How often are you getting out?
(To avoid confusing my seafood man at the Publix I will clarify the blog schedule for this week and next. Theresa will be writing Monday and Tuesday of this week and then Keith will fill in Wednesday to the next Wednesday. I will have one blog during that time because we swapped out the Halloween one for a blog to be named later. If you get confused, just look at the byline to know which one of us is writing.)
My girlfriend in Buckhead goes out once a week for a girls’ night. It’s costing her a fortune because her friends don’t choose Waffle House, but her sanity seems intact.
I have another friend on Facebook who goes hiking with her girlfriends on her day off. Now you know I wouldn’t choose that particular activity but how luxurious to have an entire day with your friends. (She also has a nanny, which is how she can leave for an entire day and not worry about kids getting off the bus – also luxurious.)
I realized after my friend told me that she was getting out once a week that the last time I went out to dinner with friends was for my birthday — in April!
I am definitely feeling the need to get out of the house and do something, anything. Well almost anything.
My best girlfriends in Gwinnett are planning a little get together — something I should be excited about.
Their big plan … to make soap. Yes, ladies soap – like from lye and other harsh boiling ingredients.
While this activity doesn’t cost much to do, it does cost me asking Michael to babysit for me to go. I’m not wasting that on making soap.
Even Michael is getting out. He joined a basketball league and has been playing ball every Monday night and will start games on Friday nights this winter. I am excited for him to have such a fun activity that’s good for him with guys he likes. But I am also terribly jealous that he has something special to do that he enjoys just for himself.
I had hoped this weekend to make it to the new Michael Jackson movie but between sick kids and Halloween it didn’t happen. Of course!
I’m not super picky about going out, here are my criteria:
- Can’t cost a fortune
- Wouldn’t mind going alone
- Wouldn’t mind taking a class (There’s a dance studio down the street. That seems like a healthy thing to do. Or a cooking class on Saturday mornings now that UGA stinks and Michael is angry at them.)
- Maybe I need to make Wednesday night my night. (Monday is Girl Scouts, Tuesday is Cub Scouts, Thursday is church scouts and Friday is collapse scouts.)
- Even willing to sit alone at a Mexican restaurant read a book and gorge on chips and cheese.
How often are you getting out? How do you arrange it? What do you do? Would you rather have time alone or with friends? Is it regularly scheduled — does that make it actually happen? Would you make the soap? Make me feel better – tell me you’re not getting out either.
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Jesse's Girl
November 2nd, 2009
9:32 am
OMG…please tell me you did not just say you have to ASK your husband….the giver of the DNA that helped make your precious children possible…to freaking BABYSIT!!!!! For the love of pete and chicken Theresa!!!!! Does he ask YOU to babysit the kiddos while he goes to practice? Will he ask you when the games roll around? Why is it that you feel it neccessary to ask him? This really burns my biscuits!!!
Jesse will ask me if I mind if he does this or that…checking to make sure we don’t have a family thing scheduled. And I will ask if he minds when I do my thing….but we certainly don’t feel the need to ask eachother to watch our own kids!!!! Its kind of a given. We communicate!!! Is Michael making you feel as if you need to ask? There’s checking in to be considerate…and then there’s a line….and you guys are a bit too close to it. If he feels free to do his thing and expects you to be a mom…why aren’t you feeling that same freedom?
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
November 2nd, 2009
9:34 am
he would say I don’t need to ask.
Jesse's Girl
November 2nd, 2009
9:42 am
But does he ask you if you mind when he goes out for practices….UGA games…whatever else floats his boat? If he feels its an unspoken rule that you simply will…that is the line.
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
November 2nd, 2009
9:45 am
I think the reason is not going out is more because there seems like there’s always something going on and I can’t get away and also lack of friends willing to do something.
DB
November 2nd, 2009
9:47 am
Ha, JG, you took the words right out of my mouth! “Babysitting” is for the teenage girl down the street (or boy, if we’re being equal-opportunity). It is NOT used to refer to the children’s father! THAT’S called “my turn”.
Theresa, between football and Michael’s basketball league, you are DEFINITELY due some scheduled time off! I bet he wasn’t worried about Girl Scouts when he signed up for the league! Take Wednesday, and save your sanity.
