Taylor Swift a good role model for kids!

Good role models in pop culture are few and far between, but I’m proud that my 8- and 6-year-old like Taylor Swift.

The 19-year-old country music star writes her own songs, plays multiple instruments, always thanks the fans and those who have supported her and hasn’t become a diva or a problem child despite incredible success at a young age.

Tonight on the MTV Music Video Awards, Swift showed incredible grace and composure after Kanye West stormed the stage and took the microphone from during her acceptance speech for female video of the year. He basically said that Beyonce should have won the award. Not only did she handle the incident well, less than 10 minutes later she performed live, singing her song “You belong with Me” while riding in a moving subway car from one location to the next.

Tomorrow, I’ll be proud to let my kids watch Swift win and perform. Juxtapose Swift’s behavior with that of  Katy Perry _ another of my kids’ favorite singers _ earlier in the evening.

Since Rose loves Perry, we called her out of her room to see her perform “We Will Rock You,” which the kids love because they get to sing it on the school bus on Friday afternoon if they have been good all week.

Perry ended the performance with a gratuitous crotch grab. My husband and I both yelled at the same time “Go to bed!”

Earlier in the day, we had to tell Rose to turn off a Perry video that we found inappropriate.  Perry is obviously not a good role model, and I had a hard time thinking of any young people in popular culture who would be good role models. That’s why Swift stands out to me, and her behavior tonight made her stand out even more.

I know there are great role models for our kids in the real world – soldiers, nurses, teachers, doctors – but the reality is kids and teens focus on the stars they see on TV, in the movies and hear on the radio.

Who else do you feel in popular culture are good role models? Who do you encourage (or at least not mind) your kids listening to or watching? Who is on the NO-NO list? (A much easier list to create!)

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Kem

September 14th, 2009
10:50 am

First I will not even attempt to defend Kanye. However, I bet a great deal of the people blogging were not this offended when Wilson called Pres. Obama a liar. Also you cannot compare Serena Williams outburst with Kanye’s. Serena’ was a reaction to a terrible call in the US Open. In the heat of the battle.

A lot of the bloggers have turned this into a racial issue. Rev. Sharpton, Jackson, Wright and others would not even waste their time with this non-issue.

JoeV

September 14th, 2009
10:51 am

The “Allmand” Brothers band? You’re nuts!

wanye

September 14th, 2009
10:57 am

kanye west……….
not cool man…not at all.

he just did it, cuz he wanted tha attention, since he didn’t win an award and cuz of his boy.. jay-z(sean carter)
dat’s his (jay-z’s) wife (beyonce).

wanye

September 14th, 2009
10:58 am

kanye ….
u lose lotta cool pts. 4 dat 1, man

FCM

September 14th, 2009
10:59 am

They say she did the subway performance live:

Swift did just that. Minutes after having her acceptance speech interrupted by Kanye West, the Best Female Video winner took to the city’s subways and streets to perform her song “You Belong With Me.”

Dressed in a brown trench and black beanie, the 19-year-old began her performance busking in the 42nd Street Bryant Park subway station. As her unrequited-love song crescendoed, the country star tossed off her dowdy attire to reveal a knee-length, cherry-red dress, hopping onto the F Train to begin her subway dance party. Flanked by a carful of passengers, the party train docked at the Rockefeller Center stop, where Taylor emerged in front of Radio City Music Hall, ending her performance atop a yellow cab declaring, “I love you, New York!”
(MTV SITE)

BB

September 14th, 2009
11:01 am

As a white American I am proud of how President Obama acted after Joe Wilson’s outburst and I am proud of how Beyonce acted after Kanye West’s outburst. That is how our children should be taught to act.

LOL

September 14th, 2009
11:16 am

I was reading another story that chronicles the list of all the disruptive things that Kanye has done. It’s amazing how long it is http://www.guardian.co.uk/music/musicblog/2009/sep/14/kanye-west-taylor-swift-timeline.

It’s one thing to have an opinion that the award should have gone to another person. Each to their own. It’s completely over the line to take a mic from a person who just won an award and said another person should have gotten it. In my opinion, he should be banned from the show. However VMA and other award shows probably welcome the publicity.

