What kind of vacation does your family like — active or lazy?

In a few weeks, my family will go on the most exciting vacation: Our plan is to do nothing!  We are super psyched about going to the beach, sleeping late, lying in the sun and playing in the water and sand. No fancy restaurants, no fancy clothes, just sleeping, eating and playing.

Our good friend, and MOMania fill-in host, Keith, just returned from an awesome family trip where they didn’t stop at all. They visited several states in the Northwest, visited friends, hiked and saw cities.  (Keith wrote the first installment about her trip in this blog on AJC’s Still Traveling.)

Keith’s kids are older than mine (Her oldest is three years older than my oldest, and her youngest is three years older than my youngest.) so I think it’s easier for her family to pull off a big trip where you’re doing a lot. (She says this was the first year they really tried a sight-seeing, do a lot vacation.) I’m sure as our kids get older we’ll do more adventure trips. But at this point we’re pretty happy just playing on the beach.

How does your family like to vacation: Do you want to constantly be active or do you like some downtime? Do you like to try new locations every year or always return to the same place? If you do an active spring break do you like a slow summer trip or vice versa? (For example, we did a big sightseeing trip to Washington D.C. two spring breaks ago, and I wanted just a relaxing beach trip that summer.)

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motherjanegoose

July 22nd, 2009
7:20 am

We laugh about this all the time, at our house. I LOVE a restful week at the beach, where I basically wear a swimsuit ( do not care if I look good) and read books, I have had 2 of those weeks this summer.

My daughter loves to go places. So, I try to take her places that are exciting such as NYC over spring break, Boston last summer. We have done DC, Williamsburg, Philly, etc. I have also taken her with me to Alaska and may do so again this fall. For her Senior trip, she has jokingly told me that she wants to go on a road trip and visit all the restaurants on Food Network’s DD and D…yeah right! Currently, she is reminding me that she would like to go back to Phoenix and Sedona.

My husband is not a trip planner and really does not like the hullabalo ( sp) of a scheduled venue. So, we invite him along when the pace is a little lower key or if we think he really would want to see what we are about to see, re: Alaska or D.C.

To each his own!

I have NEWS…we are so excited and proud that our son has been accepted to Pharmacy School.
Just wanted to share this answer to prayer…we are delighted. Those of you who have older children know how it is to be on pins and needles. I know others have children in medical/law school and KUDOS to you.

Also, we went on a college visit yesterday and I have to share the DUMBEST question. While viewing the dorms, the guide talked about the suites and how they have a bathroom in between.
I was impressed, as my son had a hall bathroom at UGA and that is what I had years ago.

Anyway, a mother with a son asks…”do they have to clean their own bathrooms?”
I laughed out loud and my daughter shot me a dirty look. Theresa, please tuck this into your file for the college topic that JJ was asking for:

Teach your child how to set his/her alarm, do their own laundry, put their things away and clean their own room…show them the right cleaning supplies too…their room mate will be grateful.

My daughter and I could NOT believe this, as she has cleaned her own bathroom for years hear.

One more thing…I checked and there are keyboards for sale on Craigslist Theresa. Like anything, do your research.

Theresa Giarrusso

July 22nd, 2009
8:09 am

MJG — that is soo wonderful that your son got into pharmacy school — I assume it’s Georgia’s school?? I know it has an excellent reputation and I have several friends that graduated from there who are now pharmacists. I continue to go to a drug store that is much closer to our old house than our new house just because I love, love the three woman pharmacists that are there. They have helped me through lots of crisis with my kids and are always there to advise or help look up info. Also love the folks at poison control for breastfeeding interaction advice. they’re either doctors,nurses or pharmacists never just random phone answerers. Good luck to your son!!

ON the bathroom issue, when I was at Georgia they used to have maids clean the suite bathrooms as well as the hall bathrooms — I lived in one of the oldest dorms there for all four years — no AC back then and we did have a three-stall hall bathroom!

lakerat

July 22nd, 2009
8:25 am

We like vacations any way we can get them – fast or slow – it does not matter.

Off topic, but dovetailing MJGoose’s college bathroom segue, just be aware that when you sign up for a “coed” dorm you may find out that it is NOT alternating floor coed!

