When I met my husband I was horrified at the stories he told me about his upbringing; he was a neglected and abused child! I wanted so badly to give him a loving, safe home. He was- and is – a really great guy. The problem is he is at his mother’s AND his aunt’s AND his sisters’ beck and call. If they want ANYTHING done, he jumps to their service. He’s plumbed, painted, gardened, cooked ad nauseum!

My problem is not just his willingness to put their needs above mine. Its not just that he is gone frequently taking care of them. ITS HIS EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT TO THEM THAT MAKES ME CRAZY! He never left home and I can’t compete! My advise to you is to develop a rich life apart from your husband. Develop skills you have always had an interest in. Find friends that love you. Things will never change until his mother dies, and waiting for death is goulish. (Besides, after her death he will grieve forever, his reason of living is gone…) Love your son and raise him to be independent so the cycle will be broken. I wish you a good life, inspite of your guy’s toxic emotional attachment.