Comments on: How often are you getting out?

By: HB

HB — Wed, 04 Nov 2009 05:37:26 +0000

Theresa, definitely do yourself and your family a favor and take some time for yourself. It will help you and it will allow Michael and the kids to have their own special bonding time. They need to know that he’s as important a parent as you are, and that’s not the message they’re going to get if you make it clear that it’s no biggie if Daddy goes out, but the family will fall apart if Mommy does. Michael’s supporting you getting out on your own, so just do it! No excuses!

As for soap, I’m pretty sure it requires lye or something similar to become soap if you are making it from scratch — no biggie. You could try starting with baby recipes, though. Buy a soap base or just plain unscented clear bars of glycerin soap, melt down in a double boiler and add your own jojoba oil, essence oils, herbs, whatever. The lye or other chemicals are still there, it’s just in the soap before you start. It’s like buying a log of cookie dough to decorate instead of mixing your own from scratch — either way, the dough still has baking powder and eggs.

By: catlady

catlady — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 17:24:56 +0000

On the “keeping score” thread: at one point my husband charged me with it, but it is quite different if one person is doing 90% and the 10% person says you are “keeping score” if you bring it up!

By: JJ

JJ — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 13:16:38 +0000

I go out with girlfriends usually twice a month. Even when my daughter was at home, I still made time for me. You have to. I go out with a group of old neighbors once a month. I go out with another group of girlfriends once a month, or at least every other month.

Making soap may not sound like fun, but no matter what we are doing, it’s a blast. We like to go paint pottery. Most places will let you bring in food and some will let you bring alcohol.

I just met with my old neighbors for mexican and margaritas last Friday night,…….

By: lwa

lwa — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 03:38:56 +0000

I really can’t believe that you can’t find time for yourself. You are asking for permission to leave the house and waiting for a good time to leave.

Theresa, please stop it. There is never a good time.

On Wednesday, two days from now, make the announcement that you are going to the movies and get a bite to eat. Just do it! Why do women feel so guilty. We are mother’s and wives, not slaves.

I am leaving next weekend for a church retreat. I didn’t and will never ask for permission. I am a grown woman!!! I am going to Vegas in January with girlfriends to celebrate their 40th. I just made the announcement and booking the ticket right now.

By: JATL

JATL — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 03:23:06 +0000

Theresa, they probably did say “lye”. The class I took was really casual and very low-key, but we used lye and chemicals. I thought it would be scary, but it wasn’t a big deal. Anyway, it doesn’t sound like you’re breaking your neck to make soap anyway! Have fun on Saturday, and do NOT feel guilty or like you need to rush back (sometimes I get trapped by that feeling-FIGHT IT)!

By: Vork

Vork — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 01:45:12 +0000

Pompous Windbag ALERT!!!! at 8:00 PM Pompous Windbag ALERT!!!! at 8:00 PM Pompous Windbag ALERT!!!! at 8:00 PM

By: catlady

catlady — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 01:21:20 +0000

I had a couple of days off in the 30 years I had children at home. When I was married, it was never. After I divorced, it was nearly never. I did have a couple of wonderful friends, while I was in grad school, who took my 3 for several hours so I could do whatever I wanted. I cried–it was so great, and so incredibly kind. I didn’t ask them–they told me they wanted to do it and to quit thinking it was too much for them. Thank you again, Chris and Laura, and Becky W. 20 years later, I still feel so thankful to you.

By: motherjanegoose

motherjanegoose — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 01:00:43 +0000

Theresa…you owe it to yourself to get out. I know you are getting a new kitchen but are you the ONLY one who will benefit….I think not.

I am looking forward to meeting DB again this month and maybe even Newmom if she is up to letting me see her new baby!

I have been working like crazy and spent 18 nights in hotels this past month…but I have also had a clean hotel room to myself and am able to go out to dinner all by myself and eat WHEN and WHERE I want. I admit that it is crazy here ( at home) when I mention going to dinner and we have to see what everyone might like. When I am on the road, I work all day and do what I want at night. No discussion and it works for me….LOL! Plus, I am on expense account!

I am not into soap making but that does not mean it would not be fun for someone else. I really just like to get together with others and visit. I typically eat with new folks once or twice a week.

When I was in Alaska, the lady that picked my up from the airport was so nice. I asked her if she wanted to have dinner with me. We were talking up the storm and the waitress kept checking on us.
She said, “wow..you must have a lot to catch up on…” I laughed and told her that we had known each other for less that an hour, so we had EVERYTHING to catch up on.

I love eating out with people and just chatting…I have been doing this for years and have met some of the nicest folks!

By: Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 00:53:36 +0000

deidre — no hurt feelings here — I’m honestly pretty blind to my control issues until you guys starting pointing them out — I know that’s shocking — but now I know that’s something I need to work on! so that’s a good thing.

Michael is giving away out ga. tix for Saturday because he’s so disappointed in the team so I told him I’m going away on Saturday. I don’t know where I’m going but I’m leaving the house and won’t be back all day. He said totally fine. so something to look forward to —- hmmm movie, Christmas shopping, mexican restaurant with a book,,, soap making — just kidding about the last one.

By: Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 00:50:40 +0000

I swear they said lye!!!