Taylor Swift a good role model for kids!

Good role models in pop culture are few and far between, but I’m proud that my 8- and 6-year-old like Taylor Swift.

The 19-year-old country music star writes her own songs, plays multiple instruments, always thanks the fans and those who have supported her and hasn’t become a diva or a problem child despite incredible success at a young age.

Tonight on the MTV Music Video Awards, Swift showed incredible grace and composure after Kanye West stormed the stage and took the microphone from during her acceptance speech for female video of the year. He basically said that Beyonce should have won the award. Not only did she handle the incident well, less than 10 minutes later she performed live, singing her song “You belong with Me” while riding in a moving subway car from one location to the next.

Tomorrow, I’ll be proud to let my kids watch Swift win and perform. Juxtapose Swift’s behavior with that of  Katy Perry _ another of my kids’ favorite singers _ earlier in the evening.

Since Rose loves Perry, we called her out of her room to see her perform “We Will Rock You,” which the kids love because they get to sing it on the school bus on Friday afternoon if they have been good all week.

Perry ended the performance with a gratuitous crotch grab. My husband and I both yelled at the same time “Go to bed!”

Earlier in the day, we had to tell Rose to turn off a Perry video that we found inappropriate.  Perry is obviously not a good role model, and I had a hard time thinking of any young people in popular culture who would be good role models. That’s why Swift stands out to me, and her behavior tonight made her stand out even more.

I know there are great role models for our kids in the real world – soldiers, nurses, teachers, doctors – but the reality is kids and teens focus on the stars they see on TV, in the movies and hear on the radio.

Who else do you feel in popular culture are good role models? Who do you encourage (or at least not mind) your kids listening to or watching? Who is on the NO-NO list? (A much easier list to create!)

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September 14th, 2009
12:23 am

I think Kanye should be Boycotted. That was absolutely uncalled for.


September 14th, 2009
12:24 am

Kanye has absolutely no class. I don’t really care for Taylor Swift’s music, but she handles herself very well.

Good job, Beyonce! That was very classy. You can’t make up for what the idiot did, but you sure tried your hardest. I hope you give that fool a piece of your mind and tell him it is time for him to grow up or shut up.


September 14th, 2009
12:24 am

Kanye is mad because Taylor Swift is much more talented, making more money, and a foot taller.


September 14th, 2009
12:25 am

Kanye West is a washed up joke and ego-maniac! He’s always pulling stupid stunts on award shows! They need to ban him and his stripper girlfriend! They need to ban that annoying British host as well after what happened last year but MTV LOVES shock and controversy over doing the right thing MTV just wants the BUZZ at all costs!


September 14th, 2009
12:26 am

hey, you guys can really leave race out of it though, just because the victim here is white, and the jackass is black, does not make this a racial issue!!!

im white, but stupid skinheads who make racist comments on here need to get checked!!

Honestly, yeah… unfortunately the “trashier” culture in our society appeals more to the African American (im sorry, is that politcally correct?) population… and that sucks because it exposes itself as that population is trashy

but that is not true. i know plenty of African Americans very well who are stand up, class act, righteous Americans who represent WHAT IS ALL GOOD IN THE WORLD.


As honest Abe once said…a house divided cannot stand. please… do not make stupid comments like that. it only makes me lose more faith in humanity.


September 14th, 2009
12:28 am

Hey guys, is Kanye from atlanta?


September 14th, 2009
12:36 am

I feel Kanye should have shown more class and voiced his opinion later on because he might be right in Beyonce’s video was better.It was a typical Kanye moment in trying to steal someone elses spotlight at an award show with his big mouth it is getting old HE NEEDS TO GROW UP.

Rev. Right

September 14th, 2009
12:38 am

Hey guys, is Kanye from atlanta?

no he is from Chicago like Obama and rev Wright.