I didn’t have regularly scheduled “days off”, but at least once a week, I’d be out the door. My favorite place was the book store, where I’d spend two blessedly quiet hours browsing and then meet a girlfriend when she got off work for a quick drink. My group of friends had weekends at Monteagle, the lake, outlet shopping in Boze (back before Commerce and Dawsonville!), church retreats, etc. Never did I feel guilty.
Becky
November 2nd, 2009
9:55 am
Others beat me to it..Michael should not have to be asked to babysit..I don’t even have to ask my husband to watch the grandkids and they aren’t blood related to him..He just does..During the summer, he alters his work schedule to keep them..I usually get 1-2 nights per month to myself when the husband goes out of town to work..
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
November 2nd, 2009
9:58 am
I think Michael would have no problem with me leaving to go out -I’m just always looking for the perfect time where I’m not leaving anyone in the lurch — kids or Michael — and there doesn’t seem to be that time –so i never go.
SouthFultonMom
November 2nd, 2009
10:01 am
I go out every couple of months with friends. My kids have hectic schedules, so it doesn’t leave either of us time to do much else. My husband isn’t the problem, my daughter is. She couldn’t believe it a couple of weeks ago when I refused to drive her and her friends to Lenox because I had ALREADY made plans with a girlfriend. She just assumed I had nothing more to do after working all week! I got a good laugh out of that one. Friends that get out every week are indeed lucky. I’m thinking of having a wine party with the kids and hubby out of the house. Nothing but good friends, good wine and good conversation.
new mom
November 2nd, 2009
10:01 am
Morning everyone!
Yes I’m alive :) And finally have a few minutes to read the blog and try to catch up. Hope all of y’all are doing well! Things are quite busy here, but our baby is such a sweet, laid back soul that she’s making the added craziness a pleasure. And our 2-yr old’s reaction to the baby is priceless. She just adores her, wanting to hug and kiss her all day long. Instead of a jealousy problem, we just try to prevent any accidental ‘mushing’ of the baby!
Theresa, this won’t make you feel better, but my answer is: as often as I can!! When our first was born, I realized, after about 3 months, that I had practically become a shut-in. It was just easier to stay home then to try to either arrange for my mom to sit, or pack up baby, and time it all between the constant feedings. Older and wiser, I now try to get out by myself at least twice a week. Now this isn’t for ‘fun’ stuff necessarily, I consider running to publix by myself a treat!!!! But in the last 5 weeks I have had a pedicure, done some Christmas shopping, and gone out with another mom friend just to bum around and be outside for a couple of hours. And I am very thankful to have my mom close by who loves to babysit, and my husband who never minds handling the girls while I go out. We check each others’ schedules, but he also realizes how important it is for me to stay sane and get out of the house often.
I have to agree, making soap doesn’t sound like fun. Shopping for soap, maybe ;) I don’t know how close you are with your neighbors, but our group of neighbors gets together once every month or two at someone’s house just to hang out. The hostess might provide a dish or two, and a bottle of wine, and everyone brings something, either an appetizer or dessert, or a drink. We will hang out for 3-4 hours and laugh and not have any responsibilities for a while, just relax and catch up with each other. It’s cheap, easy, and close by.
ps–Theresa, check your email, I finally did it. I’m on facebook. the end must be near… ;)
DB
November 2nd, 2009
10:03 am
Theresa, that’s very considerate — but you are going to “considerate” yourself into the funny farm if you don’t take some time for yourself. Remember: “Perfection is the enemy of the good.” It will never be a perfect time. Too bad — Michael can cope if it’s not “perfect”!
new mom
November 2nd, 2009
10:05 am
Theresa, you and I need to get out when our 2 yr olds are in preschool–you let me know when, and I’ll arrange for my mom to sit w/ our baby. We could shop or whatever! And you can come to our neighborhood ladies night whenever you want, it’s not strictly for neighbors only. You’d just have to drive out to my neck of the woods!
Christina
November 2nd, 2009
10:09 am
We don’t get out much. Aside from a weekend anniversary trip to Charleston, I think I can top Theresa. The last time I went out was a lunch with a friend (and both our babies) last February/March. For us, it’s more a money thing. For the most part, our budget is much more strict than any of our friends’ budgets (despite the fact we make more money than some of them–just priorities I guess). My husband went out last week for the first time in months (it’s not a one-way street on the lack of outings) and sipped his beer very slowly while his friends worked on four rounds. Volunteering to be the DD makes for an easy excuse to not buy round after round. :)
We haven’t even been to a movie since July 2008. We just can’t justify spending $20/week to have drinks with friends . . . or even $25/month for the two of us to see a movie (together or separately, with friends).
