My husband is a professional journalist who has been trusted for almost 20 years by the largest news-gathering organization in the world to witness, report and edit the news. He’s covered presidential elections, Supreme Court nominee hearings, hurricanes, executions and the Olympics.
However, can I trust him to take notes for me on first-grade curriculum night?
Our school holds curriculum night at the same time for all grades. This makes it difficult for parents who have kids in different grades. A lot of schools offer two or more sessions so parents can be sure to make it each class. I’m sure this is time-consuming and repetitive for the teachers, but really nice for the parents.
So how can I be in two classes on once? How can I learn how third grade works and learn how Walsh’s teacher will handle her class, as well as let the parents in Walsh’s class know that I need a partner to be room mom with me?
Since we kind of know how first grade works, my plan is to send my B-string (my husband) to the first-grade class to represent and take notes for me, and I will attend the third grade meeting, since we don’t know anything about that class.
He’s “taken notes” for me before at other events and has come home with literally a blank sheet of paper and said it wasn’t very informative. If they spent two hours talking to you, surely there was something said important.
I know he can take quality notes – so far he’s never been sued for libel. However, he doesn’t seem to have an eye for the details a mother wants.
Is this a Michael thing or a man thing? Do men not interpret and perceive information the same as women? Is this a sex thing or a work-outside the home thing? Are they so consumed with business affairs that this seems like small potatoes to them so the details are inconsequential?
Do some men feel that way about their wives?
Last year Michael was out of town so I sent my mother to the kindergarten class, and she did an excellent job. She came home with multiple pages of notes and hit all the details I would want and need to know. (I don’t want to hassle my mother this year with my brother still in the ICU!)
Just so Michael is clear, these are the details I need to know: What the kids will be covering, how the homework will be assigned and graded, when is the homework due, how the discipline in the class will work, how the class will operate (will that have centers)? How will they challenge kids who are ahead in some facets?
UPDATE TO THIS STORY: After I finished writing this blog, I sat down to read through the newsletter from the school and for the first time in four years, they are holding the K through 2 curriculum night on a different night so I CAN attend both sessions personally! What a relief!
Despite this revelation, I still feel like this blog is relevant because I’ve had to send Michael before and will have to send him again. I really do want to know if this is a control thing on my part or do men just not perceive the information in the same manner as women?