Miss Opnion

September 14th, 2009
12:48 am

Kanya is an idiot! This has nothing to do with his race…he is just an fool that happens to be black! I agree that if the races were reversed it would cause an outrage ( yes I am black) but the bottom line is that this has more to do with his lack of sense and self control! I think he is very talented but I am not a fan because of his behavior. I am not a fan of Taylor Swift either (totally because I don’t know her music well) but that is no reason to ruin her moment…she obviously deserves the praise. I hope that Kanya feels sorry for this where it will hurt an idiot like him…in his wallet! Let’s not endorse his bad behavior and boycott him!


September 14th, 2009
12:53 am

Taylor has more talent in her hangnail than Kanye will ever have. What a loser. BOYCOTT HIS SONGS and DELETE HIS MUSIC.


September 14th, 2009
12:58 am

Kanye shows his racist self again!!!

What makes this so bad is i am willing to bet a million dollars that Kanye NEVER even watched Taylor Swifts video and therefore could not honestly say that Beyonces video was better than Taylor Swifts!!!

You're wrong Michael

September 14th, 2009
12:59 am


Sorry man but you’re wrong. There clearly are racial undertones in what he did. What one earth would black people or the media in general say if Beyonce had won the award and a male white country artist stormed on stage, grabbed the mic from her, then said Taylor’s video was one of the greatest of all time? The media would be talking about how racist white America and country music in particular are and Al Sharpton and Jesse Jackson would be wanting marches and blah blah.

What’s sad is that black people are now conditioned to think its okay for them to openly display racist behavior toward whites. They don’t think a thing about it because to make them accountable for their own brand of racism would in their eyes be “racist.”

Race relations in this country are going backwards for the sole reason that black people will act like this is just an isolated incident. But if the reverse happened black people would insist that its proof of institutionalized racism in America. Until everybody starts being held to the same standard regardless of race this double standard of excusing black people for their outright racists like Kanye, Reverand Wright, Jess (Hymietown) Jackson will continue.

Just saying

September 14th, 2009
1:02 am

I also saw a picture of his exiting the awards with a huge bottle of liquer which is no excuse but probably played a huge part in what happened. I lost respect for him and will not be listening to his music anymore.


September 14th, 2009
1:02 am

“During my high school years, it’s the music that I really felt saved me. It kept me out of the streets, it kept me from getting into trouble, it gave me something to do when I got kicked off the basketball team. You just get lost in the music. That’s what I did.” KANYE WEST

No Kanye, you got lost in your own bulls**t. Your music is not going to save your a$$. You are still the same pathetic loudmouth you have always been. If you are buying KANYE WEST music you are just as bad as this loser.


September 14th, 2009
1:05 am

Thank you KANYE WEST. Somebody done something right and you did it.

Poopy Pants

September 14th, 2009
1:38 am

Kanye West is the racist. Kanye West doesn’t care about white people.

Shameless act to steal the spotlight and embarrass Taylor Swift like that. He pulled this same stunt a few years ago at the European VMA’s. Why do they keep inviting him to these shows?

I doubt Kanye would have pulled this stunt at the Country Music Awards.

Poopy Pants

September 14th, 2009
1:44 am

Oh and Kanye West likes Fish Sticks. And his auto-tuned crap he calls “music” is awful.


September 14th, 2009
1:45 am

Well the good thing is we can all count on the Reverends Al “hyme-town”Sharpton and Jesse “where is my money” Jackson to issue a public statement denouncing Mr. West’s behavior. To show I truly believe this I will hold my breath until they do.

Sheineekwa Dontarius Jones

September 14th, 2009
1:50 am

Kanye is da bomb, and he can come to my crib anytime.

Poopy Pants

September 14th, 2009
2:01 am

I need to give props to Beyonce for letting Swift come back out and let her accept her award (again) when it was actually Beyonce’s time to accept her award for best video. It makes Kanye look like an even bigger ass that Beyonce ended up winning anyways.


September 14th, 2009
2:54 am

I felt bad for Beyonce too you could tell she was so embarrassed.

Also to the originally blogger, I’m pretty sure Katy Perry did not sign up to be your daughter’s role model.

