Taylor Swift a good role model for kids!

Good role models in pop culture are few and far between, but I’m proud that my 8- and 6-year-old like Taylor Swift.

The 19-year-old country music star writes her own songs, plays multiple instruments, always thanks the fans and those who have supported her and hasn’t become a diva or a problem child despite incredible success at a young age.

Tonight on the MTV Music Video Awards, Swift showed incredible grace and composure after Kanye West stormed the stage and took the microphone from during her acceptance speech for female video of the year. He basically said that Beyonce should have won the award. Not only did she handle the incident well, less than 10 minutes later she performed live, singing her song “You belong with Me” while riding in a moving subway car from one location to the next.

Tomorrow, I’ll be proud to let my kids watch Swift win and perform. Juxtapose Swift’s behavior with that of  Katy Perry _ another of my kids’ favorite singers _ earlier in the evening.

Since Rose loves Perry, we called her out of her room to see her perform “We Will Rock You,” which the kids love because they get to sing it on the school bus on Friday afternoon if they have been good all week.

Perry ended the performance with a gratuitous crotch grab. My husband and I both yelled at the same time “Go to bed!”

Earlier in the day, we had to tell Rose to turn off a Perry video that we found inappropriate.  Perry is obviously not a good role model, and I had a hard time thinking of any young people in popular culture who would be good role models. That’s why Swift stands out to me, and her behavior tonight made her stand out even more.

I know there are great role models for our kids in the real world – soldiers, nurses, teachers, doctors – but the reality is kids and teens focus on the stars they see on TV, in the movies and hear on the radio.

Who else do you feel in popular culture are good role models? Who do you encourage (or at least not mind) your kids listening to or watching? Who is on the NO-NO list? (A much easier list to create!)

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Tiffany

September 14th, 2009
1:33 pm

@ MomtoAlex&Max: Are you for real? Hannah Montana- AKA Miley Cyrus is HARDLY a “bubble head” as you call her, and excuse me, but calling the Jonas Brothers “idiots who peddle their religion like snake oil”…???? Do you even know who these people are? The Jonas Brothers are extremely talented young men who by the way are EXCELLENT role models…you should be proud that your kids listen to them. And as for Miley Cyrus/Hannah Montana- she is super talented and a very down to earth teenage girl who by comparison to other young entertainers is also an AWESOME role model. She sings, acts, writes music, makes tons of money and contributes to her family and others…she is hardly a “bubble head”.

RS

September 14th, 2009
1:36 pm

HOW COME NO ONE MADE THIS MUCH FUSS ABOUT THE PRESIDENT BEING HACKLED!

LET ME BOO MY BOSS WHILE AT A SHARES HOLDERS MEETING AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS TO ME.

I SHOULD CARE ABOUT THIS….WHY.

Sug

September 14th, 2009
1:52 pm

The Jonas brothers DO NOT have talent…..they are just another flash in the pan boy band, and will NOT be around in 5 years……..

Remember Britney Spears? Another flash in the pan……
Miley Cyrus talented? oh please, another flash in the pan…….they only reason she is popular is from over exposure………

Soulfinger

September 14th, 2009
1:54 pm

This is so sad. I have no idea why people still take Kanye West seriously. I think what he did was so tacky and disrespectful. I have no idea who the fudge Taylor Swift is but I know she didnt deserve to have her moment in the sunshine to be tainted by the likes of Kanye “crybaby” West. To make this about race is just a ploy to create division in a nation where most want to come together. This cannot be a black thing since Beyonce who saved the day is black herself. And if roles were reversed…Axl Rose snatched the mic out of B’s hand to say whatever woulda been frowned upon by me just the same. As far as role models go, I agree with a lot of what was already said. Its not up to folks on TV to provide your children with guidence, that’s a parents job. There are lots of great “role models” on TV but kids should know the difference between real life and tv land.

T-Bone

September 14th, 2009
1:55 pm

Kanye = Black Trash!

Sick of It

September 14th, 2009
1:57 pm

These comments are ridiculous… I watched the VMAs and thought it was completely out of line, and yes, obviously Kanye is OOC. I was just as “outraged” as the next person, but honestly, it’s time to let this go. Most of the comments on here are ridiculous… how you go from some celebrity being rude and disrespectful to philosophizing on the “proper” way to raise children is beyond me. Maybe it’s time that we all stop clicking the “Entertainment” tab (myself included) on our news sites and start focusing our energies on the current state of affairs in our country, from the economy to race relations to health care reform. I shudder to think what kind of REAL movement and progression could be made in our country if we all got so hyped up and outraged over political issues and reform as we do about Kanye disrespecting Taylor Swift or Rihanna’s domestic violence issues or Brad and Angelina adopting another child. Use it as a distraction but don’t get consumed by it. I’m just sayin.

jcatl

September 14th, 2009
2:04 pm

She should have given him the forearm shiver.

lakerat

September 14th, 2009
2:05 pm

@Becky

Yep it’s me.

jcatl

September 14th, 2009
2:09 pm

Sorry, today people are still paying attention to the Beatles, the Rolling Stones, the Who.