But, our son is in bed every night at 8 and has no extracurriculars, seeing as he’s not even one and a half. So we do have the ability to recharge at home in the evenings. For us, that’s enough.
New Stepmom
November 2nd, 2009
10:09 am
I am already looking at gyms with childcare at them so that when I am cleared to exercise after our bundle arrives, I can take that time for myself 3 times a week. I already feel fat, even though at this point, I am the only one that sees or feels it. So I am trying to be proactive about getting back in shape ;o)!
Right now, I am able to go out about once a week with the girls, usually to dinner. That usually takes place on the weeknight that the hubs has his daughter for dinner, so it works out. Once our baby gets here, we will see. I am hoping to still be able to get out with some of my favorite girlies every couple of weeks or like New Mom said, just go to Publix by myself.
anne
November 2nd, 2009
10:10 am
Theresa – there is no perfect time. Just do it! And do it for your own sanity.
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
November 2nd, 2009
10:13 am
She hasn’t been in school in months —- the school closed for two weeks cause of the flood and then I kept her out two weeks because I wasn’t sure of the air quality after the flood and then she’s been sick so I literally haven’t had a break from my little friend in quite a while — she’s been to school like 2 morning in the last month and a half and I don’t know if she can go tomorrow because she’s croupy!!
This has turned out much whinier than I anticipated —- I mentioned this statistic to Michael a few weeks ago and he said I could go out whenever I wanted just to let him know — So I think it’s more me feeling like I can’t go — he says go — but I can’t find a good time — There’s just always too much going on —— but then I feel like this — crazy!!
We’re getting in all our new kitchen stuff this week so I feel like some b@@** complaining — I shouldn’t be unhappy — The kids have been sick so much the last few weeks I guess I just need some time off —
sorry to be such a whiner — maybe I’ll go tonight to the movies after the kids are settled — like 8 somethign show — hmmmm
Christina
November 2nd, 2009
10:17 am
I also agree with newmom on getting out to do not-fun stuff. Normally I take my toddler along for weekly grocery shopping. Every once in a while, my husband “lets” me leave him home (he normally does school work for his MBA while we’re gone) and it is so liberating to shop without him! I grin and bear it for now because he is spending a lot of time on his new degree. But I am counting down until he finishes (five months to go), and that excuse is gone!
deidre_NC
November 2nd, 2009
10:18 am
theresa…i love your blog…and i have learned a lot here and im sure others have too…but girl…you have got to let those strings loosen up a little.. you dont go out because you cant find time that will not leave someone in a lurch..what that says to me is you have the need to be in control all the time…pick a time thats for you and tell your family this day/time is MY time…get used to it!!!! and then YOU stick to it…even if its going to a bookstore/coffee house-the park for a walk..whatever..just go do something. you say you dont mind going alone..then go!!!! its all up to you no one else.
im not even gonna touch the asking the dad to babysit comment (OMG!!!!)
Michelle
November 2nd, 2009
10:18 am
Well, I wish I could say I get out, but I don’t. Honestly, I don’t really have that many friends in Georgia. I have a friend in Winder who NEVER has time to do anything with me. My other friends are at least an hour away.
When I moved to GA, I drove about 3 hours/day round trip. This didn’t really leave any time for socializing. Now I only drive about 20 minutes each way, but my hours are different!
Now that my husband is FINALLY back to work, I doubt I will have time during the week to get out. Every now and then I will go to my aunt’s house, but I usually have the little one in tow, so that isn’t all that relaxing.
I do have meetings about once a month, but they are not really for pleasure. (HOA and a nurses meeting) I’m not involved in anything else.
Theresa, I would go with the girls and make soap. I don’t think it’s the activity that’s important, but the getting together. Who says you have to make it? I would just enjoy the time to relax with other women!
You could plan a library day for yourself. Just take your book and go read…or go to Border’s, buy one, and sit with some coffee!! That would be heavenly!!
Me, I don’t really like to spend too much time alone. It makes me depressed.
If you have friends, I say go out and enjoy!
deidre_NC
November 2nd, 2009
10:22 am
and when you go off to do your thing and michael is in charge…let him be in charge…dont leave him a mile long list of what to do or not to do….he is a grown man..his way may not be your way…but as long as the kids are alive when you get home then go start going on about him not doing things your way…you really need to lighten up…then your load will be lightened!