Amy in the ATL

September 14th, 2009
11:35 am

I don’t know about role models for kids at the VMAs, but I do think there are some lessons for the adults and older kids. For one, getting drunk and acting like an a*hole is selfish and hurtful, including to the ones you may be trying to “help” (in this case, Beyonce). Second, I think we also witnessed some very good gracious behavior, which would have happened when the empathetic Beyonce gave her airtime up to let Taylor finish her speech. That was very classy, and I hope that act of kindness gave a little sparkle back to Taylor’s evening.

On a side note, I hope the very influential Jay-Z makes special mention of Kanye’s voice recording “enhancements” and bad behavior in his next song…..

Kanye West

September 14th, 2009
11:37 am

It’s because I’m black, isn’t it?

Man, why everthing gotta be racial?

Hmmm

September 14th, 2009
11:39 am

Does anyone think that just maybe MTV staged this whole act?

JJ

September 14th, 2009
11:42 am

Robin Geaney your 10:15 post is very sad. You ONLY allow your kids to watch or listen to two entertainers, but you grew up with the Allman’s?

How do you plan to get your kids to love and appreciate music by only allowing two?

I never censored any music in my house. I wanted my child to learn to love all kinds of music, not just what I like……I have made comments about certain songs, but I will not censor music in my home……

Right and Wrong?????

September 14th, 2009
11:43 am

Even though Kanye was wrong, how many times has White people made a racial remark? Left black people out, murdered them, and rapped the women? All of it is wrong, but he felt justified in his actions just like white people felt justified in their actions. There is to much in this world to worry about, if a young lady got an award over another. I never heard the young lady, but if she is up for an award she must be good. NO ONE should have stole her moment, that was an experience of a life time. I hope that she gets many more.

Please stop.....

September 14th, 2009
11:46 am

@You’re wrong Michael – Here we go again…..The people that make the most noise about something being about race ARE THE ONES that make it about race!!! Don’t you get it?!?!?

Gamer

September 14th, 2009
11:47 am

Meh….FAIL!!!

confused

September 14th, 2009
11:53 am

lakerat, MTV stands for “Music Television”. Country music is music whether you listen to it or not. I’m not a fan of it, but I do enjoy a song every now & then. Some could say that a rapper has no business winning an MTV award. I never saw Taylor’s video or listened to her music, but again, she must be talented to beat out the ladies she did (I mentioned all but Kelly Clarkston in my last post. Sorry. She’s really talented also). What Kanye said was his OPINION. So Beyonce’ didn’t win best female video. She did win video of the year. I again give her props for letting Taylor have her moment.

I thought this blog was supposed about Taylor being a role model. We all have pretty much step away from that subject. From all I’ve heard, she’s a good person. I still feel the parent should be the positive role model, but if one has noone else then she would be as good as any. I’d rather she be one then Kanye. Just as I’d rather President Obama be instead of Joe Wilson. Wilson & West both lack class. There is a way to express your opinion without being disrespectful to anyone. Both President Obama & Taylor Swift handled their oppossers with dignity and grace. Role models? I would think so.

Ramblin Rick

September 14th, 2009
11:54 am

The guys on South Park nailed Kanye Waist a few months ago… What a terrible thing to do to a 19 year old kid….

pop music is bad music

September 14th, 2009
11:55 am

The most shocking thing about all of this is that they still have a video music awards show. I was not aware that MTV even showed any videos.

1911A1

September 14th, 2009
11:58 am

Real BIG MAN, picking on the young girl. I’d like to see what would happen if he pulled that with Hank Jr. instead.

lakerat

September 14th, 2009
11:58 am

@confused

Do they play ANY Country music on MTV? NO!!! I rest my case.

Bobby

September 14th, 2009
12:00 pm

What about Michael Vick as a role model? He screwed up, paid his price, admitted he was wrong, and has gone back to work with no attitude. He doesn’t act like the world owes him anything, he’s just back doing what he loves to do.

Good job Miss Swift for being a class act. Just goes to show that country girls with a good raising are the kind of girls the world needs more of.

STOP TALKING!!!!

September 14th, 2009
12:02 pm

@lakerat

Do they play ANY music period on MTV? NO!!!

Who Cares?