In 40 years no one will remember Miley Cyrus, the Jonas Brothers or Kanye West.

Daniel Carver

September 14th, 2009
2:11 pm

WAKE UP WHITE PEOPLE!

I got a nice tree waitin’ for Kanye up her in North Georgia..

JoeV

September 14th, 2009
2:15 pm

The “V” stands for “Vagina.”

Tiffany

September 14th, 2009
2:20 pm

Sorry, Sug, you are wrong. Compared to the so called Boy Bands- the Jonas Brothers have tons of talent. They actually write their own songs and play their own instruments. Miley probably earns more than anyone these days from one of her tours and cd sales…and oh yeah, last I heard Britney was doing pretty well, too. She’s been busy with this thing called a World Tour…

raja

September 14th, 2009
2:24 pm

The Truth here is the truth

Taylor Swift have two different albums on billboard top 200

Fearless rank #9 on the charts 43 weeks
Taylor Swift rank #47 on the charts 150 weeks

Beyonce I….am Sash Fierce #49 on the charts 42 weeks

Kanye West nothing in the Top 200

Taylor have more #1 hits from her albumn than Beyonce and sold more

She did all this with her clothes on. She deserve this and some.

Tiffany

September 14th, 2009
2:28 pm

Sorry, Sug, you are wrong. Compared to the so called Boy Bands- the Jonas Brothers have tons of talent and they are very gay.

HB

September 14th, 2009
2:28 pm

“They actually write their own songs and play their own instruments.”

So did Hanson.

Sug

September 14th, 2009
2:39 pm

HA HA HA HA HA HA HB that was good!!!!! Hanson Who????

And Tiffany, the Jonas brothers are gay????

Denise

September 14th, 2009
3:08 pm

Yes, Wilson apologized but he never should have done it in the first place. Same as Kanye. He apologized to. Not because he’s repentant but because he got called out. I suspect that Wilson did it for the same reason.

The reason Kanye’s foolishness is not garnering as much media outcry like Wilson’s foolishness is because Kanye doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things and neither does Taylor Swift, no matter how angry I am on her behalf. Barack Obama is the PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES! Anything that has anything to do with HIM is a bigger deal than anything Kanye’s dumb ass can do.

Apathy

September 14th, 2009
3:14 pm

My balls itch.

Soulfinger

September 14th, 2009
3:14 pm

jack.5656

September 14th, 2009
3:16 pm

Isn’t approaching 40 a little old to be watching the VMA’s? Will the topic tomorrow be about The Real World or Road Rules? There were TWO notable interruptions during the last week…and THIS is the one that gets it’s own headline? Teresa…SERIOUSLY?

nurse&mother

September 14th, 2009
3:16 pm

Very well spoken Patrick!

Hypocrites Stand Down

September 14th, 2009
3:19 pm

Why did this turn into a conversation about how Black people act? What does the actions of a very rich Entertainer who is black, and the actions of a very rich entertainer who is white have to do with anything except for their actions? This is entertainment. Every year, something “happens” to cause a stir at the VMA’s, and every year, people gather around the tv to she the Train Wreck of the year! If he hadnt’ done it, what would you all be talking about. A few things about Kanye West: 1) He is not now, nor was never from the Ghetto, nor a thug? His mother was a university professor and he is highly intelligent, even if he does not show it that’s not part of his stage persona. 2) Kanye is a multi-millionaire, who’s greatest talent does not lie infront of the mic, but behind the mic, as a producer, and believe me, nobody is going to turn down the opportunity to be produced by him…..NOT EVEN TAYLOR SWIFT! 3) It was show business folks…… Get over it, shows make ratings by viewers, viewers watch for the drama…….and 4) Taylor Swift handled the situation gracefully on the spot. Beyonce is a lady, and did what a “Lady” would do, it was unfortunate that when she was confronted with such grace as Beyonce showed her, she couldn’t remember to say thank you…… So let’s not talk about breeding or upbringing, all children are taught to say that when someone does something for you!!!!!!

HAY!

September 14th, 2009
3:25 pm

@Hypocrites Stand Down

If I had the opportunity to be produced by Kanye West I would most assuredly turn it down. Puff Daddy/PDiddy/Whatever he wants to call himself this week he is not.

Captain Obvious

September 14th, 2009
3:37 pm

@Hypocrites Stand Down

The fact that she did or did not say thank you is irrelevant. BTW…You have no idea what went down unless you were actually there. The fact is, Taylor shouldn’t have had to say thank you to anybody but her fans.