When our older son arrived at UGA we knew he was in a coed dorm, and were expecting it be the alternating floor kind (that is all we had ever heard of, and what we expected – we must be really old). Much to our surprise it was not even guys on one end of the floor and gals on the other; as we walked to his room that move-in day we kept reading names on all the doors put there by the resident advisors – we read Mary and Jane, then Doris and Sue. Then Brad and Steve, then Jake and Monte. We knew that every two rooms shared a bath between them, so we knew that no two guys shared a bath with two girls, but it was still somewhat of a shock to see the boys and girls living from room to room to room, next to each other – so, be forewarned!

Photius

July 22nd, 2009
8:29 am

No vacation for us this year. We’re seeing what’s happening to the economy and are socking away the cash. Only the paranoid survive…

HB

July 22nd, 2009
8:38 am

That’s too funny, lakerat. I think that’s been around a while — I know Emory was set up like that in the mid to late 90s. Freshman dorms with hall bathrooms were coed by floor or by end of the hall, but suites with shared bathrooms between weren’t — no reason for them to be because presumably, students wouldn’t be walking out of rooms in robes (or less) to go to the hall showers. Alternating suites are really no different than an apartment building or hotel. Can you imagine a hotel segmented by gender? ;)

lakerat

July 22nd, 2009
8:45 am

True, re the hotels; but they do not have the 18 – 22 year old, first time away from home, libido! Like I said, we were shocked but my son thought it was awesome!!!!!

JJ

July 22nd, 2009
8:53 am

MotherJane, I asked that very question myself at my daughter’s orientation, about cleaning the bathrooms (we had a common bathroom/showers, and a “cleaning lady” kept ours clean when I was in college). I also asked, who provides the toilet paper? A lot of other parents were glad I asked these questions. Turns out, we provide EVERYTHING.

And congrats on Pharmacy school!!!!

On topic, I much prefer a lazy vacation. We just returned from PCB and it was so nice to rest and relax, and not do ANYTHING. The most strenusous thing we did was ride go-carts, and we hit three tracks in a row.

I work so hard, and being a single parent, I really look foward to doing absolutely nothing for a week, especially at the beach. We enjoyed the ocean, which was very nice, (only one day they had red flags out, and there was a very strong current). We bought floats and goggles and I played with my daughter and my nieces. So we mostly hung out at the pool and that was nice. Our condo was on the 8th floor and we had a fantastic view of the gulf. We stayed right next to St. Andrew’s State Park, very quiet. I walked, and walked and walked up and down the beach. I was able do to this alone with my iPod. Nothing like a little Jimmy Buffet on the beach……

We took two cars this trip. My daugther wanted to take our car, and she and her cousin rode together. I went in the van with my Mom, brother and youngest niece. First time I didn’t have to drive on one of these trips, and it was VERY nice.

We ate some wonderful seafood, and did a little shopping at Pier Park. Other than that, we stuck around the condo. I really enjoyed it, but now I’m back to reality.

I have my yearly girlfriend weekend trip coming up in September, so I have something to look forward to.

I’m taking my daughter to college in less than 4 weeks. The countdown has begun…..

Andrea

July 22nd, 2009
8:57 am

We prefer action vacations. We like to go places and experience new things. While we are there, we may have a lazy day. But, generally, we tend to go for action vacations.

But, this year, we are not taking one until December. I am hoping to take them to Sea World for Christmas.

motherjanegoose

July 22nd, 2009
8:58 am

Photius, I understand your concern but if everyone puts their money in a mattress, the economy may too go in the toilet as those who work at hotels, restaurants, tourist attractions, airlines etc. will also be out of work and then our state unemployment rate will be way over 10% it is now.

I am NOT an economist.

Perhaps someone else can shed some light on why we should still go on a vacation re: economy.

I am also trying to tip good waitstaff a bit extra, so they can pay their bills as I know they are struggling to survive. $2 is not going to kill me.

DUH

July 22nd, 2009
9:01 am

I would rather go to the mountains..In fact we are leaving tomorrow for the weekend..The kids LOVE it there..They enjoy the hiking, the fishing and seeing the waterfalls…We do go to the beach, just not as often..

My husband is like MJG’s, he doesn’t like to plan anything and this drives me crazy..In 16 years, I don’t think that we have ever been on a vacation where we made reservations to stay anywhere..It’s always worked out though..He traveled for 30 years for his previous job and he always waited until he got there to get a room..Another thing that bothers me, is that after 2 days, he’s ready to go home..

Also, MJG, congratulations (sp) on your son’s great news..You have every right to be proud of him..The road trip for DD & D’s does sound like it would be fun if you had the time and money to do it..Maybe she could just try some of the restaurants in GA. that they’ve shown on DD & D’s and a couple other of the shows on FNW..

