.

I think it’s hard when the books get more questionable as you go along. “Twilight” seems similar to the “Harry Potter” books. I’m OK with my third-grader reading the first three Potter books but the last ones get pretty dark and I’m not sure she’s ready for them.

What do you think: Are you concerned with the lessons of how to get a man and self-esteem shown in “New Moon”? Do you think the movies make a bigger impression on our young girls than the books do – seeing it is stronger than reading it? Are you having discussions with them about “this is now how you get a guy?” Are there parts of the books/movies that worry you? Which parts?

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November 23rd, 2009
7:32 am

Here we go again -why should ENTERTAINMENT always have some positive message or lesson for our children -half of whom don’t need to be seeing it anyway? I don’t have girls, tween or teenage girls, but I used to be one -and one of the most important things I guess my parents taught me (and very early on) is that books and movies aren’t REAL (especially movies about vampires). If your kid isn’t old enough to understand that she doesn’t need to emulate every character she sees, then she shouldn’t be watching much over the level of Noggin. If parents are worried about the message, then discuss with your daughters what a fool Bella is being. This is just a modern take on many classic romances where the woman totally gives herself over to being obsessed with a man until something detrimental happens. Hmmmm does Bella kill herself like Juliet in Romeo and Juliet? Your teenagers are reading that in 9th grade -guess we should probably ban it (JUST KIDDING -I’m so against banning books).

The point is that, once again, helicopter parents are soooooo afraid some movie or song or entertainer is going to horribly influence their precious offspring. They never seem to consider the fact that they can either NOT let the kid see, listen, etc. or actually have a conversation about it. What about actually teaching your kids some personal values? And let’s not forget -what was it that YOUR parents thought was sooooo bad for you to see or hear? Most of these parents just sound like their own moms and dads.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

November 23rd, 2009
8:02 am

JATL — I agree that entertainment can just be entertainment but this particular series resonates soooooo strongly with these girls that I’m not sure that this is a irrational fear. (don’t you remember back in the 70s when kids were hurting themselves trying to be like the wyle E. Coyote (spelling)?) I think you’re right that they’re not going to watch Romeo and Juliet and kill themselves but they may see Bella’s obsessive behavior and think that’s normal or OK when you’re “in love.” I haven’t read the books or seen it but I do my know a lot of my friends’ kids are really, really into it. I’m glad my daughters are too young to be into at it’s peak of popularity. The series will probably be easier for parents to manage for later generations.


November 23rd, 2009
8:18 am

GEEZ JATL…there actually are other posters who have strong opinions besides me….
you go girl! I also enjoyed reading the opinions on Friday’s topic.

Well…y’all will be thrilled to know that I have no comments on this topic and will leave it to those who do. This is due to the fact that I know nothing about these movies and that my daughter is not interested in them,

Even though some think I try to act like I know everything about everything…I do not and I will be interested in seeing what other posters have to share. Mark this day on your calendar…hahaha!

We did want to go and see Blindside on Friday but my daughter said, “Oh no Mom…the theater will be packed with the girls who want to see New Moon, so let’s go sometime during the week.” That’s the move we want to see. I am NOT trying to change the topic…

I never read any of the Harry Potter Books, nor saw the movies but my son read them all. Do most parents read all books they allow their kids to read? Not sure. I read some, that interested me but not really to screen content. My eyes would have fallen out from all the comic books my son read….LOL.

Have a great day!


November 23rd, 2009
8:21 am

Oh man, 80’s teen agers grow up and become really square…. Please. First, read the book – second, see the movie, third: form an opinion.


November 23rd, 2009
8:26 am

I have to agree with JATL. The movies are entertainment and nowhere as good as the books. My son won’t read the books but sasw the first movie and thought Bella’s actions were a little creepy. He thought she was a stalker.