Chief Wiggum

September 14th, 2009
3:12 am

Kanye West is a pathetic, hateful, spiteful racist. Kanye West hates white people (and that is a reference to one of HIS famous comments).

Besides that, he’s a no-talent hack.


September 14th, 2009
3:21 am

i am a black man, i totally agree what kayne did was way out of line. kayne don’t represent me for a lot of reason. so stop with the racist commets. grow up.

David Milton

September 14th, 2009
3:26 am

Katy Perry’s hit was about kissing a girl, why would you be surprised that a crotch grab was also in her repertoire? She’s all edgy and stuff! Look! How edgy! Kanye IS hip hop since he glorifies and pimps the self to excess. There is something at work though, beyond the simple marketing ploy. Imagine if Axl Rose grabbed the mic from Beyoncé and pimped Brit Brit… oh my, what good fun we’d have then.

The Truth

September 14th, 2009
4:16 am

We have turned this into a racial thing when it is not. I’ll admit “Mr. West” handled the situation wrong, but he also said something that a lot of people were wondering… How is it possible for Taylor Swift to beat out the most popular song of last year? We talking about Pop and R&B charts. There was nowhere you could look or go without hearing “put a ring on it”. Again, Kanye could have pick a better time, but his words rang true. And for those who plan on deleting him from your iPOD or whatever…once you’ve purchased to music, it doesnt matter!


September 14th, 2009
4:38 am


I have always said that the clearest indication of society is not when a particular event occurs but people’s reaction to it. I really pray for this country.

Journalism is at an all time low (see this post).

The music industry sucks (look at the VMAs.. it is a shame that the best performance yesterday was a clip of Michael Jackson’s rehearsals)

People lack respect for each other (as was shown at the VMAs and on the comment section on this board. Some commentators on here are not better than Kanye West.. all reside in cesspool).

Judging people is at an all time high (e.g. when we begin to idolize celebrities and look at them as role models.. there is a problem).

Morale is low.

The recession.

Personally, I am always interested when a scandal breaks out in this country. The reaction of the citizenry of this proud nation speaks volumes at the current state of this country. And it is a very sad state. God bless America.


September 14th, 2009
4:40 am


People are getting their panties in a bunch of a MOONMAN????!!! Who cares that Taylor won? That was her moment.. Kanye acted like Beyonce had been mugged in the street. It was not that serious. Classless conduct. But I am more worried by the commentary on this board.. it is more newsworthy than anything Kanye did


September 14th, 2009
4:43 am

How is West’s behavior any different than what he has already shown.

Remember this, from just over 4 yrs ago: “George Bush don’t like black people”.

I’d never paid attention to him before that remark, and I made a POINT to avoid him since then.

To those trying to make this a racial issue, remember that while West is black, so is Knowles. That alone should be proof enough that it is not ALL black people that are like West.


September 14th, 2009
5:10 am

Totally classless, juvenile, remarkably stupid behavior. Anyone that doesn’t see this for what it is hasn’t been paying attention. This is the same brainless moron that said ‘Bush don’t like black people’ after Katrina. Imagine the total OUTRAGE from some of the pot stirrers like Sharpton & Jackson if a white performer had done the same thing to a black performer. However I expect nothing to be heard from either of those dolts. People need to realize one thing…….it’ll be a cold day in hell before race relations are anywhere close to what they should be in this country. If you don’t agree just listen to the hate-filled rhetoric that some of the so called “peace keepers” in this country spew whenever it suits them to get behind a “cause”. The thing that gets me is why whites are supposed to be PC about everything but blacks can say whatever they want? That’s equality??

Just saying

September 14th, 2009
5:19 am

Kanye took advantage of the fact Taylor won….had any other female in the catagory won (Pink, Kayte Parry…etc.) he would have thought twice as he would have gotten a swift kick in the nads. He needs to realize if you go to the VMAs year after year and don’t win maybe it’s time to try some new that you may actually be good at and move on. Beyance has more class then Kanye ever will and yes, he just looks like a bigger a$$ since she won an even better award.


