Why I don’t bring my wife to Georgia football games
Editor’s Note: I’ve complained a lot on this blog about my husband abandoning me on the weekends to go to the University of Georgia football games. Finally, here’s HIS view on the subject.
Michael and Lilina.
By Michael A. Giarrusso
Ever since our first child was born, my wife has had a hate-hate relationship with college football, a game that she once loved. She’s written about it here many times, but to summarize:
We used to go to games together all the time, and she was generally an attentive and enthusiastic fan. She simply couldn’t go as much after the kids were born. Babysitters were tough to find, especially since my in-laws go to games themselves most Saturdays. And bringing small children to loud, hot Sanford Stadium is not a great idea.
I kept the tickets, and Theresa was replaced by my best friend. For the last eight years, she has become more and more resentful of this situation, angry at me for going, for leaving early or staying late and for drinking while I’m there. So when my friend couldn’t go this weekend, Theresa set up a babysitter and planned to join me for our first game date in years.
As soon as she agreed to go, I started remember some reasons I didn’t always enjoy bringing her.
1) Not long after saying she wanted to go, Theresa started channeling Al Roker, terrified about how the weather would affect her comfort. Theresa complains about the heat when it’s over 76 degrees and complains about the cold when it’s under 72. If it’s going to be sunny and hot, she brings a duffel bag full of sunscreen, water, ice packs, sunglasses and fans. If it’s going to be the least bit chilly, she brings gloves, hats, sweaters, parkas and a Thermos of hot chocolate. In the rain … more on that later.
2) She immediately tries to complicate the plan. My friend and I have a simple setup. He picks me up. I bring bourbon. We buy large fountain Cokes at a gas station, and replace the soda that we drink with bourbon. We bring no food or games, and we don’t go anywhere except to our parking spot and the stadium. We stay until the game is out of reach. But Theresa wants to see if we can meet her friend on the other side of town. She suggests driving downtown _ ignoring the fact that it’s impossible to park downtown on game day _ to visit one of her favorite restaurants. After the game, we should stop and visit her friend. She doesn’t seem all satisfied with my bourbon and Coke menu, and will probably want me to buy one of those overpriced hot dogs at the stadium.
3) Theresa likes to talk, regardless if anyone wants to hear it. I’m not your typical “Go Dawgs!” football fan. I’m a former sportswriter, and I take a more serious and analytical approach to the game. If you’re going to sit with me, don’t ask stupid questions or make ignorant statements about the game. Theresa used to pay attention to sports, but she has not for at least a decade, and that hurts her ability to analyze. When Arizona State took the field, she asked if Dennis Erickson was the same guy who once coached Miami. I was impressed, but then I remembered that he coached about Miami 20 years ago, when Theresa actually watched sports. If I won’t talk to her, she’ll start making non-football conversation with our neighbors. I’ve sat next to some of these people for more than 10 years and barely know most of them. But Theresa gets their whole life story during one TV timeout.
4) By far the biggest problem taking Theresa to the stadium is that she cares much more about her personal comfort level than the game or my feelings about the game. Even if weather isn’t an issue, she’ll complain about being hungry, or scrunched in too closely, or being too close to the band. By Friday, she was checking the weather radar every hour, and telling me the exact percentage chance of rain. By Saturday morning, she was pricing waterproof pants. She warned me that she needed an even bigger bag than usual, this one stocked with dry clothes. She kept asking if I would promise to leave if the rain was too much, and she claimed that it would be just as much fun to watch at a bar or at our friends’ house in Athens. By the time she went on a rant about the unfairness of the rule banning umbrellas in the stadium, I knew it wasn’t worth it to bring her.
Last November, I took my father to the Georgia Tech-Georgia game and it rained on us for four straight hours. He never complained or whined or asked to leave. His rain supplies consisted of a baseball hat, a windbreaker and some paper towels in his pocket that he occasionally used to dry off our soaked bench. If he were available Saturday, I would have taken him. But my only choice was Theresa, which meant I was better off watching on TV.
By the time I gave up on Theresa, it was too late to get another partner, so I stayed home too. Even though we weren’t in the stadium, I got to experience some of her game behavior on the couch. It’s definitely different than going with my friends, who rarely make comments about Joe Cox’s haircut, Uga’s feelings about the rain or whether Mark Richt ever cusses underneath his breath.
During the game, she quickly ran out of things to say about football, and tried to engage me in conversations about the science of baking, our Christmas budget and replacing the carpet in our flooded basement.
Who knows, maybe there will be another chance for us to go together later this year. Let’s hope for a partly cloudy, 72-degree day with room to spread out and short lines at the concession stands. If not, I’ll just pray for patience.
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Jesse's Girl
September 27th, 2009
9:45 pm
Theresa….I LOVE YOU…dearly. But I fancy myself as the perfect football wife. I get pissier than most men when my Dawgs play poorly…or if we get a flag…or if we get called for a face mask that our opponents somehow got away with the play before. I gladly sit through down pours…I wear water-proof mascara during rainy games. I don’t complain (much) if they forget to put the seat cushion-thingie in my seat and I don’t get violent with the guy that drops the Fbomb after every breath. (though I did threaten to kill him last year:) I don’t eat a huge amount before hand because I know the women’s BR sucks….its always a mad house no matter when you go. And you will never catch me eating those stupid hotdogs. $4.50 for a regular weiner…..$6 for the super big one (its slightly fatter…no way its worth that much) In short…..I love our Dawg-Dates!!! They are so much fun for both of us.
Now Michael….if you could find a way to show Theresa that during football season, she is still the most important thing in your life…maybe she’d be more inclined to cross over into your endzone. Justa sayin.
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
September 27th, 2009
9:52 pm
Honest to goodness — I really do follow the game well. I understand when flags are thrown and I definitely have opinions on calls and players. I just don’t want to sit in the rain. I have three kids to take care of and I don’t get “sick days”.
As far as staying on topic during the games — It feels much too indulgent to sit and watch a day of football, like we did, and do nothing else. I can recap probably 7 games with some decent detail. So I worked on other things while I watched. I literally planned our Christmas shopping budget and I just asked him to look at it — I think after the game was over but definitely in a commercial break. Now in a commercial break I did try to tell him about how different varieties of flour affect pie crusts because I had been reading the Shirley Corriher cookbook. That was a mistake. But I don’t think he would have listened to that discussion at any point.
I will totally agree with him that comfort is very important to me and rain is just not OK. Heat and cold I can work with. Rain just stinks.