November 23rd, 2009
8:28 am

@MJG: I didn’t read any of the Harry Potter series until my son got interested in them. I did enjoy the books and the movies. His interest in the Potter movie was the catalyst in me starting to read the books. I don’t read all of the books my child reads, but when something stirs a lot of debate (like Potter did then) I will read it so I can be informed and know what the debate is about (which most of the time turns out to be much ado about nothing).

I didn’t see New Moon or the first movie and won’t. Fortunately my son isn’t interested in it and my daughter is too young for it. While I do understand movies are supposed to be entertainment, everything that is entertaining may not be good for your child. It is your role as the parent to make the decision (in some cases with your child’s input and in some cases without). Then of course you could be the laissez faire (sp?) parent and be your child’s “friend”. Yeah, that’s the ticket…..


November 23rd, 2009
8:34 am

ZachsMom…you believe Bella is a stalker? I thought that of Edward…I’ve been watching you sleep in your room for the past two months…Cullen…creepy! :)
Seriously, though, I believe this opens up great dialogue between parents and kids and our friends. I went to see this movie with my friends and at no time was I like, hey, I want to be like Bella…really, I have more self-esteem than that. I was too distracted by the beautiful boys in the movie to pay attention. :)


November 23rd, 2009
8:38 am

These are books, now movies, that are for entertainment. Tell me, when is your teenage daughter (or anyone else )going to meet a vampire or a shape shifter? If she does let me know. If your child is not old enough or mature enougjh to distinguish between fantasy and real life, then you are correct…they should not be reading or watching The Twilight series. Actually, they shouldn’t be reading or watching much of anything. I am a mother and my son and I talk about a lot of things but I’m certainly not worried about him stalking a girl because he read a book and watched a movie with something like that in it. When I was younger I watched movies about killers, vampires, romance, outer space , and anything that I found to be entertaining. I actually turned out to be relatively sane (that’s sarcasm for those of you who can’t tell). If you don’t like the books or the movies, then that’s fine. But I really get tired of people putting so much responsibility on the entertainment world. If it were a documentary, I would understand but really?


November 23rd, 2009
8:41 am

To those of you who have not read the books……don’t bother. The worst writing on the planet (Stephanie Meyer had never written ANYTHING until this and it shows) and the story is pathetic. I read them all at the beach and I wish I had taken something else to read. I read them to see what all the hype was about. I am baffled at all the 30 and 40 year old women who are just crazy about this “phenomenon.” Teenagers, I can understand.

On topic, if Little E were of the age where it would be appropriate to see the movies or read the books, we would do it together and I would have a conversation with her about Bella’s behavior and the fact that the story is FICTION and not real life.


November 23rd, 2009
8:46 am

i read the harry potter books when my daughter did..she was so engrossed i had to see what it was about…i loved them! i havent read any of the twilight daughter-and honestly just about everyone i know-has read them and loved them. i have seen grown men engrossed in them not just teenage daughter hated the movie…the 1st one..she didnt like the movie-shes a book person- but she hated the way all the teen girls were acting in the movie more than she hated the movie. i agree with JATL…if kids are taught their self worth i doubt the movie/books will change that. there are so many things that can make a girl feel low self esteem or the need for a guy…commercials…tv shows..just about everything makes people think they are nothing without someone. and beleive it or not parents really do make more of an impression on their kids than the parent thinks..i learned that with all mine as they got older…my youngest daughter told me one time..i think i will just have my kids and not worry about the dad being there…you did a fine job raising us sho you really dont need a man. lol..i had to explain that it really is better to have a mom and a dad if they are both good parents…you just have to make the right choice…which i didnt. but bck to kids are riased with the right moral and ethical ideas i wouldnt worry about the movie turningn them into a clinging ill do anything for you kind of woman.


November 23rd, 2009
8:48 am

i havent read the books because i do not like vampire stuff….


November 23rd, 2009
8:48 am

Hey folks! It’s called a TEACHABLE MOMENT. Just talk to your kids about it (hey…even better, go watch it with them OR watch it before they do to see if it’s worth it) and maybe they’ll get the message.