Bruce

September 14th, 2009
3:50 pm

I agree with Faith. I don’t allow my daughter to have any entertainer as a role model. How can she model herself after someone she only sees on tv. She only see any entainer maybe 2% of the their life. I mean I would atleast like for her to pick someone she sees and is able to interact with to be her role model. Now if she was to be a singer and wants to seeing like someone that is fine.

Dr. Horrible

September 14th, 2009
3:51 pm

I think “Taylor” should have given “Kanye” a Swift kick in the balls.

?

September 14th, 2009
3:59 pm

wow REALLY. Black ppl like that are so freakin ignorant. Get a life stupid fool.

raja

September 14th, 2009
4:49 pm

Taylor Swift has two different albums on billboard top 200

Fearless rank #9 on the charts 43 weeks
Taylor Swift rank #47 on the charts 150 weeks

Beyonce I….am Sash Fierce #49 on the charts 42 weeks

Kanye West nothing in the Top 200

Taylor did all this with her clothes on.

PJ

September 14th, 2009
5:34 pm

I didn’t see the awards, because I quit watching MTV over a decade ago, but I read about the incident this morning. This seems to be right in line with everything I read about Kanye West. It seems like every time he makes news it’s for doing something rude and disrespectful: the “Bush hates white people” line, his sour grapes outburst at another award show when his video that “cost a million dollars” didn’t win, keeping the Bonnaroo audience waiting way longer than he should have for his show. Does the man ever actually perform, or does he just travel around to high profile events to get attention and make an a$$ of himself?

Despite all his famous outbursts and insults, this time he may actually suffer some consequences. This time, he embarrassed a very popular and powerful R&B artist who also happens to be married to one of the most powerful moguls in the hip-hop music business. This time, Kanye showed that he is not just rude, classless, immature, and full of himself — he’s also a fool.

Both Taylor Swift and Beyonce’ showed grace and poise in their responses. I think it’s very appropriate to point that out to children and youth who saw the incident. Both ladies showed how to rise above a bad situation and not let yourself be dragged down by a rude, classless buffoon who craves attention.

A lot of attention has been paid to the fact that he stole Taylor’s big moment, which he obviously did. He also stole Beyonce’s big moment. She won the top award of the night and felt compelled to relinquish her time and the spotlight to Taylor. I have a feeling Mr. West will live to regret that.

Jonnyboy

September 14th, 2009
5:36 pm

Come on is anyone surprised by this? Look at the culprit. Enough said. When is the community going to wake up and start making those thugs pay?

Jonnyboy

September 14th, 2009
5:37 pm

Isn’t he the *ss clown that suggested Bush was racist? How does that shoe fit West?

Jonnyboy

September 14th, 2009
5:42 pm

RS so are you condoning it? If so you are such a hypocrite. It doesn’t matter if he is black or white this kind of thing is unacceptable. And how do you know there wasn’t outrage with the President? So why is it you don’t care….maybe cause she is white? Keep perpetuating that thought base.

Jonnyboy

September 14th, 2009
5:45 pm

Hypocritc stand down said: “he is highly intelligent”, I think that is debatable…better yet I think that is out and out incorrect!

Jonnyboy

September 14th, 2009
5:47 pm

Hypocrites Stand Down sorry I did not read the rest of your drivel. You can not be serious? People like you are what is wrong with this world. Scary.

Soulfinger

September 14th, 2009
5:50 pm

Disrespect and bad behavior comes in all shapes, sizes, and COLORS.

ray

September 14th, 2009
5:55 pm

i find this interesting, that we have more people outraged by what Kanye West did what than what the congressman done, but this is the country we live in, both were very disrespecful, but nobody is giving Kanye West an ad-a-boy, the they did the congressman….he is a hero to a lot of people for doing that to the president…. I wonder what you child thinks of that role model….So if Kanye’s a thug, he and Wilson are brothers….

RH

September 14th, 2009
5:55 pm

Bruce, Faith … how do you “not allow” your children to have Entertainers as role models? Are you that clueless as a parent that you think your kids have no idea who these people are, follow them, and try to emulate them? Parents have not been able to control their kids since the days of Elvis, so how in the World do you think you have the magical parental touch? All “helicopter parents” that think you have some sort of hold on your children are in for a big disappointment!

Uga

September 14th, 2009
5:57 pm

I hate Ignorant black ppl. they are so annoying and always want attention

The Truth

September 14th, 2009
5:58 pm

“what if Axl Rose snatched the mic out of B’s hand to say whatever”, this would not happen he is not a thug! How many times have you seen a white person do this? I am still waiting, please don’t confuse the issue. This stuff happens more often then not when blacks are involved. That is why you are getting these type of replies. Does that mean the whole black community is like this? NO, but the ratio’s are higher for this group. Come on people time to call this what it is and stand up for your race (I am talking to Blacks). Call this clown and brothers of his ilk out. That is the only way to move forward.