Jesse's Girl
September 27th, 2009
10:10 pm
As much as I LOVE UGA football….I too cannot just sit and watch it. When we are watchig at home, I still have children to take care of…food to prepare…life does not just stop. And I think thats what irks you more than anything…because it can irk me as well. His world revolves around UGA in the fall months….and your’s still has to encompass the entire family. You don’t get the luxury of leaving the children and all your home/work responsibilites for a Sat of football and clandestine bourbon consumption:) I get it….thats why I think it would go along way if he gave up one of those Saturdays and dedicated it to you. The thoughtful notion might just be enough for you to appreciate his love of it a little more…..and perhaps he would see that you aren’t so keen on being a UGA widow EVERY Sat:)
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
September 27th, 2009
10:25 pm
I agree — I hope I am “invited” back again this season.
I was happy to drive to Athens and watch in a bar until the rain let up and then go to the game — the parking was an issue _ i wasn’t going to walk from our spot to downtown — way too far in the rain. but he didn’t want to do that — I was excited about a date night with him and to get to go to the game — all would have been great if not for the torrential down pour — that wasn’t a little bit of rain — it was a lot!!
fk
September 27th, 2009
11:21 pm
My husband and I went thru a similar routine before the GA Tech football game Sat. a.m. I was thinking to my self that I should skip the game due to the rain. Yes, I am a fair-weather fan. My husband told me that he’d understand if I preferred to watch the game from home because if the rain came, it would take away from my enjoyment. I agreed. But he had not finsihed his sententce…if the rain came, it would take away from my enjoyment, which, in turn, would take away from his. Not ten seconds later, he had a replacement for my ticket. I think he had the back up plan all along. He came home soaking wet and it had only rained for the last few minutes of the game. That is simply not my idea of fun. I would have freaked out when the big screen showed the t’storm warning but 10 minutes away. I enjoyed the game from home on the big TV, all the while chatting on the phone and taking care of the laundry, overall, a very productive afternoon…and I did not get wet. Have a good week.
HB
September 27th, 2009
11:34 pm
Wow. When Theresa wrote about Michael having to go to EVERY home game, EVERY year, plus FL and maybe TN, regardless of what she needed at home, I thought he sounded like a self-involved jerk, but thought it probably just came across that way since we were only reading her side. Now reading this, I see how truly kind she was in her description of the situation. She’s grown more and more resentful about being left with all the work every home game Saturday for 8 years? Gee, no mention of any appreciation of her doing it anyway so that you can go drink and hang out with your buddy at the game? On away game weeks, do you take over all home responsibilities so she can go have a fun day? You had your first “game date” in years, but she’s supposed to act just like your male buddy? You don’t want to put any effort into making it a special day for her? I can understand where the weather worries and overplanning would get old, but for the honor of sitting with you, she needs to either be up on the game or shut up? Not just not bother you with “stupid” commentary, but you don’t want her to talk to others either? Seriously, Theresa, when that nice 72-degree day comes along, find a girlfriend, head to Athens, and leave Michael home with the kids.
Jesse's Girl
September 28th, 2009
6:05 am
Its supposed to be nice this Sat for the LSU game darlin…..you can roll with me if all the kiddos feel better:)
DB
September 28th, 2009
6:51 am
Theresa, I can’t decide if you actually like football, or just want to spend some one-on-one time with Michael and see a UGA game as an opportunity to do that. Frankly, it doesn’t sound like you’re a huge football fan — so why subject yourself to it and try to turn it into something that it isn’t?
It’s 11 or 12 weeks out of 52. Let the guy enjoy his football games in peace, with the clear understanding that he makes the same effort to spend equal time with you on Sunday or other times of the year.
And Michael — if Theresa wants to talk to your seat neighbors, what’s the BFD? It means she’s not bothering you. You don’t want to talk to her, so what is she supposed to do, sit there and shut up?
Dr. Horrible
September 28th, 2009
7:40 am
Michael A. Giarrusso is my hero…well said…..guys like to keep things simple, women like to complicate EVERYTHING!!!
motherjanegoose
September 28th, 2009
7:41 am
@ DB…WHAT are you doing up this early?
TODAY, ya’ll will be thrilled that I have never sat through a football game since HS and have NO comments to make on this subject. My husband goes to games with his buddies or our son but he has never had season tickets…way out of our price range. I am not a football fan…sorry to offend anyone. I respect those who are and give them space.
I was in Arkansas this past weekend and the Razorbacks were glaring at me when I told them my son spent four years at UGA…I tried to make them feel better and tell them I worked 7 years at Wal- Mart in HS and college. ( for those who do not know it all started in Arkansas).
Have Fun!
Dr. Horrible
September 28th, 2009
7:48 am
After more thought though I must admit my wife tends to complicate some things, but going to sporting events is not one of them…..she was in the marching band in high school and college – that may have something to do with it.
JATL
September 28th, 2009
7:51 am
OK -first I will say that I LOVE UGA football and would be happy to go to games in any weather with my husband! We enjoy watching the games together on tv, and we both tend to chatter a little bit about non-football issues the same amount during the game and watch the game closely during most plays. I love drinking bourbon and coke in Sanford Stadium, and I am capable of getting something to eat all by myself if I decide I’m starving. The very idea of driving around downtown Athens on gameday is ludicrous and no one wants to have to go meet some friend or anyone when the agenda for the day is to go to a game (or a concert or some other time-sensitive event) -it’s annoying.
Having said all of that -it’s still crystal clear that you, Michael, need some sensitivity training. You come across as a jerk when Theresa writes about you because evidently you are! Maybe not so much IF at other times during the year you stay at home all day on Saturdays or Sundays with the kids while Theresa goes off and does whatever she wants to do -sometimes for several weekends in a row over a 3 month period. If you do that, then we need to know about it because otherwise you’re not considerate or even nice. I’m not sure why, but it sounds like Theresa wants to spend some time with you (she did marry you and have 3 kids with you after all). Perhaps you should both find something you mutually enjoy to get a sitter for and go do on a regular basis. As far as Theresa talking to your seat neighbors -who cares? Why is this an issue for you Michael? At least then she’s leaving you alone, which sounds like your main objective here. Given other topics where it was mentioned that you don’t even want your kids participating in activities that may conflict with UGA football, it sounds like you need a big case of GROWING UP! You have 3 young children and a wife, so most Saturdays in the fall may not be yours to do with what you please. Hey, like I said, my husband and I both LOVE UGA football -lots of college football actually -and spend as much time as possible (see -AS POSSIBLE) watching it, but we have two small children ourselves, so that means that every Saturday isn’t given to doing exactly what we want.
