What’s with the trashy Halloween costumes for teen girls?

The Party City circular that arrived in our Sunday paper had an interesting grouping of costumes for teen girls.

While I think they were advertising a witch costume for teen girls what I saw was a hooker witch costume for teen girls.

The Batgirl costume also appeared to actually be a Hooker Batgirl costume. The Sailor, devil, milk maid, pirate, Red Riding Hood and even Raggedy Ann all appeared to be working the streets with ridiculous short skirts and some revealing bust lines. Just FYI, the Pocahontas outfit covered the most skin. Here’s the Web site so you can see what I’m talking about.

I’m not trying to say this is Party City’s fault. It just happens to be the Halloween costume circular I looked at. But it is a problem over all in society.

I think it was the movie “Mean Girls’ a few years back that said Halloween was when teenage girls got to release their inner slut. I personally think that’s pretty scary!

(Here the actual quote from “Mean Girls”: Cady: [voiceover] Halloween is the one night a year when girls can dress like a total slut and no other girls can say anything about it.)

How did Halloween become the holiday to look trashy?

What do you think of the teen girl Halloween costumes that are mass produced and available in stores? Do you think they are too revealing? Are you shocked by what you see teen girls going out in on Halloween?

What are your rules for costumes, especially for teen girls? What is your teen daughter going out as? What are some good costumes that won’t make them look they’ll be working on a corner later that night?

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fatherknowsbest

October 20th, 2009
6:13 am

Next time your at Party City take closer look at the selections. This has been going on for the last 4 years that I recall. It’s this type of costume selection that make it difficult to explain to my 10yr old daughter that certain outfit are just not appropriate. Parents must be buying this crap if it keeps coming back year after year.

DB

October 20th, 2009
6:51 am

Easy solution: Don’t buy the costumes. They’re hideously overpriced, anyway, for the cheap little bit of ill-fitting fabric that you get. We always made our costumes — I sew, so we always enjoyed going to JoAnn’s early in October and picking out a costume. My daughter enjoyed the medieval princess looks, so she was usually covered from the chin down to her ankles, and I got to enjoy playing with some really interesting fantasy fabric! The shortest costume she ever wore was a Power Puff Girl costume she wore to school one year — I made the pink, blue and green dresses, and they bought the short wigs and white tights — they looked adorable!

And, BTW, it’s not just the Halloween costumes that make teenage girls look like sluts, when clothes in the stores are tight-fitting and scooped down to their navel!

Paul O'Brien

October 20th, 2009
6:52 am

Producer

October 20th, 2009
6:59 am

We have a culture that glorifies the “slut” appearance whether it be in teenage girls or women in general. Go ahead and thank those wonderful examples like Brittney and Madonna, navel rings, tramp stamps. Our culture has made a trashy appearance central to popularity. Good luck trying to reverse it.

Vork

October 20th, 2009
7:17 am

The purpose of Halloween is to dress up one day a year like something you are not. It’s not like girls who wear these costumes dress like this all the time. And if these costumes didn’t sell well, they wouldn’t show up in the circular or on the web site in the first place. This is how real life is, adapt or die.

Vork

October 20th, 2009
7:28 am

You want a good topic Theresa??? Read this: http://www.printthis.clickability.com/pt/cpt?action=cpt&title=He’s+in+the+Army+now+-+JSOnline&expire=&urlID=412930745&fb=Y&url=http://www.jsonline.com/news/wisconsin/64677772.html&partnerID=380639

notgonnagiveit

October 20th, 2009
7:37 am

I see some lovely comments here by people who obviously do no have daughters and think that the ’slutification’ of young girls is perfectly ok…especially with them. No wonder this country and indeed the world around us is going to hell-in-a-handbasket. Adapt or die, you say…I say you’re already dead in more ways that you can possibly understand.

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Andrea

October 20th, 2009
7:45 am

Theresa, I totally agree with you. The costumes are too risque for girls. They are even marketing them in the small sizes (7 to 8) and those are for younger girls not teens. I find it very disturbing.

I certainly don’t agree with the adapt or die mentality. It is that type of laissez faire thinking that has undermined the roles of parent and child. I am a firm believer that if you don’t stand for something, you will surely fall for anything.

Photius

October 20th, 2009
8:12 am

If parents did not buy them, businesses would not sell them – let the free market reign.

notgonnagiveit

October 20th, 2009
8:16 am

If lecherous men didn’t find slutty looking young teenage girls appealing then there would be no market for garbage like this. And heaven forbid a father should instill in his daughter a little worth beyond her appearance…

workingmom

October 20th, 2009
8:18 am

This is not just a Halloween problem as one poster already noted. I recently saw a young girl about age 8 wearing Juicy Couture sweatpants. How did I know? The word “JUICY” right across her bum was a dead give-away. Am I the only one that thinks inviting the public to stare at your pre-pubecent girl’s a$$ is beyond bad taste and bordering on bad parenting?

Vork

October 20th, 2009
8:21 am

Look at all the prudes on here today…DAMN.

Sex sells…..deal with it.

deidre_NC

October 20th, 2009
8:24 am

have any of yall tried to buy ‘decent’ clothes for your teen girl lately? and even younger than teen…someone said halloween is a night to dress like you normally dont..BS!!! it takes a lot of looking to buy clothes that arent skin tight…jeans pubic hair low….shirts low enough to just about show the belly button…pants so low you can see things that should be seen by everyone in the world…its not just halloween…its a shame…and its not just halloween

HB

October 20th, 2009
8:26 am

It doesn’t help when the school approves ridiculously short cheerleader skirts either. When I was in high school, we had a strict 3″ above the knee limit (a little too strict for some of the taller girls), but an exception was made for cheerleaders who wore their uniforms to class on game days. Their skirts barely covered their, um, assets…

Mary

October 20th, 2009
8:26 am

It’s not limited to Costumes. Teen aged girls have been getting sluttier and sluttier every year. Short shorts that say “Juicy” on the butt…..Even the little kids are tramping out…..low riding pants, make up at 9 years old.