Christina
November 2nd, 2009
10:22 am
New Stepmom,
Way to be proactive! I don’t know what kind of exercise routine you have now, but keep it up! I was a runner before getting pregnant, and I never stopped running my entire pregnancy (went a week past my due date). I slowed down and didn’t run as far/long, but I kept going. I ran as late as five days after my due date, two days before I was induced.
I stayed clear of extra sodium (no canned soups, canned vegetables, frozen dinners, fast food, fries, chips, pretzels, etc) and extra sugar (except for a weekly milkshake) for my final trimester. I gained 30 pounds total, but only two in the final 13 weeks. And they all were gone by the time I went back to work, 12 weeks after delivery.
Jesse's Girl
November 2nd, 2009
10:35 am
Completely agree Deidre!!!!Our husbands don’t have to do ti like us….they just need to do it. And you don’t sound whiney Theresa….You sound like you need a break. Thats it..warn everyone on your side of town. I am planning something…:)
Ally
November 2nd, 2009
10:39 am
Are you afraid your little world will crumble without you there? Are you worried your husband isn’t capable of watching the kids for a few hours without incident? Just go – pick a night and stick to it; and if you choose not to, it’s nobody’s fault but your own.
As a side note – why do parents feel the need to have so many activities for their kids every day? I’m starting to see it more & more and it just baffles me as it seems to be the parents taking on everything and the kids just following along, thought they have no idea why!
Ally
November 2nd, 2009
10:40 am
Are you afraid your little world will crumble without you there? Are you worried your husband isn’t capable of watching the kids for a few hours without incident? Just go – pick a night and stick to it; and if you chose not to, it’s nobody’s fault but your own.
As a side note – why do parents feel the need to have so many activities for their kids every day? I’m starting to see it more & more and it just baffles me as it seems to be the parents taking on everything and the kids just following along, thought they have no idea why!
New Stepmom
November 2nd, 2009
10:43 am
Thanks Christina. I have historically been the eliptical queen and taken body sculpting classes. Right now I am sticking to brisk walks with my dog in my hilly neighborhood. I know I will need time out of the house so I am thinking the gym with good child care with be a God send. I am hoping that I may be able to stay at home for a while (the hubs ins interviewing for a job that would allow me to do that so any prayers are appreciated) and if that does happen, I cannot become the mom stays in sweats with no make up on all day every day so I am already looking at ways to volunteer and get out while allowing me to take care of our home and baby too.
new mom
November 2nd, 2009
10:47 am
Theresa, I agree w/ JG, you definitely need a break. And as awesome as your new kitchen will be, it’s ’stuff’ and doesn’t take the place of your emotional needs and sanity. Plus, surviving a remodel will test your sanity even more!
Can your mom watch your little one even if/when she’s sick, so you can get out? If so, what about either the morning of friday the 6th or the morning of friday the 13th? You will be a better mommy when you get out, if that helps with any of that mommy-guilt we all get from time to time. :)
Christina
November 2nd, 2009
10:48 am
Good for you, New Stepmom! Definitely pave the way now to allow you to stay home if you want. It’s so much harder to decide you want to be home and then figure out how to make the change after the baby comes. At least if you have the financial means to allow yourself the option, maybe you won’t have to scramble.
Sarah
November 2nd, 2009
10:49 am
Aren’t they Michael’s kids too? He should be willing and excited about staying with them. Bonding is very important.
Sarah
November 2nd, 2009
10:54 am
Do you and Michael ever get to go out together? I try to make sure that my daughter knows that I will be there is a minute if she and her husband want to go out. It took a while to convince them that I was ok with it because they thought that they were taking too much of my time. Do you have a relative around that could help out too?
Kathy
November 2nd, 2009
10:59 am
New Stepmom…..be very wary of the gym daycares. The are not always the cleanest and the staff is not always well trained. Have you thought about investing in a really good jog stroller? I know that not every one is a runner, but you could walk and push the baby. Believe me, the bigger they get, the better workout you get!! When Little E was born, my dad got me a fabulous jog stroller so that I could start running again. The fresh air was good for her and I would talk and sing to her as I ran. Now that she is older, she still rides in the jogger and she talks and sings to me!