deidre_NC
September 28th, 2009
7:56 am
i alwys loved to go to football (and baseball) games..i do watch them on tv but id much rather go to them in person…i totally undestand that theresa doesnt want to get sick and not be 100% for taking care of kids if shes sick..that is a true issue…what i dont understand is why her going to the game is even an issue…if you dont want to go dont go…as i said in an earlier post on this topic…get a babysitter and do something that you like to do…make it a girls day–or a day with your family..whatever…dont just sit home and stew..i did that when i was really young and i learned real early–its only hurting you..and in the long run it will hurt your marriage….theres no rule that says a woman cant have their own thing to do..you just have to find it…hell theresa….for what the tickets cost you could spend the day at a spa…all nice and warm and getting tons of attention..you can talk if you like or not…whatever…spend that ticket money on a day at the spa!!!!! hes at the game having fun…your getting all pampered…sounds perfect to me….no reason you shouldnt have this day for you just as michel has it for him!!!!
deidre_NC
September 28th, 2009
8:07 am
i also agree with jatl…as your kids get older o are gonna have to put your games in the backseat…your kids should come first most of the time…and you will regret it when they are older and their memories are oh–when i scored that great touchdown.or first ballet recital or whatever great thing they accomplised on a uga saturday…their memory is oh yeah dad wasnt tehre he was at a uga game…that sucks michael..and it will be something you regret..so you need to realize that…remember the cats in the cradle song? listen to it…and it really doesnt sound like the 2 of yall have much of a life together outside of the kids…when you have a family you have to have family time…couple time and then alone time…everyone needs some alone or with friends time…i understand that…but when the kids get older and older a LOT of you rtime is gonna be family time..or should be..its hard for woking couples to get much alone or with friends time…its hard to get just couples time….you need to figure out what is really important to you…those dawgs are gonna be playing forever….FOREVER!!!! your kids will be gone one day and trust me that day comes way too soon….
i wonder what yalls family’s opinions on this are…im sure they hear both sides of yalls arguments…what advice to they give?
deidre_NC
September 28th, 2009
8:11 am
and michael…why does it bother you that theresa is talking to game seat neighbors? does she embarrass you? if so that is another issue…if she is bothering the other people im sure they will let her know..at least by ignoring her lol…i swear it just doesnt sound like theresa needs to go to games…she doesnt like them…it sounds like shes going just to get some time with you..isnt there anything else yall can do together that yall both enjoy? what did yall do before the kids came?
George P
September 28th, 2009
8:13 am
It’s interesting that the interpretation of this seems to be split along sex lines, and my opinion fits that.
This is something he loves doing a few Saturdays a year. If you want to do it with him, that’s great, but it seems as if you only want to do it if you can change it into something you want to do and, in the process, kill a lot of what he loves about it.
It’s great that you are showing this interest, but try to understand that it’s not just watching the game that makes these football Saturdays such a joy for him: it’s the game, and it’s all these things you want to take away.
Pick another day for the two of you to go to Athens and go to that restaurant and visit your friend. It will be easier, too, since potential babysitters won’t be busy with the game.
JJ
September 28th, 2009
8:24 am
Honestly…..I love a good sporting event, I don’t care if it’s football, hockey or baseball. I’d rather see it live than on tv. I’m there, and I won’t complain!!!! I love stadium food, tailgating, whatever. I don’t care if its raining, snowing or what….as long as I’m with good friends/family and having a good time, that’s what it’s all about.
I don’t care about weather…..it’s gonna happen, I can’t control it. We were at the Chili Cookoff this past weekend, and I didn’t care if it rained or not. I’m out of the house, and not working so I don’t care…….we were lucky however, it didn’t start raining until about 3:15 and we were out of the park an on 78 by that time. Perfect timing.
I think couples need activities without each other. Michael has every right to go to those football games on Saturday, that’s his passion. I’m sure he works hard, and deserves to play hard too. If that’s the worst thing he does, and leaves Theresa at home with the kids, then whats the big deal. Then Theresa should plan a girlfriend activity one day a week, when the dogs aren’t playing……..compromise.
Dr. Horrible
September 28th, 2009
8:26 am
I think Theresa you may have unrealistic expectations of what it means to go with your husband to a college football game. You keep referring to it like it is a “Date.” Michael did not once refer to this outing as a “date.” Perception…
Yes you get to be alone with him without the kids present but this is what he does to relax and get away from things doing what he likes to do. If you don’t want to participate like he does fine but don’t make it out to be something more than it is.
If you want a true “date” I suggest you get a sitter and go out to dinner/movie and maybe stay in a hotel. I can guarantee that you will have Michael’s undivided attention then.
DB
September 28th, 2009
8:31 am
@ MJG – yuck, yep, it is waaay to early, but the DH left at 5 AM for the week, and I needed to finish up a project for a client. :-)
Michael, I echo the same question that other posters have posed: You were very interested in getting Walsh involved in little league football — how did you plan to resolve Walsh’s game days with UGA game days? This is going to become a major conflict as the kids get older and start playing soccer, football, softball, cheerleading, or whatever. In five or six years, you’re going to have kids ranging from 7 to 13 — prime-time for kids sports. You’re going to have a real mess on your hands if you insist on taking EVERY Saturday to devote to UGA football and leave Theresa to ferry kids to games, etc. all weekend long. And what are you going to do when Walsh or the girls start wanting to go to UGA games with you? It’s going to happen, especially if they are exposed to it constantly at home, as they appear to be.
Both of my kids almost drowned this weekend at football games — my son went to the UNC-GaTech game, and my daughter was at the UGA game. I’m with Theresa — the idea of sitting through a game in the rain makes me cringe. Years ago, I went to the FSU-Nebraska game at the Orange Bowl, and it rained TORRENTS — we watched water cascading down the stadium steps like little waterfalls. My DH was determined to stay for the entire game, since we had paid a lot for the tickets, hotel room, baby sitter, etc. I still remember sitting there huddled in the cold rain – blech!
Photius
September 28th, 2009
8:32 am
Michael is fine… leave him alone.
Captain Hammer
September 28th, 2009
8:33 am
Speaking of undivided attention:
What do you get when you have two green balls in your hand?
Kermit the Frog’s undivided attention….LOL
momtoAlex&Max
September 28th, 2009
8:38 am
Well, I love football. Stanford stadium is the greatest place on earth on Saturdays during the fall.
Thing is, we have two boys. They have sporting events of their own. When they were littler, I would have been seriously recentful if my husband got to leave for hours 6 Saturdays in a row and I was stuck at home. Having said that, I guess I would have put up with it if *I* got to have 6 Saturdays on my own too. Maybe Theresa did and didn’t share (not very likely); but I don’t think she did/does.
I was actually kinda on Michael’s side before reading this.
lakerat
September 28th, 2009
8:40 am
Football is for the heathens!!!!
