Taylor Swift a good role model for kids!

Good role models in pop culture are few and far between, but I’m proud that my 8- and 6-year-old like Taylor Swift.

The 19-year-old country music star writes her own songs, plays multiple instruments, always thanks the fans and those who have supported her and hasn’t become a diva or a problem child despite incredible success at a young age.

Tonight on the MTV Music Video Awards, Swift showed incredible grace and composure after Kanye West stormed the stage and took the microphone from during her acceptance speech for female video of the year. He basically said that Beyonce should have won the award. Not only did she handle the incident well, less than 10 minutes later she performed live, singing her song “You belong with Me” while riding in a moving subway car from one location to the next.

Tomorrow, I’ll be proud to let my kids watch Swift win and perform. Juxtapose Swift’s behavior with that of  Katy Perry _ another of my kids’ favorite singers _ earlier in the evening.

Since Rose loves Perry, we called her out of her room to see her perform “We Will Rock You,” which the kids love because they get to sing it on the school bus on Friday afternoon if they have been good all week.

Perry ended the performance with a gratuitous crotch grab. My husband and I both yelled at the same time “Go to bed!”

Earlier in the day, we had to tell Rose to turn off a Perry video that we found inappropriate.  Perry is obviously not a good role model, and I had a hard time thinking of any young people in popular culture who would be good role models. That’s why Swift stands out to me, and her behavior tonight made her stand out even more.

I know there are great role models for our kids in the real world – soldiers, nurses, teachers, doctors – but the reality is kids and teens focus on the stars they see on TV, in the movies and hear on the radio.

Who else do you feel in popular culture are good role models? Who do you encourage (or at least not mind) your kids listening to or watching? Who is on the NO-NO list? (A much easier list to create!)

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Anna

September 13th, 2009
10:51 pm

Taylor’s subway performance was prerecorded.

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

September 13th, 2009
10:52 pm

was it really?? we need to verify!!

Adam

September 13th, 2009
10:55 pm

Agreed she showed grace, restraint, and composure, but the performance that followed was pre-recorded. (Thank goodness.)

Theresa Walsh Giarrusso

September 13th, 2009
10:56 pm

I wondered why her make up wasn’t all smeared!! holy moly — I would have been bawling!!!

E

September 13th, 2009
10:58 pm

Actually Swift’s performance was prerecorded. She was seen backstage crying hysterically. But I agree, she totally handled it well onstage. Clearly she was dumbfounded, but who wouldn’t be. Poor girl.

Faith in 09

September 13th, 2009
11:01 pm

I am sorry but as a parent, I do not allow my children to use “entertainers” as role models. They are entertainers! People who are actually improving our society and not contributing to the roting morals that are spread across the media are those who I would consider as role model materials – not someone that created a song and shot to fame singing about questionable sexual behavior put to a catchy beat.

D

September 13th, 2009
11:08 pm

I would add David Archuleta to the great role model list. I think a David and Taylor duet would be great!

Gail

September 13th, 2009
11:17 pm

What a total jerk -Kanye West

Beyanke

September 13th, 2009
11:20 pm

I sooo used to like Kanye but just deleted all his music off my ipod. Too much of a bad thing for me.

Gregg

September 13th, 2009
11:22 pm

Very well said, Faith. Pop culture is having such a negative effect on our kids.

Killer Tofu

September 13th, 2009
11:24 pm

I love Katy Perry.
I hate the Kanye did this to Taylor. I hope that he will apologize to her. He gets carried away too easily.

Gregg

September 13th, 2009
11:24 pm

Faith – Unfortunately, the force of pop culture is strong and hard to overcome. Kids get Facebook accounts when they’re in elementary school and suddenly their outward appearance supercedes anything that’s real.

Kaz

September 13th, 2009
11:25 pm

Disgusting. The man has a ton of issues. One main one being that haircut!

Jamal

September 13th, 2009
11:25 pm

Why wasn’t Kanye thrown through a window onto the sidewalk?

Tbrew

September 13th, 2009
11:25 pm

Kanye West, still an idiot after all these chances.

Who asked you, Kanye?

September 13th, 2009
11:26 pm

I have never seen and cannot imagine an entertainer so rudely interrupting another entertainer’s acceptance speech. Kanye, keep your opinions to yourself. Your momma is undoubtedly rolling over in her grave for your despicable actions!

Duxxs3000

September 13th, 2009
11:27 pm

Kanye is nothing more than a big baby.It’s not like he’s really talented or anything.He thinks he’s going to be the next Elvis when really I see him as the next Mike Tyson.WASHED UP.

ant banks

September 13th, 2009
11:27 pm

kanye acts so much like a b*tch. i can’t think of any other male rapper who does as much cryin’ as this guy. he is soo much like little richard. “y’all didn’t give me no award!!” grow up

Keisha

September 13th, 2009
11:27 pm

Kanye, the idiot, is doing whatever it takes to get him in the news and here we are talking about him. I applaud Taylor Swift for her win.