Now on topic…..I have a husband that understands that for our house to be harmonious, mommy needs time to herself! My husband hates to shop. He would rather stay home and play with Little E while I do the shopping. I go out with my girlfriends every once in a while. I go to Stone Mountain every weekend to do my long runs. Just having those runs is wonderful. I go scrapbook with my girlfriends once a month as well. My husband always says to me, “If something is important to you, you will find a way to make it happen.” If having time to your self, with girlfriends or whatever is important to you, than you should find a way to make it happen.
Stephanie
November 2nd, 2009
11:06 am
Theresa- I am so with you on this one! I do not even remember the last time that I went without the kids. I also feel like I have to ask my DH and he will moan and groan and the 2 year old will cry the whole time Im gone, so it doesnt even seem worth it. I fantasize about being alone though- your idea of reading a book and eating Mexican sounds heavenly! As your topic the other day stated- I do not think one values time alone until one has kids and it is gone!
Dr. Horrible
November 2nd, 2009
11:07 am
My wife goes out more than I do. I don’t mind really, as I am happy staying at home taking care of the kids and playing my gaming consoles.
My wife is excited about buying tickets for the upcoming Bon Jovi concert. She goes just about every year, and she also goes with her friends to the New Kids concert. I wouldn’t be caught dead at either one of those concerts….well Bon Jovi is ok….but she loves to go with her friends and I love to see her happy to be going.
New Stepmom
November 2nd, 2009
11:09 am
Kathy, thanks for the head’s up. The gym I am most interested in is part of a church that has an accredited daycare that has a drop in service. I have heard of horror stories and will avoid those! I will keep walking on non gym days too!
penguinmom
November 2nd, 2009
11:25 am
Theresa, with your busy schedule you need to actually Schedule at least one day a month for you to go out. Pick a day, say the 2nd Wednesday. Put it on your calendar and keep to it. The first few times you should schedule with someone to go out together so that you will keep the date. After that, it should start to become a habit.
All of my friends know that I’m the one to contact if they want to go out spur of the moment. I have a 13-yr-old now so can leave the kids home and meet my friends if I wish. I live in Gwinnett so feel free to contact me if your friends can’t go out with you.
I go out once a month to a home school mom’s meeting and stay as late as I can. Plus, I try to get out at least once or twice a month alone or with friends. I am fortunate that our oldest is now 13 so I can actually leave all 3 home alone and go out on a date with my husband without paying anyone. Heavenly.
Hunter of MILF
November 2nd, 2009
11:26 am
@Ladies
I am free any day of the week. Just say when. Seriously.
Andrea
November 2nd, 2009
11:37 am
I do have to agree with the other posters here. It just may have been a poor choice of words but to have to “ask” your husband to watch his own kids is horrific!
Now, I think you are just having control issues. There is no way I am inclined to believe you haven’t had the time to do something for yourself. As much as you schedule everything, you could have scheduled some time for yourself. You really sound like you need it.
Just a suggestion but surely there is something else you can do besides soap making. I am sure it is a lovely hobby and you do get something you can take home with you, but certainly you must have one interest that is not related to any domestic activity. I say check out the hot spots in town (on the price fixe or discount night so maybe more people would be inclined to go with you) and put on a sexy dress and GET YOUR MOJO BACK!
I am all for having ME time. It is important for your own mental health. If I can schedule me time and I am a single parent, surely you can too! Good Luck!
anne
November 2nd, 2009
11:50 am
Theresa – one approach that worked for me (and I’m a single Mom) was to hire a neighbor child to come in 2 afternoons a week (for 1.5 – 2 hours) after we got home. Her job was to watch/play with my daughter. Some afternoons I just started cooking dinner. Other afternoons, I sat and read a book. My daughter was home and having a great time and I was getting some time for me.
JATL
November 2nd, 2009
11:53 am
Good lord Theresa! I agree with what others have said, and I’m REALLY glad Michael would say you needn’t “ask” -so DON’T! Go sign up for that Wednesday class or just tell him you’re going out -whether it’s to a movie, with friends or to gorge in peace with a book at the Mexican place. I would be crazier than I already feel if I didn’t get out!