Mattie
September 28th, 2009
8:41 am
Enter your comments here
I am the wife in this equation, but I have to agree with the men here today. For the short period of time that college football is relevant each fall, I would be happy to step aside and let my husband enjoy the game in his own style, with his friends. I do like college games, but I like my husband more, and if my being there took away from his fun, I would stay home.
I would expect his full attention after the season though. No changing football outings into golf dates the rest of the year.
pd
September 28th, 2009
8:45 am
The problem with most relationships is communication. Too much communication. Michael, of course Theresa resents you going away every weekend to watch a game. Of course she is going to all but ruin your usual day of football. But you don’t say anything about it. For God’s sake man, you keep your mouth shut. You are already getting a lot by going to so many games. Never communicate your feelings unless those feelings are ones that she wants to hear. What are you considering this? Constructive criticism. As if Theresa is suddenly going to think, “Oh, I should stop resenting Michael and accept that I am not as fun as his friend”. Of course she isn’t. All you have done by running your trap is make her more resentful and feel insulted.
If you would have just taken her to one game a year and just let her choose what you did during that one day and pretended like it was a good time, you would have been able to enjoy the rest of the games without that nagging feeling in the back of your mind that she is resenting you.
Talk less Michael. Think about this; every argument you have starts with a conversation. Therefore, don’t start conversations unless you can see a clear path through the mind field that is a woman’s emotional mind.
Dr. Horrible
September 28th, 2009
8:49 am
@pd
Valid point. The question is, did Michael voluntarily provide this to Theresa or did she specifically ask for this from him as potential material to use on her blog….hmmm…
deidre_NC
September 28th, 2009
8:55 am
lmao at pd….every fight starts with communication…so dont have communication.i think yo just solved the riddle of why men dont talk lmao
Dr. Horrible
September 28th, 2009
8:55 am
Also, after more carefully reading of Michael’s blog I saw that he did, in fact, refer to this outing as a, “game date.” I appologise to Theresa and to Michael…..dude you should never have referred to this outing as a date….that sets Theresa up for expectations I don’t think you ever meant to meet…..FAIL!
HB
September 28th, 2009
8:58 am
Well said, PD. The notion that she is killing the fun of something he loves by not folowing his usual routine is ridiculous. It’s ONE game! She’s not asking to do this every week. Out of appreciation for all the game days she does all the parenting herself, make one game now and then a fun day for her! And Dr. Horrible, he did call it “our first game date in years.”
Becky
September 28th, 2009
9:03 am
Guess I’m lucky with this..My husband would rather watch the game on TV than live..I will sometimes ask him a question about something that happened, but for the most part, I’m quiet during the game..
Michael, like others said, you should give Theresa some down time for her when the weather is her “type”..
YUKI
September 28th, 2009
9:06 am
First of all I was cracking up at Michael’s comments…too funny. But I’m right there with Theresa, I have no desire to go sit at a football game in the rain (or heat for that matter). I am not a huge football fan as it is…I would more be going for the social part of it and not actually watching the game. I went to several games when I was in college but I don’t remember sitting down and actually watching football even for 10 minutes, I was more likely found talking to people and drinking instead…
I would be beyond aggravated if my husband went to games all the time and left me home all day. It’s not an issue because neither of us went to colleges with big football programs so we don’t really care anyway.
The LEAST he could do after spending so much time at the games with friends is make sure you have some days to yourself…like someone said go to a spa or hang out with girlfriends and let him stay home and take care of the kids…It has to be fair at the very least!!!!
pd
September 28th, 2009
9:07 am
“The question is, did Michael voluntarily provide this to Theresa or did she specifically ask for this from him as potential material to use on her blog”
It doesn’t matter. When your wife asks you something as potentially hazardous as “Why don’t you like taking me to football games?” you should not answer her honestly. You stop, think, “What answer can I give that will result in the least amount of hassle?”…..Then you answer, “Baby, I love taking you to games. I love doing anything with you.” and then you walk away quickly while muttering something about how you have to be somewhere ten minutes ago.
Dodge and duck. dodge and duck. Otherwise, you didn’t just ruin one football weekend, you ruined several.
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
September 28th, 2009
9:10 am
Dr. Horrible — i believe the genesis of the blog came as we were talking about the expected weather on Thursday before the game — I should say as I was talking about the expected weather — and he said I should write a column about all the reasons I don’t take you to the games — and I said sure, that would be funny. And so he wrote it last night.
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
September 28th, 2009
9:10 am
that last comment should have been addressed to Pd
Dr. Horrible
September 28th, 2009
9:16 am
@pd
I personally believe in, “keeping it real.” Though I get what you are saying, I would rather be completely honest with my wife and not just placate her. I guess it just matters who you are dealing with and if they tend to let their emotions get overly involved or not.
Jesse's Girl
September 28th, 2009
9:30 am
You people make it sound as if a “date” always means romance….thats so not true. At least not for us. I refer to it as a date if we can go out for more than 2 hours without the children. We’ve had game-dates, hiking-dates, Home Depot/Lowes-dates…..I think Theresa’s point is to spend some time with him….and I think Michael needs to tread carefully. She has given birth your children….sees to all of their daily needs (and your’s) and holds down a job…I would like to think you could make her feel like she’s above UGA for one day. Question is….why won’t you?
cj
September 28th, 2009
9:41 am
I understand where both Michael and Theresa are coming from. I am a UGA fan by marriage, but truly do love the DAWGS! But I am in the same situation as Theresa. My hubby loves his GA football, gets season tickets every year and goes to pretty much every game. Since he graduated, my DH and his best friend have bought their seats together. The first year we were together I did not even go to a single game because that ticket was spoken for. After that I got the extra seat until the kids started coming. Then I dropped off and a guy friend gets to go with him. While I did get to go though I had a blast talking to our seat neighbors (who was Theresa – because my DH and his best friend have the three seats next to Michael), well the wife (Theresa) because the husband (Michael) was really into the game. I even met her oldest child that way, and I think the second one too. But she dropped off too. Now I go to maybe one game a year, sometimes not that. I know my hubby has more fun without me and I don’t have to deal with the general discomfort, rain, heat, crowd, etc. But I have found that I too feel a little resentful of the whole thing, especially when he misses things like our kids sports events, school functions and this year, Halloween. I keep reminding myself though that this is truly his only “hobby”. He works hard to give us everything we have and I shouldn’t be a total nag for him. He needs his time with his friends too. So I bite my tongue and if he invites me, I go and have fun, like we did before we had kids – or try to.
Sug
September 28th, 2009
9:42 am
So basically what you are saying is once you get married, you have to give up your passion?
Just how many home games are there? It’s not every saturday of the year, or every saturday during the fall.
When the dogs are away, get a sitter, and you and Michael take a ride up into the mountains and get some apples. Just the two of you.