So instead of bashing Party City for slutty costumes, go complain to JC Penneys, Kohls, etc. AND go ahead and blame the parents that allow their girls to dress like tramps.

notgonnagiveit

October 20th, 2009
8:28 am

Vork…no…I will not teach my daughters that their worth is based on their looks and their sexuality. It makes for people who propagate the crap you a spewing here. It is obvious where you find your worth…and that is sad…as are you.

Becky

October 20th, 2009
8:28 am

I agree that the costumes are slutty looking on girls, but if you don’t want your child to wear them, don’t..As others said, parents keep buying this crap and thats why it keeps coming back year after year..When my 7 year old granddaughter wantst o buy something like that, I just tell her that it will make her look not nice..She’s ok with that..

notgonnagiveit

October 20th, 2009
8:31 am

Indeed, Mary. This is indicative of a societal problem that started with the whole ‘moral relativism’ craze that changed how parents taught their kids. Parents are to blame… and to some degree the cretins above are right… market pressures drive this sort of thing. But that doesn’t make it right…and it doesn’t make it something we have to just ‘take’ or ‘deal with.’

MomOf2Girls

October 20th, 2009
8:32 am

So if I am to understand some of you correctly, you are saying that since these scraps of cloth masquerading as costumes are available, being marketed to impressionable girls, purchased by said girls, and (presumably) approved by their parents, turning preteen and teen girls into objects is fine with you? Wow. I assume you don’t have daughters, because if you did, you would loathe the message these costumes send out to the girls (your body is an object to be shown off rather than respected).

Girls need to know that their sense of self-worth cannot be suspended one night simply because of a date on the calendar. The implicit message they are getting (especially the younger girls) is that if they can dress like this, even for one night, there’s nothing wrong with showing their bodies off for the other 364 days. Halloween doesn’t change who you are. The girls know that, and believe me, the boys who see them in these costumes know that too!

Vork

October 20th, 2009
8:43 am

@notgonnagiveit

Good luck getting anything to change….like I said…sex sells…that being said….let the neighbor’s kid dress like a slut……as long as your kid doesn’t why do you even care?

JJ

October 20th, 2009
8:54 am

I have NEVER allowed my daughter to look slutty. She wasn’t interested in that look anyway…..she has her priorities and being a slutty dresser is NOT one of them…..She has good taste in cloths and nothing is skin tight.

You need to leave SOMETHING to the imagination….and not put it all out there.

Michelle

October 20th, 2009
9:01 am

I don’t think this phenomenon is limited to Halloween. As many others have stated, look at the racks of clothes for girls these days? Better yet, take a look at the kids coming in/out of high school and middle school!

I realize that there are “trends” that come and go. I think as parents, we should be responsible for stopping some of them. Yes, kids have their own ideas, BUT, we buy the clothes! You can still be trendy without looking like a “ho ho”!

Why go to Party City for a “pre fab” outfit? How about using your imagination to create your own?

Vork is right when he says “sex sells”. However, as a parent, it doesn’t have to sell for your child!

notgonnagiveit

October 20th, 2009
9:10 am

Vork…because you and your ilk believe that people should be judged on their appearance rather than their character. You poison society with it. That’s why I care. Women are ‘good’ as long as they are ‘hot.’ Otherwise they are not worth your time…and by extension society’s time. What a sad, pitiful view of the world you have…

Big Daddy

October 20th, 2009
9:13 am

Prudes. This country is full of people scared of the human body. We all have curvy, bulging parts, even teens. Deal with it or move to Iran and wear a burka. (Or at least buy a burka for your daughter so that you feel better.)

Stan

October 20th, 2009
9:17 am

Vork, that was a touching story. Thanks for posting it.

I’m no prude by any stretch, but I do NOT want a see a young girl dressed like this. A young lady 18+, I would LOVE to see dressed this way ;)

To me it comes back to parents doing their job of being parents and setting ground rules as to what is acceptable and more parents need to learn a new word “NO”.

gimmeabreak

October 20th, 2009
9:17 am

@notgonnagiveit your views appear feminist or puritan. Either way, get over yourself. People of *your* ilk deem people who are “hot” as “bimbos” or “sluts” when the fact of the matter is they may be as intelligent and as “good” as you and aren’t afraid of what nature has granted them. What isn’t worth society’s time is this nanny state P.C. wussification of America.

Vork

October 20th, 2009
9:18 am

@notgonnagiveit

What an angry person you are. That to me is sad. One should not be so angry. I’m a realist and as such I tell it like it is. Optimism is wasteful and pessimism is defeating.

I do have a 5 year old daughter and as such I would not allow her to wear revealing clothing until such time as she is old enough to be on her own and make her own decisions. My daughter is my responsibility, noone else’s.
As I said, let the neighbor’s kid dress like a slut, as long as your kid doesn’t why waste your time trying to control something you have absolutely no control over?

lmno

October 20th, 2009
9:21 am

Teenagers are exploring their sexuality through clothing?!?!

Surely this is a brand new phenominon! Surely we are the first generation to think that our children are wearing inappropriate clothing!

I bet that half of the women here complaining were told by their very own parents that their clothes were inappropriate and at the time they probably felt like their parents “just don’t get it”.

Its a part of growing up to explore the things that your parents object.

New Stepmom

October 20th, 2009
9:24 am

Amen to those screaming this is not just with Halloween. Trying to find my 10yo step daughter clothing for church and the annual father/daughter dance is a nightmare. Thank goodness she wears school uniforms-I am all for those and used to be totally against them. All of the fabric for girls this ageis cheap looking and the look is hooker chic. To find more modest “preppy clothing,” I end up spending a small fortune. I bought her 2 dresses last year at Hannah Anderson and I got them a size too big so that she could wear them this year too. Polo and J Crew make decent looking stuff, but again it is expensive. Target has the most age appropriate clothing at the best prices, but it is tough to find. Thank God she is a little tom boyish and not into the trashy look for the most part. She did ask for a ho dress for the father daughter dance last year and that was quickly vetoed. She ended up in a simple black velvet tank dress that covered everything!

