I know Fridays are supposed to be fun but I just read the saddest story in The New York Times Magazine. It’s an essay from a mother who adopted a little boy from South America. The little boy had been found by the side of the road. They weren’t sure how old he was (under 1) and he had a lot of developmental problems.
The mother already had five biological daughters with her husband but she had always wanted to adopt. The husband was deployed overseas and the mother found it all to be just too much.
She started considering giving away her adopted son.
Read the whole story here. Read the story before discussing. It might change your opinion. It’s really well written and just heart breaking! Prepare to cry!
I wonder if the little boy had bonded more with her if she would have felt the same way – if she would have been able to overcome the tough times or would that only have made it harder to give him away?
Before I read the essay and just read the headline I was really judging her. I said to my husband I can’t even bring myself to give away the dog we took in even though he’s pooping on my carpet ALL the time and costing us a fortune at the vet. (I’m not comparing a baby to a dog — I’m just saying I can’t even give away an animal much less a child.)
After reading the story I think she did the right thing mainly because the little boy is bonding and connecting with his new parents and siblings. It seems like they were the right family for him.
Could you give away an adopted child? Do you think it’s better to move the child on to another family if it’s not going well or should the parents continue to persevere?