We now know why French maids are always getting it on – apparently the more housework you do, the more sex you are likely to have.
The Wall Street Journal’s Sue Shellenbarger reports that a new study shows that for men and women the more housework they help with the more likely they are to have sex with their spouse.
“Earlier studies have hinted at this connection for men; the sight of a husband mopping the floor or doing dishes sparks affection in the hearts of many wives. But the more-housework-equals-more-sex link for wives, documented in a study of 6,877 married couples published online recently in the Journal of Family Issues, is a surprise…”
” ‘Rather than compromise their sex life’ because of time demands at work or at home, ‘this group of go-getters seems to make sex a priority,’ says Constance Gager, lead researcher and an assistant professor of family and child studies at Montclair State University, Montclair, N.J. The study doesn’t measure what proportion of spouses fall into this group, but she believes “they are on the leading edge of couples we expect to see more of in the future.”
The study defined housework as: cleaning, preparing meals, washing dishes, washing and ironing clothes, driving family members around, shopping, yard work, maintaining cars and paying bills.
“Wives in the study spent an average 41.8 hours a week on these tasks, compared with 23.4 hours for husbands—a split that is fairly typical, and often regarded by wives as unfair. However, the effects of any fairness concerns among wives weren’t measured in this study.”
“Outside the home, husbands spent an average 33.8 hours a week on paid work, compared with 19.7 hours for wives. Couples reported having sex 82.7 times a year on average, or 1.6 times a week, about the same as in other studies.”
(That doesn’t seem like very much sex. I’m wondering what the number was if they weren’t doing housework together?)
Shellenbarger interviewed other couples about why more housework would lead to more sex and here were some of their reasons:
But beware, you can’t go all perfectionist on your spouse. That was a mood killer.
What do you think? Does doing housework with your spouse make you want to do it? Does seeing your spouse take initiative with housework get you hot and bothered? What tasks would earn them the most “points”? Do you think they help expecting to get something in return later? What is it about doing housework that would make you want to do it more?
(P.S. I will update on the camping trip on Tuesday. I promised you a sex topic on Friday for Monday so the update will have to wait!)