My husband would make her dress like an Amish girl if he had his way, her mom and I both prefer more conservative “preppy” clothing for her but it can be a little more stylish than the Amish look. Good luck to all you moms fighting this battle. It is awful out there…

Vork

October 20th, 2009
9:29 am

@Stan

Yeah that story was a good one, and I’m not one to get all sappy.

I’m glad you could get to the site as it looks like the link I posted might be broken but if you highlight the entire link and paste it into your address line it should work.

lmno

October 20th, 2009
9:30 am

The problem isn’t that parents object to their kids wearing this stuff, its that some parents object to ANY kid wearing this stuff.

Where do you draw the line on dictating what other parents should be allowed to let their children do?

I mean, for some people, the line might be a revealing outfit on halloween, for others it might be reading Harry Potter.

Its one thing to say, “not in my house” and another thing to say, “not in anyone’s house”.

Yes, a line is drawn somewhere, but do you really think you should be the one to draw it.

Vork

October 20th, 2009
9:35 am

I think this is a better link than the one I posted earlier and it’s much shorter….again I’m not one to get all sappy, but this story is a good one:

http://www.jsonline.com/news/wisconsin/64677772.html

mystery poster

October 20th, 2009
9:44 am

Thank goodness when my daughter was that age, we lived up north. A Halloween costume had to go over a winter coat.

Oh, and BTW, Cady wasn’t condoning that “slut” attire in the Mean Girls movie. She dressed as a zombie bride and was shocked at how the other girls at the party were dressed. Hence the quote “Halloween is the one night a year when girls can dress like a total slut and no other girls can say anything about it.”

bugman

October 20th, 2009
9:45 am

I think you all have missed the boat completely here. The reason the costumes are prevalent is due to the fact that ADULT women have buying and wearing these for years. It has just recently trickled down to the teenage sector.

Another problem caused by “do what I say, not as I do.”

SRH

October 20th, 2009
9:59 am

What is even worse is that the teen girl section of this site has a “career” sub-section. The choices are: maid, candy striper and diva. Are you kidding me?

SRH

October 20th, 2009
10:05 am

.. and of course the boy’s “career” sub-section has doctor, pilot, firefighter and policeman. So sexist!

Jimmie

October 20th, 2009
10:08 am

Dress like a slut, get treated like a slut. And don’t give me the “Just because I dress like a slut, doesn’t mean I am a slut” line. If you were in distress and I was dressed like a police officer and you came to me for help, how would you feel if I said… “Just because I’m dressed like a Police Officer doesn’t mean I am a police officer.” Get a life.

Jimmie

October 20th, 2009
10:11 am

SRH… I agree it is sexist. But, it’s supply and demand and the demand is to dress like sluts

Lana

October 20th, 2009
10:19 am

Its JUST a costume, your only young once and its just dressing up, partying and having fun for one night of the year where you can be something your not. Its all good fun and our own choice, seriously don’t some of you have anything better to do? like go to work or something? let us teens party while we are young… theres really nothing you can do about it so let us live before we get old and boring…

Becky

October 20th, 2009
10:22 am

@Vork..Just saw the website that you posted..I really, really feel for this family..I lost my Mother to ovarian cancer 19 years ago..She lived 11 years after that had told her that she would only live 6 months..SHe passed away on Sept. 11, one month before my wedding..

Barak

October 20th, 2009
10:26 am

OMG…….all of you get over yourselves…..If you think the outfits are too risque…then DON’T buy them. Leave everyone else alone….Let the free market reign…..

Kat

October 20th, 2009
10:29 am

I think what Lana meant was that “I’d like to think there’s nothing adults can do about it, but I’m just a stupid kid and don’t know better. With my limited knowledge, I don’t understand how adults could have (at one time) been young and know what I’m talking about and could ever have a clue. And, when I said ‘let us live before we get old and boring,’ I should have said before I get pregnant because I seem (and probably am) so easy.”

SRH

October 20th, 2009
10:30 am

Lana, you should actually learn how to spell instead of wanting to party while you are young. You will probably need the teen girl “career” costumes when you get older – I am sure they will add a pole dancer one at that time.

LizDawg

October 20th, 2009
10:30 am

Totally agree Theresa, although I must say as a senior at Norcross HS I did dress up as Leia in the infamous Golden Bikini.

Jimmie

October 20th, 2009
10:38 am

Like OMG! I like TOTALLY need to get over myself! I, like can’t have an opinion about seeing young girls dress as sluts. Like, WTF! OMG!

Gwinnett Parent

October 20th, 2009
10:45 am

One has to wonder who is calling the shots in the purchasing department when it is time to decide which new styles will make it on the shelves. Some parents buy this junk, because there are not many choices. Last year I tried to buy jeans for my then 5 yr old, and most of the stores had snug fit hip huggers.(for a 5 yr old!!)I have to scour the racks to find things that are not trashy. There are some sick people that enjoy looking at 5 and 6 yr olds dressed like Hannah Montana with hip huggers and belly button showing. A few months ago my daughter pointed to black lacey outfit which looked like lingerie. It was a size 6X. Unfortunatley this style is being pushed on us, because choices are limited. The material being used for these outfits is also cheap.

Sting Em

October 20th, 2009
10:49 am

Lana: Your != you are; you’re = you are. Its != it is; it’s = it is. Proper punctuation makes your ‘point’ easier to understand. The internet is killing grammar and spelling.

cofthenight

October 20th, 2009
10:52 am

Halloween time is yet another reason I am SO glad I have 2 boys! I didn’t ever want to deal with girls and their clothing, haha!

