While I think D is better off now, his adoptive mother should feel guilty (Yes, I realize that I am being the judgemental person that I am not proud of). She should have known that he might have special needs. I don’t think she thought that idea out (which is why I am being so judgemental). I wonder if her husband was on board with the idea in the first place. Such a shame. While it is harsh of me to say, I think she should feel bad. When you adopt a child, you are agreeing to love them and properly care for them no matter what. And if you can’t swallow that concept, don’t adopt.

While it may seem contradictory, I am not ragging on those women who give their newborns up for adoption. On the contrary. I have the utmost respect. The difference is that Anita should have known what she was getting into. Pregnant women who have unplanned pregnancies and decide to give their children up for adoption are looking for families who will provide a better life for the child. JMHO.

I don’t know this woman but I do know that parents give their biological kids away when they cannot handle them. They turn them over to the state. They give them away to foster care. They give them up for adoption. They commit them. They put them in homes when the parents cannot give them the physical and mental care the child needs. It doesn’t matter that she adopted this little boy. He is her son by choice if not by blood so why is her situation any different than the parents who fit the descriptions above? To me it’s not. This lady could not meet the physical and mental care needs of her son and afforded him the opportunity to go to a family that CAN meet his needs. She didn’t just walk into a social worker’s office, sit him down in a chair, and walk out.

I too wonder how this woman and her family got all the way through the adoption process without anyone hitting the brakes. In our case the process took over a year, and that’s relatively quick for international adoption. It just looks like several people along the way dropped the ball in not counseling this woman and her family better so that this little boy didn’t have to go through 2 major rejections in his short life. I know he’s very young, but I can’t help but think that he’ll remember on some level that he was dumped twice. I hope his new family is truly the match he’s meant to have.