JJ, if you’re back from your vacation, hope it was a great one…

lakerat

July 22nd, 2009
9:04 am

MJGoose – I am with you re: the economy – I am not suggesting that we go out and be extravagant on vacation, but spending what you can IS what keeps the economy moving.

That is what gripes me so bad about the government bailout of banks – they have received money to help jump start the economy, and all they have done is sit on it, still too afraid to loan it as supposedly required by access to the funds! But every little bit we can do to spend at this time does help someone else via the much maligned “trickle down” effect.

Becky

July 22nd, 2009
9:10 am

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Becky

July 22nd, 2009
9:15 am

OOPS, sorry about that..I enjoy seeing things and being busy..Last year, I took the two little ones and my niece to DC for a week..They enjoyed every minute of it..At 7 years old, they aren’t into lazy vacations..

Kathy

July 22nd, 2009
9:20 am

We love our one vacation a year to SGI to be nice and lazy. The most we will do is ride bikes around town. I run every morning, but I am the only one who does that! We are doing Disney in January and that will be far from relaxing. I am running the Disney marathon and it will be Little E’s first trip to Disney so we will be busy busy.

MJG….congrats on Pharm school for your son. Mercer right?

JJ….glad you made it back and that you had fun. And yes, there is nothing like Buffet on the beach or anytime for that matter! I have the Juicyfruit song on my IPod and everytime I hear it I have beach flashbacks.

DB

July 22nd, 2009
9:25 am

It depends — I generally love to go sightseeing and do things — but not until after 10 AM!! I can do “lazy”, but it has been my observation that when we go for the “lazy” holidays, i.e., renting a condo somewhere, I end up doing the cooking and cleaning anyway, so it’s only lazy for some of the family . . . grr. And now that our parents are getting much older, I tend to do the cooking and cleaning when we go to their homes, too — that used to be a bit of a break for me, but not anymore, alas. We had a trip to Italy planned this year, but my husband’s work schedule ended up nixing that — still pouting about that one, but after the cruise last month, it’s hard to complain too much (even though, as a chaperone, it wasn’t as relaxing as it would have been with just the family.) We’ll do it next year, I hope. No family vacation this summer (weird work schedules for everyone),but my daughter and I are going to steal a couple of days in New York while my husband attends a conference, so that will be fun to do some shopping and hit some museums and perhaps a play.

Re: College – 18 days and counting, for us! My daughter, to her great disgust (and my secret delight!), ended up in the only all-girl dorm on campus. My son has been in a co-ed dorm for the last two year, co-ed by floor, but I didn’t notice that it particularly discouraged visiting between the floors! With a hall bath, I would have found it extremely annoying not to be able to dash out the shower and dart into a room with just a towel.

On the topic of “interesting orientation questions”: The college my son goes to allows dorm residents to possess alcohol in “personal quantitities” if they are 21 or over, reasoning that it is their legal right, and as long as they keep it to themselves and don’t provide it to underage kids, it’s all good. Some parents were absolutely outraged at the idea that older hall residents (I hesitate to call them kids at that point) might have alcohol on the same floor as the freshmen, and several indignant parents wanted to know why the freshmen weren’t in a “freshman dorm” to “protect” them from the big, bad upperclassmen. It was a fascinating discussion! I remember Washington University in St. Louis flat-out told parents at a college tour that a) many kids will probably drink, and b) they rather the kids drink on campus than in town, and c) as long as the kids drank responsibly, no one was going to be monitoring alcohol use, but if they got out of hand, then they would be dealt with. As the director observed, “We’re not their moms. That was YOUR job.” One guy asked why alcohol wasn’t outlawed “along with othr drugs”, and that was an interesting discussion, too. The school was unapologetic, and said, flatly, that if that was an important factor for the family, then they probably needed to be looking elsewhere. An honest, straightforward answer, I thought.

DB

July 22nd, 2009
9:26 am

MJG: Congrats to your son!! I know you are all thrilled!

JJ

July 22nd, 2009
10:05 am

My daughter will be in a co-ed dorm, and they have the “suites” discussed above. They each have a vanity in their room, and share a shower and toilet. Their “suite-mates” will be the same sex. She is moving into a brand new dorm, which still was not completed when we went down in early July.

I think I’m starting to get sad that she is leaving. One of my friends just made a comment to me that I sounded depressed (I NEVER get depressed, sad maybe, but not depressed)…….