Barak

October 20th, 2009
10:54 am

Jimmie? Like are you okay? Smoking is bad for you man…..

maisie

October 20th, 2009
11:01 am

I dont know wat to wear guy help me

Leah

October 20th, 2009
11:04 am

The only costume I saw that was really offensive and inappropriate was the Wacthmen outfit. The others weren’t as bad as the article leads one to believe.

Jimmie

October 20th, 2009
11:09 am

OMG Barry! Thanks for the concern!

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Brittney's Dad

October 20th, 2009
11:22 am

Brittney will be dressed as Betsy Ross this year – covered in a puritan colonial costume from neck to ankles and wearing a cute bonnet. She got the idea from a history book picture and we put together the outfit ourselves.

Jersey Dad

October 20th, 2009
11:25 am

My daughter wanted to dress like a congresswoman and I told her no daughter of mine is going out looking like one of them losers. I bought her a “Mansion Madam” costume instead.

Mike in Miami

October 20th, 2009
11:27 am

I agree with the attempt to slutify our little girls with the pretext that its Halloween. Sadder, though, are the people who accept it and are desensitized by it. It’s irresponsible and easy to pass the buck to the parents who buy them , or to hide behind the First Amendment, or to say if you don’t like it don’t buy it. Someone’s got to make a stand and say something even if, and especially, when it won’t be a popular opinion.
When you see shows on TV glamourizing scantily clad toddlers, and you see half-naked teens on magazine ads, it’s no surprise we have so much child abuse and molestation epidemic in this country. Everyone prefers to look the other way, pass the buck, it’s not their problem, it’s protected by First Amendment, etc. I think the Founding Fathers of this country would cringe if they saw how Americans are abusing the First Amendment to basically get away with everything to fulfill their own selfish needs and not care about the moral decay in society. Unfortunately, we are already starting to see the consequences in our society of such condoning and permissive attitudes. The Roman Empire fell because of similar attitudes, and it’s not too late to stop our country from decaying from within. But we must speak and act now.

John Mark Karr

October 20th, 2009
11:34 am

I don’t get the problem with girls wanting to look hot and sexy. Get over it you philistines, puritans, and prudes.

Herschworld

October 20th, 2009
11:39 am

Slutty halloween outfitts are for co-eds not teens. Here’s an idea don’t let your daugter dress like a slut, be an adult and set limits, draw the line and be firm with them. When they go off to college they can look like a hooker on Halloween if they want to. As for them being in the stores, they wouldn’t be there if people weren’t buying them. Turns out there’s a lot of younger women that think it’s cool for one night of the year to dress like a hooker. I think this party tradition may mirgrated from fright fest in Key West, but that’s just my two cents

lmno

October 20th, 2009
11:42 am

“Someone’s got to make a stand and say something even if, and especially, when it won’t be a popular opinion.”

Fine. Make a stand for something, but is this going to be it? Is this where you want the line drawn? What about people who feel that its not far enough? That girls should not be allowed to wear anything but a uniform until they are 21?

Ridiculous? Well, some people feel just that strongly. And others feel that girls should be able to wear whatever they want.

Same thing with the books kids read. The same thing with the toys they play with and the music they listen to, and the games they play.

And as far as the the Roman Empire falling because of permissive attitudes; many people felt that the Roman Empire fell due to citizens no longer paying attention to important issues because they became distracted by trivial interests. Now, that could never happen here.

senoiadawgs

October 20th, 2009
11:49 am

If you can’t find a costume suitable to your tastes in today’s world then I am sad for you. Yes there are plenty of risque costumes out there for adult women and girls but those of you picking on a single flyer that came out really need help. Again this is a non-topic. There is a market for it, either you buy it or you don’t.

We have much bigger problems in this country than sex or the way or woman or man dresses. The human body is what it is, either cover it or flaunt it those are you only choices and that can only be done by you as an adult or for your children as an adult. Who are any of you to tell a person other than kids what they can or can’t wear? Also you have no business telling another parent how to dress their kids. As a father of a soon to be six year old daughter she wouldn’t be caught dead in this stuff, however I am sure there are other parents who would dress them up in it and I know some of them. That is there right in this wonderful country we live in.

Sue in Boston

October 20th, 2009
11:55 am

Timely find on the internet–I was searching for ‘teen halloween costumes’ in Google and this article came up first. I was shopping for a costume with my 13 year old last night, and was just disgusted (again this year.) Dorothy–with a boob job and miniskirt, Mouse, with a boob job and a miniskirt, Nurse, with a boob job and a miniskirt–you get the picture. So many bad costumes–most downright embarassing. My daughter is going as Spongebob, in a child’s costume.

gimmeabreak

October 20th, 2009
11:56 am

@Mike in Miami: “The Roman Empire fell because of similar attitudes” – You, sir, just like to say random garbage just to inflate your puritan, holier than thou views that you wish to push on people. The last time I checked, the Roman Empire was a time of artistic elegance, with the nude male and female form being cherished and celebrated. Also, the last time I checked, the fall of the Roman Empire had nothing to do “permissive” attitudes. It had to do with religious, conservative zealots becoming so self-righteous while forcing their beliefs down others’ throats that the empire was torn apart.

Seriously, go move to the middle east where women lose life and limb for letting their hair show let alone a harmless comic book hero costume that shows some skin for one day of the year. You’d probably like it better there.

Becky

October 20th, 2009
12:09 pm

I know that I’m going to be showing my age here, but why don’t parents make costumes? You don’t have to know how to sew to make one..What happened to planning the oufit and buying just the right stuff to make it the best in the bunch? Yeah, I know, that was then, this is now..

penguinmom

October 20th, 2009
12:11 pm

Leah, you must have been looking at a different website than I did. The skirts on the outfits were almost all too short, the tops were very skimpy.