But good lord, let the man enjoy his football. It’s a minor thing, pick your battles.
Lynda
September 28th, 2009
9:51 am
On game days my husband and his friends gather at our house, and I usually have 10-15 men in front of the tv on Saturdays and Sundays. I always make some dips and munchies for the guys, then all the wives/girlfriends and I would all go find something else to do for a few hours while they watched football.
Sometimes we went shopping, hit the fall festivals, or go see movies. Every so often, one or two of us would volunteer to keep all the kids, so some could go off without kids and husbands.
COMMUNICATION and planning is all it takes.
Some of you need to learn how to do things with out your spouse on game days. Don’t get all pissy and ugly with the guy, just let him watch his football or whatever, and go find something else to do!!!!! Honestly, there is just too much whining here today.
Marriage does not equal death. You still have a life to live, get out there and enjoy it!!!!!
New Stepmom
September 28th, 2009
10:08 am
Having grown up with Auburn football home games as a family tradition, I am excited that my husband is an SEC fan as well. We do not make it to all home games for AU or UGA but when we do, we make sure both of us have something to enjoy. I love the tailgate as much as the game, we have tailgated with the same crowd in Auburn for more than 20 years as does my husband.
It seems to me that it would be nice for Michael to enjoy most of the games on his own, but have 1 game each season where he and Theresa go together and both compromise on the day’s activities.
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
September 28th, 2009
10:13 am
Hello CJ!!!! Long time no see!!! I swear I haven’t been to a game in 3 years!! Halloween is whole other story — he missed it last year and I bet will it this year! It does make me sad!! Clearly the schedulers at Georgia don’t have school age kids who trick or treat anymore!!
I miss seeing you and talking with you!! I don’t even know how many kids you guys have now because J and M never talk about stuff like that!!!!
Email me at ajcmomania@gmail.com and catch me up if you want!!
Tonya C.
September 28th, 2009
10:19 am
Theresa, you’re really nice. Seriously. I would have cut this mess off after kid # 2. A few games every season…I could live with. Most Saturdays during my favorite season of the year…HELL NO. This is exactly why I REFUSED to marry a huge sports fan. My dad wasn’t one and I wasn’t going to tolerate the nonsense.
How often do you guys have date night? How often do you get to go out and spend an ENTIRE weekend day by yourself? These games are dang near sunrise to sunset affairs. What is he going to do once the kids have their own activities? Leave you to do the shuttling? Please.
As far as the hobby argument? Pure poop. A hobby is something you do in your free time….this is manufactured free time. I’m sure that these are not the only Saturdays during the year that Michael has something non-family oriented planned. Just saying.
Tonya C.
September 28th, 2009
10:24 am
Theresa, when Michael brings up putting Walsh into little league football make sure you say NO. The time commitment required is BIG, and unless he’s ready to watch those games on the big screen or TIVO, don’t put yourself in that position.
I was blessed with a father who thought the weekends were to catch up with his kids, not sports. He rarely ever missed any events for myself or my sisters unless he HAD to work. Life changes when you get married, and sometimes hobbies must change along with it.
Bladez
September 28th, 2009
10:27 am
Tonya C. – Marriage is nothing without compromise…it sounds like that is a foreign concept to you. Too bad. I hope the man you marry is a boring, loathsome individual that cares little for his own needs in favor of catering to yours….Good luck with that.
Lynda
September 28th, 2009
10:31 am
I just checked the UGA game schedule..6, count em, 6 home games. There are 52 Saturdays a year, and you are pitching a fit over 6 of them.
What do you do the other 45 Saturdays?
Lynda
September 28th, 2009
10:32 am
Sorry, the other 46 saturdays? My math isn’t good today.
Tonya C.
September 28th, 2009
10:35 am
Bladez:
Already married, and my husband is NOT a sports fan in the rabid sense. This situation is NOT a compromise, because one party is resentful of the other. My husband gets his free time, but isn’t so greedy that it’s done without thinking of his family needs first. He goes to sporting events and outings with his friends, and I leave him alone when he’s gone. But they are within reason and sure as heck not consecutive weekends in a row.
Again, the men in my family are not like that. They got married with the understanding that things change, and they changed along with it. I no longer head out to the club with the girls every other weekend…ya know, cause I’m a wife. Nor do I go shopping with them all the time or other things I did b-4 I took on the responsibility of being someone’s wife.
pd
September 28th, 2009
10:41 am
I am a man and a football fan, although I prefer pro to college these days. I also graduated from UGA. That written, I can’t imagine leaving my son on Halloween for anything at all. Thats ridiculous.
Bladez
September 28th, 2009
10:46 am
I think you need to calm down a little Tonya, it’s one day of the weekend. And so what if it is consecutive? And why is it that the person that feels resentment is the one that is the victim here? She can do things that she wants to do if she wants to do them.
Tonya C.
September 28th, 2009
11:02 am
Bladez:
Do you have children? At least two of them? Doing what she ‘wants’ can be tough with them in tow. Michael travels quite a bit for work, probably making her miss him even more. She’s already home all week with them, trying to be a household manager and a mother. It’s really difficult, and as a newly-minted SAHM I understand that this is less about football, and more about he feeling neglected. Missing kids’ activities or holidays should NOT happen….not for a game of any kind.
Saturdays are precious in most families, for a variety of reasons. Just a fact. Especially if as a couple your schedule is hectic during the week, you savor Saturdays as together time. Or your running around time, or your kids time…I think that their lives are changing and although this activity may have fit their schedules when the kids were younger, things may be changing and things need to be re-evaluated.
I know what it’s like to feel like Theresa does, and it sucks. Unfortunately, it’s also hard to put into words without sounding like a whiny ingrate. But I will say this: She let it go one this long without any serious conversation. And that’s wrong. I don’t let things go like that because I’m vocal about what irks me.
Bladez
September 28th, 2009
11:11 am
Actually I have two children under the age of 6. My spouse and I manage quite well and I am an avid hockey fan and player.
Jesse's Girl
September 28th, 2009
11:35 am
Michael….I still think you need to take just a TINY break from being the college football Nazi….
Worn out in the Fall
September 28th, 2009
11:39 am
I married a rabid SEC football fan, and in past 7 years I have only missed a handful of games with him due to family commitments, work functions or illness. He has season tickets to his team and we consistently travel to all home games (4 hrs each way) and to a couple of away games each year. However, this year we are expecting our first child and the first trimester has not worked out well with football season. Believe me, tailgaiting for 5 hours is NOT the same when you are hot and nauseated! But I do it because it is only 6 weekends out of the year, we get to see family and he knows that next year it is going to be different (yes I have already put my foot down). What will change most likely will be me staying at home with the baby & that he can only go to the “big” home games. I know he doesn’t love the idea, but it’s a compromise.
penguinmom
September 28th, 2009
12:04 pm
I have to admit that I do think Theresa over-complicates outings. There is a point of being prepared and a point where you’ve just become obsessive. However, this should not have come as a big surprise to Michael and he should have a little more flexibility. She really can’t have changed that drastically since you last went together before kids. You used to be able to handle it then, why is it such a big deal now?