September 14th, 2009
5:35 am

racist, yall sound real foolish saying that
before swift performed she was ask who would she like to see perform, she said she was excited to see kanye. crazy this happen after she said that


September 14th, 2009
5:58 am

I will say this first to make sure it’s clear. I am a man of color. I have only found one song of Kanye’s worth owning. I have never been a fan of him..his music..or his attitude. I am truly embarrassed that someone with his spotlight continuously makes a mockery of the opportunity to do good. The elephant in the room is yes as cras as this was some people who share my ethnic background may cheer since it was country and they wouldn’t know Taylor Swift from Trisha Yearwood. I understand that our country is trying hard to deal with race right now. Having a man in the white house that represents a growing minority is troubling to some. It also gave some false hopes to others. Kanye represents the segment of all society that has a huge chip on their shoulder and they can’t shake it. They want to blame everyone else for it , but they wish to take little or no responsibility for it. There are blacks, whites, hispanics, asians..you name it that have this chip. The difference between them and Kanye..he is invited to high profile events and he is given a microphone. Taylor Swift handled it well..better than she should have. Unforetunately you won’t hear from the so called Black spokespeople on this one..Al and Jesse will be silent. I didn’t vote for them to represent me anyway..I don’t think anyone did. They were chosen by the media..and they accepted the job and its spotlight. No form of justice will ever correct the wrongs of the generations before us that failed to get the race thing right. Its our job to move forward..Stop bashing Barak..but hold him accountable..as we should..stop blaming Republicans…they are at fault but they were not alone. Stop giving Kayne a mic and lets move forward. If we don’t people like Kanye win..and we as a people and as a nation lose..the price at losing in 2009 is greater now than at any other time in our history. Drop MTV and pick up a book…oops we were talking about Kanye.

Mandi Pinni

September 14th, 2009
6:03 am

While I too consider Kanye West’s behavior aawful, disrespectful and “hammy” (as in getting PR and all this attention), I cannot believe how much press this is getting! He’s getting more press mimicking ‘Joe Wilson’ than ‘Joe Wilson’ did against an American President! This is bad to me. I’ll share why I am upset at this: This is Music Television that many of your readers (and possibly you, the writer) wont remember how ’selective’ it was. How the then President of MTV put out a note at that time saying they would only show Rock videos and Blacks don’t ‘rock’. Kanye’s ill-conceived notion here – did this on the night that Michael Jackson was being honored, who fought tooth and nail mind you to get his and others including Country Music stars videos played on MTV. Taylor Swift was the recipient of a horrible speak out gone wrong. If that is the case, putting Kanye’s behavior aside and looking at the reaction to all of this I’ve gotta now wonder: Was Kanye’s intent, not his behavior, but intent…correct? We have much to learn about ourselves.


September 14th, 2009
6:07 am

Ahh yes, another low class exibition from low life West. A true disgrace to African Americans. He and Beyonce are at opposite ends of the class spectrum. West “don’t like White People.”.


September 14th, 2009
6:14 am

For as long as I can, I will not expose my children to enteretainers on television. My kids listen to ALL kinds of music, but they don’t know who these people are; with the exception of Hanna Montana (a bubble head) and the JonasBrothers (idiots that peddle their religion as if it were snake oil, and this comes from a Christian btw); whom they don’t like.

I encourage my kids to look up to every day people who are good role models: some teachers, scout leaders, coaches, etc. I expose my children to the kinds of people that I would want them to be when they grow up. Entertainers always struck me as ego filled bubbleheads. No thanks. And for the most part, that goes to sports figures too. I don’t need to explain why “their hero” got kicked out of a team because he used drugs/raped a woman/abused dogs/cheated.


September 14th, 2009
6:17 am

So Kanya pulled a Spike Lee. The MTV base is urban – its really amazing that a CW star would even have a chance!


September 14th, 2009
6:17 am

somebody needs to kick Kanye’s a$$


September 14th, 2009
6:19 am

Taylor will gain alot of sympathy and even more astounding record sales thanks to Kanye. Just in time for the CMA’s too. Kanye needs to be locked up.