I think the most disturbing one actually was the Raggedy Ann one. That was just wrong.

What I think is sad is that today’s girls have been sold a lie that says they are ‘freer’ when they show off a lot of skin. They don’t realize that this really just objectifies them in the eyes of most men instead of empowering them. Bowing to the popular culture is not actually giving up some of your own control.

gimmeabreak

October 20th, 2009
12:12 pm

By the way, I love how it’s totally cool for female children of all ages to wear 2-piece bathing suits at the pool, in their front yard, at the park fountain, etc., but it’s “slutty” and morally wrong for a 16 year old to wear a superhero costume or a witch costume with a short skirt. I’ve seen pictures of teen girls wearing less at the swimsuit section at Target.

Photius

October 20th, 2009
12:26 pm

Wow! So many prudes worked up over a simple blog about Halloween costumes – far out! Lord, protect me from your followers….

Vork

October 20th, 2009
12:54 pm

@Becky

Noble idea but I think that requires too much thought and time. Two luxeries people have little of anymore.

Vork

October 20th, 2009
12:55 pm

and that would be luxuries, not luxeries….my bad.

Hey, Vork...

October 20th, 2009
1:04 pm

…is lakerat writing under a new name now that someone has tried to imitate her/him?

lmno

October 20th, 2009
1:08 pm

“Lord, protect me from your followers….”

Photius, I really enjoyed that book.

Vork

October 20th, 2009
1:11 pm

@Hey, Vork…

How the hell would I know?

lakerat (the original)...

October 20th, 2009
1:46 pm

…evidently, Vork, someone thought that we (you and me) are the same person!!!

Vork

October 20th, 2009
1:54 pm

Ha, that’s funny I kinda thought that motherjanegoose and lakerat were the same person.

Barak

October 20th, 2009
1:55 pm

Hey Jimmie….It’s Barak not Barry man…..You would think you would recognize your President…..

katrina not from NO

October 20th, 2009
1:57 pm

Be outraged. Don’t buy this crap. Say “no” to your kids. They will get over it. You, as a parent, are not their friends. They have friends. Who are their own age. You are their parent(ts).

I am so done with hearing and watching parents say “well, they wanted it and it was only xx$, so I gave in. We were in a hurry.” or “They say it is what their friends are wearing.”

So if their friends were wearing slut clothes that would be OK, and if their slutty-clothes-wearing friends wanted to jump off a bridge, because all the kids are doing it, that would be OK.

Because you are raising friends who are actually sheep and we all know what happens then – the sheep follow the leader.

You are responsible for what you breed.

FCM

October 20th, 2009
2:03 pm

So how old are the ‘teens’? I think at 13 or so they should not be out pestering the neighbors for candy. They can be at Halloween parties in somebodies basement, den or wherever.

I told mine I am not buying costumes this year. Check the dress clothes pile or your closet and come up with something. They both have some interesting ideas none of which include showing belly-buttons. It is too cold for that most years anyway. We all love costumes shoved over bulky coats or coats covering the costume right?

Hunter of MILF

October 20th, 2009
2:18 pm

The more skin the better I say, only I like em older and more experienced…..hello ladies….

maybe not good for my daughter, but love them on my wife!

October 20th, 2009
3:44 pm

I have to admit that if I had a daughter in her early teens (i have a young son thankfully), I would be uncomfortable with her wearing most of this stuff. But I also have to admit that my wife and I are going to our Halloween party as dorothy and the scarecrow…and my wife looks really, really good as Dorothy in thigh highs, heels, and pig tails (I’ll never watch the Wiz of Oz the same way again!). Not too slutty, but juuusstt enough to make my heart skip a beat at this alter ego of my proper soccer mom wife. She doesn’t have a problem with it, she knows she looks pretty good, and I don’t have a problem with my wife showing herself off a little. I honestly see nothing wrong with it. I don’t think she’s setting a bad example for anyone. On the other hand, its leads to a question regarding this topic. There is obviously an age where a girl is too young to wear one of these costumes and it not be a little creepy…..but there is also an age where if you can get away with it, you should feel no shame in going for it, IMHO. So where is the line drawn? I really don’t have an answer, just thought it was an interesting thought.

One other thought for those who are expressing their outrage now…”Lolita” was published in 1955, the movie hit the scene in 1962. They were scandalous and ENORMOUSLY popular. That’s a full half century of society’s fascination of slutty teen girls….and I’m sure I could find lots more dating back even further….I should check my bible….I bet there are some juicy examples there. I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just saying that to be outraged now is a little late in the game.

Magenta

October 20th, 2009
3:57 pm

Speaking of scary creatures, let’s not feed the TROLLS!!!

jack.5656

October 20th, 2009
4:02 pm

I have to admit…I’d hate to see these on my daughter, but would crawl on glass to see them on my wife.

Razz

October 20th, 2009
4:12 pm

i think 18 yrs old is the age that draws the line…or after high school

Jeff

October 20th, 2009
4:37 pm

Any credence to the idea that these girls are dressing like their mothers? With more and more single moms dressing trampy, the girls see it as acceptable. Just MHO

jack.5656

October 20th, 2009
4:41 pm

that damn MTV generation! the chickens are coming home to roost!

jack.5656

October 20th, 2009
4:46 pm

so is the problem with the costumes, or a lack for modesty in those who wear them?

Tiffany

October 20th, 2009
4:55 pm

I loved the movie Mean Girls- and I remember Cady saying something like those girls idea of a costume is to wear sexy lingerie and put on a pair of animal ears…lol

DB

October 20th, 2009
4:56 pm

I think some of you are confusing sexually explicit costumes for adults with the ones for children. Adults can wear what they want — I don’t care if an adult dresses provocatively, because presumably they can weigh and accept the consequences of their actions, even if it’s just in fun.