November 23rd, 2009
8:52 am

I have a 10 year old son and I will not let him see things that I feel he is not mature enough to know the difference between fiction and real life. It’s up to us parents to teach our children the difference.


November 23rd, 2009
8:54 am

My children and I saw it on Friday. Everybody loved it. I find it no worse than HSM — Troy sneaks into Gabriella’s room w/o her mom knowing. Ed and Jake do the same to Bella.

The worst that happens is that some people kiss and some young men run around without shirts. My kids see worse at the pool in summer.

My 7.5 yr old thinks Taylor Lautner is HOT (she has since she saw him as Shark Boy). So basically that is all the story she can tell you is that Taylor turns into a wolf and that Edward is a Vampire. She gets NOTHING about the love story or emotional thing out of the movie. Actually she gets more out of Shark Boy and Lava Girl. She does have a fully clothed picture of Lautner on her wall.

The story has helped my eldest girl (10) begin to ask questions about dating and so forth. She does get the love story and it has helped me to talk to her about not making your mind up right away. To be consider options. She does not get the Possive side of Edward, but thus far RPattz has played that cool. She is reading the books. She is in the Edward camp and thinks he is just the most romantic thing ever. Of course she thinks the same thing about Prince Eric and Ariel! That girl (like her Momma) is an incurable romantic. She has an Edward Poster on her wall.

Think about it. You had Leif Garrett, Donny Osmond, Scott Baio or SOMEBODY at some time that you just crushed on like crazy. It is very healthy for these girls to practice these emotions while they are still willing to listen us to parents and the objects are out of reach. In a few short years they will be doing it for real and be far less likely to listen to us.

The final thing to think on is that GIRLS do not view the movies the way WOMEN do. Watch ANY movie with a kid and you will find they get something way different than you out of the movie.


November 23rd, 2009
8:54 am

Movies are fantasy where we can escape the daily rigours of life. I love being ENTERTAINED at the movies…..and that’s just it, entertainment.

I have read a few of the books my daughter has read. Her favorite all time book is one of the saddest I have ever read, “A Child called It” I believe is the name of the book. Sad story, but my daughter just loves it, and has read it probably 5 times…..

She received The Great Gatsby for Christmas last year. It was at the top of her christmas list. I love that she wants books for gifts….However, she never got into the Twilight series either. But both nieces each have the complete set of all four books. I didn’t care for it either. I read almost all of the first book, put it down one night, and never finished it.

I want to go see The Blind Side, and probably will this weekend. I have a four day weekend coming up, and it’s perfect movie viewing time, just before the hectic Christmas season…..


November 23rd, 2009
8:56 am

I’ve read the books, and loved them. This was my least favorite of the 4, but I thought that the movie was great. I’ve never liked a movie better than a book until this one. I’m a 28 year old female though, and an avid reader. And most importantly, I know the difference between real and fantasy. These books are entertainment, and yes, the way they act towards each other is a bit creepy. It is not an actual portrayal of what love should be, and I do think that it could give young girls the wrong idea. But, I do not think that they should be stricken from any reading lists. It’s entertainment. It’s romantic in a creepy stalker way, but there is also non-creepy romance, in the form of Jacob, who is not creepy. In fact, Bella’s dad says something that is VERY important in any child’s development (to try and convince her to get over Edward and be with Jacob)… “Sometimes you have to learn to love what’s good for you.” And that can be true with anything. Work, school, veggies. ;)

I read plenty of books when I was in school that were worse on the creepy scale than this, because I would read whatever I could put my hands on. But, I knew it was fiction. This is the perfect opportunity to stress that fact, and open dialogue with your children about it.

I am half in love with Edward Cullen, but I know that his character is creepy. But, it’s almost just as wrong to be drooling over Jacob’s character in the movie…. he’s 17!!!!


November 23rd, 2009
8:57 am

As long as the parents teach their kids that these are JUST MOVIES and not real life, there should be no problem. It’s on the parents to teach their kids the difference between make believe and real life.