However, I do completely understand how Theresa would be ‘more and more resentful’ about the situation. Michael’s fixation on UGA football could be perceived as saying ‘I love Football MORE than I love you.’ and ‘Football is MORE important to me than you or the kids.’
It’s not a matter of how many weeks, or even the truth of the feeling. If you are told over and over again, that something is going to take precedence over everything else then you will come to believe the other person loves that thing more than you.
Michael needs to make an effort to be a little more understanding and to perhaps, one year, give up a game in order to sacrificially show his love to Theresa and the kids. Wives want to know they are loved more than anything else.
Theresa needs to be more understanding when she is entering ‘his turf’. He’s not going to want to visit your friend on game day, why even bring it up? Suppress your natural ‘over-planning’ and just go with the flow a little. Obviously, game time is focused time for him and nothing that is not football related will interest him until at least an hour after the game. (Maybe not even then because he doesn’t seem to be the type of person that can actually enjoy another person’s interests.)
Photius
September 28th, 2009
12:10 pm
“Michael needs to make an effort to be a little more understanding and maybe give up one game…”
THE MAN GOES TO ONLY 6 GAMES A YEAR – - – GIMME A BREAK!
JJ
September 28th, 2009
12:17 pm
Theresa, go to Athens with Michael. YOU go meet your friend downtown and do lunch and shopping, and let him go and meet his friends at the game. As Skipper in Madagascar says “Problemo Solved”.
My family will tell you, I am NOT readily available on Sundays during professional football season. I LOVE MY FALCONS. Yes it does complicate things sometimes with family functions, because my brother loves his college football Saturdays. So we compromise and one week we get together on Saturday and another week we gather on Sunday.
Next week, I will be giving up my 1:00 games for my niece’s birthday party with the family. No big deal. He will miss a Saturday of college football to drive us all up to the mountains so we can pick apples, and get our pumpkins.
Kat
September 28th, 2009
12:35 pm
Good grief! How do the two of you stay married? My guess is that your husband lives for football season so he can get away from you! I’d leave her at home too. No offense, but I think she “liked” the games during the courting phase of things only. Take her and leave her in the car with the radio on the game channel and she can put the A/C – Heat on whatever setting she wants.
LadyBullDawg
September 28th, 2009
1:12 pm
I don’t know why all of ye are clamouring that Michael give Theresa her own day out without kids, to make up for her “allowing” him to attend the games when Theresa herself has said she doesn’t completely trust Michael to watch the kids alone, and spends the entire time fretting or constantly on the phone to Michael making sure there are no fatalities.
I say let the man have his football. Plenty of time for other activities some other time.
And Theresa, if we got sick from a soaking in the rain we’d all constantly be miserable; unless you’re the wicked witch of the west, a good soaking won’t do anything but tighten your jeans!
SS
September 28th, 2009
1:38 pm
So many mean spirited comments today! Marriage is to be negotiated between the two parties. It was a big mistake to bring this to the forum for everyone’s two cents–it will only add fuel to the fire.
With that being said, here’s my opinion ;) Theresa and Michael should sit down together and negotiate with each other what they think is fair. I think like with most things the truth is in between somewhere. Six games isn’t a lot, but at the same time being gone six whole days through one season can be a strain. I consider myself lucky if I can find an hour or two of ME time each week, let alone a whole day. My husband works, so he’s not around to relieve me a lot, and when he’s here I am reluctant to leave him. We couldn’t possibly divide things 50/50, but we work together to achieve compromise. I would not be a fan of him picking football over a family function, but there are things that can be scheduled on alternate days without affecting them. There is no one more rabid over sports than my husband, but we work it out. We have multiple tv’s when I don’t feel like joining in. I take interest to share in my husband’s passion and have learned to love a great deal of it myself. I keep quiet for him for the most part during games, just like I would like him to do if he watched my shows with me. He goes golfing or out to some sporting events alone or with friends, but he also watches a lot at home so I know that we (family) are a priority too. I agree that kids and jobs make personal hobbies and passions go to the back burner, although both parties should work to keep them around in some capacity for sanity’s sake. I think Theresa probably has a few annoying habits that could be curbed a little for hubby’s sake, but his column read (to me) as very sour and dismissive. She is a person too and deserves a little consideration. Bottom line: it is in both of your best interest to make the other happy. Michael, sacrifice a little to make her happy and she will be nicer when you go alone which is the majority of the time. Theresa, be considerate of his wishes too so you are an enjoyable person to have around and get more invites. Good Luck!
jack5656
September 28th, 2009
1:41 pm
Mike and Theresa…you guys are cute…in a very Archie and Edith Bunker kind of way. On the surface (and I hope to GOD that there’s more to this relationship than what we see on this blog), you’re the couples my mid to late 30 year old single poker buddies say they have no interest in marriage.
Denise
September 28th, 2009
1:41 pm
I feel that everyone has their “thing”. For Michael, it is UGA football. I’m sure Theresa has her “thing” too. I think that each person needs to be given the time to do their thing in peace. It seems like Theresa doesn’t like to do football like Michael does it – regardless of how much she wants to spend time with him – so I think she needs to stay homeor have him drop her off at her friend’s house.I do think, though, that if he is watching the game at home, he be more flexible to allow her to enjoy her time with him. He needs to be patient with her diversions IF they are during commercial or half time. Compromise is the key. I’m sure Theresa has to sacrifice a lot of “her” time while she takes care of the kids and Michael will be forced to do the same, especially when their kids play sports during the time once reserved for UGA football.
Jeff
September 28th, 2009
2:16 pm
OMG!!!! A male opinion that differs from the wife’s version. Shout him down now and call him insensitive! All happiness must stop immediately!
jack5656
September 28th, 2009
2:45 pm
reminds me of that joke:
Q: Why do women close their eyes during sex?
A: They can’t stand seeing their partners enjoying themselves.
lakerat
September 28th, 2009
3:08 pm
BALLS!!!!
Photius
September 28th, 2009
3:13 pm
Michael is the breadwinner…. sorry folks, if he’s bringing home enough bacon in order to have her raising the kids, going to 6 games a year is a no-brainer.