But for children? And young teenagers? It’s creepy, sexualizing a young child in such a way, and encouraging them to think of themselves in such a way. Parents who permit it or think it’s “cute” won’t think it’s so cute when their 15 year old comes home pregnant, or they are having to deal with an oral STD, because, after all, sex is CUTE. And they are the same ones who will roll their eyes and ask plaintively, “But where did they get the idea that it was alright?” Parents are supposed to teach and protect their children, and not allow them to display themselves in such blatantly lewd inappropriate ways.

I don’t care who is buying it, and I don’t care who is selling it. That doesn’t make it right. The human body is beautiful, but there is a time and place for that beauty to be enjoyed.

Interesting, though, how none of the guy’s costumes seem to be tight fitting at the crotch . . . because THAT’S “gay”.

Pfffffft.

FCM

October 20th, 2009
5:37 pm

Jeff I think it depends on the single mom. I am one and I do NOT wear clothes that look painted on or that show my belly button on purpose!

Even if I did look like Heidi Klum I would not do that.

FCM

October 20th, 2009
5:39 pm

BTW as a Mom of girls it is difficult find decent clothes for them to wear. I do it.

Oldest had shorts on the other day, and I said, those go in the good will stack kiddo. She got huffy, so I asked her how she would like me to get a pair just like them. The pants went on the stack.

Jesse's Girl

October 20th, 2009
9:04 pm

My kids dress for Halloween the same way they dress for any other day of the year…repsectfully. These moms that dress like a wanna-be Pam Anderson are the ones I blame. If a parent dresses as if their BFF is a pole…what the heck do you think their kids are going to do? Have some respect ans pride please. Do not dress like a trollop. Everyone has a belly button…we don’t need to see your’s. It isn’t special.

FCM

October 20th, 2009
9:58 pm

lmno your right. I am guilty of having been told certain clothes were inappropriate. A particular mini-skirt comes to mind. However I had the good sense to obey my parents.

Why is that children are in such a hurry to grow up? I am not just talking sex (especially since I was close to 20 before I had any). I mean wearing clothes that made me look like I had boobs well before I did. Or thinking that I should be in make-up.

Yes it is back to haunt me now with my daughters, but like my parents did with me, I get veto power! Too short, too tight, to whatever and out it goes. Both my children know if I see words printed on their butt they are in trouble. They say they find those shorts tacky!

Cable Car Couture

October 20th, 2009
10:47 pm

It isn’t just costumes for teenage girls, but women in general. The majority of costumes for women are overtly sexual and revealing in nature.

Annie

October 20th, 2009
11:12 pm

There’s a simple solution – until your daughter is on her own or old enough to take responsibility for her actions, she needs to follow the law of house and her parents. Who cares what little Debbie down the street is wearing, just worry about your own kids and their well being, and let little Debbie’s parents worry about her or not as they so choose.

motherjanegoose

October 20th, 2009
11:17 pm

@ DB…glad someone has a somewhat moral compass here. Where is catlady and the real Lakerat? I guess you will have to hang in there for the rest of us ‘old folks’….thanks!

@ Vork, I am too busy spewing my crazy and lengthy ideas to those that are paying to hear me to chime in much, so enjoy yourself. I am happy that someone does indeed pay me to talk for 6 hours…..hmmmm.

motherjanegoose

October 20th, 2009
11:18 pm

ooops…where are catlady and the real Lakerat…sorry for my grammar….my time zones are all mixed up now that I am back from Alaska….

[...] was a blog recently that talked about trashy costumes aimed at teenage girls. This is a quote from the mother [...]

Vork

October 21st, 2009
7:29 am

@motherjanegoose

Really? That’s great that you get payed to talk, because I, and I’m not alone on this one, would pay you just to shut up.

It’s easy to talk about something you know a lot about but you, my dear, have this annoying knack of talking endlessly about topics that you clearly have no business discussing because you add nothing of value to the conversation. And you add insult to injury by dragging on your belabored point for several paragraphs.

Seriously? I mean can’t you make your point in less than 1000 words? You lose my attention after the first paragraph.

By the way this is what is called constructive criticism, I’m not hating on you.

motherjanegoose

October 21st, 2009
8:36 am

@ Vork….put your money where your mouth is…..how much are you willing to pay me?

You can send the check to Theresa ( she knows exactly how to reach me) and when I receive it I will let everyone know on the blog that you are willing to pay me more to shut up than those who pay me to talk. It would be wonderful to be paid not to do a thing, I will even leave if you pay my ONE DAY rate. I need a new sofa/loveseat and that might work.

FYI…I am not cheap!

As far as I can tell. this is a open mic and anyone can “talk( ing ) endlessly about topics” .

I am a MOM and I am thinking the title of the blog contains that word.

To me, SHUT UP is hateful.

( NOT 1000 words)

Vork

October 21st, 2009
8:43 am

@motherjanegoose

LOL

I see that I pissed you off….GOOD. To me that is worth it’s weight in GOLD and far surpasses any amount of money I could give you.

Now you know how some of us feel when we are forced to read one of your novels that you post here. Keep that in mind the next time you feel like getting long-winded.

Peace.

Stan

October 21st, 2009
9:04 am

“feel when we are forced to read one of your novels that you post here.”

Really? I’ve never been ‘forced’ to read anything MJG has posted, ever. There are some folks that post here that I don’t care to read, so when I see their name, I skip to the next entry. Pretty simple really.

Vork

October 21st, 2009
9:44 am

@Stan

My point exactly I may read the first paragraph of any of motherjanegoose’s posts and move on.