September 14th, 2009
12:04 pm

Just another example of some of the people in our society who do not even deserve recognition, much less attention! What a moron! Taylor Swift earns an award, and this useless pile gets on stage and runs his mouth. People, right and wrong knows no color. This guy should never be allowed on stage again with other people. If he wants to draw a croud of his “followers and fans”, then so be it. But he has once again shown that if he’s going to be in a crowd, he needs to be chained, shackeled, and and have his mouth stuffed so everyone else in the room can enjoy the environment they’re in. Disgusting!

JJ

September 14th, 2009
12:06 pm

I am so stinking sick of this racial crap!!!!

I wish it would go away…….

New Stepmom

September 14th, 2009
12:07 pm

@lakerat….because Taylor Swift has crossover appeal, many of her songs have been remastered for the pop audience. I listen to her on country radio and my step daughter hears her remastered tunes on pop stations. That is why she is on MTV. It is called marketing.

I agree with Theresa that Miss Swift is a good role model and hope that this episode only brightens her star. Her music is a little single themed, but 10 year olds don’t care and I do not mind my step daughter hearing this young talent. The things I like the best are she dresses appropriately for her age, she writes her own music, she does not seem to be sleeping around (if she is that is her business, but she is not advertising it), and she does genuinely have a good voice.

confused

September 14th, 2009
12:08 pm

@ lakerat, unlike you, I don’t sit in front of the television all day watching MTV so I don’t know if they play country or not. Regardless, Kanye was wrong in the way he handled the situation dear!!! Get over it. @ Stop Talking…thanks.

confused

September 14th, 2009
12:10 pm

Becky

September 14th, 2009
12:16 pm

@confused..Loved your fist paragraph..It’s a shame others are judged by the actions of someone else just because of race..

As for her talent..As I posted earlier, I don’t really think she’s that great of a singer, but I do like her songs..I think she’s more for the tweens..I don’t listen to a lot of Pink and I’m not sure if I know anything tha Lady Gaga sings..I was raised on mostly country and southern rock..I do listen to a lot of different music now & I’m all the time asking a fellow coworker who sings this or if we are talkig about a song, I’ll ask if I know who that is and she’ll say yes or no..

SAR

September 14th, 2009
12:17 pm

I still can’t forget how he cried and cried all over television about his mother dying after her blotched surgery. The punk would never do this to a guy, he’s too big of a sissy.

lakerat

September 14th, 2009
12:20 pm

@confused

No you have better things to do like spend your day on a newspaper blog arguing about nonsense.

Ripley

September 14th, 2009
12:21 pm

Ms.Simon

September 14th, 2009
7:23 am
Let me just say that I didn’t agree with how Kanye came out.

But…………

I must say I agree with him. No way Taylor Swift should have won over Beyonce. Guess what, Some of you KNOW you agree that Beyonce should have won over Taylor also.

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Do you not understand this award? The viewers vote for the awards and the most passionate viewers/audience are teenage girls (Titanic $1.8 billion boxoffice champ for twelve years; Twilight hoopla?) They are Taylor Swift’s main fans and they vote often, just ask American Idol. And by the way, it’s your opinion that Beyonce should have won, I don’t share it and I’m not a kid.

Beyonce was lovely and gracious in trying to save the night for that child – I applaude her.

Kanye West

September 14th, 2009
12:22 pm

You have to understand. I miss my mommy very much and that makes it ok for me to do stupid things.

Denise

September 14th, 2009
12:22 pm

It is disturbing to me that people are saying that Kanye West is undermining the image that Beyonce and other Black folks have built up. This is 2009. Beyonce, though she is beautiful, talented, and graceful, has not built an image of Black people. Who we are as people -as AMERICANS – has nothing to do with one person’s outburst nor one person’s positive response. We have a Black President and we’re talking about Kanye’s impact on race relations. WTH? I know folks don’t like President Obama (so what, he’s still OUR president like Bush was OUR president) but clearly his accomplishments, his wife’s accomplishments, other Black people’s accomplishments speak more about Black people than Kanye’s stupid ass. And if you disagree then you might be a racist, or at least someone who wants to look down on Black people as a practice. Another thought – Does Wilson’s outburst color the way White people are seen? He was tacky, disrespectful, arrogant, and basically an ass (just like Kanye). Is he now the poster child for how ALL White people behave? No. And some people have the audacity to justify his bad behavior because they disrespect President Obama. Classy, really classy. Except it’s not.