November 23rd, 2009
8:58 am

JATL, I couldn’t had said it better. I am a mother of a teenage daughter. I have no issues allowing her to watch movies or read the books. Parents need to teach kids the difference between real life and entertainment. It’s a cop out to blame a movie, cartoon, book, song, game, etc. for some kid messing up his or her life. The parents need to take responsibility for not teaching between real life and entertainment.

Theresa, I am allowing my 2nd grade daughter to decide if the later installments of Harry Potter are to dark for her. She just started reading the books. She knows the books are meant for fun. She’s already seen the movies, thanks to her sister and is excited to be reading the series now.

I have read both series and loved them. With the holidays approaching I am thinking of re-reading all the books just to have something to do when my youngest 2 kids are with their dad on the weekends.

over it

November 23rd, 2009
9:02 am

This obsession is both sad and pathetic.


November 23rd, 2009
9:06 am

Ok, I haven’t read the books…I was forced to watch the movies. I formed my opinion. The movies suck. The story is cheesy and the acting is horrible. The Jacob character is just there for his um..”looks”..more his muscles i suppose b/c the guy can’t act. I was sitting in the back of the theatre with my girlfriend..and that scene where he takes his shirt off and everyone goes wild. Its crazy..then he starts talking…

About the kids issue..this always comes up..nothing will happen to it. Same thing happened with harry potter..the extreme christians (I am a christian) saying can’t watch the movie b/c of witches etc…but now its ok to see these movies. I just cant wait for the day when they finish all the twilight all around the world will rejoice.


November 23rd, 2009
9:07 am

Sorry people-but there are much worse things your kids are going learn about then a fictional book like Twilight. Get a life. Songs, books, movie, tv shows, etc don’t make people do ‘bad’ things. If they weren’t blaming Twilight they’d be off onto something else. If it bothers you then don’t let your child watch the movie or read the book-it’s not for young kids anyway!


November 23rd, 2009
9:24 am

I think a lot of parents allow their kids to buy into the hype – I know of many kids who took the day off school just to see a movie……have some parents lost their ever loving minds???? Kids in this country are far behind the education level of their peers in other countries – can they really afford to skip a day just for a movie?? Is this an extension of being your kid’s “best friend”?

This is a teaching moment for your kids; teach them that movies are completely fictional, unless based on a true story. This is just another phase in the fabulous world of celebrity stardom – a couple of years ago, parents were worried about their little girls idolizing Brittney Spears and that seems to have fallen by the wayside, as this fad soon will………one can only hope!


November 23rd, 2009
9:25 am

Ladies, it’s just a movie. You daughters are not going to use this as an excuse to go nuts over some boyfriend.


November 23rd, 2009
9:25 am

Just lock your kids up and don’t let them out until they turn 18. That solve your worries?


November 23rd, 2009
9:30 am

Edward is a controlling stalker. Bella is a morose martyr. These themes are played over and over again in every badly-written book of the Twilight series. Obsessive love is not real or sustaining love. Depending on someone for your happiness and well being rather than focusing on your own self-improvement and sustainability is just plain pathetic. (In other words, join the 21st Century Stephanie Meyer and quite waiting on a man to come and save you).

If I had a girl wanting to see this movie or read these books, these are the things I would be emphasizing when talking to her about them. This story (both the characters and the writing “abilities”) is not one to be emulated.


November 23rd, 2009
9:32 am

I saw the film, “New Moon,” this past weekend and as a 30-year-old elementary school teacher, I agree it’s not really appropriate for younger girls. However, for middle school and namely high school girls, I feel it is absolutely okay. I remember in the middle of the movie when Edward broke up with Bella, turning to my coworker and saying, “Gosh, don’t you remember how breaking up felt in high school? Your world was over.” Now, those emotions aren’t quite the same, but I thought the film did a good job of showing high school emotion at it’s best. I kind of feel that we should worry about our teenagers singing rap lyrics a bit more and worry less about reading books and following a teenage drama.