The Truth

September 14th, 2009
6:02 pm

Soulfinger
Disrespect and bad behavior comes in all shapes, sizes, and COLORS.

You are so right but that is kind of like passing the buck wouldn’t you say. So we just say hey everyone does it so it doesn’t matter?

1sus

September 14th, 2009
7:32 pm

Someone should have tackled Kanye in the middle of his ridiculous comments! Good for Beyonce and her comments about remembering being a young performer winning and then giving Taylor Swift her time to accept the award.

deidre_NC

September 14th, 2009
8:11 pm

wow…this sure got off topic lol…to D-you said god bless america…he did and look what we did with his blessings….
to MJG-i wish i lived in atlanta id love to have lunch with you…i love having conversations with intelligent people who actually have opinions and stuff :)…
as for role models…i never let my kids watch roseanne until they were old enough to not be influenced…those peiople were the most sarcastic bunch of people to each other…as an adult i have to admit some of it was funny…but it got old..i cant stand people to be so mean…there is no excuse for it…so any people i favored as role models for my kids were people who were nice-honest….people who liked to read and learn new things-people who made it through adversity-those kids of people…most were just people we knew…not famous people on tv…i know they have adverssity in their lives, but face it..most of what we hear of their adversity is how hard it is for them to stay sane when making millions of dollars…geeze—or how botox injections messed up their faces…i always tried to make my kids be satisfied with what they are born with…their intelligent levels..make the most of that…be able to carry on a decent conversation with people–be able to form their own opinions..even if no one agrees….be honest-have integrity…are kids even taught those things anymore? those are the kids of people i tried to steer my kids to.

sure hope we get back to a more normal mommania tomorrow….im off work for 2 days (this is my tgif!!) so i have plenty of time to hang out and post…

and to the person who dissed theresa about the topic..go back and read what the topic was…it wasnt meant to be how it ended up…

Denise

September 14th, 2009
9:35 pm

Here is a link to an article on Kanye and Wilson’s outburts. Suggests that they were scripted.

http://hiphopandpolitics.wordpress.com/2009/09/14/the-phony-corporate-sponsored-disruptions-outburst-of-kanye-west-joe-wilson/

1911A1

September 15th, 2009
9:27 am

The guy’s a drunk who got his brains (and apparently his self-control) from a bottle of cognac. “Stupid is as stupid does.”

There is entirely too much worship of celebrities, simply because they are celebs. Look (if you dare) in the checkout lines for proof. Remember back in the day, when “Entertainment Tonight” covered actual careers and projects by actors/musicians, etc? Now it’s just gossip. Most celebs are tortured, miserable yet talented people who are expertly packaged and marketed by those who stand to profit from celebrity worship.

I must agree with what other posters have said: kids need real people – teachers, coaches, pastors, etc. – as role models, not some coddled, dysfunctional person who happens to be famous.

History of Health Insurance

September 15th, 2009
10:48 am

RS — Obama and the Senator work for the PEOPLE….not each other. The Senators job is to represent his consituants. That said he was out of line to use that forum to redicule the President. His mama probably did teach him better and if alive wants to knock him upside the head.

The Rappers comments were no more racial than Sen. Wilson’s. BOTH were WRONG WRONG WRONG for what they did and how they did it. I do not believe race was a motivator in either case.

ABC said that the President called the Kayne an a$$….well he did show his rear. Plus, I respect the President more if he actually did call the guy that.

Denise

September 15th, 2009
2:14 pm

Captain Obvious, if Taylor Swift did not thank BEYONCE for giving up HER moment then she is wrong. Beyonce had no obligation to give Taylor the spotlight. She chose to because she’s classy but she didn’t have to. When someone does something for you that they don’t have to do, you say thank you.

Warrior and Mom

September 16th, 2009
1:27 am

I know that Kanye would have sustained some injuries if he had done that at the CMAs. It must be hard for him to understand that the attraction of Taylor Swift is her wholesome image, and she’s not in the ‘ganster’ thug genre music he creates. Country is mainstream…even Hootie has gone country.

Rap offends me, and I don’t let my kids watch any videos unless I have first seen it. I usually do watch CMT…videos. My girls are 10 and 11. They like Taylor Swift because she is genuine herself, writes her own songs, doesn’t have a parent pushing her career–ie Miley, and doesn’t have to go around “pretending and lying” like Miley does on Hannah Montana.

Denise Edmondson

September 16th, 2009
2:33 pm

Kanye’s remark was so racist! U can dish it out, but u cant take it?

shianne

January 9th, 2010
7:57 pm

hi i know that i am not a perent but beleve me she is verry much a good roll model for kidz!!!!

Richard

February 14th, 2010
1:35 am

why would you let your 6 year old and 8 old watch mtv…they shouldn’t be looking up to katie perry at age 6, turn off the tv and spend time with your kid