It’s really her “holier than thou” attitude that caused me to say something in the first place.

jess

October 21st, 2009
11:37 am

let em bone!!! thats what its for..to get them all sexy and in the mood…for the soon to be future s*uts! who wear them

I agree with

October 21st, 2009
2:08 pm

Vork on the MJG issue. Although she seems like she may be likable in person, her blogs are self centered and boring. I rarely see a day’s blog where she doesn’t stress the fact she gets paid to talk and she’s been told more than once that we all get paid for what we do well yet we don’t have to throw it out there for everyone. I sense that somewhere there’s a lack of esteem within her and is the reason she brags so much.

On topic, My 18 year old daughter is a straight A student and is going to a party as a playboy bunny. Yes, she looks sexy but it’s Halloween people, not church so lighten up.

Sarah

October 21st, 2009
2:13 pm

I AM a teen girl and not interested in looking like a hooker for halloween. I worry about what im going to wear for a party as much as the next girl but THIIIS is ridiculous. if you google halloween costumes all the costumes are the same. all the alices and snow whites and red riding hoods, your lucky to find two options. and youre right, theyre all waaaay too short. even with tights id feel naked. and yet theres nothing i can do, i refuse to wear anything so shameful but what else is there? every costume store is stoked full of this junk. help?

collegechic

October 22nd, 2009
12:33 am

sarah…u might want to check this out…there are actually real college co-eds that think the whole dressing like a slut ordeal is over-rated:

http://www.collegefashion.net/trends/do-halloween-costumes-have-to-be-slutty/

collegechic

October 22nd, 2009
12:39 am

Dawn

October 22nd, 2009
5:44 pm

I’m amazed at the adult costumes too. As an adult woman, if I wanted to buy a costume to be a doctor or a race-car driver or a police officer, all my options at the Halloween stores would be slutty versions.

If you look at the men’s versions of the same costumes, they look like actual doctors, officers, etc.

When is the last time you’ve gone to the hospital and your female doctor was wearing a teddy with a stethoscope…or your female police officer’s uniform looked painted on?

Mike in Miami

October 22nd, 2009
6:13 pm

I have no problem with girls wearing half-naked Halloween costumes if they choose to, as long as they are 18 or older. There is a problem, however, with preteens or young teens wearing
revealing, sexualized costumes on Halloween. I agree what was said about not growing up so fast. Slow down girls, enjoy your childhood. Once an adult you can wear all the skimpy costumes you want and treat yourself like a piece of meat if you want to. But really, a 12 year-old should Not be wearing a skimpy”milk-maid costume” like I saw advertised recently.
Again, it is the Parents who are to blame. I mean, look at the show “Toddlers & Tiaras”, Parents like that are pathetic. The self-obsession is sickening. How about teaching your children real self-esteem building activities that focus on their abilities, not their looks. Yes the Halloween costumes is about making a quick buck, but at our children’s expense is too high a cost. Let them enjoy their innocence.

carmen

October 23rd, 2009
2:22 am

i think the problem starts at home, once a parent allows a child to wear something it becomes permissible to wear anything else. i don’t have as much problems with the teens as i do for the 10 and 11 year olds. my little sister is ten and when she showed me the kind of outfits her friends were wearing for Halloween i warned her that she wasn’t even getting near that area. some of these girls don’t even have chests and they want to show it off. i don’t care if any one else lets their child dress like a whore but i make sure that i educate my sister that there is a fine line between sexy and slutty and what is age appropriate and isn’t.

Mo's mom

October 23rd, 2009
12:14 pm

Halloween is a commercialized celebration of the spirits of the dead. My son’s school does not acknowledge it but instead celebrates the life of JESUS and calls their party Hallelujah.

Luckily, my son has decided that he doesn’t want to dress up at all.

PRAISE GOD!

Shannon bee x

October 24th, 2009
8:00 am

Look why havv yooh wasted your tyme chating about these clothes when if yooh don’t want your kids wearing then then make them wear shorts under skirts or leggings and all mams must be handy with a sewing machine if its 2 low then just a a bit of fabric here and there and make it higher I meen its only one day a year just because you dress like say suprewoman that dosnt meen you have her pocrea so just because you show a little skin dosent make you a slut your more likly to have slut for a daughter if you make her wear skirts downto her ancels because thenwhen she is old enough to leave she will be more lickly to go mad when she can its only one day a year and its dark enyway so who is going to see enyway and FYI I have to children of my own so I know what I am talking about

BigSherm7

October 24th, 2009
9:32 am

It amazes me that women complain about not wanting to be viewed as sex objects, but as soon as you can say the word HOOTERS, they’re breaking their neck to be viewed as . . . SEX OBJECTS . . .

BigSherm7

October 24th, 2009
9:35 am

Now where’s the Girls Gone Wild gonna be this time??? Oh, in Rome, not Italy, Georgia, a so-called Red State . . . let’s set good personal examples, pray for others who may be blind to how their personal appearance is improper, speak to the issue in the spirit of love, etc.

JAM

October 24th, 2009
11:35 am

OK – I did a search and found this blog. I have a 17 year old daughter who just showed me her halloween costume which is absolutely atrocious. She and her friends came up with the group idea to be Santa’s helpers. She sewed big red ribbons on sheer white knee socks, found a santa hat with pom poms and went out and bought a red dress at Forever 21. She works and often buys her own clothing. The dress is a pretty, satin short number but is one or two sizes too small and way too short. She intends to wear this with very high, red patent leather pumps.

I am a feminist and I thought my daughter was too. I think she looks like a hooker in this outfit and can’t imagine she would be able to sit or bend over in this dress. She thinks she looks great. What I am wrestling with is how to discuss this with my daughter in a respectful and productive way rather than in a way that will end in yelling and crying.

I keep wondering why anyone would want to dress in a way that would make every boy in a ten mile radius want to have sex with you on the spot. I also don’t understand wearing something that you would never want your grandmother, uncle or aunt see you in.

My daughter is a good kid, has a boyfriend and is not sexually active because she says she is not ready. Her boyfriend seems to respect that in her. The selection of such a trashy costume for halloween seems to be so contrary to how she lives her life. Any advice??