Baby

September 13th, 2009
11:29 pm

Kanye West is a jackass. Security should have rushed him and escorted his behind off of the stage. We are tired of this egomaniac!! Get over yourself West!

East Atlanta

September 13th, 2009
11:30 pm

Kanye, go away!! We don’t want you around here.

youdon'tgetit

September 13th, 2009
11:32 pm

chill out faith in 09.
what this person is trying to say is that not only has taylor gone out to follow her dreams, but she has done it with respect and manners. wouldn’t you want your kids to be inspired by someone who has followed her dreams and done it with grace?

thank you

September 13th, 2009
11:32 pm

Kanye is a total narcississt who should have been put out out the venue. Disgraceful behavior.

Kassie

September 13th, 2009
11:37 pm

What Kanye did was wrong! If you are gonna be like that at least keep it to the adults…leave the kids alone….@ REALLY…you are and idiot……

Tiffany

September 13th, 2009
11:37 pm

I love Taylor Swift, and so do my kids. We are all just stunned at what happened to poor Taylor. Kanye really must have a mental problem or something! I also feel sorry for Beyonce who I am sure was shocked at the comments. Taylor is a beautiful and talented young lady and she very much deserved her award.

say what?

September 13th, 2009
11:40 pm

please “Really” it is not about race. This is a moron who happily admits not reading. Reading is fundamental to life, and social grace. Kanye’s next move in the news will be a staged suicide. The guy needs help and he is not getting it.

As for entertainers being role models, they are put out as role models, BUT not in my house. role models are in your life everyday, encouraging you, and providing what is necessary for the next generation to be better than the last.

sarfdawg

September 13th, 2009
11:40 pm

Typical rap thug. Only in that community do you see this kind of classless behavior. I suppose I’ll be labeled a racist, but that’s really not it. Most black folks are wonderful people. The problem is that this thug behavior, particularly on stage, comes from that group. Credit to the Bill Cosbys of the world that don’t tolerate that trash.

hobberskins

September 13th, 2009
11:42 pm

Glad I was watching the US Open! Oudin, Nadal, Clijsters, Fedderer, Venus are much better role models for kids and adults than you’d ever find on the VMA awards. And that’s coming from someone who spends any free time & money in a local music hall. Kanye is a simple minded piece of trash….sore loser….must be a republican. HA.

hobberskins

September 13th, 2009
11:45 pm

Sorry MTV awards… who give a squid?

Have kids – turn your TV off. Take them to do something worth while, like LEARN an instrument, sport, integrity.

John Smith

September 13th, 2009
11:46 pm

Kanye West hates black people. Otherwise, why would he insist on making them look so bad?

MONEY

September 13th, 2009
11:47 pm

THIS IS FOR REALLY AND MS. WEST BOTH OF YOU NEED TO LEARN TO THINK BEFORE YOU TALK.

jeffrey

September 13th, 2009
11:48 pm

I think it is sad that parents and children have role models that aren’t accessible and in your everyday life. My role model was my mother and grandmother, people who always showed me the right way and were there for instant feedback!

jm

September 13th, 2009
11:48 pm

Now if it had been a white person doing that to a black person…What would have happened?

April

September 13th, 2009
11:48 pm

@Faith in 09 – I hate to tell you this but your child choice of role model is not something you “allow.” You can guide, encourage, and advise, but in the end, children are real people with their own ideas and opinions. There are many people from different walks and professions who make wonderful role models. Occasionally, one of those people happens to be an entertainer.

[...] shouldn’t matter, considering that this is a 19 year old girl who has done nothing but be a shining role model in the media. Kanye apparently proceeded to flip off the crows while Taylor was crying [...]

Joe Smoe

September 13th, 2009
11:57 pm

I think its sad that Kanye West is so selfish and so racist that he felt he needed to destroy Taylors moment in the process. The guy has so much talent, yet! time and time again, he abuses his fame. What if someone had done that to him? Kanye would have blown a gasket. I guess it could be semi predicted however… as it did come from the same guy who said “But my greatest pain in life is that I will never be able to see myself perform live.”

Lets be honest however. We all know he will still sell records, we all know we will still see more of him on more awards shows. You know MTV further loved the drama.

Taylor is such a Disney style girl however, she will recover swiftly (couldnt resist) and will have other career moments in the future. Next time she simply needs to have body gaurds blocking the stairs to the stage.

kanye sucks

September 13th, 2009
11:59 pm

My only comment is this…if it was reversed…if a white person took the microphone from a black person and raved about a white person’s video, there would be an outrage about racisim. Well, I think this is a perfect case of reverse racism. Which everyone nowaday seems to be so afraid so say publicly.