This has been a serious issue for me lately. When we had our children we had my parents and my mother-in-law right here in town and my folks an hour away and willing to meet or come up or have at least one kid down there almost anytime. My mother died rather suddenly recently, and in addition to being horribly sad and blindsided by that, I have REALLY had to make some huge adjustments because it requires a lot more to go out now (or to take some contract work, etc.). My husband is VERY good about urging me to go out while he stays with the kids, and I do get together a good bit with girlfriends, but it’s now extremely hard for my husband and me to have a date! My father isn’t going to babysit -period -and my mother-in-law really only wants one at a time, which is understandable because they’re really young and a handful. With sitter prices what they are -we have to really cut down. BUT at least we are going out on our own with others to stave off complete insanity! Also, I have two friends who we trade off babysitting services with whenever possible, so I highly recommend that if you have the opportunity -it can be once a month or however much families agree on, but it’s a great way to get out without paying a sitter!
Emma Carlton
November 2nd, 2009
12:02 pm
I get out about once or twice a month. I jointed a saddle club. I don’t ride and have no intentions in learning, but it’s nice being with someone over the age of 12. And afterward I feel better and happier. so do my family.
catlady
November 2nd, 2009
12:21 pm
Getting out of what?
And, Teresa, your “seafood man”? Is he a cold fish or a crab?
catlady
November 2nd, 2009
12:24 pm
Teresa, re your 9:58: that’s why there are TWO adults in the house.
Hunter of MILF
November 2nd, 2009
12:31 pm
@anne
How ya doin?
Photius
November 2nd, 2009
12:36 pm
Unemployement roaring past 10%….. 15 million people out of work…. millions more earning a lot less than they were a year ago underemployed….. A suburban stay-at-home mom with a blog is whining about not getting to go out…. If that’s the biggest issue you have in your life, count yourself lucky. Personally, take a look around at what’s happening to good people and be thankful for what you have.
lmno
November 2nd, 2009
12:38 pm
I wish my wife went out more. She doesn’t seem to ever plan anything at all. ABout once a quarter, I take off for a weekend in the woods. I wish she would do that sort of thing. Or just go to a movie with a friend. Once I even called her friend and told her that I would secretly give her money and she could call and ask my wife to join her for dinner or a day at a spa or something. She called and my wife turned her down. I don’t know. She says she doesn’t want to spend time away from the kid and I. A couple of weekends ago I volenteered to take the boy to a chuck e. cheese birthday party (My idea of hell) and told her to do something fun. I thought I was sacrificing for her. She, instead, spent the whole day cleaning the house.
Tig
November 2nd, 2009
12:47 pm
I’m supposed to get out? Darnit I missed that memo… I keep saying that I’m going to find some time for myself to get out the house for some me-time, it just never seems to wind up happening :-/
Tyree
November 2nd, 2009
1:07 pm
@Imno. Sounds to me you have a wife that is very devoted to you and your child. You should be grateful.
Why don’t you take the initiative and make plans to take her out. Why not a weekend away at Biltmore or Callaway Gardens? Maybe a day trip to a mountain festival or local museum?
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
November 2nd, 2009
1:13 pm
Photius — we do have bigger things to worry about — I think especially with Michael and two kids home sick all last week I am feeling particularly stir crazy! —
As to the seafood man — I love my seafood man at Publix — Only two places in Atlanta I’ll buy seafood — my Publix man and the DeKalb Farmer’s Market — both are good and safe — and my seafood guy is always helpful!! But I digress.
Hunter of MILF
November 2nd, 2009
1:24 pm
@Theresa
How ya doin?
Denise
November 2nd, 2009
1:25 pm
I don’t think going out either alone or with friends for a few hours will leave your family in a lurch. That is the “my way is the only right way” mindset and the concern is not so much them holding up as much as it’s “oh goodness, Michael won’t put lotion on the baby before she goes to bed”. You need to get over it and learn to live as Theresa sometimes, not just mother and wife.
I have a girlfriend that works during the day and her husband works during the evening. Her husband has morning duty and she has evening duty. She always welcomes company and since the kids are in bed by 8:30 she has a few hours of “her” time alone or with friends. No, it’s not getting “out” but it is time for her to be Kim that has friends. Watching a good TV show, drinking a glass of wine, and laughing loud enough to wake the kids is just as fun as going out, to us anyway.
lmno
November 2nd, 2009
1:30 pm
Tyree, I am grateful and I do take her places like you’ve mentioned. I just wish she had a life away from me as well.
Vork
November 2nd, 2009
1:31 pm
@Denise
Excellent point about Theresa learning to live as Theresa not just mother and wife.
Most of the regulars here have a hard time understnding that motherhood, or any job in general, should be an imporant part of your life but SHOULD NOT DEFINE WHO YOU ARE.