Codex
September 28th, 2009
3:21 pm
Thats right Michael is the bread winner and what he says goes. I think Theresa’s constant whining should be grounds for divorce.
JJ
September 28th, 2009
3:26 pm
Theresa is a breadwinner also…..she does have a job…..
JJ
September 28th, 2009
3:28 pm
The JJ that posted at 3:26 is an imposter.
Renny
September 28th, 2009
3:42 pm
uh raising kids is a job too…so actually she has two jobs! :)
JJ
September 28th, 2009
3:48 pm
Renny are you male or female?
Vork
September 28th, 2009
3:49 pm
Do you get paid to raise kids? NO!!!
Tinkerballa
September 28th, 2009
3:53 pm
If Theresa doesn’t want you Michael, I’ll take you.
Renny
September 28th, 2009
3:54 pm
male, why? am I gonna hear it for saying raising kids is a “job”?? didn’t mean to offend, just meant she works just as hard as he does.
pd
September 28th, 2009
3:58 pm
Theresa has a job outside of home maker?
I didn’t realize. What does she do?
Not that making the money matters, but I didn’t realize she worked.
I will say this, Michael should be there for his kids on Halloween. I wouldn’t miss my son trick or treating for anything at all. There is nothing better than that.
Zaboo
September 28th, 2009
3:59 pm
I think Renny is gay.
Clara
September 28th, 2009
4:00 pm
That’s not nice Zaboo.
motherjanegoose
September 28th, 2009
4:14 pm
@pd….I am THINKING she MIGHT get paid to to do MOMANIA because if she is doing it for free, she is nuts to put up with the comments today ( especially) or any day.
Let's face it.........
September 28th, 2009
4:18 pm
Keeping a blog isn’t exactly hard work; I know plenty of women who work full time (outside the home), care for their families, and still keep up 2 – 3 postings daily. On topics that are far more riveting than some that have been posted here.
And MJG, regardless of whether Theresa’s doing this for free or not, she opted to open this forum to comments and so must take the good with the bad.
Stookie
September 28th, 2009
4:21 pm
I can’t believe some people on here make some outlandish assumptions b/c you read this blog everyday. No one except Michael and Theresa know how their relationship is.
Not sure if it is women making things more complicated as it is men just need very little to be happy and anything outside that normal routine sucks. Theresa, you should just let him have his thing, especially since it is only 6 saturdays a year. My girlfriend lets me have my time on Sundays to watch the NFL and I never crash any of her 12 hour scrap book sessions all while taking care of our boys.
nurse&mother
September 28th, 2009
4:44 pm
LMAO!! Theresa, you remind me of myself many years ago (maybe there are still a few similarities).
I am not too keen on inclement weather like rain. We didn’t just have rain this weekend….. we had a FLOOD. I thought I was going to get swept out to sea crossing Broad near the Holiday Inn express. That was one game I where I should have stayed home or at least gone shopping.
Theresa, I too did not go to many games when the children were young. We have a three years old AND potty trained rule for going to the stadium and most theme parks. I am just now getting back into the loop after about a 3-4 year hiatus. I DID still tailgate. When everyone went to the game, the little one and I would go shopping. I am having a hard time catching up to who is who at Georgia.
I really love Georgia football for several reasons:
1. It is fun to get the family together and spend quality time.
2. It reminds me of my college days at UGA
3. It is a great way to socialize with all my tailgate buddies
Ok, Michael from one talker to another (your wife), there is nothing wrong with talking to the neighbors. When you have season tickets like we do, you get to know those around you. It’s like meeting up with family you haven’t seen all year. We typically have some nice folks sitting near us (in the nose bleed section).
Theresa, you are welcome to hang out with me in Athens anytime!
P.S., call me if you want to go shopping in Athens.
nurse&mother
September 28th, 2009
4:47 pm
One more thing…Theresa, if Michael wants a little Bourbon and coke, then so be it. My hubby likes Crown with his coke. As long as he paces himself, I don’t care. I will say food does help him to pace himself better after a long day of tailgating.
April
September 28th, 2009
4:58 pm
T & M: It sounds as if some compromise is needed here. Theresa, I agree with others who say it does not sound as if you are truly a fan of going to the games. That is OK. Maybe you could trade-off some days with Michael. For every Sat. that he gets to spend “tween the hedges”, you get a day to do something that you want to do – alone, without kids in tow. That way maybe you would not be so resentful of M’s days at the game.
Michael, could you compromise a little on the plan for the day – I know I would have to have some food – other than the liquid nourishment that you rely on (although that sounds good, too). However, I agree with you on the rain thing – if you go to the game, you take whatever the skies send you.
I am also interested in how the conflict with Walsh’s games has been solved.
Not Today
September 28th, 2009
5:15 pm
MJG One thing your bring up a lot is how this is this is Theresa’s blog (and it is) and how she gets paid (and she does) etc.
What you fail to accept is that this is a PUBLIC forum. All of her comments are sent into cyber space and are free to be responded too. Same as to the topic, one aspect or another may grab people.
This is NOT a classroom where Theresa is the teacher up front and all of us ’students’ have to do what she says. You however often seem to think that it should be that way.
Theresa did an awesome blog a year or more ago. It was all about how she had thought this blog would be a place where people would tell her she was right (happens less often than she likes according to her), where SAHM would converse (you are proof that isn’t it), and that we would all have discussions on the key points she thought up.
Theresa learned early on that these forums have a life of their own. Every regular on here at some point has begged you to stop trying to make it so dang rigid about who can say what. So please, consider that this is one of those things that you don’t get to control.
Kat
September 28th, 2009
6:04 pm
Getting paid to PUT UP with today’s comments? WTH? You can tell how bossy and annoying she must be at a game, if she is posting like a regular blogger to this site instead of letting him get his say. I let my husband read this column so he realizes how GREAT his life actually is.
motherjanegoose
September 28th, 2009
6:39 pm
@ not today…
WOW…I totally missed the blog about this being for SAHM and I apologize if I am the only one here who posts and has a job outside of the house….am I the only one?
My point was that Theresa has THIS job and even though some of you think she should bow to her husband’s every whim because he is pulling in the lion’s share….one would assume that she does get paid to put the entire thing together…am I also the only one who assumes she might make enough to buy a few groceries from dealing with this every day?
I DO NOT feel that Theresa is the one and only here….she puts out the topic and we all jump on board…we do not have to agree with her BUT this is her blog as it looks like her name is on the very top of the page every day. While I do not always agree100% with her point of view I respect the fact that she comes up with one each day. Some posters hide behind their screen names and spew hate….that is just plain rude. I also think that Theresa does have ways to eliminate posters if they get too out of hand, kind of like a teacher sending a child out of the class….. we had some trolls who were eliminated last year.