November 23rd, 2009
9:37 am

@ Reds — I agree that the 40+ who asked Lautner to sign her undies was beyond creepy. As I told a friend of mine, I can appreciate that he put a lot of time into building his body for the role, and I can even appreciate the results in the SAME way I can appreciate a Monet or Van Gogh.

You said your 28. It may be you that you have realized this, or it might take a few years. Just like in most Men there still lives a bit of the boy he used to be, inside of most Women, there is still a bit of the love struck teen — at least until either or both become completely jaded and cynical. I think the reason so many women get into (any romantic) story/movie is that it speaks to that tiny part of them. Even if they have the best of hubbies, the most romantic and ardent of paramours, they still like that first kiss, that first awkwardness, etc.

As to being on Team Jacob, it is easy to forget (in the books) that he is 17. Also, those of us who are past the wide eyed stage, know — and Bella does too to some extent — that Jacob is really the best choice.


November 23rd, 2009
9:39 am

@ JJ…lol…maybe we will see you at the movies and can split a popcorn…haha!I think we saw Julie and Julia at the same time and did not even know it.

@ kelly…I am impressed that you are planning to re-read the Harry Potter books….those are LONG books.

I read a book nearly every week but almost never re read anything.

Just curious, what age is appropriate for this move? I see there is quite a range in age with the posters above.


November 23rd, 2009
9:39 am

Well said Dana!!!


November 23rd, 2009
9:42 am

@ Amy…yes, to your question ( imho, which does not always hold here!)


November 23rd, 2009
9:52 am

I’m not interested in the twilight saga, but from reading the repsonses parents need to talk to their children about the film I don’t think anyone under 13 should watch. Bella being obsessed with Edward is real and it happens to young and older females.(Grown women too) It’s all up to the parents, because YOU are the parent. @Autumn you need to get off the rap soap box. Parents now need to be paying attention to Miley Cyrus showing us her flat @$$ and pubic hair while on stage.


November 23rd, 2009
9:58 am

Oh lord Theresa, if kids at any time hurt themselves trying to be a cartoon character then that truly is beyond pathetic! My 3 year old already knows that cartoons are drawn make believe and you cannot do what they do -it took saying that twice and now he gets it. As other posters have reiterated -if you’re someone who thinks this is a terrible message for your daughter -talk to her about it.

I turned to my husband while watching tv this weekend and seeing all the hype over this stuff and told him I REALLY did not understand the adults (particularly late 30s, 40s and up) who are CRAZED over this. It’s embarrassing for them! However, when I was 13 or 14, I KNOW I would have been obsessed with the whole series -AND my mother would have let me read and watch all of it -AND I would have understood that I wasn’t Bella and that it was about fictional vampires and (thanks to mom’s teachings) that girls and women need to have their own lives!


November 23rd, 2009
10:09 am

Where have all you concerned citizens been while women have been seen topless (and more) in movies for years now, being victims to 20yr old wankfests? And this is what your concerned about? Really?

Where’s the concern about the endless other movies that portray women as sex and nothing else? It’s amazing what women have let society deem as acceptable and “normal” in regards to ourselves.


November 23rd, 2009
10:11 am

I’ve read the books. I gave them to my daughter. She read the books. We enjoyed them, and we’ve gone to the midnight shows of both movies together. We even had a giggle when Taylor Lautner whipped off his shirt — my daughter covered MY eyes, giggling and whispering, “You’re married!! You shouldn’t be looking at this!”

Not ONCE did I ever think that my daughter is going to take love advice from mediocre writing and what we both agreed with tremendously BAD acting and suddenly become a love-obsessed zombie.

It’s a MOVIE, for heaven’s sake. If they read “The Giver”, are you afraid they are going to suddenly become a doctor who euthanizes babies? If they read “Lord of the Rings”, do you think they are going to become obsessed with getting rid of magical rings? If they read Harry Potter, do we think they are going to suddenly be morose if, on their 11th birthday, they don’t get an admission letter from Hogwarts? Do they become gun-totting killers if they listen to rap? IT’S FICTION, PEOPLE. Kids can tell the difference. Sheesh — give ‘em credit.