DB – how are you taking this?

jct

July 22nd, 2009
10:13 am

My family prefers active vacations with the majority of events planned. We try to leave some unplanned activity time in case we run into something that we want to explore. On our last vacaction in Reno we ran into a art festival along the river walk. It was great.

We are not vacationing this year. My spouse’s business is not a robust as in past years. We will stay home and continue to put money into the vacation fund. Maybe next year we can go overseas.

MJG congrats!

To parents of new college freshman. Make sure that you get your students information so that you can see grades and whatnot. The schools are under no obligation to make sure that you get this information. FERPA won’t allow it.

JJ

July 22nd, 2009
10:33 am

It all really depends on WHERE we vacation, if its lazy or active. We went on an Alaskan Cruise 2 years ago, and it was go, go, go, 24/7. We wanted to see and do everything there was to offer, and we did. By the time we got off that ship, we were EXHAUSTED.

If we go someplace new, we like to explore. However, PCB is very relaxing to us as we have been there numerous times, and it’s close to home. Therefore, we pick that place to go relax.

Now, I am going to Vegas with some high school friends in March, and it will be a pampering vacation. We plan on hitting the spa, gambling, and taking in a show or two.

Then, we have Colorado to go to next fall, and that will be busy, as my brother and I are taking the kids, and we want to show them where we grew up. That will be a busy vacation, and Georgia will be playing the Colorado Buffalos, and we plan on going to that game.

RJ

July 22nd, 2009
10:52 am

This year we took a lazy vacation, but it was one of the most fun! We went to the beach, went fishing, visited their local zoo and just hung out. Great hotel with great rates and no long lines at an amusement park. My kids are getting older and are over he whole amusement park thing. All I can say is FINALLY!

Yella

July 22nd, 2009
11:10 am

It depends, I guess, on where I am. I prefer active vacations cause I get bored easily. I love sightseeing and exploring new places. I don’t care for the beach at all (although the BF is actively trying to change that!) and if I wanted to relax I prefer the mountains or the countryside – I grew up in Europe….what do ya expect? :)

I can say that I do like at least one down day, or at least half of the day, to just hang out and do nothing. Especially after being active for days on end.

Theresa Giarrusso

July 22nd, 2009
11:13 am

One of my high school friends posted photos from her trip to montana — it looked so beautiful — they had amazing hiking photos — but she also left her little people at home. It was just her and her husband. That makes a trip a lot easier — I’m afraid I’d choose Greece, Paris or Rome if I had Michael all to myself!! I can’t even imagine!!

My friend is getting married on Labor Day in the Berkshires — We were supposed to leave the kids with my mom for a three-day get away for the two of us which would have been fantastic — now I think with my brother so sick we can’t make the trip. I will probably end up gong alone which is just going to suck!! unless somebody wants to take three kids for three days???

maybe I’ll just send a great present and won’t go at all.

jmb

July 22nd, 2009
11:46 am

I took a staycation this year and hit the lake most every day as many others must have done because I’ve never seen as many boats and jet ski’s as I have this year. I think the economy is the reason for it. A lot of folks just can’t take time off from work right now for fear of losing their jobs and others are hanging onto the extra monies for that reason too. A good friend of mine got back from week at the beach just last week and they told him they no longer needed him :( He is so wishing he’d not taken that trip.

jess

July 22nd, 2009
12:08 pm

any vacation where me and the man can just go at it..we use the vacation time for all day bed “activities”… i love it with the ocean in the background..breeze…island weather…perfect for love making!

JJ

July 22nd, 2009
12:19 pm

I do little mini-staycations throughout the year. I have accumulated quite a bit of vacation days, and I take three and four day weekends and do things around the house.

Photius

July 22nd, 2009
12:39 pm

Let’s see…. Theresa’s house is one income but yet they have gone to the Mouse House this year, the beach next week and then the Berkshires. Eat, drink and be merry for tomorrow may not come.

jmb

July 22nd, 2009
1:05 pm

JJ – I was up to 4 weeks a year with 13 paid holidays and company paid health but we’re a small business and the boss is a politician so in light of the new president he took away ALL benifits and put us all as 1099 contract employee’s and required us all to pay our own worker’s comp insurance. And that’s after 20+ years of employment. Unfortunately, you will hear of a lot of companies doing this by the end of the year. My boss just had an insight and implented things a little sooner.