Kanye the Thug

September 14th, 2009
12:00 am

My Mama taught me to be a poor loser and to cry like a bitch when I lost a contest so I was jus’ actin like my mama taught me. Leave me alone;I’m a poor black child.

DB

September 14th, 2009
12:02 am

When my kids were young, I never allowed them to watch MTV. The videos were becoming more and more suggestive, and the language on the few shows that I glanced at was a major turn-off for me. I monitored the kid’s listening of CDs until they were in their mid-teens, and they weren’t allowed to purchase any that had the parental warnings on them.

I’m sure that when they were at friend’s houses, they probably watched and listened, but never at home. My daughter and I watched several episodes of “Parental Control” one day last year, and neither one of us could believe the disrespectful nastiness, rudeness and obscenities flowing from the mouths of the BF/GF that parents were hoping to eject. What trailer park were they thrown out of?! If MTV was taken off my channel lineup, I’d never miss it, and neither would my kids.

As I have often commented about entertainers — but especially actors — who start getting involved in political endorsements, etc: “What is it about reading the words that someone else wrote that makes you so darn smart?”

I was very proud of my son when he chose Warrick Dunn as a topic for one of his college essays — people that he admires, someone who has faced adversity and not only overcame it, but used it as an impetus to help those around him. He actually graduated from college, plus, he’s simply a gentleman, period. He’s started a music production company here in Atlanta, with the caveat that the music cannot glorify violence — obviously, a hot button for him.

And if Kanye West is EVER invited to another awards show after this disgusting display . . .

Enough Stereotyping

September 14th, 2009
12:02 am

Kanye is just a classless bully. He picks on children! His skin color is irrelevant and those of you who are trying to stir the race pot need to get a life. Just a bunch of cowards hiding behind your pseudonyms.

Calling it like it is

September 14th, 2009
12:03 am

It’s not a black white thing, its a class no class thing. Unfortunatley many blacks are raised in a culture where the steet makes the rules. Many hard working wonderful black parents lose their children to the street and the lack of class it breeds. The day they remove the much of the music these kids listen to (i.e. K. West) from the radio is the day they may begin to have a chance. Until that happens incidents like tonight will continue to happen.

neal kelley

September 14th, 2009
12:03 am

i think that sucked… to steal some ones moment and mess up there acceptance speech. What if I did that to him? I am sure he would be ready to beat the pooop out of me.. I lost all respect for him and I am a lover of hip hop and a African American to boot. But that just showed how much of an idiot he is. He owes her an apology.

Beautiful Monte

September 14th, 2009
12:04 am

Kanye loves fishsticks … big, fat, greasy fishsticks.

Other than that, the man is a world-class jacka$$ who ego exceeds his “talent” by a country mile. Quite obviously, the guy has some serious self-esteem issues.

Amen Calling it Like it is

September 14th, 2009
12:05 am

YOU are absolutely 100% correct…its all in the breeding.

DB

September 14th, 2009
12:05 am

@Jamal: Apparently, Kanye WAS thrown out, immediately after. According to news reports, he apologized on his blog, and even said that Taylor Swift’s mother gave him what-for. The apology was sorta back-handed — nothing can make up for ruining her moment in the sun. Hopefully, no other awards organization will bother nominating or giving him an award from now on — that way, he won’t have to be invited.

What?

September 14th, 2009
12:11 am

Kanye hates white people… He has showed his racism again

Michael

September 14th, 2009
12:14 am

hmmm. maybe it is the country music culture is 100x more classy than the hip hop culture? hip hop has it’s great moments, sure… but a good portion of it is trash that displays the wrong message to America’s youth.

this display from Kanye really ticked me off! one of those…wow, i want to punch the tv moments.

Kudos to Beyonce for standing up for Taylor as well. I get the feeling the sense of morality and CLASS in our culture is steeping downward! I understand if he wants to say something about Beyonces video…but LEAVE THAT FOR AFTER!

Never thought an idiot would just interrupt someones acceptance speech. No pun, I was speechless

m.c

September 14th, 2009
12:16 am

Kanye West is an egotistiscal self-centered bull headed celebrity. Taylor Swift deserves a sincere public apology.

Lacks Class

September 14th, 2009
12:19 am

Kanye lacks class. I don’t care if he is black, white, yellow, purple or green. Taylor should have given him a quick elbow to the face. I guess Kanye is still feeling guilty for sending his Mom to a hack doctor and she lost her life. May she rest in peace.

Ryan

September 14th, 2009
12:22 am

I guess Kayne doesn’t like white people