With all the things that parents have to worry about — having their daughters emulate Bella is probably the LEAST of their worries. My daughter and I did talk about the books, and my comment was that I disliked the fact that, in “New Moon”, Bella was catatonic after a guy that she had only know for six months had walked out on her. My daughter’s reaction: “Yeah, she’s a wimp.”

And frankly, the acting is so bad in the movie, we both walked away wondering what either one saw in the other!


November 23rd, 2009
10:14 am

People need to stop the madness.

Let’s look at all the other things out besides “Bella”…



November 23rd, 2009
10:38 am

Actually, “New Moon” is just bad…a lot of the teens in the showing I went to were laughing AT the movie, not with it.


November 23rd, 2009
10:42 am

Time Magazine has a great article about the backlash against over-parenting. Maybe those who worry about the Twilight series should read this first!,8599,1940395,00.html


November 23rd, 2009
10:44 am

OMG Pleaseeeeeee….. You must be out of something to talk about….I am 50 years old. Loved the series and love the movies. Have children and absolutely nothing was wrong with either movie. If anything, it will teach the children to have more honest passionate relationships with their soon to be spouses. Get real, find something else to find fault with!!

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

November 23rd, 2009
10:47 am

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Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

November 23rd, 2009
10:48 am

JATL — you made me laugh — you’re funny!


November 23rd, 2009
10:50 am

Twilight is just like anything else….there will be kids who are negatively impacted by it and those who aren’t. There will be kids who will be negatively impacted that come from backgrounds of need and want and bad parenting. There will be those affected by it who come from backgrounds where the parents did all the right things and for some reason ikt didn’t ‘take’. I don’t believe that every time a kid does something wrong, it means they have awful parents.

Personally, I don’t like the idea of someone putting themselves in situations where they might die to be with someone and would not like my daughter to think that is the norm. However, I don’t have to worry about that because she has no desire to see the movie and is aggravated with her friends liking it so much.

In my opinion, the themes in the movie seem to be the norm with lots of people in our society–obsessive love, believing that we only have one true love, losing our identity in a relationship, I suppose tht’s why this movie resonated with so many people. So, the dysfunction in my opinion, is with society and the movie’s popularity reflects that. But the movie will not create the phenomena.

There will be some girls affected by it in a negative way….that is unavoidable….with anything, not just twilight. We should not blame them and call them or their parents names. That’s just ugly.


November 23rd, 2009
10:57 am

@Kathy – you are so right. I have read all the books and they are not very well written, and the story is so poorly developed that it is pathetic. It has nothing to do with the supposed “scandalous” subject matter. There are many scandalous books out there that are great literature.
My daughter has read the books and seen the movie. Katielenn is right – my daughter and her friends laughed at some of the scenes in the movie – and not at the places you were supposed to laugh.
I think the controversy has made them more appealing to some people – forbidden fruit and all that.


November 23rd, 2009
11:12 am

Since when do we let the movies dictate what is right and wrong to our children? The only way it could be a bad influence is if we don’t discuss what is right and wrong with them, and continue to remind them. Parents who look to celebrities and athletes to minter their children are not really parents.