Nice vacation envy, Photius...

July 22nd, 2009
1:14 pm

…but if you recall the Mouse trip was basically a freebie (Vacation seminar paid their hotel – and was only a couple of days), the Berkshires was to be a wedding attendance for only the two of them, and next week will make their only “real” vacation – so go back to work and don’t be a hater – it really does not become you, but it may be the real you!

TKH

July 22nd, 2009
2:06 pm

It depends for us. Just lounging at the beach or my grandparents’ house in the mountains is so relaxing and rejuvenating. I love to do that! But I like seeing new things, too, and if we’re visiting some place I might not get to again (like the Grand Canyon trip we took several years ago) I want to see everything. It’s exhausting and I always come back from vacation needing a vacation! But I don’t want to miss anything.

Becky

July 22nd, 2009
2:27 pm

jmb, WOW..That was a big cut, sorry to hear about that..So far, I have been very blessed at my job..Been here 24 years with no sign of a lay off or cut backs..In our industry, as I was told “people fix what is broke when the economy is bad and buy new when it’s good” Hopefully that’s still why I have a great job..

JJ

July 22nd, 2009
2:59 pm

17 years here…….20 paid vacation days, 10 paid holidays, and 10 paid sick days……

jmb

July 22nd, 2009
3:14 pm

Becky, it was quite a loss and one I never thought would happen here. We’re like a family but he said after loosing sleep for two months over trying to tell us the news, he finally had to break it to everyone and I honestly believe he didn’t want to but felt he had to. The kicker is we’re just as busy as ever and now I’m trying to crunch 5 days of work into 3 days and it’s much more stressful than before. He did at least give us a 50% pay increase so I’m still bringing home the same per week but not looking forward to filing next years taxes like I normally do. He told us in our meeting that most small businesses will follow suit by next year and sure enough what he said is coming true from what I’ve read about small business changes online.

Jesse's Girl

July 22nd, 2009
3:32 pm

I like a good mix with our vacations….there is always some activity we have a hankerin’ to do no matter where we go. I adore alternating between the pool and the ocean! I adore having the luxury of waking up when I want and not putting on a stitch of make-up…just huge sunglasses and a bathing suit wrap that I can wear wherever I go!! I must have outdoor music with wine and cocktails! Its all about the kids during the day and me and Jesse at night!!

catlady

July 22nd, 2009
3:36 pm

You WILL be back before school starts, right? For us, that is August 5.

jmb - 3 day work week...

July 22nd, 2009
3:41 pm

…nice perk!

JJ

July 22nd, 2009
3:52 pm

Hey Theresa, I’m ready for the college topic blog……and I think DB is too……..

Dang Catlady – August 5?????? Gwinnett starts August 10. My daughter starts August 18……

Becky

July 22nd, 2009
4:26 pm

I have 15 vacation, 6 holiday, no sick..We do however get 4 extra days per year earned..That is if we work 12 consective (sp) weeks with 40 hours, we get a day off with pay..Then if we work 26 consective 40 hr. weeks, we get a gift card to the store of our choice..There are a lot of extra perks in that my insurance is paid for, I don’t have to spend a lot of money on clothes, as long as I’m at work by no later than 8:30, I can leave at 4 or 4:30 with no problems, the boss buys lunch at least 3-4 times a month..Every summer when he goes on vacation, he always bring us a T-shirt back..Some of the “little” things make up for some of the big things that we don’t get..

jmb, we are pretty busy here also..We moved into a bigger whse/office about 4 years ago and our whse. is full to the rafters (again), so I’m taking that as a good omen..I hope that all in all it everything works out for you..

Off topic, but I was wondering if anyone could offer advice..We took the two little ones to eat last night and it was at a pub/restaurant..The boy (7) didn’t want to eat there because they sell beer..He said that he doesn’t want to be around it..We don’t drink (anymore) and I had a tough time telling him that not all people that drink are bad..His “real” grandmother stays drunk all the time and I guess he’s seen how she is and doesn’t like it..Any suggestions on how I can change his mind or make him feel better about going to places that sell beer? Sorry to hog the blog..

motherjanegoose

July 22nd, 2009
4:58 pm

JJ….yoo hoo…perhaps catlady means that the teachers have to be back early, as they usually do.

I am not positive but most teachers are working about a week before school and a week after the kids are out for the summer. This is what cracks me up when folks whine that teachers have off 3 months in the summer:
May 28 ish to August 5 does not equal 3 months in my book.