Angie

October 25th, 2009
11:23 am

Pshhh! You think that is trashy i’ve seen worse. i go to a school where they roll th skirts all the way higher than that.The only reason why you wouldn’t want to wear that is if you hated your body and wanted to hide and wanted to be a ghost for halloween because you didnt want anybody noticing you. i mean they where’nt that bad.. It would sorta matter what the person would actually be like. If it was a cute person who likes wairing cute things then it would be different. but if it was someone who was wearing tops going up to their belly button then yeah i it would look really trashy. Halloween has changed and the thing in Mean Girls so untrue. Girls should respect themselves and if their looking for trouble then somethings wrong with them. I still dont know what im going to be for halloween but you should wear what teachers are approved of. Im suggesting that you’re a mom but it depends on what you wair with it. If your daughter wants to wair a cleavage revealing top just tell her to [ut a little top on under neath and if you dont like much of her legs showing tell her to put knee high socks or leggings it still looks cute. Im just making a point that not all girls look like that

Dave The Wave

October 25th, 2009
3:48 pm

I bet if we had this debate in a public place some of you would get physically violent with each other.

Timus

October 25th, 2009
6:22 pm

This reminds me of a conversation I was having with a coworker about young girls dressing slutty. I told her that I believed they would have plenty to time when they were older to express their sexuality and I thought it was inappropriate for teenage girls to walk around the subdivision with boy shorts on that were two sizes too small and THEN with the elastic rolled down so they should show more skin. My coworker got quiet. I immediately knew that I must have been describing her daughters. As a one of my kids school principals once said” “Don’t advertise if you’re not selling!!” Moms and Dads they will have plenty of time for that when they reach an appropriate age!!

jc

October 25th, 2009
11:23 pm

hey adults yea maby some costumes are a big no no but let us teens enjoy our youth will you??

teenagegirl

October 26th, 2009
5:30 pm

…make ur own costumes. i makin alice in wonderland with a twist, aka cuttin up the dress n apron addin sum fake blood.
not slutty, girls do wear dresses, and wearing shorts under the dress.

most girls dont buy those costumes, they make their own.

Danielle, Get Green Girl

October 26th, 2009
7:37 pm

Thanks for writing about this! I was a teen girl not too long ago, and I can remember hating Halloween costume shopping for the mere reason that I felt FORCED to purchase one of these sexy outfits. I never wanted to wear these trashy costumes but fear of not fitting in got the best of me.

I think stores should not be allowed to market these costumes to young audiences and parents need to monitor the purchasing of these costumes. We need to advertise and promote more wholesome, fun costumes to teens.

I recently wrote about this issue on my blog for teens: http://getgreengirl.blogspot.com

http://www.get-green-girl.com

mike shuppel

October 27th, 2009
1:28 pm

Good God…Societal evilutuon. Life imitating art once again? How did we expect society(Americana) to respond to the NOW movement ? Females want to be and feel attractive.Why would a happily married woman leave home to work with cosmetics and sexy clothing and jewels?This is a new biological equilibrium inprogress.
Remember these young girls are not wearing bikinis and high heels .
I took my son to JCP for school clothes-everything was sculls,pentagrams,rolled up dollar bills and self-destructive and now dead rock stars from back packs to underwear.I believe we should be concerned with the “death obsession” more so than cute little girls ,who, in essence will be our source
of life once they achieve womanhood.
May only peace , Love and respect surround you.

Jenny

October 28th, 2009
4:53 pm

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Trisha336

October 28th, 2009
4:54 pm

Halloween is a day to dress up.

Tom Baker

October 30th, 2009
3:34 pm

As far as I’ve seen (morning talk shows) its not just teens. Costumes for younger girls are trashy and vile as well. If enough parents buy them, they will be back next year and trashier. It’s always about the money and nothing else. Britney Spears and sex sells no matter what age.

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kim

November 10th, 2009
7:45 pm

My 13 year old daughter made her costume this year. I am very proud of her for doing it too. We always made our costumes, why not keep up the tradition. I saw a lot of moms very willing to buy their children these slutty costumes at Spirits. They had no problem with them at all. I think a lot of moms love it too from what I see.

Dyke123

December 4th, 2009
9:40 am

went to the website. not impressed. could be sluttier.

Chris

December 29th, 2009
4:04 pm

Just let them flaunt their little ass and puss

Sandra

January 16th, 2010
1:48 pm

I just have too say being the mother of 4 teenage girls and 1 boy. That buy the ag of 13 they should be aloud to wear whatever they want, no matter how sluttly. Obviously, not too stutty, but you have to let teenage girls make the mistakes and stop trying to correct them. we wont al ways we around to teel them what to do and when to di it. They should learn on there own, after all, were noy there for guidance love and care. :)

Dorothy Costume

January 27th, 2010
7:26 am

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7:35 am

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moomashoo

March 3rd, 2010
8:39 am

i know right? I’m 16 and i dont even like that sort of crap xD.
I was just looking for a nice in wonderland costume and all they had was these super short sluttish dresses. I just wanted the long alice dress where it was at least a little below the knees @_@;;;

teengirl

July 17th, 2010
2:48 pm

im a 13 year old girl and i love halloween
i do not dress like a slut on halloween at all
last year i wore a long blck top , neon tutu, black leggins, neon leg warmers and HUGE homemade butterfly wings

and i love the film mean girls, and yes, its true what they say in it
but thats for when im 17 +

and ‘FYI’ i have my unique sense of style – not slutty but some of my outfits are short/ low but they are deffinatly not slutty
and this applys for most teen girls

so get off our backs – this is a confusing time and everyone knows it

and even if we do look slutty who cares if we think we look good then we dont care – and that makes us happy where as most of the time we feel like we look crap the typical ‘too thin, too fat , to this to that’

so just leave us alone ok ?