A pregnant friend of mine posted a note on Facebook that they were going to an ultrasound but would NOT be finding out the sex of the baby because her husband did NOT want to know. She really wants to know and is hoping she can change his mind down the road.
So it made me wonder: Who gets to decide whether you find out the sex of the baby? Do you have to both agree to find out? Could one parent find out and the other not find out? Could you actually keep it a secret?
I was lucky that Michael wanted to know too because I don’t think I could have waited. Plus I would have been terrible at hiding the sex if I did know. We both immediately started using the correct pronoun for the baby once we knew.
I believe my cousin’s husband wanted to know and she did not and I think he hid it from her the whole pregnancy. But I bet they are a rare example.
Did you and your spouse want to know the sex of the baby? Who would get the deciding vote if you disagreed? Did you have to persuade your spouse to find out? If so, how? Did you start using the correct pronoun as soon as you found out? Could you hide the knowledge if only you found out? Would you ever find out behind your spouse’s back?