I work my tail off 24-28 traveling weeks per year, then normal about 12 and then I am off the rest. BUT I am not being paid for any of those off weeks. I also must make my own work. I am basically unemployed every week, until I share what I can do with others and they decide to hire me….LOL. We got more of our money’s worth from the pool this summer!

Valstake

July 22nd, 2009
6:11 pm

Being unemployed, everyday is a “vacation.” But being able to afford going anywhere is out of the question. You should all be thankful you can afford to go anywhere.

fk

July 22nd, 2009
6:37 pm

I like to go anywhere that has undisturbed ocean shores. I don’t particularly care to see high rises on the beach or tacky shops. If we’re traveling with others, it will be near a beach and golf. We enjoy going out to eat at local restaurants when on vacation, not the chains. Actually, we don’t do much of the chains while at home, either. When my son was younger and traveled with us, we did a hybrid…things for him to do, near a beach and golf. I think one of his fave trips was to the Baseball Hall of Fame. We had been to Newport, RI for a wedding, then spent a few days in Boston, then headed over to Cooperstown. After that, hung out on LI at the beach & pool with family. Plenty of golf, there, too.

DB

July 22nd, 2009
7:27 pm

I tend to like more active vacations of the cerebral sort — sightseeing, museums, etc. — with some more active pastimes. such as white water rafting, etc. I’m not big on hiking all day, etc. And I will do ANYTHING, as long as you don’t yank me out of bed at dawn! After 10 am, I am the happiest little vacationer in the world. I get bored lolling by the beach with a paper parasol in my cocktail — I’d much rather be out snorkeling. But I did enjoy just sitting on the deck of the ship last month for a few hours reading — of course, at that point, I was exhausted from scuba, canopy jumping, biking, kayacking, etc. . . ! When the kids were smaller, we used to love hunting out hands-on science museums, which the kids adored. We usually included an amusement park of some sort, just for a day, to give the kids a chance to unwind. Otherwise, they were pretty good at the museums and historical sites we’d drag ‘em to. No vacation, per se, this year (other than the cruise last month, which was more chaperoning than vacation!) — my husband’s work played havoc with a planned trip to Italy, and I wouldn’t go without him. We’ll have a couple of days in NYC in early August, where my daughter and I can do a little shopping while my husband is at a conference, and that will be about it this year. Maybe we can plan a ski trip at Christmas (she says, wistfully . . .)

One thing I do recommend for a young family is the National Park Service’s Passport — we’ve had so much fun with that! The kids have hung on to theirs (they each have one) for almost 12 years, and it’s amazing how many passport “stamps” we’ve obtained around the country! Good grief, you can get over 20 stamps just in D.C. alone!) The kids loved collecting them, and in our search for new stamps, we often visited places that we would have missed — such as the Edgar Alan Poe museum in Philadelphia. The kids still marvel at that place — the ranger was a gem! And it’s fun to look back on them, seeing the dates that we’ve visited, everywhere from Acadia to Yellowstone, and LOTS of places in-between. (Ironically, one that we HAVEN’T gotten is Chattahoochee National Forest . . .?!)

JJ: 18 days and counting, for me. So far, so good — she’s excited, and I’m excited for her. Keep in mind, though, that this isn’t my first time delivering a child to college. When I took my son two years ago, it was a day long drive, just me and my son, as my husband was forced to be out-of-town on a critical project. The next morning, we had a narrow window of time to get his stuff into his room before he had to report for freshman camp with a hundred other new freshmen, before the rest of the freshman arrived three days later. We finished throwing stuff in his room, dragged out to the garage, and stood there staring at each other — we both started crying, so you have this 6′3″ young man and a 5′4″ mom hugging and crying in the parking garage. I told him I was excited for him, and proud of all the work he had put in to get this opportunity — and then told him to enjoy the hell out of all the possibilities he had in front of him. On the way home, I had to stop once, to finish crying over my lunch :-) And again, to deal with a flat tire . . . gah!

The second year, we drove up and had a more leisurely time to move into the dorm — we were helping unpack with a cute little blonde in an even smaller black dress appeared in the doorway, cooing, “Are you ready for dinner yet?” I beat a hasty retreat, and I’m pretty darn sure he didn’t shed any tears to see us go!! Oh, what a difference a year makes!

