Comments on: What do you do when you hate your BFF’s husband?

By: Avalon

Avalon — Thu, 27 Aug 2009 15:16:16 +0000

Ugh, I have the same problem right now & was looking for advice online when I stumbled across this. I know it’s MY problem, by the way.

For years, I was the one with spouse everone hated, and my bff’s supported me through it all.

Now I have to try & deal w/ the spouse of one of my bff’s and it’s rough, I know!

The hardest part is not being able to go to social events, like a baby shower or birthday party because I just cannot stomach being around the guy.

But all past experience tells me to KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT & BE SUPPORTIVE, as much as it kills me. Sigh. Good luck.

By: Jesse's Girl

Jesse's Girl — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 19:21:36 +0000

I too am so happy that you and your friends are eggshell-free!!!!

By: Two to tango...

Two to tango... — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 18:44:57 +0000

Its the talking to her about this at all that is giving me such pause.

Right!!! If you can’t tell it to her face, then keep it to yourself. What if somone did “snitch” on you? She’d be extremely hurt that you had sooooo much to say behind her back that you couldn’t speak about to her in person.

I’m glad I have the type of friends who I can talk to about anything. Even if it’s uncomfortable. If you have to walk on eggshells for your friends, maybe they aren’t real freinds.

By: Jesse's Girl

Jesse's Girl — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 02:49:59 +0000

I LOVE FLO!!!!!!

By: karma

karma — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 00:35:54 +0000

Fannie flag,

How much time and how many thesaurus runs did you have to take to come up with that pretentious attempt at a response?

I’m waiting for a “kiss my grits” in one of these responses.

By: Jesse's Girl

Jesse's Girl — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 22:50:33 +0000

Shaggy…perhaps you haven’t been keeping up. Allow me to enlighten you. I have yet to meddle in anything. Not liking a friend’s husband is not tatamount to meddling in a marriage. I would imagine that the injuries sustained from falling off the wall of one’s “united front” would prove much more grave than those incurred from a discussion that one may or may not have with a friend. You know what they say about lofty heights….

By: shaggy

shaggy — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 22:06:46 +0000

It’s amazing how many here just can’t stay out of someone else’s business. Why is that so hard? This crowd makes me love my wife even more. I have seen her drop Gossip-Friend-Wannabes like molten lead, at the first hint of this kind of self-righteous meddling. Sometimes, GFW’s male counterpart gets into the act. I guess he thinks it’s status quo or some crap. Needless to say, it’s a united front at my house. They (one, the other, or both) are not welcome around us. I love that sweetie pie. 21 years down and 30+ to go.

By: Jesse's Girl

Jesse's Girl — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 21:59:10 +0000

Brownshuga…now THAT is some logic I can appreciate!

By: brown shuga

brown shuga — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 21:28:12 +0000

Do what mommas do!!! If she loves him, you love him – when she doesn’t love him anymore, you don’t love him. If any of my friends did not care for my husband – and I do LOVE that man – they had better keep it a secret or risk the wrath that no hell can handle!!!

By: JD

JD — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 21:12:30 +0000

He gets away with what she lets him get away with. You are obsessing over something you have no control over. Get a life.