September 14th, 2009
6:21 am

Dang it – Kanye, messes up someone’s great moment by trying to be the ‘dude in charge’. Guess we will have to put up with the ‘race’ card comments now for the next 6 months – Hey world – want a sore loser – dictionaries all over the world are now putting a picture of Kanye West beside the word – definition enough. When is the public and events going to stop inviting someone who only cares about himself and how much money he has and how much bling he can possess. Good job, Taylor, you had a chance to really bust his chops but did the right thing – he is just a big bully.

Mid-South Philosopher

September 14th, 2009
6:27 am

Some folks are just the “south end of a north bound mule.” Few of them, like Kanye West, go on national T.V. to remove all doubt!


September 14th, 2009
6:31 am

LOL at Poopy Pants. No, Mr. No Class West would never have gotten away with such behavior at the CMAs. He would have had an escort to the door.


September 14th, 2009
6:33 am

Please don’t make it a race thing. This shows that there is a small % of race ignorance with both … but the majority knows “the right thing”. I didn’t see it cause I turned it off and sent my kids to bed early as so language was blanked out. Even though you don’t kear it, the first thing children do is race to the lyrics to see what they said. Too bad we have allowed enterainment to stoop to such a level.


September 14th, 2009
6:37 am

Hopefully Kanye West is not invited to any more awards ceremonies. He’s pretty much a talentless hack anyway. And he seems to be racist to boot.


September 14th, 2009
6:46 am

i never liked kanye west and now i can show proof why i dont like him or his music :D (but i am a hip hop fan)

Darreltavious Tucker

September 14th, 2009
7:07 am

Kanye – Quit reinforcing the stereotype.


September 14th, 2009
7:23 am

Let me just say that I didn’t agree with how Kanye came out.


I must say I agree with him. No way Taylor Swift should have won over Beyonce. Guess what, Some of you KNOW you agree that Beyonce should have won over Taylor also.


September 14th, 2009
7:33 am


I do remember when Brittney Spears first came out and my daughter was ooing and awing ( sp?) over her.
My neighbor told me how cute and wholesome she thought she was and I was not convinced. I smelt trouble and guess the aroma was hidden well but I did pick up the scent. In fairness, I think it is very difficult to remain wholesome while being someone attached to Hollywood…too many influences.

HAPPY BIRTHDAY to nurse and mother…have a great one! Happy Early Birthday to newmom’s baby girl and do we have any news on number 2?

@ newmom ( late Friday comment) …it IS a blast to meet some of the posters on this blog, such as having lunch with DB on Friday at one of your favorite Italian places….can you guess?

I will NOT be planning a Momania reunion as I catch too much grief for simply stating my opinion.

I really enjoy meeting new folks and getting to know them one on one. There are many posters on this blog ( IMO) are simply here to be anonymous nutcases who would prefer not to show their face as an attachment to their comment I am all for having lunch with anyone who wants to get together.. or if someone else wants to take on the planning for the group. Please let me know.
Have a great day all!


September 14th, 2009
7:36 am


Kanye is just upset because some little white girl won. BooHOO Kanye, go cry to your momma-no one hear is listening to you!


September 14th, 2009
7:37 am

It’s also not a ’stereotype’ when more than half the people in the U.S. act that way…quit confusing stereotypes for truths!

U are so stupid

September 14th, 2009
7:44 am

I don’t think there were racial undertones to what he did. He was drunk, Beyonce is the wife of his close friend/former boss, and Beyonce’s song did get more airplay on the radio, on tv, online, etc. than the Taylor’s video. I barely know the song and that is only because I looked for it when I kept hearing her name being mentioned.

He was wrong for what he did, and I don’t think anyone (black or white) thinks that what he did was ok. He has done this before, his behavior is his own. Why is it that white people are not penalized and associated with every crime or misstep that a white person makes, but let a lone person of color do a crime or make a mistake and we are all lumped in the same group. Kanye’s actions stand on their own.