My daughter is in an all-girl dorm (to her dismay and my secret delight!), but I’ve heard horror stories of roommates who unceremoniously ejected their roommate on weekends in favor of a boyfriend spending the night — luckily, her roommate doesn’t seem to be the amorous type! My daughter is more worried about me, oddly — “What are you going to DO, Mom?” And is not reassured by my Cheshire Cat grin when I say, “ANYTHING I want, honey!” I have several projects in mind — this is as much an adventure for me as it is for her — we’re both starting new phases of our lives! And it’s not as though she won’t be staying in touch frequently, so I don’t really feel like I’m losing her. I’m looking forward to traveling more with my husband in his work, and perhaps getting up to see my parents more frequently, as they are starting to experience health issues.

jct, I’ve always had my son’s password, to take care of scholarship assignments and clean up housing bills, etc. I don’t look at his email, but he knows I have looked at his grades. As I told him, “When you are self-supporting and are handling all the finances yourself, I won’t NEED your password — until then . . .” No complaints on his part — at least, none verbalized . . . :-D

Theresa, I hope it works out that you can go to the wedding. Can you take the kids? Arrange a babysitter at the hotel for the day of the wedding, if you need to, or ask if there’s a neighborhood teenager who wants to make some money. We’ve used hotel babysitters before, and have always had good luck. A little expensive, but worth it!

DB

July 22nd, 2009
7:54 pm

Wow — SORRY for the really long double-posts! I wrote one this morning, before I left Florida, and the computer went on the fritz and I didn’t think it went through, so I just added another one when I got back to Atlanta – now I see that the first one DID go through — Me Bad Board-Hog!!! Sorry!!!

motherjanegoose

July 22nd, 2009
8:40 pm

@Photius….does Theresa actually do this blog for fun ( you have GOT to be kidding) and not get paid or are you saying her husband does not get paid? Re:Theresa’s house is one income…Am I missing something here?

fk

July 22nd, 2009
9:14 pm

My friend and her daughter were at her daughter’s college orientation, and during the question and answer period, the group was told, “In high school you had detention, here we have jail.”

DB

July 22nd, 2009
10:48 pm

Becky: Re: your 7 year old Prohibitionist — that’s interesting that he would be so adamant, it would appear that the anti-drug and alcohol programs in elementary school are working :-)

The fact that he “disapproves” wouldn’t stop me from going to a favorite restaurant — point out that most restaurants serve alcohol in some form and that alcohol is an acceptable choice for adults who are able to drink responsibly. You might want to explain that ANYTHING taken in excess is bad for you — including food. People who eat too much food are overweight and put their health in danger, but being around fat people eating probably doesn’t bother him. Also point out that if you limited your dining choices to only restaurants that don’t serve alcohol, you’d be spending a lot of time at fast food places, which isn’t necessarily healthy, either.

Becky

July 23rd, 2009
7:35 am

DB, thank you..I tried that and I think some of it went through to him..I mean, I’m really glad that some of the learning in school (and church for us) is paying off..I did tell them that Chucky Cheese sells beer and boy did that break their hearts..She said that she never wants to go back..I’m sure that time will change their thinking..

jct

July 23rd, 2009
9:45 am

@Becky

Does your 7 year old see anyone drinking without getting drunk? My now 18 yo did not want anyone drinking around him when he was younger because a situation very similar to yours. Since I am in the only person in my house who drinks, I would buy a 6 pack. Leave in the refrigerator, drink one with dinner every now again and again. It would sometime take 2 to 3 months go through a six pack but it was worth it.

We would have many conversations about drinking to an excess and having an occasional beer/glass of wine, whatever. Now that he is older he has stated that he was glad that he got to see this because in his mind if you drank you had to be drunk, which we know is not the case.

It is very important that we teach our children a healthy respect for alcohol. You can choose to never touch the stuff if you want but it is not bad for everyone.

nurse&mother

July 24th, 2009
12:15 am

Theresa, I too stayed in an older dorm at UGA. I stayed at Myers my second year. No AC either. It did have a kitchenette down the hall. We were on the very end, so we had two windows. I had a bigger fridge. I remember my roomate calling it “big momma”. Apparently most others had a teeny tiny one. AHHH, thanks MJG for letting me reminisce about college days. LOVED going to college at Georgia. What a nice independent feeling.

Back to the topic at hand. Our favorite vacations are snow skiing and Disney Cruise. We also like the lake.

There are a few places I would like to go. I need to start making a list and start checking them off. I am in a new saving mind set. I want to build up our vacation fund and start going places.