As I said early today…I am not into football …oh well. I am in with those who think Theresa should have at least 6 days to herself and let Michael have his 6 days too!. If there is a written marriage rule that says both spouses must enjoy all the same things? We never got it in our house. My husband does not like theatre, plays, musicals or even reading a book. His palate is much more limited than mine. I just plan things I enjoy with others who might want to join me. NO BIG DEAL!!! We do the things we like together and excuse each other from the things they do not like.
Today, I am thankful for my job….no one is mean and hateful and most of the kids love me.
Not Today
September 28th, 2009
6:56 pm
Yes MJG you missed the point entirely. It was certainly about the how the blog is for SAHM. ….Hello, this is earth….it clearly states she once said she figured that was all she would get. Heck its MOMania and they (T and the paper) probably only thought they would get Mom’s.
The coolest thing about this board is that it governs itself. It may have Theresa’s name on it, but it ceased being truly her’s alone a long time ago. It has become the blog of the regular’s with Theresa being more like Linda Richman ” Talk amongst yourselves.” (Mike Myers on SNL). It is the whole “Give a [blog] we’ll talk, no big whoop” attitude that makes this whole thing work.
motherjanegoose
September 28th, 2009
9:16 pm
The motherjanegoose that posted at 6:39 pm is an imposter.
deidre_NC
September 28th, 2009
9:27 pm
i think its a sin to mix bourbon or crown with coke…at least not very southern…youre supposed to mix it with branch (water) :)
Cutty
September 28th, 2009
9:55 pm
Sounds about right to me.
Cuz
September 28th, 2009
10:55 pm
Just be glad he isn’t a hunter also. On the weekends he was not at games he would be out murdering Bambi.
mom2boys
September 28th, 2009
11:17 pm
Both of you sound like whiners. I don’t know any man who would go to the game and go all day without eating, whether it’s a $5 hotdog or whatever. I don’t see why Theresa packing stuff that makes her more comfortable should be a problem, although I can see that listening to her whine about it for two or three days would get old. And I don’t see the problem with Michael going to every UGA home game, nor do I see the problem in him having bourbon and coke. Can’t Theresa drive home if he drinks too much? I doubt he will get falling down drunk anyway. Why can’t you find a compromise? Theresa, you need to have a couple of girls weekends and do something fun. Every couple needs time apart and every couple needs time together. And Michael, when your kids are old enough to be involved in various activities, I hope you realize how much fun you can have for a few short years sharing in those activities and cheering them on. If you choose to spend THOSE Saturdays in Athens, that is definitely something you will regret later.
Annie
September 28th, 2009
11:35 pm
Growing up my Dad was an avid supporter of his team; I remember waving bye as he’d head off to one of the few games he would attend. As us kids got older, we had the option of going with him. My fondest memories from my childhood, apart from our family vacations, are of my Dad and me heading off to a game together. And it’s something we still do, if I happen to be visiting during the season. So Michael heading off to watch his 6 or 8 games or however many there are really isn’t a big deal. Everyone needs a little down time, a time to switch off from the real world for a little while and just kick back – he choses to do so at a UGA game………how do ye let off some steam????
Mike D
September 29th, 2009
12:10 am
Wives complicate everything. My wife eats nothing, on the day I bought my new stainless steel grill at Lowes, I took her out to lunch. Arby’s (which we both agreed on) had a 5 item for $5 plan. 2 sandwiches, 2 Cokes, and split a fry – I’m not cheap but that was the plan. She added a desert which made the items deveate from the special to a $8 dollar lunch. Then she didn’t eat the desert.
Wreck
September 29th, 2009
12:32 am
College football season lasts 3 months. My wife gave me hell the first three years because for three months out of the year, I have Tech football at the top of my priority list. Hell, she makes the rules the other nine months. I’ll be in Starkville this weekend and Tallahassee the next week. It’s what I do this time of year. As the years go by….she’s much more understanding.
Jodi
September 29th, 2009
2:08 am
I’m the season ticket holder in our family. When my husband married me, he got access to UGA and Braves season tickets plus I got tickets to Bears and Cubs games for him (he’s from Chicago).
I used to come early and stay until after the band played after the game. For one thing, getting off-campus until long after the game was over was nigh impossible. I cooked elaborate dishes for tailgaiting, packed linens and china to use and had the decorations on the car.
I’ve since become ill and can’t go to the games anymore. We live on the TN/KY border now and since my illness, can’t travel down for the games. I certainly can’t take the heat.
Some people just don’t enjoy the experience of the game. My mother didn’t, but she was a die-hard Dawg fan too. The crowds, the heat and the noise aren’t for everybody.
But I’d give anything to be able to go back and sit on the hard seats, listen to the band, watch the Dawgs, pet Uga and slather myself in sunscreen.
clyde
September 29th, 2009
5:03 am
If I couldn’t find something better to do on a weekend than watch a football game,I wouldn’t bother to get out of bed.
2_dawgs
September 29th, 2009
6:00 am
too bad for you. my wife of 26 years is low maintenance. we both graduated from UGA and return for home games. before kickoff all she wants is a few drinks at the Roadhouse and a chance to watch the sea of humanity pass by. at the game she watches intently and asks a few questions about penalties, plays and personnel. nice to be at the game with my best friend. now if the team could just beat LSU.
deidre_NC
September 29th, 2009
7:18 am
cz..if he was killing bambi he would be contributing to the family freezer :)
mom3
September 29th, 2009
9:04 am
Didn’t Theresa know anything about this man before she married him? My husband is a RABID dawgs fan – he goes to every home game. I knew this before we married. I married him anyway. I used to go to the games, and now I stay home with the kids. I get to go to about one game a year. Since I knew this before we started, I figured it wouldn’t be fair to complain now. It’s not like any of us expect our husband to MATURE.
nurse&mother
September 29th, 2009
10:47 am
Aww, Jodi I feel so bad that you can’t do something that you so love. I will think of you every time I go see the Dawgs play. Lots of prayers and love to you! Hopefully you will get better soon and come back!
Theresa Walsh Giarrusso
September 29th, 2009
11:13 am
2 Dawgs — the point here is she is getting to go — I don’t GET to go — I haven’t been allowed to go to a game in 3 years!! somebody has to watch the kids. — And it would be way to expensive to get babysitters for every game for me to go with him every game —
Mom3 — we used to go together to all the games — even after we were married and even the first year of our first one — after that …
To all the questions about what will Michael do when Walsh has “games” on Saturday — I don’t think he’s figured that out yet — we didn’t sign him up for a sport this fall — Michael will have to make some decisions about where his priorities lie –
MR164
September 30th, 2009
10:37 am
Hello KEC.