JoeV

September 14th, 2009
12:23 pm

Becky,

Thanks for divulging your taste in music…not only is it completely off topic, but no one cares.

Have a great day!

Ripley

September 14th, 2009
12:23 pm

And now I will go back to killing Aliens….pew, pew, pew…

Hunter of MILFs

September 14th, 2009
12:26 pm

@Becky

I care deeply….don’t listen to JoeV.

confused

September 14th, 2009
12:27 pm

Becky, thanks. I have a 17 year old who listens to country, pop, rock, rap, and r&b. My child doesn’t listen to much Taylor Swift, but likes her okay. I never heard any of Taylor’s songs until she sung last night. She not bad, but I’ve heard better. But, there’s always someone better. She in fact better than some others I’ve heard. I agree that she’s more for the tweens. As for Lady Gaga you have to have a taste for her. She a great talent in a strange way. Like you I have to ask about a lot of artists. There must be something about them if they can be as successful as they are. Overall, we all have our likes & dislikes. We just need to respect each other’s choices.

confused

September 14th, 2009
12:29 pm

@ lakerat, obviously so do you. And you’re the only one arguing.

Why oh Why?!

September 14th, 2009
12:32 pm

I do believe that MTV is culpable. Had it been some random fan that tried to get on stage they would have stopped that person immediately. They allowed him to go up there knowing his history and knowing that he had been drinking.

And no MTV rarely plays music anymore. It, like all of the other music channels that they own, mostly airs these stupid reality shows that serve no purpose other than dumbing down the audience. Green Day said it best when they won: MTV start playing more music videos.

Not a Kanye Fan

September 14th, 2009
12:49 pm

You would think that after displaying such behaviour on numerous occasions that he would be banned from ever appearing on live television. He clearly has some issues that need to be addressed and being in denial is only making matters worst. Maybe they should add a category for ignorance, but I’m sure that he would somehow be proud of that as well.

appalled @ john

September 14th, 2009
12:53 pm

john, regardless of how you feel about him, that comment was mega disrespectful. way more so then what he did last night. for shame.

Call it Like It Is

September 14th, 2009
12:53 pm

Why was this Racist Moron allowed on the stage?

This guy slammed Bush without a slap on the hand and now this!

This no talent bum should be banned and made to apologize.

Enough Said!

appalled @ john

September 14th, 2009
12:54 pm

well said denise

Call it Like It Is

September 14th, 2009
12:56 pm

Hey Denise,

Wilson apologized for telling the truth about the Socialist Racist President.

Where is the mass media outcry on this issue?

Who cares what this Racist no talent bum thinks?

What a loser!

Enough Said!

appalled @ john

September 14th, 2009
1:00 pm

whew. the world really hasn’t changed has it? glad man doesn’t have a heaven or hell to put me in.

Busta Rhymes

September 14th, 2009
1:05 pm

Isn’t this the same dude who said Bush hates black people? Isn’t this racist behavior? No wonder white people are fed up with all this balck racism! West is just another black thug that continues the perception of racism being acceptable among blacks but outrageous from whites. People like West will continue to promote racism and it will never change with behavior like his.

BB

September 14th, 2009
1:08 pm

THE HATERS HAVE ARRIVED (Call it Like It Is) Let’s just all leave and maybe they will go away.

unemployed black peoples

September 14th, 2009
1:14 pm

whys yalls be hatin on kanye????? he just be representin its tough on da brothas out there yall dont know what it like to be black. kanye spokes da truth !

Atlanta_Tiger_Fan

September 14th, 2009
1:17 pm

He’s a no-class thug and should be banned form ever appearing on ANY awards show or public forum!!!

Becky

September 14th, 2009
1:29 pm

JoeV, go on back and hide behind you Mothers apron..I know that this is a public blog, but I was talking to confused..

Hunter of MILF’s thank you..

@confused..Glad to hear that your child listens to all types of muisc..Music should be just that, there shouldn’t be a type of music for blacks, whites, pink or green..If you like it, that should be enough..I tried (and failed) to get my nieces to listen to what they call “old people” music..Anything over 5 years old and that was what they called it..

is the lakerat that is posting today our regular lakerat? I don’t think that sounds like the person that we are used to on here..

JoeV

September 14th, 2009
1:33 pm

Touchy Becky? Hide behind my mother’s apron? What does that even mean?