November 23rd, 2009
11:15 am

*mentor…not minter…


November 23rd, 2009
11:23 am

There are worse things for our daughters to see on TV commercials and Cable TV than the story that this movie/book series represents. If you’re worried about influence over our daughters worry more about MTV and regular TV’s programming than Twilight.
I think if you read the books you would probably be a little more understanding of the story and of Bella’s character. The movies just don’t represent the full story. I’ve read the books and loved them. I am an adult, but even if I was a teenager I don’t think reading these books would distort my view of reality vs. fiction in relationships. But then again, my mom started talking to me from an early age about relationships, love, and boys. So even as a teenage girl I was more aware of these realities than other girls my age. I think that’s what your focus should be on. Talking to your daughters about these things rather than letting them learn by popular media or stories. If you did that, you wouldn’t need to worry so much.
But on to Bella’s character. I guess everybody percieves things differently…from reading the books, I percieve Bella as a strong willed, well balanced girl, who falls deeply and madly in love. I remember falling in love with my husband when I was 17 years old and I remember the feelings of passion and almost obsession we had for each other through that time. He was all I thought about day and night. Now those feelings of strong “love” and passion died down over time, but that was how it was. Don’t know if others fell in love that way, but I know we did. I knew that those feelings would subside and reality would kick in eventually, because my mother discussed that with me, so it didn’t ruin our relationship when real love started to kick in and “new love” went away. TALK to you daughters, it means more than any movie or book ever could. Even if it seems like they aren’t listening. They hear you.
This story is for entertainment. It’s a fantasy…not real. It wouldn’t be fun to read a story about how hard relationships really are. Reality sucks sometimes. It’s nice to delve into a fantasy world and escape reality every now and then. What better way to do it than reading a book! See it for what it is. A fictional story about love. It has teenage girls reading! Shouldn’t you be happy about that? Personally, I’d much rather my daughter be into reading this series and seeing these movies than watching much of anything that is available to watch on TV these days. What about all the movies and TV shows where girls are portrayed as nothing else but a sex object. This is way better than any of that.
But it seems there are going to be people who have a problem and a complaint with anything that is popular these days.


November 23rd, 2009
11:28 am

@ Connie. Seriously, when has Miley ever shown her “flat @$$ and pubic hair while on stage.”

Can we say JEALOUS LIAR?


November 23rd, 2009
11:31 am

It is entertainment. I’ve read the books twice and seen the movies (New Moon 3x this weekend). I don’t understand why anyone would be worried about letting their teens view the movie or read the books.

I took my boys, 10 and 13, yesterday. The 10 year old wanted to see the movie, the 13 year old didn’t until the last moment. They both walked out thinking the movie “wasn’t bad”. The 13 year old still plans to make fun of all the Twilight Fans – including his Mother. LOL We discussed the movie (like we would any movie) and neither of them walked away thinking anything about Bella being a stalker or Edward being a stalker, or any of the other things posted here. They also didn’t walk away thinking that vampires or boys turning into wolves is real. Good grief. It is fiction. If your child is old enough to view TV and movies, they should be taught the difference between fantasy and reality.

FCM – I can’t agree with you on Jacob being the best choice. LOL :)


November 23rd, 2009
11:50 am

@MomsRule that is ok you can be Team Edward. I have a house divided with the appropriated banter going on. The eldest thinks were all crazy because RPattz is so beautiful (I thought he was adoreable as Cedric Diggory on a Thanksgiving weekend years ago while watching with my then bf).


November 23rd, 2009
11:50 am

I am what you would call a Twilight Mom. I have read all the books and was there on opening night to see New Moon (one of the few adults I might add). When I think of Bella as a character I can see what you all are talking about on the side of maybe see is a little over dependent on Edward, however to me I see a true match between 2 people. Real love where each person would do anything for the other. I grew up learning to find a good man who will halp me be a better me, and truly listen to what I say and feel. this is the side I foccused on with my daughter. That, she does not have to settle in life, God made someone for her. As an individual though she has to be complete first. Maybe a little too much on the romantic side, but too many girls are going into bad relationships these days. I feel Edward (andJacob) both brought more to Bella by truly loving her. As for the supernateral side of the movies, that is the “fun” part. The creativity in the books astounds me. Just help your children understand Reality vs. Reel-ality.

FCM-I would pick Jacob for myself : ) but it is definitely the love struck teen inside me. (they did not make boys like that when I was a girl)


November 23rd, 2009
12:22 pm

@Melissa they do not make boys like that now. That is why it is fiction. Now I do believe that there are some men out there like that. I have not had much luck in that area though.